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Do not be sad if this Dunyā hurts you.

The Dunyā is not meant to give you rest—it is a place of testing, not reward.

Ibn al-Qayyim (رحمه الله) said : The heart does not find his rest in this world, but only in the presence of his Creator.

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Shaykh Al-Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:

"The wife will be the coolness of the eye for her husband, and the husband will be the coolness of the eye for his wife (only) if they do what is required of them from the deen of Allah."

[Al-Liqaa’ Ash-Shahri 40]

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“I knocked on the doors leading to God so that I may enter, and I found that they were all packed with people, except the door of humility where I found so few people upon it, and I found that it was the closest door to God”.

—Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله

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There are times when you’ll not find answers. There will be times when you’ll be really lost, and It's okay to be lost sometimes. There will be times when you’ll not know the answers, but It's okay to not know the answers. It will come back to you eventually.

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Our past may shape us, but it doesn’t define us. We’re not stuck or tied to where we’ve been. Our past is a lesson. We don’t live in the past; instead, we learn from it and move forward. Every day is a chance to begin again.

It’s not always easy. Healing and growth take time, and some days feel heavier than others. But even the smallest step forward counts. Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing better than you think.

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Everything you missed in this world awaits you in Jannah.

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R a i 🐱

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الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ

(Men are the protectors and maintainers of women,) meaning, the man is responsible for the woman, and he is her maintainer, caretaker and leader who disciplines her if she deviates.

[Tafsir Ibn Kathir (Abridged) / verse 34 Surah An-Nisa]

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Ibn Qayyim رحمه الله said:

“Do not lose hope because of the sins you have committed. If your sins distance you from Allah, then you are truly punished. But if your sins humble you and bring you back to Allah, then know that this is a sign of His care for you.”

📚 Madarij as-Salikin 1/177

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“The Deen itself is manners.

Anyone surpassing you in manners is better than you in the Deen.”

— Ibn al-Qayyim | Madarīj as-Salikeen | 2/294

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Imān is something that will always fluctuate. It will never remain at the same level constantly. Your Salah should be non-negotiable. Do not compromise on it at any cost.

If you are going out, try to fix your salah first. Even if your Imān is low, don't leave it. Even if you're feeling spiritually low, that should not lead to missing one prayer. Let it not happen that missing one prayer leads to missing all five prayers. Try to pray, strive to pray all of them. When you start praying even one, gradually it will become a habit.

Secondly, never abandon your morning and evening adhkar. Make it a daily habit.

Thirdly, constantly be in Istighfar. Try to do as much Istighfar as possible. Dhikr softens the heart. Even when your Imān is low, your heart becomes soft through dhikr — and things get better.

And remember two things:

If you are low in Imān, have non-negotiable. Try to stay away from certain things. Like even if my Imān is low right now or ever becomes weak, I'll never do this things — no matter what happens.

And when you are high in Imān — of course, such moments come where you feel spiritually strong or emotional — try to do as much good as possible during that time.

There is a book called "Fortress of the Muslim." It contains morning and evening adhkar. Never leave those. When you read the translation of those dua's, you'll realize how important those dua's are.

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"When the veil has been lifted on the day of judgement revealing the value of good deeds for the people they'll not see any action better in reward than the remembrance of Allah (Dhikr).

At that time a group of people who'll sigh because they missed out and say:

“There was nothing easier for us than dhikr and yet we did not do it”

—Ibn al Qayyim | al-Waabil al-Sayyib | 11

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Life isn’t perfect, but looking for the good makes it feel a little better; because maybe peace isn’t found in a perfect life, but in a loving heart...

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Children are a test and a responsibility. It is upon the parents to teach them correct ‘aqeedah, manners, and protect them from harmful ideologies. Teach your children goodness, for you'll be held accountable for them.

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Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said,

“Verily, the hearts of the children of Adam, all of them, are between the two fingers of the Merciful as one heart. He directs them wherever He wills.

O Allah, the Director of the hearts, turn our hearts to Your obedience.”

[Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2654]

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Grief is the souvenir of love.

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The grief is never ending, but so is the love.