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Hey reblog this with a song you like. I want to discover new music.

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My mom: I don't get it. You like romcoms. But you're aroace.

(Her confusion was extreme.)

Me: You like murder mysteries but you're not a serial killer or a mad detective, as far as I know. What's up with that?

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This was I was going to write, because that's what I've heard some people use.

Pibling is instead of Uncle/Aunt

Nibbling is instead of nephew/niece

apparently I am going to be related to a new child imminently and so I need a nonbinary or otherwise gender neutral word for aunt or uncle. Have any of you got any suggestions? :)

Unfortunately I don't know of any! If anyone knows, do share!

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Yeah yeah religious trauma and internalized homophobia suck but sometimes I get these moments of overwhelming joy at the fact that I am queer and proud I am not religious anymore I have a life ahead of me where I can celebrate pleasure and love and intellectual freedom without constraint like fuck yeah this is what I'm sticking around for!!!!!!!

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Idk but it's kind of sad that adult books/stories with aspec characters aren't really a thing (MCs or at least important side characters). It's always YA stuff and I really don't want to read books written for 12-18 year olds because I'm old and grumpy and can't relate to their experiences, lol.

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I wish the denmark joke has stayed dead. it is literally the most unfunny asexual joke we got.

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I like he/they pronouns but I've decided to try out it/its pronouns also.

To sum up I'm using: he/they/it

In no particular order, and preferably while switching them up.

I've decided to try out a new set of pronouns.

For the time being I'm going to use: he/him and they/them, preferably while switching between them.

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Story time! a few years ago my grandma found out that my sibling is nonbinary. Sibling was nervous at first bc it was an accident, and even tho our grandma fully accepted me as a trans guy, she presumably had no idea what being nb or genderfluid meant. and to an extent the sib was right—she was totally unaware that those concepts existed when we agreed to meet for lunch that day

but. but. she brought a full on PACKET of printed research and a pen. and asked questions. she took honest to god notes.

so anyway. thank you Grammy for loving your grandkids unconditionally. the feeling is mutual 💕

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I've known I'm aromantic for almost two years now. I've been involved in the aro community here for about that time. And yet this always surprises me.

A lot of the time when I see people talk about aromanticism they bring up the way a lot of us tend to think that romance is just exaggerated in fiction and are surprised that people feel that way in real life and not just in the movies and that's honestly kind of funny, imagine just going about your life and one day finding out that most people's high school years were actually like disney channel and you're the exception

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Do you support the Columbia stuff and everything going on in so many us unis? I’m sorry I don’t want this to come off as accusatory but I’m really scared because you felt like a safe space and I’m having such a hard time and I just saw this and my hands are shaking I’m sorry I just can’t deal with it if you actually support the things happen there. The head organiser of those protests in Columbia has openly put out that he thinks Zionists should die. They’re forming human chains to keep Jewish students from getting to their dorms. A student at Yale was jabbed in the eye with a flagpole. They’re chanting ‘burn tel aviv to the ground’ and ‘Hamas Hamas we love you, we support your rockets too’— I fucking heard it. I’m so scared please don’t support these things please please please

I wrote a long post getting really angry. But I don't like to post things like that so I erased it. I'm now going to rewrite it, calmly.

Look, I'm assuming you live in the US, which is why what's going on in Columbia is very present to you.

I barley know what's going on there. I'm guessing the post you are referring to had something to do with it. But I saw it after I read the Israeli news about a group of Rabbis trying to get food to starving people in Gaza and getting arrested. This on top of the many times they have arrested protesters here.

I took it as an ACAB post.

Since I don't actually understand the context I erased the post I made. I stand by what I wrote by itself. But I can't be sure what the original poster meant and I'd prefer things not be taken the wrong way on such a nuanced subject.

The people protesting here are protesting the needless deaths of Palestinians and Israelis. They are protesting the Israeli government abandoning 133 hostages to their fait, because the government cares more about winning a war than bringing them back alive.

Hamas did an awful thing on October 7th. That is a day no one around me will ever forget. I see the trauma of that day in myself and in ever single person around me.

But it's been half a year. And the Israeli government has lied to us day after day that this will end soon and the hostages will be back. Instead every day that this goes on they are in more and more danger. And more and more innocent people are dying.

The protesters I'm reffing to are being arrested for being critical of the government. That is wrong.

My blog is a safe place for anyone who can grasp the concept that Jewish people and Palestinian people can live on this land and share it in peace.

My blog is a safe place for anyone who can understand that what Hamas did is unforgivable, and unexcusable. And at the same time understand that a prolonged injustice has been done to the Palestinian people.

This is a safe place for people who can understand that regardless of the past we need to think about the future. And the best possible future is to stop the fighting and find a way to share this land.

Like I said I really don't know what's going on in the Universities in the US. All I know is that this is a nuanced thing going on here and my impression is a lot of people have trouble dealing with that.

There's a place to protest what's going on here in Israel. It is wrong.

That being said, there's never an excuse to wish death on people no matter how much you disagree.

There's no excuse to hurt individual Jewish people. Period. There is never an excuse to hurt any individual. Period.

You have to find a safe place for yourself. I hope I made my opinions clear. I live in Israel. I feel like I have every right to. I also feel like Palestinians have every right to live here too. Israel has done a great injustice to Palestinians and that has to be made up for.

Most of all I'm a pacifist and I want to live in peace.

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Me: agender ->transmasc/trans man -> androgyne -> nonbinary/trans -> trans man -> androgyne?? -> agender??? -> who am I????

genderfluid culture is wondering if THIS time this is my TRUE gender, with my next gender looming over behind me (<- oblivious to this)

”This is my real gender :D” <— is lying to themself

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Before you answer, may I introduce you to the puffin:

And before you say: "sure it's cute, but I still wouldn't say it's my favorite..."

The baby puffins are called pufflings. Pufflings.

My friend just made me feel weird for asking so now i gotta know.

If you do have a favorite bird please please tell me in the tags, i want to see some Birds!!

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Share your tips for nicely reminding people to use your correct pronouns!

For context, this is my parents and siblings and they barley had time to get used to my pronouns. I want to remind them but not make them feel bad for getting confused, it isn't on purpose.

* any tips are welcome, I'm sure ideas for other contexts will help me and/or others

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Medically recognized, but not formally diagnosed: a psychologist or other professional recognizes your autism, but you don't have a formal diagnosis

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So... Do you have an answer about the m&ms?

Medically recognized, but not formally diagnosed: a psychologist or other professional recognizes your autism, but you don't have a formal diagnosis

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I'm a bit late, but anyways.