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Great response by a cis man to being baited to speak over a trans man's lived experiences.

This is how you act like a real ally to trans people. It's that easy.

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This may seem like a very “well duh” post but i do think it’s important to be clear that when trump claims he intends to “deport” U.S. citizens that that is definitionally not deportation. Deportation specifically refers to the civil process of removal a foreign noncitizen to the country where they hold citizenship. Deportation is also, in most cases, a legal punishment in itself and will not result in the deportee being jailed upon arrival to their country of citizenship. Removing US citizens from the US and placing them in jails in countries that they have no citizenship claim to is commonly referred to as “disappearing,” “kidnapping,” or “trafficking” and discussions around trump’s desire to remove US citizens from the country should refer to it as such

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Being Transmasc is wild because first you’re a girl and you’re weak whiny emotional irrational annoying and uppity and “on your period” and you’d be prettier if you smiled and stopped making everything about feminism all the damn time

and then all of a sudden you’re a man and you’re ‘the problem’ and you just want to oppress girls and talk over women to validate yourself and make it all about you because all men ever do is take over the conversation and be abusive and use their toxic masculinity to bludgeon everyone around them and like

The whole time you’ve always just been you

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Okay I've been trying very hard to restrain myself and not get involved in discourse but like-- y'all know androphobia affects more than just trans men, right? In my gender studies classes it usually comes up first to discuss the villainization of Black masculinity and the portrayal of Black people as uniquely masculine in the "wrong" way. Even in the context of trans people, trans women usually get brought up first because of the right-wing rhetoric painting transfemmes as predatory men. And androphobia isn't supposed to be a 1:1 correlation for misogyny-- that's why we don't use the term misandry. At least as it's used in my classes, androphobia is about weaponizing percieved masculinity against someone who is in some other way marginalized, regardless of whether that person is even a man-- Black women and trans women are frequent targets of androphobia!

And it fucks me up to see people painting discussions of androphobia as speaking over transfemmes, because we're missing an opportunity to explore the elements of the social imagination that underpin our collective oppression. The idea that being male, amab, masc, on T, etc. makes a person evil, violent, scary, predatory, etc. is used against transfemmes and transmascs alike; it's used against intersex people; it's used against cis butches; it's used against people who aren't even queer! But instead of criticizing a facet of our shared oppression collectively, people on here are arguing about who has the right to speak up about their own experiences. It's so fucking disheartening, and it makes me long to be back in the classroom, where people with a wide variety of personal experiences are so much more happy to listen and learn from each other.

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the radical feminism on this site is so insidious and widespread that even trans people are falling into it left and right despite it directly and immediately hurting us all.

this is an example of why people say "you are not immune to propaganda". if you as a trans person fall into the radical feminism pipeline i am begging you to take a second to remember:

misogyny is not the be-all-end-all of oppression. men can be oppressed. women can be oppressors. men can be victims of gendered violence. women can be the perpetrators of gendered violence. the gender and sex binaries are not real, and nonbinary and intersex people deserve to have their voices heard, too. our community is a spectrum of all different identities and expriences that are stronger together than we are apart. all of our voices are important and all of our experiences deserve to be heard.

and most importantly: anyone telling you otherwise has a vested interest in dividing up the trans community for political gain. do not do their work for them.

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Was talking with someone today who had a really good question: how can I assure someone in my life that it's safe to come out to me?

She said that she knew for a long time that her son was gay, but he didn't come out until his 20s, and when he did he was worried that he wouldn't be accepted. She said she was shocked that he wasn't sure- she'd never given any indication that she wouldn't accept him.

He didn't feel comfortable coming out until his uncle brought his partner to Thanksgiving.

And she asked me how could she let people know that she's a safe person?

The answer seemed pretty clear to me: don't shy away from the subject. Talk about it. I was scared to come out because it was a topic we didn't talk about.

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I wish people treated queerness as breaking the rules of the dominant cis-hetero patriarchy so you can authentically be yourself. Instead of adhering to a new slightly less restrictive set of rules which you will deride other people for not following (basically whatever label discourse is now flaring up)

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REMEMBER:

if you don't understand the post at a glance it's because op wrote it wrong and needs your help

if the post doesn't contain all the contextualising information you need to understand it, op is gaslighting you

if you haven't experienced the phenomenon the post describes, op is making it up for clout

if you haven't encountered the type of person the post describes, they're a strawman that doesn't exist

if the post doesn't address a topic you'd prefer to talk about, it's a distraction, missing the point, and talking over you

if the post makes a good point, it is your duty to contribute to human enlightenment by nitpicking it to be more correct

and most importantly:

every online conversation is a competition and you must win

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Someone was asking in a thread what kind of people could work for ICE right now.

I think it's a good time to remember that the image above are the people who put children into gas chambers.

When I was little, I asked what kind of person could work at a concentration camp.

The answer to both questions I think is "normal people who have accepted the dehumanization of another group of people."

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I was more or less stunned by what had happened. I had been prepared for criticism and ridicule - I was accustomed to them. But it had never occurred to me that people might want to hound and persecute me for my change in role. I had lived as a woman because that was my social standing, and had been made fun of and called 'half-man', and now when I had faced the situation and righted the grotesquely false position in which I had lived so long, it seemed that the public would damn me because I had once, perforce [by force, by necessity], worn skirts. I tried to get other hospital work. I went to the men who had been my chiefs and told them the truth and asked their aid in securing another position; to a man they turned me down. I tried to get other sorts of work and failed tor the same reason as soon as I gave my name. Then my family employed counsel and instituted proceedings to have my name legally changed; and the medical school from which I had been graduated served notice on us that if we persisted they would rescind my diploma and have me disbarred from practice.

— excerpt from Letter from Alan Hart to Mary Roberts Rinehart, August 3, 1921, on the subject of his transition from female to male and the impact of being publicly outed by a woman who recognized him. Alan Hart was one of the first men to get a hysterectomy in the US, and pioneered the use of X-rays in the diagnosis of tuberculosis, which ended up being crucial to treatment as the disease was asymptomatic early on.

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This hit home, and I think it will resonate hard with all my creative friends, here. You are amazing and brilliant and I BEG YOU to keep creating!! ❤️❤️❤️

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Many 'allies' version of accepting trans men means stuffing them into a box where they must be unseperatable from cis, instead of reshaping the 'men' category to be inherently inclusive to trans men

'trans men must be ____ because they're men' ❌

'men can be _____ because trans men exist' ✅

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There's no question: gender affirming care saves lives.

If you wouldn't accept a trans or queer child, you shouldn't be a parent.

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I just love the obsession german has with idiomatic little rhymes and alliterations.

Mit Sack und Pack. Glanz und Gloria. Schicht im Schacht. Flinke Füße. Mit Hängen und Würgen. Mehr schlecht als recht. Versuch macht kluch. Klar wie Kloßbrühe. Hätte, hätte, Fahrradkette. Saus und Braus. Ende Gelände.

our speech is full of little flounces and flourishes and tbh it's adorable of us.

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Trans man here and the realization upon transitioning in my 30s that the love I’ve felt for men, the way I’ve loved men throughout my life has been so profoundly gay is a really interesting experience and it’s felt very special. Turns out when I felt more like a gay boy than a straight girl throughout my teenager-hood, I was right.

!!!!!!!

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Asexual people who feel pressured into having sex when they don’t want to and queer people that are afraid or ashamed of having sex even though they want to are actually being repressed by the same societal forces but nobody seems to want to talk about that