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a doctor/scientist who has you strapped to a table because he's conducting an [unethical] experiment. it's agonizing and it feels like your entire body is stiff with pain. he notices your distress and stands at the side of the table. he offers to soothe your pain and rubs his large hand over your thigh. then gently brings his fingers between your legs to rub your cunt to make you feel better while stroking your hair and shushing in your ear and telling you it'll all be over soon. 😵‍💫

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pathetic tops!! pathetic, overwhelmed tops who mumble "pleasepleasepleaseplease—" against your neck while rutting into you, and then incoherent "thank you"s after they come, kissing you all clumsily, lips pressing against shoulders, collarbones, the line of your jaw, shaking a little, desperately clingy in the wake of the moment.

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Obsessed with villainous displays of affection.

violence on their beloved's behalf.

deranged compliments and praising bad deeds.

stealing nice things for their beloved.

jealousy and possessiveness.

encouraging their beloved to be worse.

crimes together.

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Don't fuck around with hardcore kink if you won't take it seriously.

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You guys think I'm joking about the experimentation kink, but I think if I ever found out that a partner WAS taking notes on me and what I liked somewhere- I would pass out from how horny that would make me

Oh- you have spreadsheets on my preferences like a fucking weirdo? My dude, this is exactly my brand of freak, our autistic asses shall be married in the morning

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In order to stop the culture of faking orgasms, we need to stop the culture of shaming others for their sexual experiences.

Can’t get your partner off on the first try? Cool. You can still be thoughtful and make them feel good.

Can get your partner off within 30 seconds? Awesome, good for you both, don’t let it get to your head.

Can make someone cum in less than 5, but for others, it’s a process that takes an hour? That’s alright, everyone’s different. 

Does it take you 30 minutes to cum? That’s okay, you’re not broken, you’re not a failure.

Does it take you 10 seconds to cum? That’s great, you’re not a slut, you’re not overly sensitive or dirty. 

Can’t cum without toys/vibrators? That’s awesome, that’s a valid part of sexual play!

Can only cum with loving, vanilla sex? That’s perfectly normal, and you will find lots of great partners to experience that with!

Can’t orgasm at all? THAT’S ALSO COOL. It’s not a bad thing, you can still enjoy sex TONNES just like others.

Orgasms are NOT the defining characteristic of your sexual prowess. They are great, they’re lovely when they happen, but for the love of science, stop bringing them up higher than they need to be. 

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It is one thing to serve a royal, to serve a lover, unconditionally or otherwise - the simplicity of an order, of a hierarchy, the comfort of knowing exactly what is expected of you.

You know what I have not seen nearly enough of though? The desperate conflict of service when both partners long for it, the eternal back and forth of both giving and following orders, of working with all your ability to make life easier for someone you love and the reverberating warmth as they do the same.

Plenty sexy, on so many levels, the push and pull of attempting a cycle of mutual pleasure, but nothing compares to the general utility of that thought in my mind, of both of you looking at the other doing chores and taking care of yourself and the pride and satisfaction, or being able to get those things done because you're doing them for the person you love. Just a little game where everyone wins. And then like, you can fuck about it, I guess. That would also be nice, after you argue about whose turn it is to lie back and feel good.

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Sex Positive vs. Sex Favorable

They’re not the same thing.  Sex positive, neutral, and negative describes someone’s opinion on the morality of sex in general and its place in society.  Sex favorable, indifferent, averse, and repulsed have to do with your own interactions with sex.

Favorable, indifferent, averse, and repulsed is mostly used for asexual-spectrum people, and a lot of aromantic-spectrum people use the same scale to describe their feelings towards romance.  But allosexual (non-asexual) people might also find it helpful.  Like, there are people who feel attraction towards other people but are sex averse and don’t want to have sex with anyone they’re attracted to.  (There are also people fitting the same description who do identify as aspec, and that’s valid, too.)

Here’s the chart that’s commonly used used to explain the two scales.  I’m going to add an image description afterwards, but I’m not really familiar with doing them so it may not be great.

[Image description: A picture divided vertically into two halves.  The left half is white with black text and the right half is black with white text.  Each half has several terms written in bold with a smaller description under each one.  The text is in a handwriting-style font.

On the left side, it says, “Sex-positive: To have a positive attitude towards sex in general.  Not necessarily for yourself, but any safe sex between consenting people. Sex-neutral: to have no opinion on sex in general, neither positive nor negative. Sex-negative: to have a negative attitude towards sex in general.  To think sex is bad/wrong, even safe and between consenting people.”

On the right side, it says, “Sex-favorable: to have a positive attitude towards sex for yourself.  To desire sex.  Sex-indifferent: To have no opinion on sex for yourself, neither positive not negative.  Sex-averse: to have a negative attitude toward sex for yourself.  To not desire sex.  Sex-repulsed: To be repulsed by the thought of sex.”

