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Gary was a frequent poster in the forum and self-taught lepidopterist—even learning how to inflate a moth bladder during recreational moth genital dissection—who almost exclusively wore denim. Gary told Himmelman that all he wants out of life is "a warm summer night with a sheet, a mercury vapor light, a six-pack, some mosquito repellent, and my buddies Dave and Chris. Lots of stars. Some night birds. And every now and then a REALLY GOOD moth."

I went moth-ing last summer with my niece. Good times.

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The game of telephone is dangerous

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A master songwriter spends years crafting a set of new songs. He tries several times to record them, to no avail. He keeps on revising and crafting his material. More years pass. The legend grows in his public absence. There’s a sense that what he does is even more valuable than it was before, because so many people emulate him without matching his output. Few are aware that he’s meticulously plotting a return. Finally, he successfully lays down the new songs on wax. They sound good, he decides. The words are droll and heartfelt, and the music deceptively bouncy and engaging. He turns the songs into his long-time label, which releases his new record under a new name to universal acclaim. The man, after a long break, has proven to the world that he’s still the best guy in the world at writing indie-rock songs. He books a tour, his first in more than a decade. The response, again, is overwhelmingly positive. He rehearses with a band, a mix of new numbers and old favorites. All signs point up. After so much doubt and isolation, the world is ready to welcome him back with open arms. I prefer to stop the story right there.

A master songwriter spends years crafting a set of new songs. He tries several times to record them, to no avail. He keeps on revising and crafting his material. More years pass. The legend grows in his public absence. There’s a sense that what he does is even more valuable than it was before, because so many people emulate him without matching his output. Few are aware that he’s meticulously plotting a return.Finally, he successfully lays down the new songs on wax. They sound good, he decides. The words are droll and heartfelt, and the music deceptively bouncy and engaging. He turns the songs into his long-time label, which releases his new record under a new name to universal acclaim. The man, after a long break, has proven to the world that he’s still the best guy in the world at writing indie-rock songs. He books a tour, his first in more than a decade. The response, again, is overwhelmingly positive. He rehearses with a band, a mix of new numbers and old favorites. All signs point up. After so much doubt and isolation, the world is ready to welcome him back with open arms.I prefer to stop the story right there.

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(via New! Always Choose Happy 💓 (Citizen printer Amos Kennedy, Jr. leads the way.))

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However, increased awareness has resulted in more people confusing “milder forms of distress as mental health problems,”

...Because many don’t receive emotional education beyond primary school, says Rosmarin, we have a limited emotional vocabulary. Feeling “bad” is a significantly different experience from feeling “distressed,” “frustrated,” “jealous,” “overwhelmed,” or “anxious.”

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This is a dynamic that Johnson has repeatedly encountered. When classes were virtual, students would log on some days, and some days they wouldn’t. The world did not end. For parents, it might seem easier that way. No dragging kids out of bed before daybreak. No wrestling them into proper clothes. No getting them to the bus stop as one’s own work waited. “You were able to just do the things you needed to do,” Johnson said. “Everybody was comfortable. It was, ‘I can go to my computer, my baby is in my room on the computer. We’re good.’

...Some parents, unimpressed by what instruction consisted of during remote learning, didn’t see missing school as that consequential. Some simply liked having their kids around. “You’re dealing with a different generation here. This is a parent generation that plays video games with their children,” Steven McGhee, the superintendent of the Harper Woods district, another Concentric client near Detroit, said. “When we were kids, we were out of the house and at school. There was no option. This became optional.”

...Society, as a whole, needed to reinforce—as it had in Massachusetts more than a century ago—the importance of school. It was where children awakened to the world’s opportunities, where they learned how to be productive citizens, and, for some, where they found a daily routine and regular meals.

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INT Why do you think you have the job you have now?

ES So I could work for myself. I think most people feel the same way. They don’t want to be told what to do and when to wake up. I didn’t want to give my ideas and energy to someone else.

