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“There is a twilight zone in our hearts that we ourselves cannot see. Even when we know quite a lot about ourselves - our gifts and weaknesses, our ambitions and aspirations, our motives and our drives - large parts of ourselves remain in the shadow of consciousness. This is a very good thing. We will always remain partially hidden to ourselves. Other people, especially those who love us, can often see our twilight zones better than we ourselves can. The way we are seen and understood by others is different from the way we see and understand ourselves. We will never fully know the significance of our presence in the lives of our friends. That's a grace, a grace that calls us not only to humility, but to a deep trust in those who love us. It is the twilight zones of our hearts where true friendships are born.” ― Henri J.M. Nouwen

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Who You Are… Your value and worth are based on meeting only one requirement - you breathe. Pause for a moment and let that sink in. As a human being you are worthy of love and belonging - for no other reason than you draw breath. Your worth is immeasurable and you deserve to be treated with dignity, compassion, understanding, and respect. You be you, authentically and wholeheartedly. You are important and your greatness does not depend on what anyone else thinks or says about you. Why? Because you breathe. And, this truth is not only for you. It applies to EVERY person that draws breath. Period. Full Stop. https://www.instagram.com/p/CRAN8a7LTXY/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Happy 4th !!! https://www.instagram.com/p/CQ6vxpGrrFE/?utm_medium=tumblr

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What a #great #weekend for a #Hobbit #Movie #Marathon - #Extended #Edition of course! #Tolkien #LOTR #TheHobbit https://www.instagram.com/p/CQ5Tv2PLmrS/?utm_medium=tumblr

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#Independence #Day, the #birthday of #America and our #democracy, where #ALL are to be treated #equal and deserving of #dignity, #compassion #understanding and #respect. #NotThereYet https://www.instagram.com/p/CQ5KMaorC4G/?utm_medium=tumblr

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270,000 #trees are flushed or dumped every DAY in the form of toilet paper, paper towel and other paper goods. To reduce your #carbon #footprint try replacing #tree #paper goods with #alternative and #sustainable sources, like #bamboo. My fave is @cabooproducts.

#common #sense #sustainability #practices #environment #global #impact #choose #CarbonNeutral #ClimateChange #MakeADifference https://www.instagram.com/p/CQ3hm8trZa4/?utm_medium=tumblr

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As a #Canadian, the #systemic #racism that caused the death of over 1000 #native #children across #Canada breaks my #heart. We can not #change #history, or #whitewash the painful #reality. #Together we must #acknowledge and #partner to move forward with #dignity, #compassion, #equality #understanding, and #respect. https://www.instagram.com/p/CQ1_SykrWeH/?utm_medium=tumblr

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The Trust Triangle

We can’t just say we don’t trust someone. We need to understand why trust is low. We need to ask for feedback to determine what we are doing or saying that is causing trust to be eroded. Productive conversations on Trust begin at the top of the Trust Triangle, asking if we “do what we say we will do.” From there, we explore each component, asking questions about the perspective of others.

For each component, we should seek understanding of specific situations, the behaviors that were demonstrated, and the resulting impact of those behaviors on the relationship. Conversely, we should use this same process when giving feedback to others using the Trust Triangle.

Consider the following questions when evaluating the trust you place in others, and the trust others place in you:

·       Credibility – Have I been doing what I said I would do? When they say they are going to do something, do they follow through?

·       Capability – Do I have the skills and abilities to meet the expectations set before me? Do they have the skills and abilities to meet my expectations?

·       Capacity – Do I have the time, energy, and bandwidth to meet the expectations set before me? Do they have the time, energy, and bandwidth to meet the expectations I set for them?

·       Clarity – Do I have a full understanding of the expectations set before me, including context and urgency? Have I effectively communicated my expectations for others, including context and urgency?

·       Character – Am I bringing to the relationship the desire to positively influence, and do I expect the best from others? Do I believe they are showing an intent to positively influence and do the right thing in order to meet my expectations?

·       Connection – Do I actively seek to understand others and build relationships founded on dignity, compassion, integrity, and respect? Do I create an environment where others feel connected to the mission, vision, and values of the team? Are my team members treating themselves and each other with dignity, compassion, integrity, and respect?

When we challenge ourselves to ask these tough questions, we create an opportunity to evaluate our own actions and behaviors and their impact on others. When we are willing to be vulnerable with others and ask them to answer these questions about us, we are given the opportunity to see ourselves from the perspective of others.

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So excited to announce that, effective July 1, 2021, I now have a #Zero #Carbon #Footprint aka being #CarbonNeutral. In addition to #common #sense #sustainability #choices and #best #practices, I will be #planting 2400 #trees each year - which is 4x more than needed to #offset my #personal #Co2 #emissions. #Global #Citizenship #Stewardship #Environment #MakeADifference #BeBetter https://www.instagram.com/p/CQxWHR5LDMZ/?utm_medium=tumblr

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This #CanadaDay I stand with my fellow #Canadians in their fight for relief from #COVID19 and in #celebration of our shared #Canada #Culture . #BeSafe #CanadaStrong https://www.instagram.com/p/CQxTa09rPfd/?utm_medium=tumblr

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If we can not end our focus on differences, at least we can help make the world safer for diversity and equality to thrive. https://www.instagram.com/p/CQc6pSkLmAA/?utm_medium=tumblr