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Etiquette

Etiquette states that I can’t be mad at you for not speaking UNLESS I spoke. Now, if you didn’t speak back, I can be as mad as I want to be. But, if neither of us spoke neither of us gets to be angry. Got it. So, this man stood me up after giving me every indication that he was interested in spending time with me. Like stone cold ghosting, and I was blindsided. I didn’t know we still did that…

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Stop Touching It

View this post on Instagram A post shared by 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭|𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧|𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩|𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡 (@gratefulandgrowingminds) This really resonates with me. “To heal a wound, you have to stop touching it.” “Touching it does more harm than good.” Those are exact words I’ve spoken to my sons when they needed to inspect the ouchie under the bandaid by exposing it and poking at it. “You aren’t ‘checking it,’…

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Do you want to know if you’ve been cheated on?

Is ignorance bliss? I encourage people to know, if they are going to take action. If you want to know, but nothing is going to change, should you put yourself through that? If knowing determines the life of our relationship, tell me. If knowing is going to encourage me to make certain decisions, tell me. And, the decision may not be about us. Did you cheat on me with someone else who should be…

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You don’t want help. You just want to talk.

Her: “He doesn’t appreciate me.” She almost whined as soon as I sat down in the pedicure chair beside her. Me: “Okay.” I took out one of my AirPods, the one that fit best, and hit play on the podcast I’d been listening to on the drive there. I was prepared for this to be ridiculous. Her: “Just, okay?” Me: “Yep.” Her: “Where’s the relationship non-expert rambling on and on about what to do,…

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Hold my hand

I’m writing this on the family break at my oldest son’s orientation at LSU. I’m drinking a smoothie as quickly as I can, because there’s no food or drink allowed in the auditorium. Blaise is off in a session learning more about his new exciting life as a college kid student. I’m looking around at this mishmash of family units. There are a lot of single parents here, grandparents, and siblings.…

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This is the version of you that I know.

Him: “I’m not a liar, and I don’t appreciate you calling me one.” Me: “You have lied to me countless times.” Him: “Look. I hear you, but I’m not a liar. No one else would say that about me.” Me: “I’m speaking on my experience. This is the version of you that I know.” Nope, it didn’t go well after that. I didn’t expect it to. I. Don’t. Care. Who. You. Are. To. The. Rest. Of. The. World. I.…

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And then there were none

Yesterday, I ended two relationships. Both men that I’d been talking to. One man was a friend of mine and we’d been toying with the possibility of more. The other was a blast from the past that came back hot and heavy. I was entertaining both. Nothing physical with either, but I’m grown and I could if I wanted to. We were in the early phase. Enjoying each other’s company with good morning text…

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Be safe

thehotline.org Everyone is entitled to be and feel safe in their relationships. It’s the bare minimum. Emotional, physical, and psychological safety is a requirement. And, if you don’t have that safety, my prayer is that every resource available makes its way to you immediately. As someone who chooses to engross myself in the exploration of all types of relationships, I can’t let all that’s…

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Nah. We can’t be friends.

View this post on Instagram A post shared by Best Memory™️ (@best.memory__) I can eventually be cool with all but one of my exes. One messed up too bad. And, he knows who he is. Actually there are two that would think I’m talking about them. Hmmm…yeah there are two. Definitely two. So as much as I can high five you in public, stand in a group that you’re in, or tell your mama a general synopsis…

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I don’t fool with them anymore.

I was telling my friend that I didn’t “fool with” someone anymore. “But, why?” She almost moaned asking. She knew we we’d been really close my entire life. She knew I adored her and so did my children. What could have happened that would make me give up that relationship? “Because when I look back over the years, she’s believed every bad thing she’s heard about me. I’ve rebuilt our relationship…

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43 v 20 something

This is a short story, long. You’ve been warned. At VS, minding my very own business, working my 3 little hours for the week, when I end up tangled in a conversation I never wanted but enjoyed. Man: “What’s your favorite one of these?” He was shopping in the mists and lotions looking totally overwhelmed. I answered. Showed him my favorite, and I told him what was most popular. We went over…

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Check out this listing I just added to my Poshmark closet: Cacique Balconette bra.

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Check out this listing I just added to my Poshmark closet: Ray Ban Blaze RB4447N.

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Check out this listing I just added to my Poshmark closet: Ray Ban Blaze RB4447N.

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Check out this listing I just added to my Poshmark closet: Ray Ban Blaze RB4447N.

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Ghosting

I was listening to a podcast recently and was triggered. Not majorly, but it was enough to be unsettled. This woman was talking about being in a relationship with this man who went from highly attentive to a ghost with no notice. I know. Just because she didn’t recognize a change doesn’t mean there wasn’t one. Got it. But, I believe her. It happened to me. So they’re hot and heavy. Texting and…