#I ACTUALLY CACKLED. ANON I NEED MORE CONTEXT WHAT SPECIFICALLY

[angeltism]

the feminist komaeda blog reminds me of you

How the FUCK do I respond to this. I mean. Like. Th. Thanks??????

[lovecolibri]

SaL anon here my dear, celebrating that its (almost) 2 weeks till we're back and feeling the need to cackle with you over today's events. Look you and I are salty benches at heart, so I'm unreasonably gleeful over the fact that not only did Timmy more or less say that TK-2 is a plot device, but he's a plot device specifically for the purpose of keeping Buck and Eddie apart so Eddie can "discover himself". Like he could have made him a plot device for the Gerrard of everything (and yeah, maybe he is aware enough that he realized two white men getting "affected" and needing to deal with the racist, misogynistic captain was too much but I doubt it) since he has some experience there but nope!! He specifically brought Tommy Boy up in the context of Buck and Eddie and you just have to laugh. Tommy is unofficially the new Marisol, no job or last name necessary he just has to be around. Meanwhile Eddie is missing Buck so badly he has to go to church about it, something he didn't even do about the literal nun he was dating, which also makes me giggle. All of this is of course is speculation at this point but fuck it, I'm having fun, family feud is in 5 days, and the best damn firefam crew is soon to be on my screen again, so cheers friend, here's to a new season of nonsense where we can get unhinged about two idiot boys while reserving our hater vibes for their crappy partners 🥂.

OH MY GOD HIIIIIIIIII!!!!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Today has been WILD because on the one hand, my irritated petty bench self is going "I hate being fucking right" about the fact that bees were just a distraction and we're apparently doing season 5 "it's all about Athena's past" opening instead of being focused on the 118 (and Athena) ACTUALLY doing first responding and saving people. I am gnashing my teeth over the knowledge that the show just is not committed to focusing on what truly made those first couple big disasters GOOD and memorable, and ENJOYABLE to watch. Instead we're doing 70s movie remakes for the fun promo material they provide and then turning into a detective show again instead of focusing on first response and disaster rescue. Which, it might all be fine and the plane stuff will also be about disaster rescue (tornado would have been better though as bees can act weird around weather phenomenons so at least they'd tie together sensibly), but I'm still gonna be 😒😒😒 about it until they prove me wrong.

ANYWAY.

On the other hand, my happy petty bench self has been *cackling* about Tim talking in depth about Eddie most of the paragraph after the most generic blanket statement about BT, like. That man has nothing to say about it because there's so little there he probably CAN'T say anything without spoiling the little that's going on.

The cast looks happier on set than they have in a LONG time, the plot devices are plot device-ing, hot priest is back?! as Eddie examines himself and who he is?! We're getting a meaty Henren/Madney storyline it sounds like, Bobby is gonna be a NIGHTMARE as technical advisor and I'm so excited to see that, plus the chance to do fake Buddie on Hotshots is RIGHT THERE and even if the show doesn't do it, I KNOW we are gonna get some super fun fics about it.

I'm feeling super 🙄 about the Gerrard stuff revolving around Buck because they have proven especially recently that they can't handle these storylines well and keep centering the white men instead of COC so like, not holding my breath it's gonna be done well. But also, they didn't have Buck do anything 98% of season 7 so he doesn't have anything else going on. If we're lucky, it gets handled well and will also lead to an examination of T's behavior, BT's relationship, and eventual reason for breaking up. But again, not holding my breath. This show just loooooves to pretend shitty people never did anything wrong so they don't have to spend time on the character, and then expect the audience to be on board with Evan "loyalty streak a mile wide and loves his family more than himself" Buckley to be perfectly fine dating them like they never hurt anyone and the notoriously nosy, bitchy, petty firefam to never ever bring it up or say anything bad about them ever. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

But overall, I'm excited and I know you always have my back when it comes to being an equal opportunity hater for the shitty people they keep sticking our boys with.

