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comfortfrogblog · 4 months
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this is going to sound like such a little sibling ass take but i genuinely believe that being a little bit annoying is actually a greater sign of maturity and self awareness than being universally likeable and on good terms with everyone
#ok so actualy this post is what makes me realize that no im not insane#because ill start to have this realization and feel so confident in not people pleasing and then it comes crashing down as soon as#it actually affects something or i actually seem a bit annoying or what have you#and its like then i doubt everything and myself and im like what if i was wrong the whole time and im actually the worst person in the world#this goes for individuating from family as well. like trying to separate myself from enmeshment by simply having an opinion and then feeling#like. i do not know whether to trust that ive come to a rational conclusion about being a human and acted on it accordingly#or whether i was right all along to make myself small so i dont annoy anyone#its like im fucking gaslighting myself or thats what it feels like because im constantly questioning reality and i cant tell which one is#corrct#because my feelings tell me one thing (it does not feel good to butt heads with someone) but rationality tells me another (conflict is part#of being human and you are not the worst person in the world for being a little annoying)#but rationality is much harder to believe when youve spent your whole life believing your feelings#anyways#point is#this post is essential to the process of me being sure that ok what im doing makes sense#it makes sense to be a person and my existence does not have to be in constant agreement with those around me#my goal for next year is to be annoying and then not feel bad about it#thank you op for sharing because i mean it! this is so fucking important to me! you have no idea#this post is what reminds me im not fucking insane and it keeps me from returning to the vegetative state#comfort#important#reminders#essential posts
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comfortfrogblog · 6 months
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dyslexia and neurodivergent people
if i were to publish some surveys for dyslexic and other neurodivergent people, would anyone be willing to take it. its for my university dissertation
please reblog so i can get a bigger data pool. this is very important to me
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comfortfrogblog · 6 months
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Abuse has a goal behind it, and a lot of the time, it's about changing the victims behavior. If someone screams at you for not doing X activity, eventually you learn to do X activity. If someone hits you when you defy them, eventually you learn not to defy them. If someone abuses you frequently enough, and you begin to break down to their will... It is possible to reach a point where it may seem like you're not being abused anymore.
They don't yell anymore because you stay quiet and do what you're told. They don't threaten you anymore because you don't voice even the slightest disagreement or need. What used to be screaming fighting arguments have become lectures at your expense. They may even praise you for doing what they want you to. And all those mundane moments - breakfast, the rare kind act - stand out more. Your perception of the relationship skews even more. It's all normal now.
And it's still abuse. It's just reached its end goal - wearing you down so badly that they don't need to overtly abuse you anymore to get what they want. All they need to do is make a joke, or complain to guilt you, or tell you want to do/not to do, etc. etc. The fact that's all it takes now doesn't make what's happening to you less severe - if anything, it means you're in much, much more danger than you could realize.
It's abuse. It's horrific. It's just not obvious anymore... and that's terrifying. You deserve so, so much better. You deserve to truly be safe - not to have your wellbeing held behind fearful compliance. That's not safety. That's not love. That's abuse. It being psychological doesn't make it less dangerous.
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comfortfrogblog · 6 months
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THIS JUST IN!!! i am here, LIVE, at the scene of a peer-reviewed AUTISM discovery!!! so don’t go away, it’s my understanding that we’re going to hear a few words from the two goblins thems— *abruptly puts finger to earpiece* erm…. WHAT. *listens. *[SMOKE POURS OUT OF EARS!*] WHAT DO YOU MEAN THEY GOT AWAY!! *rips off ear anf THROWS it on the ground**gets in my autism puzzle piece go-kart* AFTER THEM YOU FOOLS [distant clunking sound as my autism mom camera crew follows me in pursuit of the rogue, highly dangerous autisms
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comfortfrogblog · 6 months
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why do colleges email you like they’re in a disney channel original movie and you’ve decided to break up with them in order to pursue your faraway dreams
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comfortfrogblog · 7 months
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like there comes a point where you think something is fundamentally wrong with you. and then it turns out it’s just Friday and you haven’t washed your hair in three days and maybe you’re also just a little lonely and the combination of all three of those things is whittling a hole into your chest every time you breathe. but also the sun’s up. and you’ve survived everything so far, so you’ll survive this too, even if it hurts, even if you have to survive it many times.
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comfortfrogblog · 7 months
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intimacy scary .any tip..?
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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you guys have gotta stop making me use this picture
you will feel so alive again.. like so incredibly alive. i dont know when that will be but it will be. u are gonna feel so alive that ur cheeks hurt from smiling oh man oh man i promise that day is coming. you do have a future, you do have good things coming, and you’ll survive everything that’s thrown at you until you reach that day
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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you will feel so alive again.. like so incredibly alive. i dont know when that will be but it will be. u are gonna feel so alive that ur cheeks hurt from smiling oh man oh man i promise that day is coming. you do have a future, you do have good things coming, and you’ll survive everything that’s thrown at you until you reach that day
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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you will feel so alive again.. like so incredibly alive. i dont know when that will be but it will be. u are gonna feel so alive that ur cheeks hurt from smiling oh man oh man i promise that day is coming. you do have a future, you do have good things coming, and you’ll survive everything that’s thrown at you until you reach that day
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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“everyone is capable of experiencing goodness and joy. not me th-“ *EXTREMELY LOUD INCORRECT BUZZER*
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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now this is what we like to see. character development
you will feel so alive again.. like so incredibly alive. i dont know when that will be but it will be. u are gonna feel so alive that ur cheeks hurt from smiling oh man oh man i promise that day is coming. you do have a future, you do have good things coming, and you’ll survive everything that’s thrown at you until you reach that day
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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WHAT DID WE JUST TALK ABOUT
you will feel so alive again.. like so incredibly alive. i dont know when that will be but it will be. u are gonna feel so alive that ur cheeks hurt from smiling oh man oh man i promise that day is coming. you do have a future, you do have good things coming, and you’ll survive everything that’s thrown at you until you reach that day
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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sometimes you wake up too early and you feel bad for a few minutes but then it sets in and suddenly there is a whole day ahead of you with experiences to be had and love to be given and love to be received
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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:3
you will feel so alive again.. like so incredibly alive. i dont know when that will be but it will be. u are gonna feel so alive that ur cheeks hurt from smiling oh man oh man i promise that day is coming. you do have a future, you do have good things coming, and you’ll survive everything that’s thrown at you until you reach that day
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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comfortfrogblog · 8 months
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U can grieve and still live life. U can miss loving someone and love others. You can hold onto the good moments and simultaneously the bad moments. You can take the learning from a person you let go off and use it for the better. You can love someone and they may not be the right person. You can wish someone the best and love them from a distance. You can think fondly of someone and never talk to them again.. mysteries of the world…
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