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Things you should avoid saying to someone with an ed

[Things you should avoid saying to someone with an ed]

Honestly, you shouldnt say these things to someone whether they have an ed or not, you dont know if someone does unless they tell you and it can be rude to do so in general.

Even as a joke, it's not okay.

- DONT comment about food portions.

Dont say things like "are you going to be able to eat all that?", "that looks like a lot", "save some for x, dont hog it all", "are you sure you have enough?", "do you want some x with your y too?"

- DONT try to tell someone how much they can / cant eat.

Unless the conversation is a debate on whether or not someone can win a food eating contest, it's not okay.

- DONT joke about someone eating habits

- DONT comment on how someone eats.

You can gently remind someone about manners like asking for things to be passed across the table, asking someone to close their mouth while chewing and using a utensil instead of their hands, but dont make comments about how someone eats things a certain way like separating foods on a plate, it might just be their way to get themselves to eat anything at all.

- DONT mention your distaste or preferences over the food they choose to eat.

Unless they ask, dont tell someone the food they're eating is gross to you and you prefer something else. That implies you think they're gross for eating something you don't like.

- DONT order someones food for them unless they ask.

Dont tell the waiter or cashier theyll have the salad instead of the fries or anything of the sort. Let the person you're with eat the food they want on their plate.

- DONT comment on food a person refuses to eat.

If someone leaves behind food on their plate and doesnt like to eat that certain thing, like taking off onions or pickles from their food and setting it aside, dont call them a picky eater and to just "suck it up and eat it." You can offer to eat it yourself if it bothers you that much. Some people, allergies or not, just cant handle certain foods.

Personally I cant eat mushrooms, onions, pineapple or pepperoni, and I set them aside if they're in or on my food. I'm proud of myself for eating what I can and I often give the pieces I took off to my siblings or friends if they ask for it.

- DONT make fun of someone for how they eat.

I've gotten comments about how fast or slow I ate growing up, the way I bite into my food even. My mom called me a little rabbit for how I took such tiny bites, now it's part of the reason I eat small portions so I look like I'm biting into things normally and at an average speed.

- DONT make comments about someones body.

Dont call them thunder thighs, dont joke about weight or how thick or thin parts of someone's body is and ESPECIALLY dont make these comments around or relating to food.

No "you should eat more so you put on weight", no "you should eat less so you lose weight", no "dont eat/drink so much x it's all going to y"

- DONT comment about how someone prepares their food.

Dont snub at someone for putting food in an oven to heat it up, it still counts as cooking because oven or microwave they still cooked it. Doesnt matter if it didnt get started from scratch, not everyone is physically able or has the rescources to make food from scratch.

Dont argue or pick at what ingredients someone adds to their food. Let people enjoy things the way they cook it.

Here are some things you CAN do.

- just dont mention those things at all.

- DO ask if someone would feel more comfortable eating alone or with company

- DO ask what they would like.

Instead of assuming, let them pick.

- DO be aware theres a lot of people out there with different dietary needs/requirements, palettes and restrictions.

Some people have allergies, intolerances, cant be vegan, cant be vegetarian, are vegan or are vegetarian, are celiacs, cant process certain foods or cant handle certain things in general and it helps to be mindful of that, rather than forcing things on them, singling them out or making then feel left out when they cant eat what options there are.

- DO be supportive when they ask things.

If they ask, let them know what they ate was okay, some people need reassurance and encouragement and it's hard to ask, letting them know you're proud they asked and that they ate anything at all can be a big help. Combating insecurities is hard. Creating a safe space for a friend, partner or family member is easy.

Feel free to add on with things you thing people should avoid and/or can do to be more supportive.

Theres a lot of behaviour that needs to be more normalized and behaviours that are normalized and shouldn't be, and spreading awareness about it is a great way to create change in peoples lives even if you dont see it first hand.

Remember to drink water, get your meds, your vitamins, your protein, electrolytes and your iron and keep yourselves cool this summer butterflies! <3

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If you have anti endos on your dni, you're breaking your own boundaries by following us.

Using an alt to interact after being blocked is block evading. Block evading is disrespectful.

Idk what would possess someone who ignore boundaries and follow on an alt account after being blocked already. Just dont.

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Hi!

We're pantheons company and were running this eating disorder recover blog!

We occasionally document our own progress it we also share tips, advice, affirmations and more!

We have a short rescource list we hope to grow !