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To be clear, it’s good that some things have been normalized: not wearing a bra, homosexuality, oat milk. But the flipside of living in a world where you are repeatedly told you shouldn’t be ashamed of anything is one in which a literal British prince — heretofore the most stiff-upper-lipped, shame-filled demographic in all of history — has been convinced that he needed to publish a memoir detailing, among many other things that I have learned against my will, the circumstances in which he lost his virginity in toe-curling detail. When did it become so undesirable to have secrets?

Agreed

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Despite their opposing sides in the homework wars, most of the researchers I spoke to made a lot of the same points. Both Bempechat and Pope were quick to bring up how parents and schools confuse rigor with workload, treating the volume of assignments as a proxy for quality of learning. Bempechat, who is known for defending homework, has written extensively about how plenty of it lacks clear purpose, requires the purchasing of unnecessary supplies, and takes longer than it needs to. Likewise, when Pope instructs graduate-level classes on curriculum, she asks her students to think about the larger purpose they’re trying to achieve with homework: If they can get the job done in the classroom, there’s no point in sending home more work.

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"It's actually much better because everyone gets the Congressional Medal of Honor, they're soldiers. They're either in very bad shape because they've been hit so many times by bullets or they are dead. She gets it and she's a healthy, beautiful woman. And they're rated equal, but she got the Presidential Medal of Freedom."

Trump says Medal of Freedom "equivalent" to and "much better" than Medal of Honor, sparking backlash from veterans - CBS News

What a fucking idiot.

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Catch yourself in the act

Ask yourself pointed questions

Follow the negative thoughts to see where they lead

Remind yourself that you are not your thoughts

Practice grounding techniques

Pay attention when things go well

Accept bad things when they happen

Try to problem-solve instead of searching for problems

Focus on what you can control

It's like a list of things I do on a daily basis.

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Mostly, though, people just thought that the brand was a highly targeted stunt intended to sell expensive water to punk kids, skateboarders, and anyone else dumb enough to pay a premium just because it comes in a tall boy can emblazoned with a skull.

I totally fell for the trap and had the same experience as the writer. I am a Liquid Death stan.

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One reason people find spending spending quality time with their inner monologue so wildly unpleasant is that, left to your own devices, every embarrassing memory, every argument, every sad recollection can come flooding back, effectively derailing what was supposed to be a moment of peace.

...Keep in mind that if you’re constantly mulling over the same issues, getting stuck in the emotions of the experience without finding solutions, you may be ruminating. Rumination is repetitive thinking of negative emotions or experiences. Those who ruminate may not be able to process emotions effectively and may have increased anxiety and depression.

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Regardless of its definition, people are often afraid to experience it or hesitant to admit it. From a young age, society instills in children the message of “it’s wrong to hit your sister” and “it’s right to say please and thank you.” As time goes on, this binary “creates this level of perfectionism where it’s really hard to be wrong because it feels like your whole person is inherently wrong,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Moe Ari Brown. “It just puts these value-based labels on every single thing that we’re doing.”

How to admit you’re wrong | Vox

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“Y’all wash your body with the same hands that you used to wash it with yesterday instead of chopping em off and growing a clean new pair? LMAOOO EW.”

...It’s no wonder that the majority of people on #cleantok, the segment of TikTok devoted to videos of scrubbing and organizing, seem to live in homes devoid of much personality beyond a curated collection of Stanley tumblers, $600 hair dryers, or the latest viral skin care tool or diet food (Collagen powder? Blended microgreens? Sure!).

...It is a home where life happens, not a home where the evidence of life must be diligently erased. “Compare this to homes in films now: massive, sterile cavernous spaces with minimalist furniture,” she writes. “Kitchens are industrial-sized and spotless, and they contain no food. There is no excess. There is no mess.” This, she argues, is due to a shift in the way American culture has viewed both the body and the home: as assets whose value must appreciate at all costs.

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“There’s certain agents that have a track record of just kinda killing bands,” the agent adds. “They fire the agents at a smaller agency, it goes to a bigger agency, and they just cram it down the throat of these promoters, and there’s a frenzy in the promoter game. Everyone wants a piece of it, and the tour deals get more and more aggressive. Then they price the tickets too high and they just don’t sell.”

I'm finally going back to see shows again. It is great, but I am able to spend more money and see artists in venues in seated venues. I'm living up to my elder millenial label.

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