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Sugarbaby!Tom in one of his bougie sweaters (or maybe one of Harry’s?).

Heavily motivated by Sugar Royalty, Baryshnikov’s, enchanting fics on Ao3. Tom’s worth every penny.

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me when I disappear and forget to do wip game GUYS PLEASE I SWEAR TOMORROW I’LL ANSWER THE ASKS!!!!!! pls… this always happens

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Artefact maker Harry Potter

Another illustration for that one gorgeous fic by .oaix “Un nom qui ressemble tellement au porteur.”

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A portion of my thoughts on the tomarry t/b discussion going on since probably forever, as a bottom!tom lover

I want to start this off by saying I am asexual. I’ve certainly become more okay with reading smut over the past year, but because of my asexuality (and my slightly less resolute but still prevalent sex repulsion as well as my incomprehension of people’s shockingly stubborn preferences (that I have no issue with, but for obvious, previously stated reasons, I don’t fully understand)), my experience with seeing and interacting with all sides of the fandom, and my general lack of care for who is topping or who is bottoming in general, I can approach this topic with some semblance of rationality that isn’t affected by, you know, a staunch opinion on something that people are as passionate about as sex. This is an opinion that I haven’t always held, because prior to FULLY joining the tomarrymort fandom (to be more specific: being active on social media and meeting people who prefer either dynamic), I didn’t even have an opinion on it. I didn’t even know t/b discourse EXISTED. This is an opinion I have gained after seeing many many many people from both sides discussing it, so to anyone who disagrees with my opinion miss me with that “oh, well you’re just biased from only interacting with one side of the fandom and having always enjoyed bottom!tom” bullshit, lmfao.

That being said, it is abundantly clear that the issue for some people is more than just “untagged dynamics” as they insist. To this insistence I have two things to say: 1. If you are so bothered by one sex scene in the midst of a 200,000 word, novel length, beautifully written with a beautiful plot MASTERPIECE, perhaps don’t read untagged fics. Simple as that! Authors don’t owe you anything. 2. You know so damn well that your issue isn’t just untagged dynamics (which often only happen when authors are simply UNSURE about what they’re going to write in the future, rather than a desire to make fixed shippers angry and to fish for interactions and are NOT a personal attack or “protest” against tagging, contrary to what many believe).

Are you threatened by twink Tom riddle???? Are you disgusted by the concept of big strong masculine Tom being railed senseless ? Just asking the essential questions.

Furthermore, I see many fandom members persisting in the idea that non-fixed shippers call fixed shippers misogynists and that’s why “we” “start discourse” with fixed shippers (I am using the term “non-fixed shippers” to mean basically anyone who enjoys bottom!tom, because, regardless of whether you’re a fixed!bottom!tom shipper or not, it’s easier to do it this way. apologies for the generalization shdkdhdjdjd). There are many other posts that talk about this topic in much greater detail than I ever could, and I have to admit I’m not educated about the history and nuances of this to talk about it, so I’m just going to say that I genuinely do not give a fuck if you like bottom Harry or bottom Tom. I could not care less. I enjoy both. I’m not here to preach about whether it’s misogyny to prefer one thing another or not, because I simply don’t know. However, what I do know is that this whole thing about “bottom!tom enjoyers calling fixed bottom harries misogynistic” is a classic case of an echo chamber!! Non-fixed-shippers aren’t getting angry and upset at fixed shippers because you guys like bottom harry (which, according to them, is something we call a “misogynistic concept”!! who would have known!! i certainly didn’t know we were doing that!!). I haven’t honestly seen any instances of that. No, people are upset because you make “call-out” posts about authors and fics and blogs to say “oh, this fic/author is Bad Horrible Bad Bad because they didn’t tag t/b”, talk shit about people who mind their own business preferring bottom Tom (which can go both ways, but I see content from every side of the fandom and I have noticed that the non-fixed shippers side only really has an issue when the fixed shippers come in and start being senselessly rude. This irrational anger at those who have different preferences than you does tend to come from one side more than the other), and obtain a victim type mentality when an author of a long-form is either unsure about dynamics or just… doesn’t feel it’s necessary to tag. It’s as if certain people have a distorted view of what everyone is ACTUALLY upset about. No, we don’t care if you like Harry James Potter with a cock up his ass. As a matter of fact, I can say a lot of us do enjoy seeing that too!

I genuinely would like anyone to direct me to an instance of a non-fixed shipper calling out a fixed shipper over something that ISN’T retaliation for something ridiculous or simply mean a fixed shipper said about people just minding their business. Some people walk around here talking shit about anything that even dares to whisper the words “bottom Tom riddle” to their cultish circle of friends, calling them “freaks of nature”, “insane”, “detached from reality”, and “stupid bitches” (to name a few examples I’ve read). It is insanity. Some people just live in permanent delusion and insist that they are the poor victims here and that they can do no wrong and that they’re just “minding their business 🥺” enjoying their bottom!Harry yet FREAK OUT when they come across a bottom!tom fic/artwork/enjoyer who never even INTERACTED with them and act like they committed a grave sin of humanity.

In general, I feel it is just SILLY to get so fed up over seeing bottom Tom. the reaction that some people in this fandom have when they see anything that insinuates bottom Tom would make you think the person who created the art murdered 12 people and buried their bodies In a coal mine. It is ridiculous. Your inability to see past someone’s preferences and automatically labeling someone as “annoying” or “weird” over a fictional dynamic is bewildering.

I would like to say that this is not to resurrect any discourse!!! Nor is it meant with any disrespect to ANYONE in this entire fandom. I am appreictaive of every person here, whether I know you or not, because I love the tomarry fandom and I love how much effort artists and writers and everyone in between puts into keeping the ship alive! This isn’t intended as a target to ANYONE. I’m simply giving my opinion that I’ve held in for a long while now.

