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HELP THIS COUPLE EVACUATE G4ZA

I have gifted money to this campaign and they are so close to their goal - they need less than $2k to be able to evacuate! I found them via Operation Olive Branch, a team that made a spreadsheet of campaigns to help people evacuate G4za - yes, they check for scams. They are doing so much to help families in the G4za Strip that I felt that I had to help with the little amount I could. I ask you to join me in my efforts.

If you cannot give anything, that's fine, but please please please reblog to b00st the campaign.

The campaign:

Link to the Operation Olive Branch spreadsheet:

Operation Olive Branch - Google Drive

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Wait it's National Pig Day, too??

HAPPY EMERALD DUO DAY, EVERYBODY!

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Out of Touch

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HELP THIS COUPLE EVACUATE G4ZA

I have gifted money to this campaign and they are so close to their goal - they need less than $2k to be able to evacuate! I found them via Operation Olive Branch, a team that made a spreadsheet of campaigns to help people evacuate G4za - yes, they check for scams. They are doing so much to help families in the G4za Strip that I felt that I had to help with the little amount I could. I ask you to join me in my efforts.

If you cannot give anything, that's fine, but please please please reblog to b00st the campaign.

The campaign:

Link to the Operation Olive Branch spreadsheet:

Operation Olive Branch - Google Drive

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Many of the younger ccs speaking up about Wilbur's manipulation is INCREDIBLY concerning, and I don't think they'll be the last. I think it's also a big indication that it happened to Tommy too, and that he'll take a while to respond. People demanding an immediate response need to remember that he was likely a victim of it too, he just may not have been aware of it.

I mean, Wilbur's ADMITTED he relied on Tommy for his mental health when he was still a minor. That is NOT something adults should ever do and it has always been odd to me. It also makes it very hard for the minor involved to leave the friendship, since they see themselves as responsible for the older person. I don't think I need to really go into how unhealthy that sort of thing is, it isn't an uncommon occurrence and lot of people will have a better explanation than me. But it is something to keep in mind, that Tommy may feel responsible or have been groomed to excuse the behavior.

The library stream is another example of the manipulation, and I'm surprised no one is talking about it. Tommy literally talked about how uncomfortable he was at Wilbur's house. It was cold, he had no blanket, he didn't want to keep staying there, he would rather be out in public at night in a strange place. Then Wilbur just shows up out of nowhere and tells Tommy he's misremembering/being dramatic and pretty much shuts him up, gets him to stop talking shit about him. Everyone's exasperation with Tommy in the situation (being a minor alone and uncomfortable and uncertain of what to do, far from home with nowhere to go), helped Wilbur pull Tommy back in and convince him to go back to his house, especially since it was passed off as Wilbur being caring.

It was obvious to me during the stream that Tommy was telling the truth and Wilbur was the one lying, but I figured he was just being defensive because he didn't want all that online. Now we know that he had a LOT more to hide about his living situation that he didn't want being spilled, and manipulators/abusers don't tend to like it when someone goes and starts talking about the truth. They want to downplay it as much as possible, and Wilbur showing up in person to shut Tommy up and make fun of him for not wanting to stay with him, make it more lighthearted, is incredibly telling and I'm surprised I haven't seen anyone point that out.

There are so many other things I found odd throughout the years that finally have a proper explanation to them, but that's just a few examples. I'm not going to get too much further into it. Wilbur isn't who we should be focusing on, I just needed to get that out to move on from it.

I do think pointing out that Tommy has openly been manipulated is important because it may cause him to take a while to respond openly to all this while he processes. If Wilbur treated so many of his ex-friends badly it's safe to assume he did it to all of them, and we need to give everyone involved time to stop and think about the situation. A lot of people want Tommy to respond immediately, but he will need time to do that and it's only fair we give him the space to do that properly.

I also think it is so, so incredible that Shelby has given so many people the space and bravery to come forward. I believe there will be more people speaking up soon, they just need time. Support her and other victims!

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unflinching

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Operation Olive Branch is a project to help Gaza families to safety. Egypt is charing displaced Palestinians to get into the borders unless they are an Egyptian citizen. These Palestinians can't afford food and water, let alone the thousands they are charing. Operation Olive Branch has posted a sheet with all the family's GoFundMes for those who are able to donate. If you cannot, please spread awareness to make sure these families get to safety!

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from the r/Jewish subreddit:

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They are enjoying late night snack, your honor.

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Reblog to give the person you reblogged it from the energy to do one (1) chore or maybe many

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Where do you draw the line in regards to cheese?

interesting question. my answer would be... 99% of the time, nowhere.

if i don't like a type of cheese, there is no line to draw because i will never eat it.

if i DO like a type of cheese, there is no line to draw because there is no such thing as 'too much cheese'.

the 1% is: there's one specific type of cheese that i don't know the name of, but can only have like 2 slices before i go from loving it to hating it. so uh. there's the exception to the rule.