End description.]

People get these two scales mixed up constantly, and/or leave out words.  Y’all, I know it’s hard.  I have to go through both of them in my head before I mention either one to make sure I’m saying the right thing.  But we can do better.  Please!  Like, one of my friends was angry at me when I came out as asexual to her because she thought I was attacking her sexuality.  And yeah, I’m sex averse, but that has no bearing on what I think of her.  It’s actually a common myth that the concept of asexuality is inherently sex negative, and we don’t need to encourage that by conflating sex negativity with being sex averse or repulsed.

Actually, most people fit somewhere on both scales.  So I made a chart of my own that shows how they fit together.  Personally, I’m in the top right corner, sex averse and (doing my best to be) sex positive.

[Image description: A three-by-three chart, similar to an alignment chart.  The left column is labeled “sex favorable”, the middle column is labeled “sex indifferent”, and the right column is labeled “sex averse/repulsed”.  The top row is labeled “sex positive”, the middle row is labeled “sex neutral”, and the bottom row is labeled “sex negative”.

The box in the top left of the chart reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, and I personally like to have sex.”  The box in the top middle reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, and I personally don’t mind having sex.”  The box in the top right reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, but I personally don’t want to have sex.”

The middle-left box reads, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, and I personally like to have sex.”  The center box reads, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, and I personally don’t mind having sex.”  The middle-right box says, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, but I personally don’t want to have sex.”

The box in the bottom left says, “I think sex is immoral, but I personally like to have sex.”  The bottom middle box says, “I think sex is immoral, but I personally don’t mind having sex.”  The bottom right box says, “I think sex is immoral, and I personally don’t want to have sex.”

End description.]

So yeah, you can be sex positive and sex repulsed, or sex neutral and sex averse, or whatever!  I’d say that a lot of American politicians are both sex negative and sex favorable.  If you need more information, I added my own descriptions of the seven terms below the cut.

(I really wish I hadn’t made this so long, LOL.  It took me way too long.  Please reblog so it’s worth it?)

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we really have to hand it to bruises for being easy to acquire, fun to touch, usually relatively harmless, and capable of turning a variety of pretty colours as they cycle through the stages of their life cycle from birth to death. they do so much for us. and even more if you're a bit of a pervert about it.

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This is your reminder that:

You are femme enough.

You are butch enough.

You are lesbian enough.

Butch and femme are an identity. Lesbian is an identity. It’s who you are!

Not your weight, not how you dress, not your sex drive.

ITS YOU!!!!

I’ll remind you everyday if I have to (and send it off with a little kiss on the cheek too)

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being dominant about consent

“you will tell me if something makes you uncomfortable.”

“can I touch you here, sweetheart?”

“would you like me to think for you for a bit, smart girl?”

“i will always take care of you. you can put your trust in me.”

“tell me your color, or i will stop.”

“tell me with words, or i will stop”

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It's hard being a polyamorous princess. The singular vow of fealty is so compelling. And yet... And I don't wish for my Lovely Knights to fight over my affections, I want to gladly give my love to each Knight freely and extensively. Yet, I would certainly love to watch those Knights duel one another for my attention, it's just important that the loser of the bout know I love them still. Many such little dilemmas.

Would truly love to hear from some Knights how best to approach such things.

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how do we feel about butch knights who think their first and most important role in the world is to Serve actually getting pampered and indulged in by their princesses and treated like divine beings and if they try to argue back getting told to shut the fuck up and take it (it being unconditional affection and blatant, spoiling pleasure)

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hear me out okay. church sex not as defilement or blasphemy but as sanctification. tucked into a closet or candle-lit loft with your lover, moans muffled by the consuming glory of the organ, feeling the holiness of their body pressed against yours, the divinity of their gasps in your ear. murmuring prayers of gratitude against their skin as your teeth find their collarbone, tongue gently soothing the bruises as your hands find their belt. you sink to your knees in prayer, their back arching into the pew cushions as the stained glass reflects in their pleasure-shot eyes. they taste like heaven, like communion with the divine, and you can hear god in the way they groan out your name. your purpose is worship, and you’ve found salvation.

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Knights in my inbox . Knights in my inbox ple asse. Please. Im just an innocent twinkish prince in need of protecting and I have only 100% good and pure intentiosn PLEASE GOD Im withering away as we speak please noble knight you MUST deliver to me a horny message in my ask box it is the only way I may be saved from my sickness . This is a quest of utmost importance I am the heir to the throne you must understand please your services are desperately needed. Scandalous ask in my ask box. Now go!!! The future of the kingdom depends on it!!!