To sorta summarize:

Authors don’t owe you a certain dynamic or a certain tag in their own fic that they dedicated time, love, and care into.

Talking shit about people existing and enjoying different things than you is embarrassing behavior and makes you appear 14 years old to observers.

Public call-out posts for specific people doing absolutely nothing to you are weird as hell. Like why is this considered a normal thing to do.

Some people in this fandom have entitlement levels that are OFF THE CHAAARTTSSSS.

Telling people to “go outside and talk to actual gay people” over what is not “just t/b dynamics and/or preferences” but is actually normal, real life people being upset that you dragged their name through the dirt all because they posted once or twice about liking a certain character bottoming reeks of a lack of awareness. The moment a non-fixed shipper calls someone out for sending dozens of people to harass them over having a preference, millions of silly think pieces are created and non-fixed shippers are seen as “whiny”, but it’s somehow okay when the fixed shippers do it over much less?? 😭??? The hypocrisy!

How do I get it through people’s heads that NOBODY! OWES! YOU! ANYTHING!!! Everything that I’ve said has already been said time and time again and yet it still isn’t sinking in for many. You aren’t a god, you aren’t more important than anyone else here, you aren’t entitled to automatic perfect tagging on every fic you read. You don’t have to like it, but it’s the reality. There many tropes that people dislike in fics, but usually what they tend to do when it surprises them in an untagged fic is skip and move on with their lives rather than sending nasty anonymous messages, writing criticizing comments, tweeting about how much you hate this one untagged thing and everyone who enjoys this one untagged thing, etc etc

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reblog if it's okay for your mutuals to message you and create an actual friendship, not just interactions

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WIP GAME EXCEPT ITS THE IM NOT VERY GOOD AT COMITTING TO WIPS EDITION

Rules: In a new post, post the names of all the files in your WIP folder, regardless of how non-descriptive or ridiculous. Let people send you an ask with the title that most intrigues them, and then post a little snippet of it or tell them something about it! And then tag as many people as you have WIPs.

IM A COUPLE DAYS LATE TO THE PARTY but thank you @ujiin and @reggieblk very much for tagging me 🫡 for a lot of these i don’t have much physically written and one of these is literally just a concept more than a WIP, but i do have the plots/ideas laid out !!! few of these names are actually permanent

waiting game

cerise and evergreen (red haired harry <3)

be my lighthouse, o gleaming star above the sea

nail artist tom (borderline crack but i love him)

tomarry set in the DoM

kidnapper tom watching his victim sleep (also kinda crack)

per aspera ad astra

harrymort au that starts at the cave scene

tomarry but they’re swans (this doesn’t even have a plot they are. literally swans. but i love them so much as swans so)

tomarry but they were husbands in a past life

dark lord harry + auror tom

indie pop star tom

Harry + diadem pwp (LMAOO)

anyone can ask about whatever they want if they’d like!!!!

i feel like literally everyone i know on here has either A. already been tagged in this or B. has done a WIP game in the past few weeks . so i unfortunately can not tag anyone but if u want to participate just use my general post as the “tag” and i will gladly support it 💝

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I need to do the WIP game after I sort through my shit 😞

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JM BACK FOR THE FIRST TIME TODAY BECAUSE TS11??:!:!:?:?:?:?:??? I SCREAMED SO LOUD I HURT MY VOICE . IM SOOOO FUCKING EXCITED FOR THIS YOU HAVE NO IDEAAAAAAAA . SPENT THE WHOLE NIGHT THINKING REP WAS COMING BUT SHE HIT US WITH THAT RED HERRING!!!! IM HAVING A MENTAL BREAKDOWN. “ THE MANUSCRIPT “ MAKES IT SOUND LIKE ITS A FOLKMORE TYPE ALBUM BUT I HAVE NO IDEA!!!!! LOSING IT CURRENTLY

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too sleepy to elaborate at this time but I miss the old fandom culture of interacting with fanfic writers and fanfic artists as members of the fandom community who enjoyed engagement and discussion and feedback instead of the modern trend of seeing us as content creators up on a pedestal who don't need positive feedback but DO need to churn out constant content to feed the a03 machine

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i just have to announce to the public that @toramirr’s art/blog is so good it should be illegal. this is an appreciation post.! if you’ve never seen or looked through her art im begging you to. everything she makes is genuinely worthy of being put in a museum (if there was a tomarry museum she would be the starring artist fr!) and i honestly just browse through her page when im thirsty for incredible tomarry fanart

this is both a recommendation for everyone coming from an admiring mutual as well as an appreciation post (like I said earlier) for how cool she is.!

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Are you serious about wanting tomione recs? Because I have a list of recs that I would love to share with you but I must warn you that as soon as you join my ship, you will change your username. BatlovesTomione, it's such a lovely username 🤭

see that’s great and all!!!! however i am going to have to decline because tom marvolo riddle liking women is actually against my religion sorry

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So real for that

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I'm stuck in the middle Caught in the madness of the undertow I'm lost in the riddle Of having to let you and your secrets go

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RiddleTrapHouse™ | Twink Tom Riddle Server

Beautiful Art by @delineate-creates 💞

Calling all twink lovers, edge lords, and filthy perverts

We're launching a public server for fans of twink!mort who'd like a safe haven among likeminded peers.

It is strictly 18+ and strictly slash only.

It also features humor that could be upsetting for some. If you're offended, I must say—respectfully—none of us need to hear it, go make your own server.

Link to Join: https://discord.gg/rsXA6Z3Z

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There are strange likenesses between us, Harry Potter. Even you must have noticed.

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hey if you died right now whats your ghost outfit you cant change it be honest

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I think you should be allowed to like characters interpreted as close or as far to canon as you want actually