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Great response by a cis man to being baited to speak over a trans man's lived experiences.
This is how you act like a real ally to trans people. It's that easy.
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This may seem like a very âwell duhâ post but i do think itâs important to be clear that when trump claims he intends to âdeportâ U.S. citizens that that is definitionally not deportation. Deportation specifically refers to the civil process of removal a foreign noncitizen to the country where they hold citizenship. Deportation is also, in most cases, a legal punishment in itself and will not result in the deportee being jailed upon arrival to their country of citizenship. Removing US citizens from the US and placing them in jails in countries that they have no citizenship claim to is commonly referred to as âdisappearing,â âkidnapping,â or âtraffickingâ and discussions around trumpâs desire to remove US citizens from the country should refer to it as such
#i 100% agree with the point of this post but i would approach this slightly differently myself#as someone who looks at what's going on in america through the lens of my quite specialist knowledge of the holocaust#âdeportationâ referring only to a civil process of removing someone back to their country of citizenship#is only one very specific usage of that word - one that i suspect is specific to an american legal context#when we talk about jewish people in europe being deported to ghettos or deported to concentration camps or deported to killing centres#we do not mean they were being given the civil process of sending someone back to where they hold citizenship#and yes - the word that is used when that history is discussed is almost universally âdeportedâ#and you can argue that âwell what happened in the holocaust wasn't deportation either thenâ but that would necessitate arguing#that basically every holocaust scholar in the english language needs to change their wording#a lot of terrible people will try to associate the word âdeportationsâ#exclusively with the image of something legal and nonviolent and legitimate and safe#in order to make what they want to do sound less horrific#do not let them#remember that âdeportationsâ can absolutely also mean people being rounded up and sent to their deaths#and i think that association - we all know the wording âthey were deported to a concentration campâ -#is partly why some people insist on still using that language rather than trying to replace it#there is value in linguistically associating the actions of this admin with a whole historical legacy of extreme state-organised horror#and placing it and understanding it within that context#something like âkidnappingâ sounds plausibly like a one-off crime. âdeportationsâ makes it clear it's a systematic crime against humanity.#history#my reblogs
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Being Transmasc is wild because first youâre a girl and youâre weak whiny emotional irrational annoying and uppity and âon your periodâ and youâd be prettier if you smiled and stopped making everything about feminism all the damn time
and then all of a sudden youâre a man and youâre âthe problemâ and you just want to oppress girls and talk over women to validate yourself and make it all about you because all men ever do is take over the conversation and be abusive and use their toxic masculinity to bludgeon everyone around them and like
The whole time youâve always just been you
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Okay I've been trying very hard to restrain myself and not get involved in discourse but like-- y'all know androphobia affects more than just trans men, right? In my gender studies classes it usually comes up first to discuss the villainization of Black masculinity and the portrayal of Black people as uniquely masculine in the "wrong" way. Even in the context of trans people, trans women usually get brought up first because of the right-wing rhetoric painting transfemmes as predatory men. And androphobia isn't supposed to be a 1:1 correlation for misogyny-- that's why we don't use the term misandry. At least as it's used in my classes, androphobia is about weaponizing percieved masculinity against someone who is in some other way marginalized, regardless of whether that person is even a man-- Black women and trans women are frequent targets of androphobia!
And it fucks me up to see people painting discussions of androphobia as speaking over transfemmes, because we're missing an opportunity to explore the elements of the social imagination that underpin our collective oppression. The idea that being male, amab, masc, on T, etc. makes a person evil, violent, scary, predatory, etc. is used against transfemmes and transmascs alike; it's used against intersex people; it's used against cis butches; it's used against people who aren't even queer! But instead of criticizing a facet of our shared oppression collectively, people on here are arguing about who has the right to speak up about their own experiences. It's so fucking disheartening, and it makes me long to be back in the classroom, where people with a wide variety of personal experiences are so much more happy to listen and learn from each other.
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the radical feminism on this site is so insidious and widespread that even trans people are falling into it left and right despite it directly and immediately hurting us all.
this is an example of why people say "you are not immune to propaganda". if you as a trans person fall into the radical feminism pipeline i am begging you to take a second to remember:
misogyny is not the be-all-end-all of oppression. men can be oppressed. women can be oppressors. men can be victims of gendered violence. women can be the perpetrators of gendered violence. the gender and sex binaries are not real, and nonbinary and intersex people deserve to have their voices heard, too. our community is a spectrum of all different identities and expriences that are stronger together than we are apart. all of our voices are important and all of our experiences deserve to be heard.
and most importantly: anyone telling you otherwise has a vested interest in dividing up the trans community for political gain. do not do their work for them.
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Was talking with someone today who had a really good question: how can I assure someone in my life that it's safe to come out to me?
She said that she knew for a long time that her son was gay, but he didn't come out until his 20s, and when he did he was worried that he wouldn't be accepted. She said she was shocked that he wasn't sure- she'd never given any indication that she wouldn't accept him.
He didn't feel comfortable coming out until his uncle brought his partner to Thanksgiving.
And she asked me how could she let people know that she's a safe person?
