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Someone touched me on my neck today and I have never been so aware of how badly I want to be touched.

Ugh…fuck…

Moto: Getting laid is not the form of intimacy you want. (Repeat x4)

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If someone wants to walk out of your life, let them.

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Something new is happening (at least for me, you can let me know if this is a global movement). So many of my single girlfriends, and I, have stopped actively dating. It’s a beautiful thing.

We’re not closed off to dating, we just are no longer willing to kiss the frogs. We’re not seeking disappointment. We’re not settling.

Instead, we are managing our own peace. Buying houses. Going for the jobs we want, that fulfill us. We are creating lives that we long while at the same time, making space for someone to join us. It’s wonderful and empowering.

A friend of mine just flew to London for two concerts by herself. Because she fucking can.

My other friend just blew up her live and is living a nomadic life in California working with dogs. Because she can.

Another friend just started her career path as a school counselor and she will destroy that role and help so many humans. Because she can.

We are no longer waiting for other humans to live our lives with and we are living our lives. Come join, us if you want, but we are not waiting for you to figure it out.

Peace be with you, I know it is with me.

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I have decided not to go back on the dating apps. This could be for now and it could be forever…either way, taking a break from dating has given me the space to figure out what I want, to stop being afraid to grow on my own, and to help me see the kind of life I want to have.

This, in turn, has allowed me to create space for someone else in my life. Whenever and how ever they present themselves to me. There will be room.

I am sad and happy and longing and excited all at the same time.

Moving forward.

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So I used to think that revolutions had to be big crowds of people, yelling for rights and justice.

I have just realized that the biggest revolutions will be within, when we can’t stand it anymore. When we can no longer accept the way things are going. Those are the revolutions that come when we are busy, and things are a drag…we’re all tired and we are worth it.

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Cognitive dissonance.

Huh.

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I am not dating this season and I am so glad I made this choice. I have healed from a lot of pain and heartbreak. I truly believe that no one ever is done healing as we keep moving on day to day with pain in our past, but we can lighten the load by not carrying the pain with us into our future.

Moving forward: I am nowhere near too much…unless you are not the one that is meant for me.

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Happy New Year! Continue to grow in 2024…

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When you get ready for a holiday party and you put on the perfect outfit, the best lip you have done in years, eyelashes to the sky, and your hair is on point….all just two days before your period.

You are unstoppable.

Moving forward: I don’t play, I slay.

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…well that just…ugh, fuck off.

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The universe keeps supporting my choice not to date right now by showing me examples from past choices where I was desired, but not loved.

A man who is becoming a friend but still desires me sexually.

My ex (not Nerd Guy, Jock Guy) hitting me up for a booty call 2 years after we broke up.

Thoughts if Nerd guy still thinks about me.

Moving forward: I made the right choice, must stay strong.

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“He is showing you who he is. Believe him.” - A close friend.

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This.