ALSO! In news that I've been saying forever but actually kind of mean it this time, I have been working on my Countdowns fic! It's currently over 12k words and I'm still only on part 2 (of like, 7? maybe?) and I need to rewatch 2x01 to clarify some stuff, but I AM writing! I planned to do more this summer, but we had some unexpected out of town trips and a new baby that needed some crochet projects done, and also I need to just get a little bitty tablet and keyboard so I can sneakily write at work now that I'm not so busy. It's not super edited so I haven't been sharing any snippets but maaaaaaybe if everyone asks nicely, I'll share a little something that I know I like and am going to keep.

It was such a delight to see your ask pop up today!! You've given me the serotonin to actually open my inbox and see what's in there, so everyone say "thank you Sleeping at Last Anon!" for any other asks I get around to answering today. And send me good vibes to work on this fic because I think if I can pull it off, it's gonna be something I'm super proud of. But I gotta actually, ya know, write it.

Cheers, bestie! I can't wait to watch this season with you!

[emeraldenha]

and it's not like you and sunghoon are star players either

HELPPPPP HUMBLED THEM SO FAST

it coincidentally hits sunghoon right in his back while he's playing on the court adjacent to yours

men 😒 don't cry sunghoon people are dying 😒 Jk do you need help i can hit y/n for you 😘😍

you, on the other hand, was someone known for being very quiet and introverted due to your terrible case of social awkwardness

kinnie moment 😍

not to mention, to add even more fuel to the fire, he'd always make fun of how nobody cared about the girl’s tennis team just to spite you

in his misogynistic era #ICanFixHim 🥀🖤

jay simply raises an eyebrow, “so you won't even try asking your own teammates but you'll ask y/n?”

hoon so down bad

“I want free lunch for each day we practice until the tournament, and keep in mind, I'm on a very specific eating regimen.”

SO THEY'LL HAVE LUNCH TOGETHER 😚

“I can. it was last year two months into the first semester and I won.”

DOWN BAD FOR REAL IS HE COUNTING THE DAYS TOO

you quickly spin on your heel and walk away to do some solo warms up, not noticing sunghoon popping open the cap of the gatorade bottle, unable to suppress a soft smile

SO CUTE I'LL CRY

you invite him out to dinner a couple nights before the tournament, excusing the kind gesture by saying there was a new restaurant opening nearby and you just didn't want to check it out by yourself

DAMN GO Y/N SHE'S DOWN BAD TOO relatable

he gently lays his hand over yours from across the table, “thanks for cheering me up. I know it must be weird to comfort your annoying arch nemesis that you hate.”

THE HAND ?_!$)#)2(2)(# GO AWAY ily

like it's not because you're actually in love with him and have been secretly wanting to get closer???

HSJHSHWHWHWH If you're interested i am hmu 😁

and that's when he realizes two things: one, that his ego has been bruised, and two, that he may have somehow developed a very tiny not so tiny crush on you

FJKSOWU1LWI HE'S SO . I LOVE HIM

but heeseung was an amiable third year in a long term relationship with his girlfriend therefore making him the best option in sunghoon's eyes

it's true i'm the girlfriend 😅☺️

and when you felt bad, you snuck a teddy bear in her locker the next day.”

FUCK HIM HE'S SO CUTE 😭😭😭😭

you hug sunghoon out of excitement and it takes an painstakingly long moment of realization to pull away once you see that you're hugging the life out of him

💞💖💗💞💝💓💘💞💗💕💗💞💖💓💕💝💞

you turn around and it's jungwon, the cute first year that played for a neighboring school

DON'T DO THIS TO ME jelous hoon slaaay 😍

he has a small bouquet of daisies in his hands (where they came from? you have no clue) and peppermint breath spray tucked into his back pocket

NOOOOO HE'S SO CUTE 😭💔😭💔😭💔 i'll give you a chance jungwon

“what?” sunghoon's eyes look like they're about to pop out of their sockets. “but I thought you just turned him down!”

we love himbo hoon 😍❤️

“and if I am?”

THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS AND IT'S SO DUMB BUT IT MADE ME REMEMBER when someone once asked jungkook "are you jeon jungkook?" and he replied "and if i am?" THIS IS SO OUT OF CONTEXT AND STUPID but yeah ❤️

and sunghoon thinks that you look so breathtakingly adorable

🤬🖕🤬🖕🤬🖕 hey god it's me again

and a wide grins spreads across your face as you tell him those last three words back

HELLOOOOO I WANT WHAT THEY HAVE WHERE'S THE KISS 💔

I LOVED IT SM IT OBVIOUSLY DIDN'T DISAPPOINT ME OMG SORRY IF THE COMMENTARY WAS KINDA DRY BUT IT WAS SO GOOD AND SO CUTE FR TYSM FOR WRITING THIS RI 😭😭😭😭😭😭 ENEMIES TO LOVERS NEVER GETS OLD 😋😋 AND I LOVE YOU SUNGHOON ‼️

- 🦕 anon

I love this commentary sm like ty bestie you don’t know how much I appreciate this😭

I cackled reading the ‘in his misogynistic era’ comment lmaooo

but yes, enemies to lovers never gets old and we love two newfound simps trying to chaotically navigate their feelings (more so on sunghoon’s side lol)

also I feel like I keep screwing jungwon over in my fics beside love montage like I’m so sorry my love💔

[fandomsnfluff]

Asmo or Levi for the character ask please

HELLO ANON I WILL DO BOTH SINCE YOU ASKED SO NICELY HEHE <3333 this also got long so i put it under a cut!

character tickling ask meme

asmo

on a scale of 1-10, how ticklish are they? he’s at least an 8!

where is their most ticklish spot(s)? his neck, parts of his back and the soles of his feet!

which spots are they not ticklish? he’s pretty ticklish everywhere, but some parts of his arms and legs just don't do it for him :/

what is their laugh like? IT IS LITERALLY EXTREMELY LOUD AND HIGH-PITCHED, it’s like a shrieky cackle and he will yell like his life depends on it xD

do they enjoy tickling? if yes, is it a fun platonic/familial thing, or kinky thing to them, or can it be both depending on the circumstance? oh man he LOVES playfully tickling people. he does this game from time to time where he will just run all around the house looking for his brothers and give them a little playful tickle before running to the next spot looking for the next brother. he also does this at least once when all of them are sitting together in the same room, he loves tickling mammon and levi since they’re both so sensitive ;o; he’s also the only brother who’s brave enough to tickle lucifer!

are they more often a lee or ler, generally? he’s a bit more of a ler, but he doesn’t mind being on the receiving end of things either!

who is someone in their life that they tickle often? all of his brothers and mc! he’s extremely physically affectionate and playful in this sense ;w;

who is someone in their life that they get tickled by often? also his brothers and mc! he’s one of the more easy targets for all of them because of his affectionate nature, so they’re just like “eh why not?”

does the word “tickle” or any variation of embarrass them? nope! not even if it’s used in a context that could be turned on him!

are they embarrassed about their ticklishness, and do they try to deny/hide it? not at all actually! he’s fine with people knowing about it as long as they don’t take things too far with him

would gentle tickling or rough tickling affect them more? probably something in between, he gets pretty riled up with gentle tickles but if rough tickles go too far then it’ll just start to hurt

is there a specific spot that they enjoy being tickled, either exclusively or more than other spots? what is it? he’s honestly fine with being tickled anywhere, just as long as the ler doesn’t overdo it! he does like having parts of his torso touched because it gives him the sense that his ler is enjoying the curves of his body (cue things getting spicy but we don’t go into detail about that here xD)

is there a spot that they can’t stand to be tickled, either because it’s just too sensitive, or it’s uncomfortable/painful/etc? what is it? ok so his feet are ridiculously sensitive for some reason, it’s not like he doesn’t like it when people tickle him there, it’s just that they tend to go too far when they do (probably because they find his reactions adorable); they’re just extremely sensitive and he doesn’t like it when he’s tickled there for too long

would they ever purposefully bug a friend/partner/sibling into tickling them, and if so, how would they go about it? sometimes he does! he likes to wear crop tops from time to time and put his feet up on his brothers’ laps, which usually ends up with him on the receiving side of tickles (especially from mammon)