The answer seemed pretty clear to me: don't shy away from the subject. Talk about it. I was scared to come out because it was a topic we didn't talk about.
#yeah i would give this advice to any straight cis person trying to figure this out#so many cishet people just expect queer people to - idk - mindread that they're not homophobic#while doing absolutely nothing to actively indicate that#there are so many options!#for one thing you shouldn't be treating gayness as a taboo subject that requires âA Talkâ - it can just be casually spoken about#mention how you don't like a political party's anti-lgbt policies#or mention how you admire the activism of a really famous gay person like ian mckellen#or speak in positive terms about your city's pride parade and say it's cool that all these people feel comfortable to openly be themselves#or speak in gender-neutral terms about future partners - not âwhen you get a girlfriendâ but more âif you have a partner at some pointâ#(it's important to make clear that it's also OK to not have a partner at all!)#queer people who are trying to figure out if it's safe to come out to you are *laser-focused*#on anything that might give an indication one way or the other about how you feel about lgbt people#and real support isn't âthe absence of homophobiaâ - it's âthe *presence* of supportâ#a lot of cishet people don't seem to realise that if you just Don't Say Anything Ever about queerness or queer people#the queer people in your life have no idea how accepting you are or not#and given how bad the consequences can be of coming out to someone who *isn't* accepting#it makes total sense that in the absence of any information we are more likely to assume hostility until proven otherwise#rather than assume support until proven otherwise#the world just isn't safe enough for us to do that#queer#my reblogs
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I wish people treated queerness as breaking the rules of the dominant cis-hetero patriarchy so you can authentically be yourself. Instead of adhering to a new slightly less restrictive set of rules which you will deride other people for not following (basically whatever label discourse is now flaring up)
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REMEMBER:
if you don't understand the post at a glance it's because op wrote it wrong and needs your help
if the post doesn't contain all the contextualising information you need to understand it, op is gaslighting you
if you haven't experienced the phenomenon the post describes, op is making it up for clout
if you haven't encountered the type of person the post describes, they're a strawman that doesn't exist
if the post doesn't address a topic you'd prefer to talk about, it's a distraction, missing the point, and talking over you
if the post makes a good point, it is your duty to contribute to human enlightenment by nitpicking it to be more correct
and most importantly:
every online conversation is a competition and you must win
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Someone was asking in a thread what kind of people could work for ICE right now.
I think it's a good time to remember that the image above are the people who put children into gas chambers.
When I was little, I asked what kind of person could work at a concentration camp.
The answer to both questions I think is "normal people who have accepted the dehumanization of another group of people."
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I was more or less stunned by what had happened. I had been prepared for criticism and ridicule - I was accustomed to them. But it had never occurred to me that people might want to hound and persecute me for my change in role. I had lived as a woman because that was my social standing, and had been made fun of and called 'half-man', and now when I had faced the situation and righted the grotesquely false position in which I had lived so long, it seemed that the public would damn me because I had once, perforce [by force, by necessity], worn skirts. I tried to get other hospital work. I went to the men who had been my chiefs and told them the truth and asked their aid in securing another position; to a man they turned me down. I tried to get other sorts of work and failed tor the same reason as soon as I gave my name. Then my family employed counsel and instituted proceedings to have my name legally changed; and the medical school from which I had been graduated served notice on us that if we persisted they would rescind my diploma and have me disbarred from practice.
â excerpt from Letter from Alan Hart to Mary Roberts Rinehart, August 3, 1921, on the subject of his transition from female to male and the impact of being publicly outed by a woman who recognized him. Alan Hart was one of the first men to get a hysterectomy in the US, and pioneered the use of X-rays in the diagnosis of tuberculosis, which ended up being crucial to treatment as the disease was asymptomatic early on.
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This hit home, and I think it will resonate hard with all my creative friends, here. You are amazing and brilliant and I BEG YOU to keep creating!! â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
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Many 'allies' version of accepting trans men means stuffing them into a box where they must be unseperatable from cis, instead of reshaping the 'men' category to be inherently inclusive to trans men
'trans men must be ____ because they're men' â
'men can be _____ because trans men exist' â
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There's no question: gender affirming care saves lives.
If you wouldn't accept a trans or queer child, you shouldn't be a parent.
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I just love the obsession german has with idiomatic little rhymes and alliterations.
Mit Sack und Pack. Glanz und Gloria. Schicht im Schacht. Flinke FĂźĂe. Mit Hängen und WĂźrgen. Mehr schlecht als recht. Versuch macht kluch. Klar wie KloĂbrĂźhe. Hätte, hätte, Fahrradkette. Saus und Braus. Ende Gelände.
our speech is full of little flounces and flourishes and tbh it's adorable of us.
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Trans man here and the realization upon transitioning in my 30s that the love Iâve felt for men, the way Iâve loved men throughout my life has been so profoundly gay is a really interesting experience and itâs felt very special. Turns out when I felt more like a gay boy than a straight girl throughout my teenager-hood, I was right.
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Asexual people who feel pressured into having sex when they donât want to and queer people that are afraid or ashamed of having sex even though they want to are actually being repressed by the same societal forces but nobody seems to want to talk about that
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