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remember to:

take any medications you may need

eat if you’ve forgotten to or have been putting it off

take a good shower if you haven’t yet

take a break if you’ve been overworking yourself

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"Into the Garden"

["Into the garden"]

Hi butterflies!

This is a blog for recovery and strictly recovery.

This is meant to be a safe place!

"I'll be there"

Mods of pantheons company:

#mod sparrow - they

#mod lyric - they/neos

#mod molly - he/any

#mod cass - all prns

"Painting the flowers"

Byi:

We suffer a restrictive ed and malnourishment ourselves, so we will occasionally be documenting our own journey here!

We have boundaries and wish for them to be respected, this may be a public blog but it's still our space to curate.

Things you can find:

- Advice, tips and rescources

- recovery encouragement, reminders and affirmations

Our asks are open and anon is on if you ever want to ask questions, find motivation or share anything!

"Give them colour"

Links:

Dni || Rescources || Tags

"I'll be there"

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Dni list!

Please note:

If you censor words in your tags, do not offer translations for coloured text, typing quirks or font changes, I will block you

These things hinder screen readers and render tumblrs filter system useless.

And people who struggle to read, be it dyslexia or poor sight, cannot read that.

In addition:

We will not tag the following with warnings

- food

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(To be uodated)

These things are essential to recovery and adding warnings does not promote the healthy relationship we need to build in requirement for recovery.

Please do not interact if the following applies to you. This is non negotiable:

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Thin ice:

- those who are just aesthetic blogs

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This will be updated at any point needed!

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Tag list!!

#butterflies -> asks

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Anons:

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Tbu, mod tags in pinned!

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Rescource master list!

Affirmations one

Affirmations two

Ed's can look like

How to drink more water

Helping a partner

Nausea tips

Song recs

Warm weather

Why we dont tw food

Where to find iron

YouTube distractions while you eat

To be updated in the future!

Stay tuned for more posts!

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more reminders for our butterflies

[more reminders for our butterflies]

its okay to gain weight.

its okay to lose weight.

our bodies change and so long as we are meeting our needs and what our bodies require, its okay.

youre not a different or worse person if your body changes, if you struggle to meet your needs

youre still you, and all thats important is that you do what you can and keep doing your best, even if you have days were you cant, where you relapse, its okay

you can let yourself eat, rest, take breaks

you can have days were you dont have the energy to move, you can stay in bed

you can take small bites or eat a whole meal, youre not waisting food if you cant eat everything on your plate, its okay to not be able to eat much

its alright if you only stick to certain foods, safe foods, comfort foods, small bites, snacking

its okay to take your time with your recovery progress, small steps are better than no steps

we're only human

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A few affirmations for our butterflies

Low effort meals is still cooking, is still a meal, low effort or no effort it still counts

If throwing a bag of popcorn in the microwave counts as making it, reheating frozen food still counts too.

No matter how much of your food you ate you still ate, some is better than none at all.

It's okay to stick to safe foods or comfort foods for a while, there's nothing wrong with having a good preference and taking your time to open up to other things

It's even okay to not want to try new things, so long as you eat something and your body gets what it needs, it's okay to only ever want certain things.

It's okay to not want your food to touch each other or mix on the plate, it's okay to want to avoid certain textures or flavours, its okay to want to avoid certain smells

It's okay to be very particular about your food no matter how specific it gets, caring about what you put in your body and how you eat it is very important and as long as you get what your body needs you are doing just fine

Your relationship with food and your body, no matter how it got here, is at the stage it is now because of your effort and progress, and it will get better and continue to improve

There will come a day where your relationship with food and your body no longer causes you any issue or distress and you'll be able to properly enjoy it and feel good

We are right here with you on our way to that point too and we'll be here the whole way as long as it takes.

We're proud of you, please be proud of yourself too, we're in your corner ready to give you any affirmation, encouragement or reassurance you might need

Our inbox is always open for you

To vent, to rant, to ask, to talk about your accomplishments and more

Remember to drink water, take any meds you need including vitamins (especially c and d they help with many things, like sleep which can effect your eating/diet/metabolism) and don't stay up too late at night with a screen near your face, blue light from electronics keeps your brain awake longer!

Rest and look after your bodies, stretch a bit to keep your muscles and joints healthy

Keep going butterflies!

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We struggle to eat when there are people around

But we know there are some of you who struggle to eat when you're alone too

So

Grab a snack, we'll eat something together.

We got dried mango slices and chocolate covered raisins, what did you get? Is it good?