does teasing affect them? in a way yeah! he starts to squirm a lot more and grab at his ler’s hands, but he’s a lot like lucifer in the sense that he’ll likely sit up and turn the tables when his ler so much as thinks about trying to tease him ;)

levi

on a scale of 1-10, how ticklish are they? oh boy he’s at least a 9 skjhfsd

where is their most ticklish spot(s)? he’s pretty ticklish everywhere, but his armpits, sides, and neck will send him into an absolute frenzy

which spots are they not ticklish? some parts of his arms and legs just don’t do it for him, pretty much anywhere else will just send him away xD

what is their laugh like? ok it COMPLETELY changes octaves from his general laugh and it is absolutely littered with hiccups. he pretty much makes ever sound under the sun when he gets tickled; squeals, screams, chortles, snorts, ALL OF IT. GIVE THIS BOY TICKLES OKAY

do they enjoy tickling? if yes, is it a fun platonic/familial thing, or kinky thing to them, or can it be both depending on the circumstance? it’s something he generally tries to avoid when he can (because he knows the tables will be turned on him), but if he knows he’ll have the upper hand he has no problem with going to town on them. he’s pretty contact shy though so it takes him a while to get comfortable with tickling someone outside of his immediate family

are they more often a lee or ler, generally? he’s generally more of a lee! since he’s shy and hesitant when it comes to dishing out tickles, he’s definitely much more of an easy target from his brothers because they’re all aware of how helplessly ticklish he is sldfhksjdfh

who is someone in their life that they tickle often? probably mc or belphie, he knows that they’re both okay with him tickling them and he knows both of them well enough to be comfortable with doing so

who is someone in their life that they get tickled by often? literally ALL of his brothers like omg. he’s such an easy target and we know that he can’t run that fast for very long, so someone like mammon or asmo will catch up to him almost instantaneously and proceed to absolutely wreck him, especially if they want something from him or feel like they need to punish him for something ;o;

does the word “tickle” or any variation of embarrass them? OH GOD YES. like it doesn’t even matter if it’s used in a context that could be used against him, if he so much as hears that word his face is redder than a tomato and he is ready to get up and SPRINT away (as fast as he can at least)

are they embarrassed about their ticklishness, and do they try to deny/hide it? OMG DEFINITELY. he wants to appear cool on the outside despite his lack of self-confidence, and once mc found out about it he was so worried that it would ruin his image even further, but they just found it cute (levi hates being called cute though, he strongly prefers the word cool). he’s mostly embarrassed about it though bc it gives others a tool to use against him

would gentle tickling or rough tickling affect them more? probably tickles more on the rough side, of course gentle tickles get him to giggle adorably but something about rougher tickles just absolutely SENDS him like pls help him god

is there a specific spot that they enjoy being tickled, either exclusively or more than other spots? what is it? he doesn’t really enjoy being tickled, but if it’s for a short time and if it’s for mc then he’s willing to put himself out there, but for no more than a few seconds because he will ACTUALLY die if it goes on for too long

is there a spot that they can’t stand to be tickled, either because it’s just too sensitive, or it’s uncomfortable/painful/etc? what is it? OH GOD HIS UNDERARMS ARE SO FUCKING SENSITIVE HE WILL ACTUALLY SCREAM AT THE TOP OF HIS LUNGS IF YOU GET THEM OMG. his feet and the backs of his knees are also pretty ticklish, and he’ll just kick and beg if he gets tickled there ;o;

would they ever purposefully bug a friend/partner/sibling into tickling them, and if so, how would they go about it? nope, not in a million years. he prefers to stay out of situations that have anything to do with tickling anyway, especially if they involve his brothers since he KNOWS he’s an easy target

does teasing affect them? OH GOD YES. like his laugh will completely change pitch and he will squirm with all his might to try and get away, not caring if he accidentally kicks or punches you. his face also turns a million shades of red and he just starts to squeal and grab at you like wtf it’s actually the cutest thing in the world i--

[kane-and-griffin]

I'm really sad about something I don't understand and was hoping you could explain. Why do people block without giving a reason to? I don't why it first seems like it's all going so well then the next you're blocked and you don't know why or what you did or said wrong? It's happened twice now and to say it hurts is an understatement.

