The world just chewed her up
And spat her out.
I always get myself into these situations
I’m just being honest here
It’s a classic feeling signature and behaviour of mine
No thanks to any of the people who twisted the knife
Yup, thats you grandma, and whoever ( the fuck ) else
Ooops using that fucking g word again
Trying to transfer the blame on someone else
My poetry is starting to suck
Cause it’s really just nicely placed words
Venting my timely swings
Into dark places...
Calling it:
I’ve had a full on fortnight
Sick, work, new job, money stress
Child not drinking or sleeping stress
All the usual suspects for an exhausted parent
Wait what the fuck I’m not a parent?
It’s really taxing being the one hearing the toddlers cries
Knowing that you aren’t the one with the milk tap breasts
The smells, genealogy and presence of their mother
That would calm that crying child in an instant...
Who is the only one they will eat for, drink for, sleep for... just about
I am a good stand in mother
But imagine having that much presence in another child’s life
Taking the pressure of trying to fill their needs
When you aren’t the one who was biologically tuned to do so
I love what I do
I really do and I would take this shit any day over any other work
But when they are crying for mum
Well, I’m just not their mum.
It’s okay
It just takes time to form bonds right?
If it didn’t it wouldn’t be right
You can’t hurry love... understanding... feeling comfortable with someone
Children need the love
Parents need the space from loving
Nanny’s need....
A BIG FUCK OFF COFFEE OKAY
Like, today would have been good.
It used to be my little fluffy comforter, coffee
It still is my trusted friend
In small doses
I’m basically Lor
I like to believe I live in stars hollow.
We made a breakthrough today together
Me & the wee one year old cherub I care for
She is such a strong stubborn self lead little cherub
She just makes these screechy noises at me, trying to tell me stuff
I put her in the car, drove to the beach and around for ages
And then, holy shit, she fell asleep and STAYED asleep for 40 minutes
It was a christmas fucking miracle
It is the first fortnight I’ve been working
But some of those days have been mentally challenging
I came home with tears of joy whatever I don’t know
Tears of endurance of frustration of inadequacy for not having the right nipples
Tears about money stuff
Getting through
Feeling like I have some worth
Paying for my own health care appointments
Whatever other plans I have made
Fighting back the tears
Again
The stress of all this change
Feeling for me
Cause it’s my job too
Can be full on, it seems
Lucy ran through the house with muddy paws this arvo
It was the icing on the cake
The cherry
Sarcastic but really she is my
Cherry
She came into my room just now
To give me a little snuggle
Probably saying mama thing I hate it when you cry
It’s cool baby badger
Crying is one of the many ways to release
I read a cool article on it today about the healing power
Of babies crying in the arms of a caring loving adult
It’s a healthy response
It is made to be held, seen, heard, recognised as valid
If your baby needs to cry, let it cry in your arms
It’s perfectly fucking healthy to cry
It’s WAY better if it can be done with someones presence
And I mean, just their conscious presence, approving, accepting
Being here with you
Especially for children
But I just do it alone mostly
Cause people tend to freak out with the water worx
Probably scared of their own displays of feelings
I’m used to it I’ve been doing it for years
I even used to tie up the door to the bathroom
Where I would be crying
From a very young age
Because we don’t have locks in our house
Because I was raised without being allowed valid boundaries
Lol fight me
I’m just being honest
Act like you got some sense
I’m sorry Mrs Jackson
I am for real
Okay there’s my humour coming back
I’m glad to be free to speak
That’s why I write things
I don’t care if anyone reads
But maybe they will and it will mean something
That’s cool too
The universe is a funky little pumpkn
Especially with the platform of technology
I can reference shit with an inbuilt link
Would have been handy for my essays back in the day
Look I just want to be able to meet my needs
Like every human should be able to do
That’s why I want to care for children
Help them get their needs met
I honestly get it, parenting is FULL ON
I get why kids grow up without their needs being met
Because not every one can mind read or translate screeching
But I feel like I’ve been raised to figure out how to MEET NEEDS
My own, and then others, children, whoever I can influence
In fulfilling ways really
I guess that’s the goal
To lead
Be my own
Wahine Toa
Filling my needs has meant money
Which has been a tool which I cast out of my shed
From a very young twisted age
When I was made to feel ashamed
For having money and choosing how to spend it
Thanks again to the dicks that taught me this
Is she still bitter about this or?
