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"the concept of queerplatonic relationships originated from the asexual community" and "anyone of any orientation can be in a QPR" and "it's weird to give an overview of QPRs that mentions asexuality without mentioning their significance to so many aromantic people" and "QPRs don't need to be non-sexual" are all true statements that can easily coexist

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aro culture is LOVING FRIENDSHIP. I LOVE HAVING FRIENDS I LOVE HANGING OUT WITH MY FRIENDS AND BEING SILLY TOGETHER HELL YEAHH

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HEARTSTOPPER | 2x0.7 Sorry ⁂ ⁂ ⁂

Isaac found his happiness 🫶🏼

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If you’ve ever felt out of place in a romance-obsessed culture, I see you

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All characters are aro/ace/aroace until proven otherwise

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Someone, explain to me how me not having sex is your problem? Like genuinely, how does that affect you?

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Edit because I think this is being misinterpreted: The aroace tag is not colored, it's a petition for Tumblr to color it (sorry for the confusion)

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slowly continuing to educate myself further on the spectrums that are asexuality and aromanticism...

even though labels aren't required, i have been enjoying finding mine. it makes me feel seen... like i'm not alone... and that i'm not broken or missing out on something fundamental

anyway...

i identify as a hetero-demiromantic, sex-indifferent asexual

yeah, it may be a mouthful to say, but having the words to describe how i feel and what i experience is a massive weight off my shoulders

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You can pick or choose what aspects of sex/romance you're interested in or not, or that you want to participate in or not. It doesn't have to be all or nothing (though both are also valid), you can take whatever you want, leave whatever you don't.

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aroace sign #22

in high school, when i started dating my ex, we were both extremely shy and introverted when we were together in person; however, when we were talking over the phone or text, we had a very strong and non-stop conversation about everything and anything. we knew everything about each other and the goings-on in our respective lives. we knew how the other was feeling emotionally about everything and everyone they interacted with

we said "i love you" for the first time within a month of dating (and five months of knowing each other)

at the time, my friends would criticize me for saying it "too soon" because we had a hard time still talking when we were together, hadn't really held hands when together, or even had our first kiss yet

but, i knew i loved him because i knew who he was, i had fallen for his personality and didn't think we needed any of those traditional moments to come before we knew we loved each other

i am now realizing that's because, to me, to be in a romantic relationship with someone, to love someone, you do not need to partake in anything sensual or sexual. you can fall in love with a person for their personality and know who they are

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You can pick or choose what aspects of sex/romance you're interested in or not, or that you want to participate in or not. It doesn't have to be all or nothing (though both are also valid), you can take whatever you want, leave whatever you don't.

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over a year and a half later, i'm writing a short story based on my ex breaking up with me, but i'm not using the bs reasons he gave me that night...

i'm using the arguments he would cause out of the blue that made me feel like something was wrong with me... that i was broken in some way...

only to realize all those arguments we had, and all my confusion at the time, was due to me being asexual and him not being able to comprehend that there are people out there who don't think about sex 24/7

and it is truly eye opening to see how much i put up with and accepted from him, believing that he was this perfect person, the love of my life, and someone i wanted a future with... only to now realize i truly dodge a bullet because the love of my life would never make me feel the way he made me feel

no matter what someone says, no matter who they are to you, you are not broken! you are allowed to say no. to set boundaries. you do not owe anyone any part of you. if they truly love you, they will understand and accept you, whether you know what you are and use a label or if you just know how you feel and express that

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Ace and aro identities are spectrums, and everyone on that spectrum deserves support and visibility.

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Asexuality win! Person who repeatedly pressured their ace partner to "compromise" on sex because it was "a necessary part of a healthy relationship" fucking dies. <3

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Male character: I'm not attracted to women.

Fandom: Oh, he's gay.

Female character: I'm not attracted to men.

Fandom: Oh, she's a lesbian.

Any character: I'm not attracted to anybody.

Fandom: Well, we don't know that they're ace/aro/aroace. It's open for interpretation. They're not canonically ace/aro/aroace unless they specifically say they are.

Hmmmm. I wonder why we're so frustrated in fandom spaces. I wonder if there's a reason.

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You don't need anyone's permission to use ace and aro spectrum labels. They're not owned by anyone. If you find any of these labels useful to use, you can use them.

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aroace sign #21

i have always, always been made uncomfortable when someone admits they have feelings for me

in the modern day, most of these interactions have occurred behind a screen and has allowed me the time to process and get outside help on how to answer because i shut down. i cannot compute someone liking me.

and it doesn't matter how long it's been since those feelings were felt. i had one of my high school friends tell me that when we were seniors (seven years prior at the time) he liked me. i left that kid on read for about an hour while i fought through the uncomfortableness to respond because he is a friend of mine...