#trust issues

[yagmurd3niz]

Adımı unutmak istiyorum. kendimi unutmak istiyorum. herkes de beni unutsun. ebesinden eceline kadar herkes. ben bir kazaydım. oldum ve bittim.

[memeshost]

[fuckingwhateverdude]

@nosebleedclub / jan. #24

[ariaroseloklover]

Ok so let’s talk about bolin

So we all know that he is like the sweetest guy in all of lok

Like he stands up for others and absolutely loves his family , but I think that after he saw mako and korra kiss WHILE both of them knew he liked her, those trust issues stayed even after we can see it in the show, so I came up with a little headcannon

You and bolin have been dating for about a month and you tell each other everything, one day after an amazing date you decide to ask somthing that before you never had the guts to before

You-“ hey bolin? Can I ask you something”

Bolin-“ask away, you know I’ll tell you anything”

You-“you mention your brother all the time, how come I’ve never met him?”

Bolin freezes in his tracks and runs his fingers through his hair nervously

You-“I mean from you story’s it sounds like we’d get along fine…are you embarrassed of me?”

Bolin-“what!? Never your the prettiest smartest beautifulest girl in the world!…it’s just…”

You- “just?”

He reach’s to hold your hand

Bolin “ you’d like him to much, korra kissed him right after one of our dates…I can’t lose you”

Your eyes immediately soften as you pull him into a warm hug and tell him

You-“I would never do that to you bolin, your the most amazing boyfriend in the whole world, for me to even consider dating your brother he would have to look like you, act like you, sound like you and even then I still wouldn’t date him because he’ll never be you”

Bolin kisses you and continues to walk you home… not to yours but to his, looks like your gonna meet mako after all.

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

[mil-hoples]

Once you care you're fucked

[dumblr]

[daniallh]

The great war, Taylor swift// Afterglow, Taylor Swift// tweet from @Killdads

[lebloser-stil]

I just want us to be each other's priorities

[conscious-love]

When love is unreliable and you are a child, you assume that it is the nature of love – its quality – to be unreliable. Children do not find fault with their parents until later. In the beginning the love you get is the love that sets.

Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

[tech2no2]

[chrhnchynoodles]

Currently sick to my stomach thinking about how Percy was talking to Luke about why he didn’t choose him because he was worried if it came between him and Annabeth he’d betray him for Annabeth and he betrayed them both.

[its-simply-just-krys]

i get too comfortable -> i overshare -> i regret -> i want to kill myself

(repeat)

[alwaysbewoke]

It's even scarier when they fake cry right in your face

[furiousgoldfish]

I dislike the term 'trust issues' because it implies that the trust should be the default, and that the one who 'doesn't trust' is somehow morally wrong for it.

In reality, we learned very slowly and painfully where we can and can't trust. People are born with infinite and instinctual trust; as a toddler, you didn't suspect anyone, didn't doubt anyone. You couldn't. It was by repeated interactions, inflicted displeasure, disappointment, pain, betrayal, rejection, abandonment and grief that you learned to predict and mimic other people's behaviour. Your trust has remained only where it has not been broken.

For someone to fear interactions with other people, they would have to be utterly broken by what other people did to them, and how much verbal abuse and trauma they suffered. For someone to not trust others to touch them, they would have to be tortured and severely violated by human touch. People crave both interaction and touch, and for that craving to be overwritten by fear, it had to be proven unbearable and deadly to be touched and interacted with. People don't lose their trust completely for anything less.

Even when all trust is lost, it can be re-established by very slow, cautious and consistent actions. If another person took care to approach you slowly, to be very consistent with their actions, never attempted to violate you, took great care to understand and protect your comfort - after a while of confirming that they mean it, you could potentially feel safe around them. Unless this is exactly how someone approached you before, and they did it right until the point you relaxed, and then they betrayed your trust and hurt you. Sometimes, that happens too. In that case, it becomes even harder to establish trust.

But if someone wants your trust after all you've been put thru, they should earn it. They should figure out your ideal pace and your level of comfort and be respectful of your boundaries, not once or twice, but consistently. And even then, you don't owe your trust to them. You don't owe it to anybody. You do not have to risk your well being for someone else's curiosity or desires or whatever kind of intentions they have with you. You don't need to expose yourself to a potential new trauma just so someone wouldn't accuse you of having 'trust issues'. What exactly do they want to do to you that requires your blind trust? Why should anyone require trust they didn't earn?

Trust comes naturally, and is broken forcefully. If someone refuses to acknowledge that your trust was broken by force, and not by your choice, they're not the kind of person to be trusted.

[adealiz]

John Watson - Pistanthrophobia (fear of trusting others)

,,Phobias" series part two.