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WTF Love?

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WTF… Love?  Like, why do you have to be so complicated?  I like that person over there because I think they have a cute butt and I would like to touch their butt but I can’t because they are part of a certain so called “social” class that I am not part of.  Also I kind of once kissed their friend when we were in elementary school… so that makes it… well…

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Good Morning World!

So 2014… that happened.

I miss being uninformed.  When I was uninformed my life better.  I was happier and could do things in my life without feeling guilty.  But alas, I am not uninformed.  This is my own doing and while I miss those days because of their ease I don’t want to go back to them.  Why?  That is a hard one to explain; maybe it is best just to say that anything worth doing is hard.

Th…

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The only thing I don't agree with is the first bullet point.  So I am going to change it.

I pledge never to proceed without consent. I understand that ONLY yes means yes and that if somebody is for any reason not in a sound state of mind even if they say yes it is not a yes. 

Big movements start with individuals. When many people make small changes in their personal lives, we create a place that’s safer and better for everyone. The Safer Community Pledge is a simple step people can take to stand up against sexual violence and harassment. We hope that this pledge encourages us to make small changes in our personal lives, and that it encourages us to continue discussing this critical issue.

You can take the pledge by sharing this post on your favorite social media site. By sharing, you’re committing to the following:

I pledge that I will always prioritize consent. I understand that consent is the presence of an enthusiastic yes rather than the absence of a no; and that consent cannot be given when someone is asleep or physically or mentally incapacitated.

I pledge that I will respect my partner’s wishes, and that I will not pressure or coerce them into doing anything that makes them uncomfortable.

I pledge to stand with survivors of sexual abuse or harassment by showing them compassion and respect.

I pledge to never blame the victim for any abuse they’ve experienced. Sexual violence is never the victim’s fault.

I pledge to admit when I make mistakes, and to apologize for my actions. When someone tells me that I’ve said something sexist, victim-blaming, or otherwise offensive, I pledge to be open to their words.

I pledge to support conversations surrounding sexual abuse and harassment in a way that is respectful of my needs and the needs of those I am speaking with.

I pledge to create safer communities, both online and off.

After taking the pledge, we encourage all of you to let us know why you did so! We’ll be sharing responses publicly throughout the campaign. We hope this sparks discussion and shows how much support there is for positive change.

Join the discussion and join the movement! Pledge to make a safer community. #SaferCommunityPledge for a #HealthyYoutube

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Inspiration from a Cell Phone?

Another company has done something brilliant.  I saw THIS in February and thought it was a fluke.  An amazing fluke, but a fluke.  Now this video above.  I have trouble putting words to how amazing it is that Verizon has made this commercial.  Verizon wireless services ~122 million customers in the US as of Q1 2014.**Unless my math…

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/!\ Trigger Warning /!\

This is not going away.  Even if they want it to.  Morgan is 100% correct.

People deserve the chance to apologize and if they are truly repentant, only to be decided by the actual people whom they hurt, they can be forgiven.  Forgiven however does not mean they get an automatic bid back into the places where they made the mistakes.  The people they hurt are still there and they are the ones that allowed to stay.

I have no sympathy for people who are proven abusers; especially those who show no real remorse.  I hope this conversation never stops and never stops calling out those who have done wrong... EVER

Just shot this to bring it up. May make a polished one later, but this felt important, and talk should be immediate. On Edd Blann returning to Youtube.

He can delete comments, but he can’t delete the discussion.

I’m not linking to his video, because I don’t want to support it or contribute to the views. I’m all for being a better person. What I’m not for, is painting yourself as a victim when you were in fact the abuser. Don’t seek undeserved acceptance back into a community you abused. Move forward somewhere else.

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I am going to 1000% agree with Hank on this one.  This argument that unless a problem can be fixed 100% then its not worth talking about the progress that has been completed is ill thought out at best.  Objectively racism has gotten better.  There have been improvements that cannot be ignored.

I see a similar problem with Republican logic.  They think that if you cannot stop murder 100% then its not worth implementing gun control. Most of us know that is BS.  If a gun control measure can reduce murder by even 1% its worth it.  Of course I would like to see it go away entirely; but since that will never happen I am going to be happy with any reductions we, as a society, can get.

So yes, I do think its worth while celebrating the end of chained slavery, I do think its worth celebrating that women have the right to vote and own land, I do think it worth celebrating mixed race couples of all races, and I do think we have a TON of work to do.

The sad facts are that we will never reach a plateau of social issues where society can say, "Well we have reached markers x,y, and z so we don't have to worry about R social problem anymore."  It is just never going to happen.  Because of this we should continue to work on social issues every single day but also be able to take stock and celebrate the small victories we have had because sometimes its the small accomplishments that remind us we can do big things.

to say that there is /less/ racism 50 years ago than now is false.[i'm going to focus on US racism] yeah black people can vote, yeah other POC can come to this country and live their lives, yeah there is inter-racial mixing, but just because we can mingle and make babies and vote doesn't mean that there is /less/ racism. there are so many problems we don't talk about[stereotypes]. racism is alive and well. we have to understand our differences to see it, potentially, lessen.

I’m gonna go out on a limb and say that any activist who was alive in 1964 who heard you say that their hard work to integrate schools, to allow interracial marriage, to allow black people to use the same bathrooms as white people, to secure rights for people of color in the United States has resulted in absolutely no progress would have a pretty hard time not hitting you in the face. 

