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service dog discrimination and ableism against service dog handlers isn't just petting a service dog without asking.

it's talking to the dog while they're on duty. no amount of "oh i know I can't pet you but you're so cute!" when you do so at a restaurant while she's laying at my feet makes it okay.

it's pointing the dog out to your kids and encouraging them to get excited and yell when we come close, when all I'm trying to do is grab a package of hot dogs for dinner. or allowing them to follow us around until you trigger a meltdown, and then realize you've fucked up.

it's coming up to ask me questions when she's actively performing task work, and when I inform you she's tasking you proceed to ask questions about her tasks and what she does.

it's being incessant about asking about what my dog is trained to do and what MY issues are, because you can't manage your own curiosity and emotions.

it's recording us and photographing us without my consent. there are at least four recordings of my dog and i in the world somewhere, and i believe photos of us while she's actively been tasking.

it's denying us access to locations on rules that don't exist.

it's refusing to educate yourself on federal ADA and state laws, refusing to listen when i inform you on those laws, and spreading misinformation instead of listening to handlers.

it's hiding us away out of sight so we don't "bother others" when we go out into public under the guise of making the dog comfortable, or "giving us space" when there were plenty of other options that weren't isolated and alone.

its following us through stores and public locations to gawk at my dog.

it's being denied 10+ jobs that otherwise you were loved for because you told them at the end of the phone interview "just so you're aware, I also have a service animal and will be needing accommodations" and suddenly they no longer want you, despite being okay with the wheelchair and crutches. because everyone loves the dog until they have to put in the effort for the handler.

it's speaking to the dog instead of the handler, or ignoring the handler's needs.

it's becoming a public spectacle every time you leave your home, because everyone wants to ask questions, talk to you, and fawn over your dog.

it's being the last thought for an event, or not even a thought at all, with people who know you will always have a service dog accompanying you and require accommodation in all circumstances, whether that be just the dog or dog and wheelchair. its knowing you were not included in the planning, or were expected to leave her behind and put yourself at risk.

its being asked or told to leave your dog at home, because "why do you need them? can't you just go without them?"

its becoming angry when you're asked to leave us alone, and causing the fear of aggression or retaliation for speaking up for yourself.

its people taking your aid less seriously because its a dog, and they only see a cute companion, and it can't possibly be as important as the other aids you rely on, despite her being the thing that has saved your life more than once.

its taking your pets into places they should not be because "you want them there" or "whats the worst that could happen"

its so many little things in my life that add up that most people don't even realize they do, or don't think about, but i think about them and it hurts and it sucks. it is so simple to treat service dogs and service dog handlers with respect. it is so simple to treat disabled people with respect. i want to be left alone and i want people to give my service animal the actual respect she deserves for the work she does, and i want to be included. im so tired.

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Unpopular opinion

I don’t want a self driving wheelchair that can go up stairs. I want ramps elevators, and curb cuts.

I don’t want a solution in 20 years, I want it now. I wanna be able to go to the mall with my friends and not have to worry about stairs. I want to go the movies and actually chose where I sit. I want to go to a park without having to parkour my way through cracked pavement and curb drops.

I want accessibility and I want it today.

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I know this isn't something that I post about often but I have to say it because it's getting on my nerves.

autism is a disability.

Even for LSN autistic people, part of the criteria is that it is debilitating.

The reason I bring this up is because I've seen many LSN autistics say that autism isn't a disability or is only a disability because of how society treats autistic people. Which is wrong, even if we were in a perfect world where autism was accommodated, autistic people would still be disabled. The notion that autistic people are only disabled because of society completely ignores MSN/HSN autistic people.

People who say that their autism doesn't disable them are honestly either not autistic or don't understand what being disabled actually means. To be diagnosed with autism it needs to disable you, or else it's not autism. LSN does not mean no support, it means you need lower support compared to other autistic people. I've noticed that a lot of LSN autistics online seem to forget that MSN/HSN autistics exist altogether. I've especially noticed this recently when LSN autistic people talk about RFK's remarks about autistic people. I've seen LSN people say "oh but autistic people CAN do these things" instead of "not all autistic people are able to do these things, but that doesn't make them any less valuable as people". Saying that all autistic people can do *insert thing* completely ignores MSN/HSN autistic people who aren't able to do those things. That doesn't mean they are any less valuable as people, it just means they aren't able to do certain things because of their disability.

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I think some of you forgot that autistic people sometimes act strange and say things that are poorly worded and speak with incorrect tone and misunderstand or miss social cues because they are autistic

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Autism acceptance is for life, not just for April.

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"I'll always be there for you!"

yeah do you really mean it? it doesn't look like it what has it been like 6/7 years? then where are you now? I would always be able to count on you right? then where have you been? would you even recognise me now? probably not I don't think you will

now after all these years I finally see how bad you were for me I finally see how you used me for your one benefits you didn't do things for me you did it so you would feel better for yourself or something i don't even know

sure I don't know everything for sure but it its what makes the most sense to me but again I don't know if you know what you did was very wrong

many people have told me that they would always be there for me and not that many people have not broken that promise because yes to me its a promise you might not mean it like one but to me it still is that might not make sense to you but it does to me and its not good to make a promise you will eventually break because you never know what the future will bring when you say that you don't know what will happen so you actually don't know if you will be able to keep that promise so don't make that promise and dont ask someone to make that promise it will end up hurting someone

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So I had a lot of people in my life who broke my trust which caused me to develop serious trust issues so I came up with a metaphor about/for my trust

Imagine a vase a porcelain vase to be precise some of those porcelain vases are worth a lot while others are worth nothing it's the same with my trust let me explain

A porcelain vase is easily broken if you break it, it will never be worth the same again you can try to fix it with glue or something however no matter what you try it will never be worth the same worth as it was before it broke with my trust it is kinda the same when you get it you have it but when you break the trust it is not that easy to fix and even if you fix it you will never get the same full trust as you had before and it depends of how you break it how easy it will be to fix when you do something small it's easier to repair the trust then when you broke it into a 1000 pieces

So be careful when you have the trust once you break it is broken

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I wanna say something I know what I wanna say but I can't speak I can't say it no matter how hard I try no matter how bad I wanna speak I can't

Its a horrible feeling being unable to speak I wanna speak so bad but I just can't I wish I could

No one understands me when I'm like this no one gets it because they don't understand me they don't understand what's happening and I can't tell them

I'm overwhelmed but I can't tell them because I can't speak I'm trying my best but I just can't I wish you understood

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I love this theory!!

I don't have that many spoons during most days but that doesn't mean I don't try my best

The Spoons Theory

How many spoons do you have today? 🥄🥄🥄🥄 It's important to disperse them carefully among the tasks you have to accomplish each day to avoid overstimulation, sensory or emotional overload, and burnout.

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Hi there my name is Finn (It/He/They) I'm 20 years old trans man (FtM) and I'm diagnosed with autism because of my autism and some other stuff I'm no longer able to go to school so I'm doing other things instead I like to write down stuff that happens and I like to write about my feelings I made this tumblr page so I can share some of my writings it's not the best but I wanna be able to share some of it if I feel like it so that's why I made this I hope you enjoy my writings