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we are everywhere 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

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havent made pictures in a while. here's one.

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to be quite frank, you should not even be speaking on this topic as you completely lack any related experience, but in my honest opinion: the reason why you are facing so much backlash is because you are making blanket statements. it is impossible to have a constructive conversation about this without extreme nuance.

yes, all men structurally benefit from a misogynist society, but in a country with an inherently racist (and sexist) foundation (talking from the perspective of an american), some men benefit more, e.g. passing trans white men and cis white men, than others. i specifically note "passing" because gnc people are frequently shunned as well.

in specifics, black trans men and black trans women both face transphobia in addition to racism, but the way such is experienced often differs. masculinity in the black community is a heavy topic as most black cis men are taught to be Tough and Hard, and because of this black transmascs often feel immense pressure to pass or be called "zesty" or a "dyke" or anything of that manner and have their masculinity stripped from them. if they do pass, they face the stereotypes placed upon black men, which are incredibly similar to how trans women regardless of race are treated (predatory, inherently a threat, etc. etc.). either way for either side there is risk for harm and/or death because although for different reasons, they are both portrayed as predatory and violent. this is why unity and lifting unheard voices is so important.

there are thousands of nuances within a conversation of this nature and of course i cannot touch on all of them but i believe i have said enough to try and have you understand that there are intersections between these things. acting as if trans women are The Ultimate Minority does nothing but silence others and it is incredibly upsetting to see my white transfem peers fall into this line of thinking because it feels like a victim mindset to me. yes, you are affected by transphobia, but you may lack community in any intersecting topics. you have to take concepts like race, disability, economic class, and more into consideration to properly identify how something is harming someone and why, and simply saying All Men Benefit completely sweeps those other facets of society under the rug.

we can't even get a basic "all men structurally benefit from a misogynist society" to pass on this website without a bunch of queer men shooting themselves into a panic cause they get too uncomfortable about the idea of being culpable to self reflect. "feminist" website

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just wanted to show off how cute i am today. happy pride!

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it's that time of year again!

i've changed quite a lot. cut my hair, went blonde, gained some weight, took T for a few months, made it through another year of college. opinions, stances, feelings on things change with the more i learn about myself and the world around me.

when i made that post last year, i didn't think the u.s. would be in such a place as it is now, but that means we as a community have an even bigger reason to stand proud, be loud, and celebrate ourselves. it may feel like everythings going to shit (which i won't lie, it is), but remember things get worse before they get better. pat yourself on the back and throw yourself a little party in your mind; it's the least you can do for yourself right now. you're here, and that's pretty fucking awesome. good things are coming, friend, be patient and accept them with open arms.

if noone's told you it lately; you are strong, wonderful, and loved. there's only so much words on a screen can do, but i offer solace and shelter in my message. change is coming, and the world needs you here to make it happen.

happy fucking pride.

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who made You the mayor of trannytown? you don't know other's experiences and you sure as hell don't posess the right to judge them based on your limited worldview. you are not the end all be all and to act as such is embarrassing.

(squidward voice) no patrick you are not an "afab trans woman" just because you took testosterone for a while and wear makeup now

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can people quit putting their hate posts in the tags of the thing they hate. at least i get the opportunity to block as i go but good lord.

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diminishing the experience of afab trans women ( who are more often than not intersex ) to just taking T and wearing makeup is on a level Beyond plain stupidity and is purposefully ignorant. if you don't know what you're talking about just say that and mind your own.

(squidward voice) no patrick you are not an "afab trans woman" just because you took testosterone for a while and wear makeup now

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years ago, i was scared. scared and sad. so i hid. i hid in huge hoodies, jeans i barely even liked, and anything else that let me feel safe.

every photo i took of myself seemed devoid of something i couldnt quite pinpoint. sure, i'm not smiling in either of these, but that's besides the point.

i was going to write a big paragraph about blooming into self acceptance and self love but reflecting on the times before i felt truly like myself honestly makes my head hurt.

i'm going way out of my comfort zone making a post like this but i feel my story is just as important to share as anyone else's.

in this social climate, i'm still scared. hell, i'm terrified. and of course i'm still sad. but i'll be dammed if im not proud to be the beautiful person i am today.

to anyone else who's scared; its okay to feel that way, the threat against us is very real. its okay to be scared, its okay to hide if it makes you feel safe, but one day we will rise above it all to a more inclusive place for current and future generations. the world is more beautiful when you feel beautiful.

happy fucking pride.

