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It’s mental health awareness month! How to support someone with Dissociative Identity Disorder.

If they disclose to you that they have DID:

DO:

• Accept them. Tell them that you still respect and care for them.

• Tell them that you are there if they need your help.

• Tell them to let you know if there are any triggers that are important for you to know. If they choose to tell you any, be patient and understanding. Listen attentively.

Helpful things to say or ask:

• “Is there anything you need me to do to make sure you feel safe in our relationship?

• “If you want to tell me more about it, I am here to listen.”

• “If there are any triggers you think I should be aware of, please let me know.”

• “I’m here if you need help with anything.”

• “I still love you and you are still my friend/family/partner.”

DON’T:

• Ask if they are dangerous or if they are going to harm you.

• Ask them what their trauma is.

• Call them crazy.

• Suggest that their mental illness is caused by supernatural or pseudoscientific means. (AKA, NEVER suggest that someone is possessed or haunted.)

• Bombard them with questions.

• Demand proof.

• Force then to switch as evidence.

• React in an unkind or rude way.

• Minimize or invalidate them.

• Tell them DID isn’t real.

• Deny their existence or refuse to call their alters by their names.

• Demand any answers from them.

Unhelpful things to say or ask:

• “I’ve known you for [span of time]. I would have noticed if you had it.”

• “It’s fine as long as you aren’t going to murder me.”

• “What’s your trauma? Did [traumatic event] happen to you?”

• “Isn’t that really rare? How could you have it?”

• “You had an easy childhood so there’s no way.”

• “You don’t know what ‘hard’ is.” “You were lucky to have the childhood you had.”

• “I just don’t get why you’re doing this to me.”

• “Can you imagine how hard this is for me?”

• “Tell me your triggers.”

If they’re switching or dissociating:

DO:

• Be patient with them.

• Tell them that it’s okay, and to take their time.

• Politely ask who’s fronting.

• Reintroduce yourself, as if a new person just walked into the room.

• Fill them in if they are unaware of what is going on.

DON’T:

• Snap or clap in their face.

• Express that you only want to interact with the previously fronting alter.

• Raise your voice, or try to force them to “snap out of” their dissociation.

• Ask if they are going to harm you, or if they are “evil”.

• Tell them “they should know what’s happening”, or refuse to fill them in on what is happening.

• Accuse or blame them for not being a good friend, not listening, or dissociating. 

DID is a highly stigmatized disorder. People fear disclosing this disorder to their loved ones, because their safety could be compromised. They trusted you enough to tell you. It is your job to create a space of love, acceptance, and respect for them.

🖤 Delphine

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Why dont you go watch a studio ghibli movie and think about the power of love and kindness and maybe you'll calm down

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having an fp isnt a good thing. being emotionally dependent on someone so much that them looking at you wrong (or perceived to be) sends you into a depressive, self mutilative episode isnt cute, fun, or good. sorry to break it to you.

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MARK Z. DANIELEWSKI

House of Leaves (2000);

photos by George Ngayu, or @monstertalent

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Hello everyone ✨✨

We are using our old Tumblr account to promote our DID/OSDD server. We are a system of 18 alters (currently) and we have a server on discord that is a safe place for traumagenic systems and singlets (that want to learn more about did/osdd) to hangout.

Our server has many categories:

• Kid-friendly: In which we have channels for child alters, middle alters, age regressors and age sliders.

• Neutral-zone: For singlets and systems to interact, we many channels: pet, art-meme, games, general, and many more.

• Possible triggers: Only systems are allowed and we have a general channel (where you can freely curse) and substances and hypersexual channel (only available for 18+ body systems).

• System discussion: With channels for the innerworld, new alters (integration/fusion, splitting) and others.

• Definite Triggers: Many venting channels, including some for singlets.

We are active, but we would like to expand our number of members. We would be happy to have new systems or singlets join in ✨✨✨

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i’d really like to get to know my fellow borderlines more (other than the diagnosis), so reblog this with the answers to the questions below in your tags 🌿

mbti type, hogwarts house, moral alignment, zodiac sign, type of bender (as in avatar), favorite music artist/s

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D&D alignments as - Club Penguin

Lawful Good:

Neutral Good:

Chaotic Good:

Lawful Neutral:

True Neutral:

Chaotic Neutral:

Lawful Evil:

Neutral Evil:

Chaotic Evil:

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The person I reblogged this from deserves to be happy

I tried to scroll past this. I really did

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does sex hurt more if you've never masturbated before?

life hurts more if you’ve never masturbated 

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myth moodboards → hecate

cloaked in shimmering mist and obsidian, she awaits midnight.

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I’m a soft baby

Be nice to me

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Heroes of Olympus x Brooklyn Nine Nine

Percy Jackson

Annabeth Chase

Jason Grace

Piper McLean

Leo Valdez

Hazel Levesque

Frank Zhang

Nico di Angelo

Reyna Ramirez Arellano

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Percy: hello darkness my old friend

Nico: stop texting me