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Honestly I am so glad to see this in an article - this is my specific presentation of autism and I have never ever ever seen it acknowledged anywhere. The DSM-5 literally has separate level categories for social skills and behavioural issues, but no one ever seems to talk about the people who are Level 1 in one factor but Level 2 in another, and therefore don't fit into the clear-cut level system. I've had a lot of difficulty relating to other autistic people because of this - my social/communication skills are good and I can live independently to a degree (to my knowledge), but I have bad self-injurious behaviours, severe meltdowns, PICA-like behaviour, and a near total inability to mask - like I hear a lot of people talking about masking in autism and I really cannot relate to it at all as I have never really done that (Everyone except me and my dad instantly knew something was off, and as a result I got bullied extremely badly as a child. Should have been diagnosed a lot earlier than I was but dad was against it so I only got diagnosed when it was almost too late. I did try to mask but I completely failed and was still bullied and rejected, so I gave up. Now I very rarely have social interactions with anyone who isn't already in my circle). So I feel unable to relate to any one level of autism, and I've never seen anything about "in-betweeners" before today. I felt like I didn't fit into the autism community. So an article like this, mentioning even a sentence about the "in-betweeners", is EXACTLY what I wanted and needed to see. Lovely stuff, wish there was more. Anyone else with this same issue out there?

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So a preferred name is supposed to be the name that you prefer to be called, right?

Thus, it stands to reason that if a medical service was filling out a form that asked them what a patient's preferred name was, the most obvious course of action would be to ask the patient what exactly their preferred name was, so that this information could be filled in correctly.

Well NOT ACCORDING TO THE BLOODY NHS APPARENTLY!

I do not have a separate 'preferred name', in that my preferred name is the same as my legal name. I have never communicated to this hospital that I have a preferred name separate to my legal name.

But somehow, this absolute disaster of a hospital department decided that I had a preferred name, that they had to put down a preferred name, and that THEY needed to dictate what MY preferred name was.

Didn't ask me what it was. Didn't even inform me that they had put a preferred name down.

Just decided for me with absolutely no input from me, the actual patient.

And predictably, they got it horribly wrong! So utterly, completely wrong, in fact, that they got my names the complete wrong way round and managed to put my actual DEADNAME (which hasn't been my legal name for over 3 years, and certainly I have never given them in the 1 month I have been referred to them, so I don't even know how they got it) as my preferred name, and then *addressed me as my deadname in a letter*. A letter that I only received in digital form because of the NHS app, and which they have also sent out in physical form, which is now going to be received and then thrown in the garbage by my university hall's residence reception because no one with that name lives at this address.

Kind of defeats the purpose of a preferred name if you don't get to decide what that preferred name is, does it not?!

What makes this even better is that in this letter, they addressed me with she/her pronouns, and in the same letter, on the EXACT SAME PAGE, they recorded in my medical history that they KNEW that I have gender dysphoria. They just decided to use she/her pronouns anyway, despite the fact that I am entirely male-presenting and mostly pass as a cisgender man.

So thanks to this ignorant 'medical professional', I have suffered even more distress while waiting for an already extremely serious biopsy result, and they have wasted time, money, ink, and paper writing and printing a letter which was never received by me and was discarded, which they will now have to write and print again with my correct details.

All because, knowing full well and having been told directly by me that I have gender dysphoria, they couldn't be bothered to ASK ME what my preferred name and pronouns are.

I don't know if they thought I was AMAB instead of AFAB and that's why they got everything the wrong way round, I don't know if they were just utterly ignorant.

Just... I'm lost for words. If they're doing this kind of BS all the time, wasting money on letters with the wrong details, no wonder the NHS is an absolute shambles which is bleeding money.

Utterly ridiculous.

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Here's to the people who weren't abused by their parents, but whose parents sucked anyways. Here's to people whose parents fucked up raising you out of ignorance and not malice. Here's to the kids whose parents didn't know what to do with you so they did nothing at all. Here's to people whose parents are getting better and growing as people but still hurt you. Here's to every mean comment that wouldn't have been so bad if it hadn't come from your mom; here's to awkward family dinners because you're all trying to forget;

here's to you, survivor of a thousand 'not as bad as it could have been' hurts. I see you. You aren't alone.

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I recently discovered laundry stripping and y’all, no matter how much of a crock of shit you think fast fashion is, you’re underestimating.

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I would love it if TERFs/transphobes were as silenced and voiceless in the mainstream media as they seem to think they are. All they can pull out their arses is lies about gender-affirming treatments and whining that they came 50th in a race while a trans person came 40th or some shit. Maybe try... getting good?

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