Lol, jokes make it better for five seconds
The story is long but in short basically I fucked it all up
When I bit my brothers ass cause he stole my toy
Which, yeah, fair enough, I fuck shit up if things are unfairly taken from me
Then my grandma who is dead now ( cool ) had forsaken me
Then would refuse to treat me well for the rest of my life
Neglect me and shit, ridicule me and instil the classic shame
For being my great self ya know
Barbaric really
Then write me poetry about how creative I am
Like, bitch please
You can’t unfuck with my life now you realised it was a dick move
Those bridges are burnt bitch
Wow, vent vent vent
Has to be said? Mmmm maybe in a less cunty way but that aint me today
So yeah money is a thing I am learning
Thanks to the past conditioning
It’s a universal blockage so I’m not half surprised
I would really love it in my life
So I can love and care for myself
So I don’t have to depend on people who can’t do that for me
Let alone, themselves right!?
Think we’re all learning this right?
So how do you learn to do money?
Well... find the energy that attracts it instead of repels it
Learn to use it wisely for future benefits
Learn to keep the river flowing constant abundance in and out
To you and through you
Hibernate in the winter, keep like squirrels collecting them nuts
Not just for the now time, for the winter
But if you collect too many and leave them to rot that’s not a flowing river
So it’s about learning the skills, how to use the tool for abundance
The dance with life we all are worthy of
How have I committed to this?
#1: Decide to stop doing shitty stressful jobs that don’t fulfil me and provide for me in equal abundance of energy exchanges, preferably looking for work with perks that I love and with downsides that I am not too bothered by.
( I decided upon home based one on one childcare because it’s a nurturing job for me and for the world in order to help people and help myself thrive )
#2: TRAIN OR GET EXPERIENCE OR PREFERABLY BOTH.
(I did my qualification in Nannying, it took 6 months and it was free, it was one of the best most nourishing fulfilling loving moments of my life so far, thank you)
#3: Get your foot in the door.
( for me, this meant, get an in between starting job which paved my way in order to look forward to and manifest the perfect job to begin my career with )
( it was part time, it was full on, it was amazing because it gave me experience and a reference, it was fun, it had some perks, it also sucked sometimes but it was the perfect launching point... )
#4: Get through the period of time where you may not be earning or you may be earning very little, before you find the perfect work conditions that give you what you are so worth earning in exchange in order to sustain and fulfil your life.
( yup, currently amidst this point, it is hard so hard at times for me, it is mentally consuming and emotionally breaking but it is the deep lesson about the squirrels collecting nuts for the winter... you need not so much that they will rot, you need just enough to get you through without meaning a period of starvation or you need to hiberate like bears. you just have to do whatever you can to get through this phase... its okay to ask for help, just ask people who you can trust to actually care about you and love you and support you, not people who have shown you that it’s conditional or that they actually can’t do this for you )
#5: Eventually, you will be in a cycle of river flowing freely and replenishing you all the time and life giving energy in abundance to you and through you. This is the place we all want to be with our work where we love what we do even on the hardest worst days and we are fulfilled with abundance in all areas of our lives, especially given equally abundant exchange of money to provide for our lives and our desires.
( I have found the job, the conditons are right, I am working through the moments of stress and I am most of all waiting on those steady free flowing river pay checks of abundance... don’t get me wrong, I also need to learn how to be best with my nuts so that is the next step. I just so hope I can do so this time around because I don’t want to go through periods of starvation of my needs when it is so taxing and mentally emotionally crappy... I suppose though all of those pent up feelings had to come out somehow because I wouldn’t have ever had money blocks if they didn’t exist. Purging the blockages from your system is all part of the transformation here. So, I guess, I’m glad to be deep in full learning )
I just wish to feel better
To rewrite the feelings signatures that were assigned to me
When I was just a young zero years baby
So I guess the path is set...
I’d like to see my needs met.
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