Oh, my precious Kabby babies.  Circle up, it’s time for some firm butgentle life advice from Mom. 

First of all, unless I personally am the person who blocked you (whichI’m obviously not since we’re having this conversation!), in a very real sensethe short answer to this question is that you know I can’t actually answer thisquestion.  You’re asking me to tell youwhy a person I don’t know did a thing for which I have no context, and forwhich there could be a thousand reasons. So in a concrete, specific sense, my answer is: I do not know.

However.

(You knew there was going to be a however.)

Social media is a deeply personal avenue for self-expression and it’s also aworld where many of us spend a great deal of our time, which means that we havethe full and free right to customize it into exactly what we want it tobe.  The things that you post are personal reflections of you, which is  why it bums you out when someone mutes or blocks or doesn’t followback; it feels on some level like a personalrejection.  But the space you curate is also a personal reflection of you.  You have the rightto post anything you want and other people have the right to choose not to seeit.  Both of those rights are equal, eventhough you’re only on one side so naturally the other one feels like it’s insome way “wrong.”  

I’m speaking with zero context for what your preexisting relationship withthese people was beforehand (like obviously if it was a close friend and theyblocked you out of nowhere, you’re going to have to sort that out with themdirectly, I can’t advise you there), but it’s important to remember that theremay be no “right” and wrong” in this scenario.  It’s fully possible forboth of these things to peacefully coexist at the same time:

1) your absolute right to feel a little bit rejected and hurt that astranger on the internet made the choice that they didn’t want your socialmedia sphere to overlap with their social media sphere,

and

2) that other person’s absolute right to say “if something or someone makesme feel even the tiniest bit ‘nope’ I am purging it out of this space so it isexactly what I want and need it to be.” 

They don’t need to have a reason.  That sucks, when you’re on the receiving end of it, which all of us have been - it truly and genuinely sucks - but it’s also reality.  One of the hard truths that incidents like this make us sometimes have toface - and we don’t want to face these things, because they can feel reallyicky and vulnerable and ping all the little gremlins in our brain  - is this:

nobody on the internet owes you their time or attention foranything you do or say.

This sounds mean and brutal, and I don’t mean it to be, because you know mom loves you, but it’s incrediblyimportant, so I’m going to say it again to make sure that if nothing else, thisgets through:

nobody on the internet owes you their time or attention foranything you do or say.

The celebs you stan don’t owe you a response to your tweet, justbecause you want one.  The people you tag in meta don’t owe you rebloggingit to continue having that conversation with you forever, just because you wantto prove you’re right.  The fans of the fic you write for your mostpopular ship don’t owe you crossing over to give you hits on yourrare-pair fic if they don’t feel like it.  Nobody owes you a certainnumber of followers, nobody owes you a response to every anon you send them,nobody owes you finishing that fic you like in time for them to read it whenthey feel like reading it.  We owe each other one thing and one thingonly: basic human decency.  That’s it.  Everything else is freelyoffered to the world, and freely taken by the people who want it.  It’snot a transactional exchange.  If you make art or write fic and you put itout there into the world, you’ve done a cool thing, and whether it gets tenhits or thousands it was still worth doing.  There will be people whoaren’t interested, but if you get hung up on feeling rejected by that, it willparalyze you.

Social media is personal. That’s unavoidable.  It’s an extension of ourselves.  When someone is cruel to you or to one ofyour friends on the internet, even if it’s an anonymous stranger, it feelsshitty.  When you express an opinionabout something and a ton of people reblog it and the tags are full of “OMG YESTHISSSSS”, it feels great.  We all experiencethat in different ways.  Society has always selected arbitrary measures for young girls and women tolive up to in order to feel like they’re popular or they’re approved by thecool kids, and right now it’s things like “how many followers do you have” and “didyou get an RT from a celebrity” and “how many likes on your posts”.  So ona primal level, maybe having someone you thought was a friend block you on Twitter or Tumblr hits you in the same deep coreplace as having the cool kids not come to your birthday party.  That feeling is super real!  It brings upalllllll that deep stuff we try to hide and pretend that we’re aboveexperiencing, but we all have those squishy vulnerable inner selves that justneed the cool kids to like us and we feel bad when they don’t.  

