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even tho i have never seen a butch who dances tango i will still continue to be delusional about it

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i just know shes going to grab my thighs as if they were life savers

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Hi. Ik there are people in more dire straights than me rn but I've had to sink $500 into my car after the accident I was in. Now I've found out I need new tires, which is going to run me $536. $1k into my goddamn car within like 2 weeks.

Needless to say this has completely wiped the savings I had.

It's lesbian visibility week. If you're able, your local butch could use a helping hand.

Cash app: $casscasst

Venmo: @ cass-cass95

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at any waking moment i seem to be convincing myself of one of 2 things

i am loveable in all my beauty and all my brains, all of my energy deserves to be worshipped as well as me and my personality because i am just like this and no one else is, so that raises my worth higher above any other stuff

i am a disgusting freak who must refrain from human contact at all times, occasionally interrupted with casual demonstrations of love towards others and / or in case of small talk, i am in all ways repulsive whether it be for my looks or for my thoughts, no respectable person should force themselves into knowing me, thus making me unloveable, terribly undeserving of care and sympathy, condemning me to die alone and screaming

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so! I’ve noticed a lot of people talking about chivalry, and how it’s something that is quite desired - and that is so ok. However, I think chivalry means a lot of different things to different people. Of course everyone is different and every femme is different HOWEVER I thought it might be helpful, from a femme perspective (of a femme who likes chivalry) little ways you could court a femme and they might not be into it HOWEVER if you know your femme in particular likes it, here’s some pointers.

Let’s use a picnic date for example.

- if you are able, pick your person up whether that be in a car or to take public transport together or walk together.

- If you’re driving PLEASE open the door for them, it seems silly and it might make them flustered but that’s a good thing.

- if you haven’t already, pick the location, for example like, “oh there’s this nice little park not too far from me!” Is much better than “idk whatever/wherever you want”.

- you’re carrying the basket/bag whatever it is - If your femme asks to carry it, because they want to then ofc that’s ok I’m not saying that butches HAVE to carry these things. However I know a lot of femmes carry their own things and make a big deal about carrying stuff because of the hate we get for “expecting” this kind of thing.

- if you’re walking up hills or down grass, offer a steady hand (this is a great way to start holding hands hehe).

- once you’re all seated and comfortable and about to have snacks, if she’s into it, it can be really sweet to serve your femme/make them a plate. For me personally, it shows care - it’s not that they are unable to, it’s “I see you’re able, but I want to care for you.”

- your phone is going on silent, or at least you are not actively on it.

- when you get up, offer a steady hand up. They might not take it, but it can still be nice.

- If you’re going to get coffee, or something else, if you’re able it can be really sweet to pay. Generally, I pay for these kinds of thing because it’s my own version of femme chivalry. Of course you guys can split as well! But I really think (if you’re financially able) anything under like $10/15 is a bit wierd to ask for, but of course everyone has different dynamics.

- pull their chair out for them if they are into it.

- it can be really nice to compliment them, it can be a little detail. “I like your outfit!” “That lipstick really suits you” “your earrings really make your eyes pop.”

- if you’re able, it can be really nice to drive/walk them home. Open the car door for them.

- also it can be really nice to bring flowers (if you’re able and you know they like them, or just 1 flower) if they don’t like flowers it can be really nice to bring them a handwritten note.

Please do not come for me for this, this is personally what I would like - not all femmes are the same. Not all femmes would like this and it’s important to figure out how important and in what ways they like “chivalry.” Even just writing this I’m lowkey scared I’m about to get a whole bunch of people telling me that femmes can do all these things - they sure can. This is my personal desires, and for femmes who are like me and also desire these things, this could be helpful. We talk a lot about chivalry - but what does it mean? What does it look like? Anyways ��

THESE ARE ALL SCENARIOS IF YOU ARE ABLE - NOT EVERYONE IS ABLE PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY OR FINANCIALLY TO DO THESE THINGS AND THAT IS RECOGNISED AND COMPLETELY OK AND VALID.

also feel free to add little chivalrous things you like or like doing! 🫶🏻

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finished portrait commission for the lovely @starfleet-captain 🧡🌿

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I have a deep wanting, craving, and desperation right now to take care of someone. I want to fold your clothes, bring you water, cook, and provide for you. I will drive you anywhere. Don’t worry about opening doors love I’ll do it for you. Anything to see that beautiful smile and your gorgeous eyes light up. I know you are fully capable of doing these things too but I want you to lean on me. Be dependent on me. I will carry you and hold you up. Let me be your compass when you are lost.

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need to see. More studs, more brown butches, more asian butches- just more butches of colour. black and brown dykes built this community so why am i constantly seeing white?

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what i imagine life is like as an independent adult:

i come home to my beautiful wife and cats (great, amazing, fabulous)

i worry about money (it is what it is, it will pass)

i have the emotional management tools to turn off my brain (life is great again)

my wife fucks said brains out (now i dont have to worry because i just dont think)

i eat and sleep good (my brain regenerates itself so i can work tomorrow)

repeat

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there's something about butches reclaiming protectiveness and chivalry from an imposed "caring, nurturing" character associated and often forced upon women. something about how while straight men often try to present as careless as possible, masculinity and care are not only not conflicting in the butch identity, but inherent to it. there's something there.

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call me Joan of Arc

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guys please stay in therapy, you dont actuañly want tp study psychology

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hi i think youre scary wanna kiss

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need to be absolutely terrorized by megan fox covered in blood in the middle of the night

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me getting ready in the morning: yayyyyy im going to therapy today!!! (i cry every single session)

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need to stare at their face all day, thats it thats my love language, ill fucking stare at you hard