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ive gotta say people on the internet being honest about what they find hot in people's bodies and behaviors has done more for my body image issues than any body-positivity mantra ever. thank you people on the internet for being horny about literally every possible part and variation of the human body and for sharing it

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Hey can I ask what's it like being single at 40 do you feel relieved and more satisfied. Also I'm Jordan nice to meet ya x

I'm actually not single! Not anymore, that is. I have a lovely boyfriend and gorgeous girlfriend and two wonderful friends with benefits (#2 and The Tree). I also have things on hold with Beau #6, things brewing with Lady #3 and actually just reconnected with another lady I met at Poly Cocktails. I'm pretty close to poly saturated now, depending on how things go with the few that are up in the air. All 3 of those are also very busy people, so even if a relationship starts, the amount of 1 on 1 time won't really be that much, if we're being honest.

My ex and I opened our relationship a year ago and honestly, I really love being polyamorous. I would hate to have to choose just one of these lovely people. I see my boyfriend pretty much every week, my girlfriend once a month, my FWBs a few times a month and I haven't actually had a 1 on 1 date with Lady #3, but I see her at various things at least twice a month. If I had to pick one, I'd be disappointed. I have room in my heart and my schedule for all of them and it's really lovely to have them all in my life.

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WHICH FANFIC TROPE ARE YOU?

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"it's all in your head" correct! unfortunately I am also in there

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Just finished a Walk on Strava for 15 minutes, 49 seconds going 1290.5m. https://t.co/eVLQior8O9 — Coley (she/her) bisexual glitter explosions💗💜💙✨ (@raspberrychucks) Apr 13, 2025 April 13, 2025 at 03:37PM via Twitter https://twitter.com/raspberrychucks

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(gif by @peaceoutofthepieces, because Tumblr's gif search sucks)

Beau #7 Boyfriend #1 came over last night, straight from the airport after flying home from a business trip. I had dinner ready for him. We ate and talked.

So, because of his STI, I've been running into some problems with my other relationships. Both The Tree and Moxi's husband have huge concerns about it. The really frustrating part is that transmission of this STI is damn near impossible between women. There is only one documented case. Still, he doesn't want us having sex (and I'm not even sure what that entails, TBH) and I don't like it. I feel like someone else is dictating what I can and can't do in my relationship with someone else. As for The Tree, I haven't heard from him since I told him (well, he responded when I was having a panic attack during my move, but that was it).

Boyfriend #1 feels terrible that he's caused these problems in my other relationships. I told him that he's worth it. Some of it is definitely NRE, but there's something about the way we connect that I haven't felt in a long time. He's incredibly affectionate, which is something I always missed in my marriage. And the sex is next level amazing! Like seriously, this is the best sex I've ever had.

He's someone I can see weekly. His apartment is just 15 minutes from my new house (12 minute bike ride 🚴���♀️). Basically, Tuesday-Thursday he stays at his apartment. Monday and Friday are his days alone with the kids and weekends are family time with his wife. So he's able to get together with me during his apartment days and it's really lovely.

Honestly, I think I'm in love

I only see Moxi about once a month because she's busy with her kids and other things. The Tree and I were never actually dating, as much as it felt like it sometimes. I really wanted to be his girlfriend, but he wasn't in a place to do that emotionally. And every time I try to talk to him about his breakup that's the issue (his ex is still living in their shared apartment while he lives with his sister and BIL), he shuts down. So even before Boyfriend #1 was in the picture, I wasn't sure when he'd be ready for a real relationship. And now that he's gone radio silent, I think the answer is pretty clear.

So yes, I'm sacrificing quite a bit to have him as my boyfriend, but this is the kind of relationship I've been looking for since my ex and I opened our marriage. It's what we were lacking and it feels really good to have it now.

I miss The Tree and I'm mad because I made a cross stitch thing for him

and I'm working on a hat that I bought really soft alpaca yarn when I was in Denver just to make it for his bald head. I might still give them to him, if he agrees to see me again.

Losing him really sucks because he was one of the most supportive people throughout my divorce. But he doesn't seem to be able to give me the kind of relationship I desire from him. So I'd rather let him go and continue to build this relationship with Boyfriend #1 than hang onto something that might not ever come to fruition.

But anyway, Boyfriend #1 spent the night last night. We had fantastic morning sex (6 orgasms! 😯) and in the post sex "I don't wanna leave this bed but stupid capitalism is making me," I asked him what he thought about labels.

"I'm still new to all of this [poly relationships]. You mean like 'girlfriend?'"

I nodded and he said he liked that. So, I have a boyfriend! And a girlfriend! And a lovely FWB (FWB #2) who truly is a friend. Oh, and I hooked up with the hottie who runs the local poly group (Boyfriend #1 were actually talking about how hot we think she is). So there might be something brewing with this Lady #3 as well, though she also doesn't have a ton of 1 on 1 time to offer me.

