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"wait, but what do I say to describe people who cannot get pregnant?" a guide.

Men cannot get pregnant: INCORRECT. Transgender men are men and many are capable of getting pregnant. Also, excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

Cis men cannot get pregnant: INCORRECT. Intersex men who are technically cis, but have uteruses and ovaries, may be capable of pregnancy, even if it's unlikely. Also, excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

Cis perisex men cannot get pregnant: Correct, but excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

People without uteruses cannot get pregnant: Correct, but excludes infertile and menopausal people with uteruses who also cannot get pregnant.

People who cannot get pregnant: CORRECT. Excludes no one.

To use inclusionary language, you don't need to rip through the reeds in search of wider terminology when you could quite literally say things exactly as they are. Inclusive language isn't "overcomplicated" at all. It's straightforward.

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happy pride month to all the “weird” queers. The ones who use neopronouns, the ones who feel xenogenders fit them best, the ones who use micro labels that barely any people know, the ones that make their own flags. I love you, and you’re not “too weird” to be in this community.

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Horny for boyfriend hours

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Being a femme to me is reclaiming my femininity in a way that isn’t forced upon me but in a way that gives me the power to change how it represents me and affirms my gender identity. My femininity to me isn’t just a way of looking it’s my identity.

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Kinda proud of myself whenever I hear the "any pain/tightness in your jaw?" and know exactly what they're asking

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Getting coffee

I went to coffee with 17 year old me, they trudged up to the shop from their car, hunched over, taking up as much space as they can. With a freshly dyed, bright red buzz cut, they get quite a bit of looks. They even shoot some people a glare, which granted, people should mind their business. I get some looks too, but it hardly bothers me anymore. I've simply gotten so many stares, it doesn't phase me anymore. They also wear a random metal tee, and patch pants that only have a couple patches on them. They're really proud of those, so I compliment them, to a low and quiet "thanks" in reply. I hold open the door for them, but they just look at me and walk in, not saying anything. It's okay though, I smile anyways, I'm just happy to be there with them after all.

They order, a vanilla chai latte, a friend showed them the drink and it's been a hyperfixation for them lately. I order a marshmallow iced latte, I never got over sweet coffee. We chat, they're very closed off, quiet, you can tell they're gauging me quite a bit. That's okay, they've been through a lot, I wouldn't blame them for being so distrusting. The world has only gotten more cruel, but they don't know that yet, and that's okay.

We talk about politics, we talk about gender, things haven't changed in that department. We come to a lot of agreements, and they're impressed at my knowledge I've gained through the years, and how far I've come. Their tone has softened to one that's bubbly and excitable, and their hunched-over posture has relaxed back into their chair. They think I'm really put together, but still fun.

However, they scoff at how I dress, at my overalls and bright colored clothes adorned with lace. "I guess we'll always look like a clown to someone" they huff. I cackle loudly with a hand covering my mouth "It doesn't matter anyways." I shoo off the sentiment with my non-coffee hand, "and y'know what if we're freaks then we're freaks." They don't laugh, they just stare at me. They look down, not knowing how to respond, tensing up a bit, "So are we happy?" I smile. My eyes crinkle into little slits, and I smile my big smile that I love so much, "we do, and we feel hugs again."

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be pro-aging but wear sun screen. sun protection is not beauty industry propaganda it will save you. wear it. or else.

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Happy juneteemf everyone!!!!

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The tension between me, a can of CUT green beans, bacon bits, and French fried onions

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Thinking about em smmm

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i never realized cuneiform was made with the corner of a cuboid tool, i thought the wedge shapes were carved such that you would press straight down with the tool at a 90° angle to the clay

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I just seen an ad for a genuinely sexy heart rate monitor that has good specs and all. it has a monthly fee for use.

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Me asf when "you can't be a lesbian if-" "hate when transtrenders-" "actually if you do this you're ___negative connotation that's an astronomical reach___"

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Something that gets me hot is how performative the average american is. It's so often that I talk to people who want change and don't want to do anything.

For example I'm sending myself through college so I can be a healthcare provider, specifically in mental health or addictions recovery. I want to frequent protests, raves, and any sort of large gathering where people could accidentally fall into harm, so I can be the one to intervene and provide treatment. Every single person who is scared, or voices discomfort with the current administration, my first comment is "I'm being so serious if you need anything let me know, you aren't alone in this". I give space to people emotionally, I offer help and resources from my lived experiences, and actively educate myself on where to find resources in my community constantly. If I don't have resources, I know where to point people in the direction of those who know what I don't. Because that sparks change.

I see a lot of reposting of think-pieces, or links to hotlines, and that most definitely has its place. If front-line activism isn't for you, that's okay, if all you can do is repost think-pieces or links to hotlines, it has merit in itself. However, when so many able bodied Americans are so closed off and snub their fellow man when the time isn't convenient for them, it makes my blood boil.

But staying silent in the face of transphobia/racism/sexism/homophobia/islamophobia/etc. because "it's not happening to me so I need to stay out of it"

Or "it doesn't involve me so why does it matter?"

Or allowing discrimination to perpetuate because "I like this person and I don't want to rock the boat"

Or "they're from a different time they won't understand"

Or "politics are just something that upsets people so I don't get involved period"

We cannot excuse fascism when it's immediately in front of us.

Politics are more divisive right now than they've ever been in American history. We are talking about concentration camps, and people dying due to hate crimes at an exponential rate right now. Today. If you choose to be blind to it, you are no better than a fascist.

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