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I know this may be a question that can’t go anywhere but how do you deal with everyone including lgbt people hating on lesbians for no reason?

I’ve tried to brush it off so many times but it’s hard, especially when it comes from non-lesbian queer woman and people. I don’t understand why queer woman hate on lesbians.

Is it bc they can’t fully understand and access our culture and experience bc of their male attraction?

I know this may be an existential question or conversation :/

Like why is there so much “in fighting” between lesbians and non-lesbian queer women? Like why can’t we accept that we’re all different and that’s okay then move on and be supportive of each other?

It honestly makes me just want to be friends with lesbians but it feels like I’m the only real lesbian in my town. There are girls that walk around saying that they’re a lesbian when they still sleep with men and ignorant people saying they’re a “bi-lesbian”. It’s just very disheartening tbh… it makes it hard to even trust someone who says they’re a lesbian bc I’ve met a lot of people on my town who say they’re gay/lesbian but go sleep with men… I know they’re just shity ignorant people but it just makes it harder to trust, ya know?

Anyways just thank you for your time❤️❤️

All that infighting is most likely rooted in misogyny. That would explain why you don’t see queer men fighting against each other as much as queer women do.

Sometimes I just don’t deal with them. It all depends on how the person approaches me tbh. There’s a lot of people who come to my blog to hate on something I said (like the whole “bi lesbian” shit) and this type of person is not worth arguing with because they just wanna hate, they don’t wanna listen to you.

So basically the way I created my own personal safe space here is to post and reblog stuff regarding lesbianism and my opinions, sharing my experiences regarding my sexuality and all that will attract people who share the same views as me (obviously it can attract people who completely disagree with me but that’s not what happens most of the time).

One of the reasons I have this blog in the first place is to have a place to let out my frustrations regarding a lot of things related with lesbianism or the LGBTQ+ community.

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Gringos treat a lot Latinos as if we’re all the same and as if we don’t come from very different countries, yes we do have a thing in common which is being Latino but don’t treat us like we’re just one thing.

Let’s use the LGBTQ+ community as an example. Anyone who isn’t allo, straight or cis is queer, that doesn’t mean all queers are the same. We have lesbians, gays, bisexuals, trans people… Even though we’re all queer we’re still not the same.

So Latinos are not all the same. We’re not all Mexicans, we don’t all speak Spanish, we don’t all look like the stereotype gringos created of us.

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Do you have a Instagram where you post similar content? There is a instant page you may like called lesbian_herstory

I don’t :/ I don’t really like Instagram for this kind of content I post here, but thanks for the rec!

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Hi, I have noticed whenever lesbians talk about our negativity experiences with bisexuals we get shut down instantly even demonized. Why do you think that is?

Hi

I believe there’s 3 main reasons to explain this:

1) Some lesbians actually generalize and hate on bisexuals.

2) Some people don’t want to recognize shitty bisexuals exist (though the reason they’re shitty has nothing to do with their sexuality), so they prefer to shut down lesbians rather than recognize that.

3) Some people have seen a lesbian generalizing/hating on someone for being bi based on their experiences so whenever they see a lesbian simply sharing their bad experiences with bisexuals (even if said lesbians doesn’t hate or anything like that on bi people) they instantly assume they’re being biphobic.

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Thank you for the info! It’s just so weird to me having to add this to be able to drink water. I obviously don’t really know much about what they contain, but there’s a similar thing where I live that it’s like a powder juice you add to water and considering that thing isn’t really healthy (because there’s a lot of chemicals) I can only assume that powder to add taste to water in the US is probably the same or at least similar.

Apparently it’s common in the US to add a flavor powder to water for people to like drinking it.

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Something I was thinking about trying to compare back when I identified as bi and after I started identifying as a lesbian is that it seems that now people are way more hostile towards me whenever I talk about my sexuality.

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It seems men prefer women natural (as I have seen so many of them say) until it comes to body hair.

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I’m really glad I flounder your page. I’m a lesbian, I’ve been out for a while. I grew up in florida and was around the conservative southern ideals a lot. My mother would tell me that gay ppl are a sin and all of that classic bull shit people say… so I was forced into dating men. Whenever lesbians try to say lesbians who’ve been with men are just bi and the whole gold star thing, I just get so angry bc to me it feels like they’re also attacking my trauma of living in that environment and the trauma from being gay and forced into a straight relationship. I am just really happy you are such a welcoming blog and speak up against all of the bullies. I know the people who call themselves good stars are just insecure it mainly makes me cringe for them, but it still hurts bc it sounds like “I’m more valuable and valid bc I’ve never been with a man. And you’re not as gay as me bc u have and you’re not a pure as me.” Idk where I’m going with this. But I’m just really happy to see you speaking out against this nonsense. ❤️❤️

I am so happy my blog is a safe space for you ❤️ we need more people to defend us and speak about our issues

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I don’t know if it’s funny or annoying that so many Americans think their views are the only right views and they don’t accept that other places view things differently than them.

From what I’ve seen interacting with other people in Latin America we’re mostly taught America is a continent, which is divided in 3 subcontinents: North America, Central America and South America. We never say “America” as a country. We usually say “United States”. Even though a lot of latinos call US citizens “Americans” we do have other terms to call them such as “estado-unidenses” and “north-american” (even though this one technically includes Mexicans and Canadians).

But gringos simply become furious when they see we don’t see “America” as a country.

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Apparently it’s common in the US to add a flavor powder to water for people to like drinking it.

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If you’re bi you have no say on this 🥰

It’s disgusting the way so many of you invalidate lesbians who previously identified as bisexual.

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Lesbians 🤝 Trans women

Always being compared with men

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On one side we have people invalidating lesbians who’ve been with men before by calling them bi or just saying they’re not real lesbians, on the other side we have people invalidating lesbians who’ve never been with men by saying they just haven’t found the right guy yet and that if they had an experience with men they’d realize they actually like them.

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Is it right to use lesbian as an umbrella term? It seems like it can have very damaging consequences for people who are actually lesbian/gay. It honestly to me, seems disrespectful for other queer people who aren’t gay/lesbian to use lesbian as a word to describe their dating experiences or whatever.

I don’t think so. Historically yes lesbian has been used as an umbrella term to describe all sapphics and to describe wlw relationships but nowadays we do have terms for that that do not erase any identity so still using lesbian as an umbrella term feels not only lesbophobic but also biphobic (not to mention how it promotes bi erasure).

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Hi! I have a question about afab and amab. I want to make sure I am using them correctly but I’ve been scared to ask someone bc I don’t want the to get mad at me for not knowing. I know the basic meaning of afab/amab but trans men are afab but don’t identify that way same with trans woman with amab. What about a nb lesbian who’s afab? How do you linguistically know the difference between someone afab for someone who’s nb and someone who’s trans. I’m just confused, I want to be correct when I use these terms. I never want to offend the ones I love. I’ve just been scared to ask bc I don’t want my lack of knowledge being taken as me being mean or ignorant on purpose

Hi. I promised myself I wouldn’t answer anymore asks regarding trans people due to so many I have received of terfs and other transphobes, so I am just gonna post this one and hope someone who’s actually trans answer this for me.

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Men can’t believe women are single by choice because they aren’t single by choice.