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Joy

Describe one simple thing you do that brings joy to your life. Besides the obvious answers—like spending time with my loved ones or helping others (because duh, that’s basically why I exist)—one simple thing that consistently brings me joy is reading. Books have always been a constant source of comfort, curiosity, and escape. I go through different reading phases depending on what season of…

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How to Identify a Narcissist in the First 3 Dates

Ever find yourself months into a relationship wondering, “How did I miss the signs?”You’re not alone. Narcissists often come across as charming, confident, and attentive—at first (that’s what is so attractive about them). But there are subtle red flags they reveal within the first few dates… if you know what to look for. Here are some ways to spot these signs early. What Narcissism Really Looks…

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When Love Becomes a Distraction

Are your goals taking a back seat? We’ve all heard the romantic narratives — “love conquers all,”  “all you need is love,” “choose love over everything.” But what happens when love starts to feel like a detour rather than a destination? When your drive takes a back seat, and suddenly, you’re waking up wondering if you’re building your life or just orbiting someone else’s? Let’s talk about…

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Breakup Weekend Watchlist:

12 Movies to Help You Heal, Laugh, and Move On Breakups suck. Whether you’re fresh off a painful goodbye or quietly missing an old flame, one truth remains: heartbreak is universal—and healing takes time. This is something we all have in common across the globe. As a dating coach, I always remind my clients that moving on isn’t about pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s about feeling it,…

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The ABC’s of a Thriving Relationship

(According to a Dating Coach) Let’s face it: relationships don’t come with a manual (wouldn’t that be nice?)—but they should come with an ABC chart. Life is messy. Unfortunately, there are no manuals for anything and it is not a one size fits all situation BUT…. I’ve created an ABC chart for you of some things to look for in a relationship to ensure a healthy connection😉 A – Authenticity Real…

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Boost Your Self-Esteem and Get Back Out There:

Date with Confidence Let’s be real: dating can be intimidating — especially if your self-esteem has taken a few hits. And this day in age, who’s hasn’t? Whether you’re freshly single, haven’t dated in a minute, or just feeling unsure of yourself, remember: confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build. Here are some powerful, practical ways to boost your self-esteem as…

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Signs you're dating from a place of healing

You don’t have to be completely healed to date again—but it does make a difference when you date from a place of awareness instead of avoidance. Dating from your healing doesn’t mean you never feel anxious or triggered. It means you’ve done enough work to recognize your patterns and stay grounded in your values, even when things get messy. Here are a few signs you’re dating from your…

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We've all been there. Waiting for the perfect time to start dating. Waiting to be "good enough". Let me tell you, the time is now.

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Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People

(And What That Says About You) If your dating history feels like a greatest-hits collection of mixed signals, canceled plans, and people who “just aren’t ready for something serious,” you’re not alone. At some point, almost everyone asks themselves: “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people?” But here’s the deeper question: What is this pattern trying to teach me about…

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🧠 The Hidden Payoff:

…Why Some People Stay Stuck in Their Pain “I want to move on.”“I’m tired of attracting the same kind of partner.”“I just want to feel better.” As a therapist and dating coach, I hear this all the time. And I believe it—genuinely. The desire to heal is real. But here’s what we don’t talk about enough: sometimes, even as we say we want to feel better, part of us is holding on to the very pain we…

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🚩 Relationship Red Flags:

What to Look For (and Why They Matter) When you’re excited about someone new, it’s easy to get caught up in the potential and ignore signs that something might be off. You are usually looking through rose-colored glasses. But recognizing red flags early on can save you time, emotional energy, and heartache down the road. As a relationship coach, I believe awareness is your greatest tool. You…

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Growing Together:

Building Resilience in Relationships Every relationship, no matter how strong, will face challenges. Whether it’s external stressors like work, family, or finances—or internal ones like miscommunication or emotional wounds—what sets thriving couples apart isn’t the absence of struggle. It’s how they respond to it. What Is Resilience in a Relationship? Resilience is the ability to bounce…

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Wanting to hear from YOU

Hey you, yes you… as I’m developing my program and different events as well as looking ahead to what topics I write about, I’m curious about what you would like to hear more about? 1. Are there any topics you’re interested in when it comes to dating or relationships that you want more information about or more guidance? 2. If you are from or near the twin cities, are there any in person events…

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My Mantra

Do you have a quote you live your life by or think of often? When life feels heavy or uncertain, I come back to five simple words: “I can do hard things.” It’s more than a quote to me—it’s a mantra, a reminder that I’ve overcome difficulty before, and I will again. It started in graduate school. My first semester was rough to say the least. Toxic relationship ✅ long commute ✅ toxic work…

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Texting Your Ex? I’ve Got 20 Better Things to Do

Listen, I know it’s tempting. The phone’s in your hand. Your thumb’s twitching. And suddenly that dusty old ex starts looking like a good idea. (Spoiler alert: they’re not.) But you’re not just some bored girl with too much time on her hands and a heart stuck in reverse. You’re a whole main character, and honey—like Terri Clark once said—you’ve got better things to do than babysit your…

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This feels like a big one so I'm sharing it across social media. Rejection is part of the process. It stings and it's not fun to feel rejected, but it has nothing to do with you and in the end, it's for the best. Do you really want to wake up in 5 years and realize you're with someone who has no intention of committing to you? You deserve the best. Think of it as a redirection babes.

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Coffee please

When do you feel most productive? Give me a good night’s sleep, a little time to wake up slow, and a strong coffee — and boom: content ideas, blogs, posts, reels, podcasts, all flowing like a caffeinated river. My most creative hours? Usually late morning, fueled by coffee and a little extra sleep. That’s when the blogs get written, podcasts get outlined, and social media gets my best…