I feel like I'm settling into something nice with my poly life. And now with the stress of the divorce and home buying and selling over, I've closed that chapter and am starting a new one. I mean, I was saying before my birthday that I was turning 40 and starting over. And it seems to be pretty great so far.

I haven't been this happy in a long time.

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Some of you guys have never burned a CD and it shows

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Poly RomCom Moments: Beau #7 (again)

Making out on the couch and for once, Lola is not being a cock block. Mable is locked in a bedroom because she isn't being nice to our guests, as per usual.

Things are getting hot and heavy and Beau #7 starts to lay me down on my back.

"Oh, that's Lola, not a pillow." "Yup. Let's just go to the bedroom." "Sounds good to me."

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Poly Romcom Moments: Beau #7

Yes, we have another new beau. And the long, drawn out saga is definitely romcom worthy.

We originally met back in September at Queer Poly Cocktails. I was wearing my Typical Wisconsin Slut shirt

Turns out we grew up in neighboring cities! We definitely went to the same mall and everything. He's about a year younger than me (my birthday is in January and his is in November), married with 3 kids. His wife is asexual (likely aromantic) and they have a platonic marriage. They have a house together one suburb over from me with the kids and he also has an apartment in the next suburb over from there. I just moved into my new house and he's now only a 15 minute drive from here!

We talked a bit that night and seemed to hit it off. Then the next month we talked more and when we weren't talking, I kept catching him checking me out. At the end of the night, the group we were talking with was heading out. I went to use the restroom and when I came out, he was waiting for me. I was sure he was going to ask me out, but he didn't. I had a feeling he chickened out (spoiler alert: he admitted he definitely did).

Then he didn't show up for the next 4 months. Every month I'd walk in, look around and be so disappointed he wasn't there. I had decided if he didn't ask me out, I was going to ask him out. November cocktails was right after ex-Spouse told me they were divorcing me, so I was a little unsure about pursuing him, but I figured I was planning to ask for his number before then, so it wasn't a rebound. Reddit agreed 😂

Then in March, he was finally there again. We hugged and then talked a lot more. He explained he had been MIA because of some family stuff, which I sympathized with due to similar family stuff. I also told him my poly story, which involves me making "googly eyes" at my high school friend that I've always had incredible chemistry with (my ex said they noticed it during couples therapy and our therapist suggested an open relationship). At the end of the night, the two of us were talking with another woman. She left and he turned to me and said, "Well, I'm sure you've noticed me making googly eyes at you all night." He was extremely nervous because he has actually never asked someone for their number. We swapped numbers and started texting a lot the next week.

We planned a date for a week later. There were several flirty conversations along with some good discussions about STIs and relationships. He's not really sure what he wants because dating is very new to him, but he was definitely interested in exploring things with me, both with dating and other things 🤭

We went for dinner at an Italian restaurant near his place. The conversation flowed as we got to know each other even better and it was just a lovely dinner. Then, he very nervously dropped a bomb on me. He has an incurable STI, but as long as he takes his medication every day, it's untransmittable.

"I understand if that changes things. I won't be offended if you want to walk away."

When he confirmed that as long as he took his medication, he couldn't transmit it to me (I prefer to use condoms anyway), I said I was ok with it. I put my hand over his to confirm that it wasn't a dealbreaker for me.

"Nobody's touched my hand like that in at least 5 years." My heart broke, but being with someone who really wants that romantic affection is pretty awesome in my book.

We decided to go back to his place. I took his hand as we crossed the street to where our cars were parked. We stopped at my car and he leaned down and kissed me. Before it brewed into full on making out on the street (literally the street this time 😂), he pulled back and said, "More of that later."

We made it back to his place. The front door opens into the kitchen. As I hung up my sweater and purse, he offered me something to drink. I asked for a glass of water, and while he made a valiant effort to get me one, we couldn't stop kissing. "You're making this very difficult," he said.

He gave me a quick tour and then we went and sat on his couch. He put on some music (Pink Floyd's Animals) and the making out continued, leading to other things and eventually the bedroom.

I won't go into the details, but afterwards we just cuddled in his bed. When I make out with someone, I often put my hand on their cheek and pull them in closer by putting my hand on the back of their head.

"Nobody has touched my face like that in years."

He held me tight, resting his head on my chest (my boobs make a nice pillow). I asked him if he wanted me to stay. He squeezed me tighter and nodded.

It's so sad to hear that this man has been starved of romantic touch for years. He's had a lot of other encounters, but hooking up is not the same. Seeing the smile on his face as we snuggled was everything.

"How do you feel about spooning?" he asked. I just turned around, scooted backwards into his chest and he put his arms around me. We fell asleep like that.

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say what you will about heartstopper but this is the most accurate queer moment in television

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Fibre crafts are 50% soothing repetitive action and 50% "God Fucking Damnit"

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I decided to look around on spotify and found this beauty

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