My mom lived in Birmingham 50 years ago where a church was bombed by white supremacists fighting against civil rights and integration resulting in the deaths of four young girls. She has fought for HER WHOLE LIFE against the racism that she was raised inside. She fought it in herself and she fought it in her world and if your wrongness was not so infuriating I wouldn’t be taking the time to respond to it.

Yes, there is still racism, but in 1964 racism wasn’t a character flaw, it was public policy backed up by complete cultural complicity. Black people in the southern US were basically taught to be in constant fear for their lives. Mobs of white men would occasionally just grab a black man and hang him. Black men were tried by a jury of white people and found guilty of assault and sent to jail for LOOKING AT WHITE WOMEN. There were over 50 bombings in Birmingham alone committed by terrorists fighting against civil rights. The depth and breadth of the hatred and bigotry that allowed that to occur is far more intense than anything we deal with in America today. 

And yes, we’ve still got a long way to go, and we need to keep fighting for equality in America and everywhere. But just because racism still exists doesn’t mean we haven’t made huge amounts of progress.

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Everybody should take this survey.  It looks like great fun. I know that I will be taking it (:

Even if you do not participate, please consider liking and sharing this post so I can reach a wider audience!

Do you often watch vlogs on YouTube and/or read blogs online?

Are your favourite (video)blogs in English but English is not your native language?

Are you between 14 and 25 years old?

If you answered yes to all of these questions, I am looking for you!

I am conducting this study as part of my MSc dissertation. Therein, I am aiming at investigating how non-native speakers of English learn from with English-language blog posts and video blogs. Participation in my project is completely online.  You can participate in either the short version of my study, which will take you 30-45 minutes, or the long version, which takes 45 minutes to 1 hour. 

If you participate, you have a chance to win one of three 50$ gift certificates from amazon.co.uk (or an equivalent in your country’s currency and a similar online store).

If you are interested and would like to know more, please follow the link below:

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PS: There seem to be some issues with running the survey on Chrome, so maybe try a different browser?

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DarkWing Duck?

I am the shadow on the moon at night Filling your dreams to the brim with fright

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A hilarious “tour” of Cleveland turns into a vlog about the TFioS gathering John and cast did there!

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I have an unpopular opinion.  Nine is my Doctor

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Read up peeps.  This is a most important update.  Especially if you are considering going to VidCon this or any year!

Hey, guys! Many of you have been asking about the task force against sexual violence that Hank mentioned in a recent video. The following is an update from that task force on their plans.

Recent events in the Nerdfighteria and greater YouTube communities (compounded with incidents in the past...

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This MUST reach 7 billion notes so that we can be sure that every person in the world has seen this.

the white house released this video on sexual assault that actually targets men, telling them not to rape, rather than telling women not to be raped. please watch this.

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PSA: Punch a Dude

Here is the thing.  It is frustrating when a woman starts to walk faster just because I happened to come out of my house as she was walking by.  It drives me crazy!  Thing is that I am not upset with the lady at all when this happens.  I am pissed of at the way society has treated women for the last fuckityousand years.

So yeah, get pissed when a women starts walking faster just because you…

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Corrado Colour Palette

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Now and always

Reblog if you're a Gryffindor

Their daring, nerve, and chivalry set Gryffindors apart.

Just taking attendance!

Slytherin click here

Ravenclaw x

Hufflepuff x

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Its okay

it ok to not be ready

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For my homies

UNDERSTANDING

types of anxiety disorders // what is panic disorder? // panic disorder & agoraphobia // tips to cope with a panic attack // 3 ways to help someone having a panic attack // 4 things you shouldn’t say to someone having a panic attack // what is obsessive compulsive disorder? // more on ocd // coping with ocd // living with someone who has ocd // what is post-traumatic stress disorder? // coping with ptsd // 10 tips for understanding someone with ptsd //what is social anxiety disorder? // coping with social anxiety disorder // how worrying affects the body

CALMING DOWN

wikihow // helpful tips // 3 practices to calm an anxious mind // how-to guide // creating your mind palace // 3 breathing exercises // 6 breathing exercises // yoga bunny // meditation for beginners // about meditation // yoga with connie bowman // 20 minute yoga routine // yoga to make you happy // guided meditation 

MASTERPOSTS

back to school // helpful websites // happy things // feel good things // college survival // a lil bit of everything // a really big masterpost // music masterpost // diy home spa // coping skills & distractions // for bad days // bad day remedies

BLOGS

yogaholics // killyouranxiety // thatanxietyblog // lets-beat-mental-illness // recoverykitty // yogis-yoginis // healthylifestylechoice // happier-soon // rising.co.vu // catfromhell // you-can-just-breathe (trigger warning: autoplay) // recovery-in-pink // forescent // recoverytree

MUSIC

note to self. // good feelings // coffee shop acoustic // bubble baths, coffee and hardback books // rad covers // a little bit of everything // good morning // breathe // acoustic // conquer school // wheels on the road // choose happy // coffee shop tunes // my faves // good vibes // late winter nights // lovely quiet // overwhelmed // tonight you’re perfect // random [feel]goodies // rewind // crawling back to you // sleepy tunes 

RELAXING NOISES

soundsleeping // noisli // naturesoundsfor.me // ambient-mixer // calmsound // calm.com // mynoise.net // rainymood // coffitivity // soundrown

OTHER

make a grounding box // top 10 essential oils to relieve anxiety // personal care products from walgreens // aromatherapy // 19 natural remedies for anxiety // 7 best anti-anxiety foods // lots and lots of sweaters // stuffed animals // books (free) // used books for 1 cent // electric blankets // soft pillows