empyrealchange

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Dear You,

Last year was good and bad, with self-discoveries and many failures, with attempts to a more fulfilling life and probably ended on a note where you questioned (and still questioning) everything you have done. Was it right? And you might even never know.

Could you have done better than you did? Yes, of course. There is always room to improve, but I want you to try to remain non-judgemental to yourself and focus on what you have done rather than on what you have not. And continue what you have started last year on to the next year.

Remember that no matter what happens, you must remain strong because you have no other choice than to be strong! If it is hard, take on the challenge and exceed your expectations. Wake up every day and do your best. Be proud of who you are! And even if you still find it hard to believe it, just say it over and over again until you become what you say.

And find love in everything you do. Find love in God so you can love yourself again. Find love in art, in dancing, in overcoming difficulties, and find love for the dark so there can be light again!

I hope this year is a year of outstanding discoveries about your soul and is about being just a little bit less harsh with yourself. It is about growth and wisdom. Let there be joy and smiles and sunshine and delightful moments carved in “ the forever”. And acceptance of life the way it is. Acceptance of you the way you are and that you are an amazing human being!!!

Start here. Accept who you are and gracefully become who you want to be!

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How does your happiness look?

Back to business folks.

It is almost Christmas, I lit my candles and my soul is bombarded with nostalgia, memories from when I spent the winter holidays with my family back in my country, my boobs were growing and I bought my first bra ever. Hahaha. Sorry, I could not stop myself from these small details. But literally, those years when I was still a teenager were confusing, but yet beautiful or at least this is how I feel things now.

I am now in bed watching “Sleepless in Seatle” with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan as the main characters, eating rice cakes with hazelnut chocolate spread and peanut butter on top and It is bliss. I could not ask for more. Ah, and my cat purring near me is the cherry on top of this whole “how to be single” at Christmas time. And I thought to myself that sure, I am not a CEO or a successful corporate woman, I am not famous, I have a thin bank account, I am an immigrant trying to pursue a career in “pursuing happiness”, BUT. At this very moment, I am content and I AM HAPPY. I am so lucky to have this moment and feel the taste of food and get to relax and watch my favourite films. I simply love it. That does not mean that I do not want more. It means that I just want to allow myself to feel whole and feel content.

Now, I do not need more and I do not have to be more than I am.

Please be yourselves and as a final note: It’s good to be back!!!!

XO XO XO 🙂

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Non-principles

Hello, my beautiful people. Here I come again to brag about the mundane. I will share with you my approach and some of the principles I have that I follow. Or non-principles like:

Live a chaotic life, but make your bed every morning.

Find your inspiration, but fail royally so you can have what to tell your grandsons.

Read a book and forget about it. And read it again in a year.

Make physical activity a priority, but only for three days because the rest of the time you are just too tired.

Buy jelly bunnies and throw them away to feel powerful. (I actually eat the jelly bunnies. Always, but this is a different story.)

However, to feel powerful I have accepted that growth equals pain sometimes and I build momentum doing the things that I fear the most. A very important aspect is MINDSET. I know, I know. Everyone is talking about this wonder word and you can’t just snap your fingers and be positive. But you can train your mind to do it.

We all know that we as humans tend to focus more on the negative stuff and according to the National Science Foundation, 80% of our thoughts are negative and 95% of our thoughts are repetitive. So get your bathtub prepared, soak your thoughts in and start to change your mind. Repeating over and over the words that you would like to define you.

That’s what I do. I am drowning my fear. And it does not matter how bad it is. There is always hope and there is always tomorrow!

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Can people change?

Ironically, I have thought always about change when naming this blog and other social media channels that I have created when in fact, fundamentally it requires a lot of willpower and a good reason to change as humans. In the past, it was believed that you cannot change your character. What you inherit is what you get. However now after numerous studies have been conducted it was shown that we CAN CHOOSE to change. BUT. There is a big, fat BUT coming in the way of this grandiose scope of humanity.

I came across a reel on social where an old lady, rather bewildered, said that she thought that all of this was about accepting who we are. Back on the naming, I was in the process of discovering it and was looking for popular words on Google Trends and guess what word won the price? That’s right! Change is on the top. Everyone needs and wants to change something, someone, somehow.

I understood that indeed I have a lot to offer to the world (everyone has, believe me when I say it!) and I also acknowledged the fact that I am not satisfied with my current life situation. So, I have decided to do something about that. And here I am constantly making efforts to keep the promises I made to myself.

This life-changing decision comes with a lot of crying though. I cry in the bathroom, crying in bed, while I meditate, crying when chopping the onion and wishing in secret for someone to come and pet me on my head. Then there come the moments when I want to stop, I am angry with myself and everyone else. Moreover, I cannot even be happy for someone else’s victories because I always feel left behind.

And you know what I do? I wake up the next morning. I depuff my eyes and while brushing my teeth with my left hand, I watch myself in the mirror and tell myself how much I love myself ( I heard this is reprogramming your brain. Loading for results). Then I clean my room followed by a Wonder Woman pose and I am ready to begin my day.

What do you do? 🙂

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The beginning

First of all, I want to send out a warm hello to everyone around here.

I do not want to make this blog about good-written articles. I want to write raw, cute, aggressively frank and easy-to-read stories for anyone who is looking for a bit of inspiration or maybe you will recognise yourself in what I will write.

I do not have a specific purpose. I just want to write and create a parallel universe where I can talk about everyday wins and failures. I just want to be human.

To summarise in a few words what made me start this micro-blog is that I got to a point where I decided that I wanted and choose to change my life: have a better job, do the things that I have always wanted to do, start a blog, learn new skills and many many others.

And man!!! This is hard! Especially when you fail without any notable results. especially when you look around and ask yourself if you have done anything wrong. ESPECIALLY when I got this feeling that I am surrounded by superhumans who are writing every day in their little cute journals and do yoga every day at 6 am.

Well, I would totally say that my experience is different. I stumble a lot and I do it gracefully, ladies and gentlemen. I am learning new things, I dream a lot.

Lately, my focus has been on getting a new job and salary growth. However, the only thing that has grown is my bootie ;)

Cheers. 🙂