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Aww 🥰 can I cashapp or PayPal or Apple Pay you some $$$ love 💕

Ummm, sure?

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"oh you still use tumblr? can I see?" no. that's where I keep my demons

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I love how my whole feed on all the social media apps is just this picture today

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They should invent a way to sit hunched over doing crafts that is Good for your body

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May Tunes

I did this a little too late in the day, so it's missing the 3 times I played "Black and Blue" by Tilly and the Wall and the 5 times I played "Messy" by Lola Young.

Thanks for the tag, @aoubooming! I keep forgetting to do this every month.

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man i have GOT to do this thing. *doesnt do it*

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when i look up a knitting term, the last thing I want is an ai overview. I want a 60+ year old woman with no understanding of lighting or helpful camera angles who still manages to give the most concise and clear explanation of how to execute purl 2tog through the backloop. ai summary fuck off, where is phyllis?

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Cross stitch social media posts really confuse me. I see a lot of people sharing pictures of the back of their work, going 'oh, I'm so proud I finished but my backs look soooo messy!🙈'.

And I can't help but think,

Who gives a shit??

It's the back! No one's supposed to be looking at it. If someone comes round and, when you show them your latest masterpiece, turns it over and says 'oh, but the back's very messy', that person is not invited again.

My second thought is,

Well, try clipping your fucking ends then. If you don't want a messy back, don't leave two‐inch tails of every thread. Knot it through the work a couple of times and cut the loose off.

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I think the hardest thing about Mother's Day for me is not that my mom is dead.

I was scrolling through Facebook today, seeing all my friends' posts about how great their moms are/were. All the good things they did for them. What amazing grandmothers they are. And for me, my mom was not that at all (I mean, obviously she wasn't an amazing grandmother because my sister and I never had children).

I decided I needed to stop scrolling. I really didn't want to come across my sister's post because she had a completely different mom than I did. She was the golden child because she is so much like my mom. And I see it in most of her posts. The "look at the things I got," "look at how cute my she shed balcony is," "look at how great a bonus mom I am to my boyfriend's son." And my mom was endlessly proud of her, despite the fact that I achieved "more" in the traditional sense (though it took me longer, but that's what happened to a lot of us who graduated college in 2008), with my career and degrees. I've been at my job for 8½ years now and I'm really proud of that. She'd love hearing how much people appreciate my work there and I'm sure she'd brag that her daughter does all the emails for her company.

I often wonder what she would think of me now. I can't not. I know she would have ruined my wedding for me. She would have judged all my choices and tried to take over. She would have hated my weird thrift store shit (though some of the artwork she might have liked). She'd probably make me feel bad for my failed marriage (though of course my sister's divorce was perfectly fine because her ex-husband was a slacker). She'd point out all the reasons I could have possibly fucked it up (and believe me, I've thought that myself).

I'd like to think there'd be things she'd be proud of me for. I know she'd be impressed with the cedar closet. She'd probably be proud of me for buying this house by myself and getting my student loans paid off in the process (I found a down payment assistance program that paid them off). She'd love seeing me scraping all the paint off the trim and working to restore it to its original 1920s beauty. She'd definitely be proud of me for my power tool use and I credit her for showing me it's something I can do, despite being a small woman.

One thing I noticed with my ex was how much they made me feel like my mom always did. I'm terrible at cleaning (don't go in my kitchen right now 😂). They always made me feel like a bad dog parent and I felt so validated when Dr. B told me that Lola was looking amazing for her age and to keep doing what I'm doing. Getting the house ready to sell triggered so much of my childhood where I'd get yelled at for not having things clean and taking too long to do them. I'd yell right back at them, having been modeled that bad behavior. We also had different approaches to managing money and I was never given a good example of how to do that growing up. They always balked at my lack of savings, but in my house, saving just wasn't a thing. If you had money left over after paying bills, you treated yourself. I have a very specific memory of being at a friend's house in middle school and her mom saying, "Ooh, I'm down to only $300 until I get paid again," and I actually said something about that seeming like a lot of extra money to have.

At any rate, I'm sad today. Not because I miss my mom, but because I don't. I'm sad because I'm so jealous of everyone who had a great mom growing up. I'm having mixed feelings about her being gone today because while I'd like to think she'd be proud of me for what I've accomplished, I know there'd be plenty of things she'd criticize me for. And that's what's so hard.

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Can I Please Eat In The Computer Room Tonight? by Nicole Nikolich (2025)

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fibercrafts are SO maddening cuz wdym I have to go to work tomorrow, I'm like a third of a way through making a whole ass fucking cape, don't you think I should be allowed to focus on what matters (my fucking cape)

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Hey cis folks! If you’re out and about with a trans friend who shares your gender, offer to go to the bathroom with them.

In my glittering palace of privilege I didn’t even think of how anxiety-inducing it must be for my not-always-passing friend when we’re out in public for hours and they need to go pee. It wasn’t until my friend told me this that I realized there was a stop-gap solution until the world got kinder. I could go with her, even if I didn’t actually have to “go.” And she’d have backup. And if anyone caused a problem, I’d be there to be as annoying as fucking possible and run interference while she did her business and got out.

So now, any time we meet up somewhere public, even if it’s just a quick coffee, I always ask if she wants to hit the bathroom before we leave. It’s such a little, silly, thing, but she’s said it makes a difference in her willingness to even accept invitations to go places.

Maybe your trans friend doesn’t feel the same way, but maybe they don’t feel comfortable enough to mention it and you offering would be a relief! Doesn’t hurt to ask.

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ive gotta say people on the internet being honest about what they find hot in people's bodies and behaviors has done more for my body image issues than any body-positivity mantra ever. thank you people on the internet for being horny about literally every possible part and variation of the human body and for sharing it

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Hey can I ask what's it like being single at 40 do you feel relieved and more satisfied. Also I'm Jordan nice to meet ya x

I'm actually not single! Not anymore, that is. I have a lovely boyfriend and gorgeous girlfriend and two wonderful friends with benefits (#2 and The Tree). I also have things on hold with Beau #6, things brewing with Lady #3 and actually just reconnected with another lady I met at Poly Cocktails. I'm pretty close to poly saturated now, depending on how things go with the few that are up in the air. All 3 of those are also very busy people, so even if a relationship starts, the amount of 1 on 1 time won't really be that much, if we're being honest.

My ex and I opened our relationship a year ago and honestly, I really love being polyamorous. I would hate to have to choose just one of these lovely people. I see my boyfriend pretty much every week, my girlfriend once a month, my FWBs a few times a month and I haven't actually had a 1 on 1 date with Lady #3, but I see her at various things at least twice a month. If I had to pick one, I'd be disappointed. I have room in my heart and my schedule for all of them and it's really lovely to have them all in my life.

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WHICH FANFIC TROPE ARE YOU?