I had this exact conversation with my therapist a few weeks ago when she wasgiving me a hard time because my book has 60 reviews on Amazon, of which likethe majority are 5 stars with two negative ones, and I have both the negativeones like memorized.  And she was like “CLAIRE.  WHAT THE HELL.  WHY DO YOU DO THIS?  58 POSITIVE AND YOU CANNOT QUOTE A SINGLEONE.  TWO SHITTY ONES AND YOU KNOW THEMVERBATIM.  THAT IS NOT HEALTHY BEHAVIOR.”  And I was like “… . okay fine when youput it that way, yes I do sound like a crazy person.”  So like my advice to you – advice which I havejust proven I am absolute garbage at taking myself, so like I may have justeroded my own credibility in my efforts to help – is to remember that you probablyhave a lot more than two followers so honestly this is probably not a badcollective ratio, and there may be lots of people who are very interested inwhat you have to say but you’ve focused a lot of your energy on these two people andit’s worth giving some thought as to why that is.

My question for you is this: what is the net negative impact of having thesetwo people block you on social media? Like in an actual, concrete way, separate from those sort of core gut “Ifeel unloved in this moment” feelings, what is the effect on your life?  You might be surprised.  It might be zero.  In which case, let yourself feel thosefeelings, experience them as valid, and then breathe through them and move onand keep on doin’ you. 

I’m pushing backon you a little bit here very gently because it feels, reading this anon, likeyou’ve made a determination of hurtful intent on the part of the person whoblocked you, or at the very least a certainty that this choice that made wasabout you and not about them.  That the fact that things seemed to be going fine and then they blocked you means you were somehow intentionally misled or mistreated.  Be really, really, really carefulabout deciding the cool girl didn’t come to your birthday party because she’s abitch who wanted to make you feel terrible and is sitting somewhere cackling atthe thought of your sad lil’ face waiting by the front door; maybe she didn’tcome to your birthday party because she has depression and it’s hard for her toleave the house sometimes and she knew your party would be loud and wild and crazyand too much for her brain to handle right now. Be careful about presuming negative intent with no proof it exists.  The internet makes this so easy, the internetconditions us for this, and itconditions us to respond in kind. The worst thing you could do here is to, like,make a callout post or subtweet in the hopes that it will get back to them andthey’ll feel bad, or to sic your other followers onto them, because that turnsthis into a situation that really doeshave a right and wrong; and since you don’t know if they were trying to makeyou feel shitty, or just went on a big block/mute purge to whittle their listdown for mental health reasons that are totally their own, once things escalateyou can’t put the horse back in the barn. It’s too late.  Now it’s A Thing,when maybe it never really needed to be A Thing.  And in almost all situations for almost allpeople in almost all ways, Kabby Mom’s advice is going to be, “please thinkcarefully before you make this A Thing.”

This got long, I’ve been having a lot of thoughts lately about theconversations I’m always having with fandom folks the way we let social mediapermeate and shape our sense of self, in good ways and bad, so I apologize formy verbosity but also not really because that’s how things roll over in KabbyMom’s Advice Corner.  But I will sum upin bullet points for those of you who have been skimming, to bring you up tospeed:

Everyone has the right to curate their own social media spacehowever they see fit, and they don’t have to explain their reasons.

They aren’t obligated to include you in that space even if you want themto.

None of that is an objective measure of your worth as a person or a signthat you should stop being you on the internet.

Your feelings of rejection come from a real place and you get to feelthem, as long as

You are striving to move through them without permitting them to paralyzeyou, and finally

You never use someone else’s choice to curate their social media sphere as ajustification for treating them like crap.

Focus on your positive interactions instead of negative ones – your friends,creating stuff and putting it out into the universe – whether it be art, fic,opinions, a podcast, gifsets, crackposts, whatever – and your social mediaworld will be a better place.

In the immortal words of the great Michael J. Fox, “What other people thinkof me is none of my business.”