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i love you my fellow cripples with eds

i love you my fellow nd folk with eds

i love you my fellow queers with eds

i love you my fellow trans folk with eds

i love you intersex folk with eds

i love you recovering/pro-recovery paras/sunset paras with eds

i love you fellow age/pet regressors/dreamers with eds

i love you fellow systems with eds

i love you poc with eds

i love you fellow cluster a, b and c folk with eds

no matter who you are, so long as youre not encouraging harmful behaviour, you are loved and welcome here.

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I want everyone to know that progress is still progress

you achieved that goal you set for yourself, you deserve to celebrate and feel happy about it you did that for you and you alone, not because you were told or pressured to by others and thats amazing that you accomplished it and made it this far

no mater how small, no matter how mundane or what anyone says about it, youre still doing great.

you might have just been able to take one more step on your walk, one more bite of food, youre able to do one small thing better than or that you couldnt before and its still progress, its still an accomplishment.

youre able to calm yourself or redirect it to something better or youre able to catch yourself and differentiate your disordered/irrational thoughts from rational

however you measure your progress, even if that bar or that number moves by one, maybe less than a half or a fraction, it still moved. you still made progres and you still deserve to feel good and happy about it all theres still a while bunch of progress you made whether you havnt done any yesterday, today or wont do any tomorrow, you still made it ths far.

and im so incredibly proud of you for all of that, no matter how little your progress its still your mind and body and your goals and im so happy with what you've accomplished just by making it here right now.

even if no one else is happy for you or celebrating your little victory with you, i am. im here in your corner cheering you on and i always will be. im proud of every little thing and im going to continue to be proud of and support you on the rest of your journey because you deserve it.

youre healing and no matter how long it takes, how long you still have to go ahead of you, i know you'll make it because you've come this far. no matter what setbacks and roadblocks you face im still so incredibly proud of you and i know you'll still get there in the end.

i know we can do this together, you deserve to be proud and happy and healthy and treat yourself and be loved, and you are! and im right here with you the entire way through.

no matter what it is you still did it, you made progress and whatever goals you may or may not have achieved by now im still so proud.

take it from someone who's relapsed many times and is still of faer journey making faer own bits of progress, it will be okay, you will be okay, it is okay. more than okay even, its beyond fantastic and words can only fail to express how proud i am of all of us

we made it here, we'll make it there too. i promise. now go celebrate <3

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sharing time!

what are some cool and healthy facts you know that you feel like sharing?

i'll start with this: im anemic so i need to eat food with iron in it food that contains iron includes:

red meat

kale

spinach

shellfish/fish/clams/oysters (quite a bit of common seafood dishes)

legumes/white beans/soybeans/lentils

liver/offal meat

pumpkin seeds

turkey/poultry

quinoa

eggs

dark chocolate

you can share facts like what foods have a lot of water or sugar in them

i find nutrition talk helps me figure out what to eat because those foods are beneficial or taste good

please only share facts that are encouraging nothing like "such and such foods are high in xyz so they should be avoided"

if you dont have facts you want to share you could instead share positive opinions about food

after all this blog was made for recover and part of recover is rebuilding a positive relationship with food.

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no but, please do eat something with protein and vitamins today, weather its a bite of something with meat in it, a scoop of peanut butter or orange juice.

i'll be incredibly proud of you for doing so <3

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hello!

unclench your jaw, sip some water

what have you had to eat today?

i had chocolate, ive been in pain all day and sleeping most of the morning so i wasnt able to do much but i am about to go have dinner!

one trick i use to get myself to eat it watch something on my phone, it distracts me so i dont focus on my food but i still have enough focus to get it in my mouth lol

are there any tricks you have?

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Do you or does anyone on here have any advice for how to help a partner with an ED / multiple EDs…

(they have bulimia and anorexia if that matters. Currently, they’re mainly struggling with anorexia and they haven’t eaten all day…)

hi anon!

the best advice i cant give you at the moment is to help your partner find safe foods or comfort foods, anything they like the taste/flavour/texture of even if its a drink and especially if its something with protein. get them to start off slow and ease into eating again but be patient and go at their pace.

little snacks through the day can do some good

especially if theyre drinking enough water

id stay away from acidic drinks but lemon water can apparently help make food more digestible.

little tips and tricks like that over time can help, but keep at their pace and dont push them.

its incredible sweet that you wanna help them im really proud of you for that /g

if anyone else has tips/advice please add on!