#GET THE FUCK OVER YOURSELVES

[joanofexys]

if people start spinning the sex-repulsed, traumatized by sex so couldn't possibly enjoy sex view with Jean Moreau I will be coming after them with knives because have you morons not learned a single fucking lesson about infantilizing SA survivors

[yugocar]

"you guys don't understand this about america!" followed by things that the majority of people absolutely understand about america

[disgruntledseagull]

some kind of Schadenfreude going on watching the extremely online Jews freak out at not being coddled and petted and unquestionably supported through this trying time when everyone can see the ethnic cleansing their buddies are doing

oh boo hoo someone compared you all to the Nazis

taking your own medicine fucking sucks don't it?

[kenpachisbrat]

Gonna say this real quick. I don't do drama. Tumblr is supposed to be a safe place for everyone. Not for people to act like they're stuck in fucking highschool.

[perinkling]

once again reporting every ad that pauses my music while im scrolling

[artemisdesari-blog]

Sometimes being the mum who exists in fandom spaces leads to awkward, even concerning, conversations. Such as the one which happened this morning. The mum of my daughter's best mate asked me if one of their mutual friends had sent her a specific message. This message was a link to a fic on ao3, if this had been a G rated fic this conversation would not have happened. It was not G rated. It was an E rated fic. Our kids aren't even 12 yet. As it happens, both of our kids have their internet access heavily locked down and monitored. They have phones because of how their school manages homework. The mutual friend, however, is not so monitored. Or she wasn't, given what her mum found she's about to be. This kid had found a fandom, joined it, and found it chock full of antis. The fic had been sent to her by one of them as an example of the sort of terrible people out there who need to be harassed and attacked because they wrote a smutty story.

Someone thought it was appropriate to send written porn to an 11 year old to encourage her to attack the author.

This resulted in a very awkward conversation where I had to explain to multiple horrified parents the anti culture that is becoming so prevalent. The fact that there are adults who use that purity message to groom kids. The way they escalate and how it bleeds into real life. One parent told me she'd wondered why her 14 year old was suddenly concerned about the two year age gap between her parents. The more I explained, the more absolutely ludicrous it sounded and the more baffled these poor mums looked. More than once I was told "but the characters aren't real, it's really weird but it isn't hurting anyone". Which is the point. The fictional situation isn't hurting anyone. The person who sent porn to an 11 year old is.

Was the person who sent it the author? Doubtful, that thing was tagged in the extreme. Was the person who sent it an adult? Almost certainly. The parent who's child received the original message has found more concerning stuff and gone to the police, but from the language the person doing the sending was in the US. We aren't. Did my daughter receive it? No, she isn't interested in that fandom and therefore wouldn't have bothered with it. Is this the fault of the author? No, they didn't send the link, they didn't ask to be harassed, they wrote a story and put it on ao3, the website created in response to rampant censorship and designed to allow for all kinds of fiction. Is this the fault of the parents? Partially, they should have been looking at their daughter's internet use and clocked what was happening sooner. Is this the fault of the child? No, she's 11, she didn't know better.

This has been a difficult day. Multiple parents have had their eyes opened to parts of fandom culture they had no idea existed. And the thing of it is, they aren't concerned about the why of anti rhetoric. They don't care about the adults writing about teens or rape or incest or torture or any of the rest, because they looked at the clearly tagged and rated fics and figured that it worked the same as a warning on any streaming service. They only cared because some utterly vile individual decided to expose their child to something this girl might not have looked at for years.

Proshippers did not cause what I have spent afternoon helping several sets of parents navigate. Antis did. Normally I'm fairly quiet about the whole debate because I just want to get on with my life and share my experiences. Today I got dragged into that mess in my every day life and the adults in the equation didn't react the way Antis like to think they would. They didn't condemn the author. They condemned the anti who shared the work with a preteen.

[frmulcahy]

Neil Gaiman is the strongest man alive for being so patient amongst the absolute clown behavior of some fans

[the-martyrfication-of-the-matron]

I disagree that the daddy kink convo should've been replaced with a heartfelt meaningful conversation about their mutual issues with their fathers because as much as you complain that the relationship isn't developed for Buck, it isn't developed for Tommy either, and it would be a disservice to the reserved guy that Lou says that Tommy is to make him immediately open up to someone without showing the proper progression and storyline leading up to that

the kink convo worked for both characters (both are just dawgs i guess), it was very mutual, and i still don't understand the perspective that Tommy's comment came out of nowhere, i run based off of the assumption that all flirty buck convos are... flirty...????

I understand why people want this, because the acknowledgement of Buck's parental issues comes with a burning desire to have a genuine conversation about it, but something that fits his character should not come at the cost of another character.

A scene should fit to everyone involved, and at most, it should've been a kind of... maybe a conversation of buck going 'yeahh... i got issues with my dad, that's why Bobby means so much to me, he's kinda like the dad i never had.' and Tommy's response being 'Yeah, i see that... my dad sucked but i had Gerrard who sucked too, so... yeah... he's the dad i already did have lol.'

OH...

OH WAIT...

ITS ALMOST LIKE THEY DID.

this conversation should happen eventually, but when it actually has meaning. At a point where Tommy is actually going to be willing to open up a little more (since we kinda see that he is a little bit more reserved with Buck still in this season), and maybe it's in favour of servicing Buck as a character, or Tommy, or BOTH. But you cannot put a character on the line bc you pearl clutch over the fact that your 'baby' pretty boy fucks severely.

[neonhellscape]

youre disturbing them

[shehungthemoon]

This close to blocking the buddie tag I can't believe y'all bitter jerks turned me against my favorite ship like this

[butch-reidentified]

where my "have lost friends because talked about feminism too much, not even related to trans discourse just straight up talked about quote-unquote depressing misogyny facts way too much for them to handle" girlies at

[officialgleamstar]

To be honest I hate the way some Stardew fans talk about Demetrius. Like I know you’re in love with Robin and they argue a lot, whatever, I get it, but can you please be normal about the one Black man in the game

[acesstark]

new loumand kiss clip leaked and can I just say I’m so glad that being in the marvel fandom taught me how to multiship in peace cause some of y’all are…

[the-meme-monarch]

stop policing lgbt identities i will hit you with a ball-peen hammer directly to your mouth 👍

[skankhunt44]

Yeah I'm a fucking dick,

But this dick isn't supporting terrorism and isn't sympathetic for people who want to ethnically cleanse the middle East funded by the UN?

Lol yes, Karen, you're totally on the right side of history here, you're quoting antisemetic tropes from both the Nazis and the KKK handbooks, and openly calling for ethnically cleansing Jews from Israel which they call "isn't real" or whatever but it's named over 100 times in the Quran, and I've read the xtian bible it's mentioned probably twice that at least. But it isn't real. Sorry it's hard not to laugh at that logic.

Glad we had this chat.

[punk-pandame]

when you post about all trans people's issues and not just your own so your askbox is like "why do you think men in dresses issues are more important than Born Wombyns™️ issues" followed immediately by "are you a transandrobro truther" and shortly thereafter by "nobody has ever been harassed for looking masc you're fucking lying" and then instantaneously by "i am going to correctively rape you" followed by "oh what so there's 3/4/5/6/infinite genders now?" and "let's dose you with T (against your will) and see how much you really want to be a man" and "forcefeeding you estrogen until you remember your place. bitch" and "kill yourself tranny/faggot/dyke/some combination thereof" forever and ever until you fucking die