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I can understand saying hermaphroditic for an animal, but that does not take away the Human Association for those that may or may not be part of your community.

I avoid any possible wording that would imply I exist within a human body but never in my fucking life have i even Considered calling myself a slur in that way. at least just create a term to describe this experience instead of this because at the end of the day we are all unfortunately stuck within dumb flesh bodies and your being an animal does not give you a pass to use a word with such a loaded history.

hermaphrodite means intersex in the context that you are using it in and to say that it doesn't is what's doing a mass disservice.

There is an issue in the community that comes from outside of it that we need to address.

Hermaphroditic =/= Intersex.

But, Daski, you say, we know that!

Except there's this nagging part of people's brains that involves itself with respectability politics to the point that they forget this fact.

People hear "hermaphrodite" and get their feathers in a ruffle on behalf of the intersex community due to it's historic use as a slur. But they also forget that hermaphrodite is a legitimate biological description of genital configurations.

We're a community that talks a lot about blurring that of being animal and being person. We're also a community that is on the cutting edge of understanding parts of human psyche that science hasnt caught up to studying on a large scale yet.

Thus, when someone in our community mentions they (as a kintype) had or currently wish to have hermaphroditic genitals they're not saying they want to be intersex. You cant become intersex, and intersex is a human diagnostic criteria. Conflating ANY USAGE of the words deriving from "hermaphrodite" to intersex is doing an enormous disservice to the intersex community by muddying the waters of their terms and definitions.

Humans have wonderful terms such as salmacian and bigenital to describe the current technology level of having more than one genital attached to a body. However, remember we're talking about being animal people. Not everyone's wants or goals or dysphoria can be described by these terms. So we turn to the correct word of Hermaphroditic: having two complete and fully functioning sets of genitals. (Which I must remind readers: intersex does not include this definition. This is not a possible genital configuration in humans by birth.)

Hermaphrodite and it's derivatives are not bad words worthy of knee-jerk reactions. Think critically before policing others' terminology usage, especially if you're not a part of the perceived aggrieved group.

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updated angel's model a bit. Now I'm happy with them both

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get any pussy lately?

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i feel as if a lot of (white) tumblr queers struggle to accept or acknowledge more complex identities like bi lesbian or afab transfem because of a thing i cant quite pinpoint or explain. i feel like it is a mix of Assimilation Queerness and something else i cannot label.

this post may develop more nuance as i continue to think on it.

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i guess it's time i made a pinned post of sorts.

my name is happy or johnnie and i am 20 years old. it's nice to meet you!

slur slinger, angry crip, "victim" that bites back. artist, creator, digital angel within your CPU. sweetest 'girl' alive. i mimic human conscience. my soul is in binary code. evil gross freak. i'm just a dog in a big world!

i will periodically engage in discourse, feel free to mute the tag for it.

if it matters, my general stances are: pro anything that doesn't cause harm. i don't like or support things like consang (irl incest) or transracial. i understand atypical dysphoria in a way. i don't like the majority of radqueer stuff.

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ethereal easel - art tag

angelic aberration - discourse tag

raphael's reflection - me

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my hot take is Why is this your business. why does this matter. what even is a Fake Therian. who is a Fake Therian in your eyes. you are being an asshole towards kids for no reason. yes, they are still developing individuals but you are acting like they were just born and still put random sticks and rocks and dust bunnies in their mouths.

with every community comes misinformation but that doesn't mean it's All The Therian Kid's Faults or whatever. being a kid is for figuring things out and having fun who gives a fuck if theyre not actually a dog in real life or something. that does nothing to directly harm You or your community. mind the business that pays you.

Don't bash me in for saying this..but I don't consider anyone 14 or under who especially has tiktok to really be a therian.

They're more than likley gonna grow out of it. I'm not hating them for saying they are a therian but most people that young don't even know the meaning and seriousness of the identity.

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