My favorite part of the scene where Vespula throws Jaskier’s stuff out is the fact that no one is watching or gathering to see the spectacle, like there are dudes in the background that actively turn away from them and back to their conversation. How often do these two have large public fights or breakups that the people they live near are just not even phased anymore?
Something very specific about how Jaskier's bi/pan sexuality was portrayed really resonated with me.
The scene with Vespula when they talk about him having a crush on Radovid...
I am a bisexual femme, married to a woman. I have only had serious, meaningful relationships with women. I have only casually dated, slept with, had crushes on men. My feelings for/attraction to anyone at any given time has never negated my feelings for/attraction to anyone else. For the most part, my partners have understood that. Sometimes, talking about my crush or experiences with one person has even been a kind of foreplay with another person. I don't think I've ever seen that specific thing portrayed before.
Vespula is telling Jaskier all about himself, talking about this crush he has on this other man, whilst crawling into the bed to sleep with him again. She not only accepts his crush on someone else, she playfully teases him about that crush and uses it to flirt with him; all while acknowledging that Jaskier having that crush does not take away from how excited he is to be in bed with her in this moment.
I felt so seen.
I'm not saying this is everyone's bi/pan experience. I'm just saying this is something that was extremely familiar to my own life and I was blown away seeing it depicted.
And i wonder how much of that was Joey Batey's input. The way he talked about avoiding stereotypes and how he had to personally rip the first drafts apart and explain how to handle this story properly, I can imagine how that relationship was originally handled. I can imagine a draft of the script where Vespula addresses this crush and accuses him of not being genuinely into women at all or some other bi/pan erasure bullshit that is all too common with bi/pan characters. It was refreshing to see this portrayal play out. And more than refreshing, it felt like my actual life.