#SO I'VE HEARD

[jewishcissiekj]

i think the arrowverse's biggest impact might be the grant gustin posing next to oliver queen's tombstone meme

[geek-and-nina]

WinterFest Fic Completed!!

the deaf Kit AU prequel fic is all done thank you to everyone who read along and encouraged its creation and contemplated Lili and Sorsha's murders

Writing this has been a true pleasure

Thank you to @myrebelliousphase for the amazing cover

for @tanthamorewinterfest

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[im-not-a-sheep]

ohyeah what if the half life 3 "white sands" leak wasn't about white sands in New mexico or whatever (sorry I'm not American I don't know places), but was actualy a code name for the borealis. bc. white sand. Snow...

Ive heard people say that white sands is close to where black mesa was set, but I can't see a reason for hl3 to begin there as ep2 hinted at the borealis. So..... yknow. Just a thought, speculation, we don't even know if hl3 is properly real, maybe hl3 is also a code name for a complete random game yknow

[little-ghost-little-ghost]

Kibby

[thistoowillpasss]

[jokers-prehensile-boner]

so ive heard ......

[persistent-wallflower]

Best part of being painfully shy and socially awkward is that some people will actually think that you're just being aloof and arrogant 🥱

[plush-rabbit]

What shows are you rlly into these days??

in general, i've been super in the owl house and chainsaw man. surprisingly, i don't watch a lot of shows. it takes so much time and i can't focus on it

i was super into the boys and i wanna watch omni man

i think i'm more into reading but like manga, like i love junji ito and fire punch, and spy x family and tbhk

oh!! aand hell's paradise but i'm not ready for a character's death so i stopped reading it and i need to catch up to jjk

[herd-reject-arts]

So I'm leaving work and something darts in front of me, maybe 10ft away, too fast for me to see what it is. Peek around the tree blocking my path and I see this

Just like... a whole ass hawk. Dude's gotta be about 1.5ft tall. Massive fucking bird. And it's just staring me straight in my soul like this, even as I try to move ahead. It didn't budge. And there's only this path back to my car unless I want to walk on a busy highway. So I have the option of Death By Raptor or Death By Truck.

So I walk in the poison ivy filled patch off the sidewalk. Guy still isn't moving. Still staring me directly in the eyes. And I do this thing when animals are behaving strangely where I'll talk to them, so I'm just like, "Hey, man. I don't know you. You don't know me. This feels really threatening. I'm just trying to get to my car, dude. Can I get some space please? You're a big fucking bird. I see those claws. You could kill me right now, but I'd appreciate if you didn't, ok?"

It didn't move until I was about 2ft away. Again: I'm as far from it as I can be without walking into the street. It clearly wasn't going to budge. I walk past, thing flies up (silent, btw. Scary) and lands on a brick wall a little further ahead

Anyway. Weird guy. Nearly shit my pants when I noticed a bird big enough to carry off a fully grown cat was just... there, staring me in the face, unwilling to move away from me, a human, something it should see as a threat. I watched behind me the whole rest of the way to my car, just in case this bird decided to help me shed this mortal coil. 10/10 experience. Super cool guy.

[geek-and-nina]

Absolutely adore your “show don’t tell” collection, ESPECIALLY the prequel!! You write tanthamore so beautifully and all the lil details show how perfect they are. I wanted to know what your inspiration for the fic was? Also super excited for the next chapter of “So I’ve heard” so so so glad kit was able to get away from lili

The inspiration was definitely all of the deaf/hard of hearing (d/hh) students I work with. I'm a special education facilitator for the d/hh department where I live.

I'm super glad you're enjoying the story!

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[asleepinawell]

me wearily opening twitter: please show me just one nice thing for once

twitter: baldur's gate 3 lets you fuck a bear

me: you know what? good enough

[bamsara]

I have a INPRINT shop now! You can get my art as prints and posters here in many different sizes and materials.

Not all my art is on there, but I'm slowly getting my other pieces ready. You can use the code '0WXYC1' on order over $30 to get 15% for one week, plus the sitewide discounts currently going on. The discount will end 7/09/24.

If there are any art pieces I've done you'd like to see as a print, please let me know! (Also heads up! I have no way to remove the white border that inprint adds onto the fine art prints, but 'canvas' and other options do not include the white border that they add! Feel free to cut off the borders if you prefer!)

[devilart2199-aibi]

Imp and Skizz pod, ep 95: Etho!

Wanted to doodle real quick while listening :3c

[vaguely-concerned]

are. are you telling me that if the romanced mage warden dies and alistair is king, he deadass stares greagoir down over her dead body and grants the circle of ferelden its autonomy after ordering it rebuilt somewhere safer. first you have to deliberately leave him behind so he won't die for you and then he does that for you once you're gone, even when you're broken up??? absolute and literal king behaviour of the highest order????? the actions speak louder than words of it all??????? I think I hauve covid