#and i'm not letting that go to waste

[bread-tab]

ooof

going through papers looking for a misplaced piece of paperwork and found a note from after one of my last sessions with my crappy therapist

"[Therapist] not the type to be harsh w/o good reason so I'd better sit up & listen even if it felt mean. It shows faith in me that she would be brutally honest w/ me even though she knows I'm sensitive as hell - She believed I could take it."

actually no, bro! if your therapist makes you feel like this that is a RED FLAG 🚩

seriously if you're in therapy and the vibe gets this bad there needs to be major work done to repair the relationship and if you feel like you can't safely bring it up then get out of there. get a different therapist. this is NOT how therapy is supposed to go. there has to be TRUST before you can get anything actually done

the "harsh" talk was in reference to me being repeatedly late, a problem rooted in my adhd and anxiety, which was interfering with everything in my life including getting to therapy. in some strange coincidence, after i stopped going to my therapy appointments i started slowly getting better about that! almost as if the way she was addressing the problem was making my anxiety worse!

even if you are partially at fault in a situation like this, there are healing ways to address issues and set boundaries. someone you are going to for help should not be tearing you down further. therapists are trained to be actively not shitty about things like this even if they're frustrated

i can't believe i put up with this person for nearly a year 😠

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

finally at that age where i'm thinking i should get a tattoo. not bc i feel strongly about it, just seems like a waste not to. i've got so much skin i'm not using

[inkskinned]

one of the things about being an educator is that you hear what parents want their kids to be able to do a lot. they want their kid to be an astronaut or a ballerina or a politician. they want them to get off that damn phone. be better about socializing. stop spending so much time indoors. learn to control their own temper. to just "fucking listen", which means to be obedient.

one of the things i learned in my pedagogy classes is that it's almost always easier to roleplay how you want someone to act. it's almost always easier to explain why a rule exists, rather than simply setting the rule and demanding adherence.

i want my kids to be kind. i want them to ask me what book they should read next, and i want to read that book with them so we can discuss it. i want my kid to be able to tell me hey that hurt my feelings without worrying i'll punish them. i want my kid to be proud of small things and come running up to me to tell me about them. i want them to say "nah, i get why this rule exists, but i get to hate it" and know that i don't need them to be grateful-for-the-roof-overhead while washing the dishes. i want them to teach me things. i want them to say - this isn't safe. i'm calling my mom and getting out of this. i want them to hear me apologize when i do fuck up; and i want them to want to come home.

the other day a parent was telling me she didn't understand why her kid "just got so angry." this woman had flown off the handle at me.

my dad - traditional catholic that he is - resents my sentiment of "gentle parenting". he says they'll grow up spoiled, horrible, pretentious. granola, he spits.

i am going to be kind to them. i am going to set the example, i think. and whatever they choose become in the meantime - i'm going to love them for it.

[wildflowercryptid]

doodled some cycle nuts kiddos on a notepad i yoinked from a storage facility

[harbingersecho]

she should've been problematic at the club

[shesaidhellooo]

this is vile (do it into my mouth next time)

[r0semultiverse]

Hey Digital Extremes, why are you limiting our play style to only one romance? Thought this game was about player choice. Let us choose to have the gameplay option of polyamory! 💕

There should also be a platonic New Years night option too that involves no romance for those not comfortable with it!

[dogin8]

Wilbur Soot has obviously read the Callmecarson handbook on how to handle being outed as an awful individual

[hyp-fixator]

ROCKET MAINS REJOICE!! (cheering noises)

[johnslittlespoon]

hahahaaaaa i scrapped 9k words of tas ch4. I KNOW I SAID I WOULDN'T AND THAT I'D END THE SLOWBURN IN THIS CHAPTER BUT. you're gonna have to trust me ok i promise you my neurons just fired off so fucking hard and this chapter is gonna bang so much harder, the E rating is probs just gonna be pushed off for One more chapter. it will be worth it okay. this one's for the fellow miscommunication and hurt/comfort whores 🤝

i might still be able to use the 9k i scrapped when i have the first kiss scene happen, it depends how much this new route for ch4 changes that, but if i can't use it, i'll just post it here as a drabble bc i put my whole ass into that kiss scene lmfao i don't wanna just let it rot in a doc </3 okay thx as always for the patience comrades i need to stop posting anything ab fics other than progress so i don't have to walk back on my own shit LOL but i get impatient trying to stay quiet while i'm writing so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ my bad g

[barksbog]

obsessed with him

[wings-of-waffles]

So glad I am apparently not the only one who decided that these two should be brothers... alkjfalkdjfaslkfj I have so many feelings about them!!!

Like come on it's the science dragon and the magic dragon! Why shouldn't they be related? Also Stonemover having another dragon who cares about him + somebody being horrified by his situation is a big plus.

[the-punforgiven]

Man for real do I have to start warning my epileptic friends about the end boss of Shadow of the Erdtree? Because like I do not have epilepsy and despite that this dude's second phase is fucking rough to look at

[punkgemjasper]

Now taking lines to say to spam callers because I am 110% done with their incessant calling, it's like one to two calls a day trying to get money I don't have and being threatening (one guy sounded like he was going to order a hit out on my fucking washing machine)

So far I have a roadside, roadkill grill, Theo's skin and bone imporium and if it's anything to do with my washing machine again, I am 100% going to mention my dead dad. Gimme more!

I guess read more for a short story time -

In the tags -

Yes. Had that happen to me. I was in bed, he had just woken me up and I was pretty pissed about it. (I have insomnia so any sleep I do get is kinda important to me) and as this conversation is going on I start to realise this guy is arguing with me. Not realising I'm not elderly or someone who takes threats lying down.

He starts shouting at me that he's going to cut my internet off. Something he literally can not do. Something he has no power to do. I laugh, call him out on that and finish it by saying 'my actual provider would love to hear all about this...'

The washing machine guy just wanted me to take out some fucking insurance thing on it, that it never had to begin with, or at least, if it did, idk about it. My dead dad bought it. But he did vaguely threaten me with 'what if it breaks?' ...sir. Are you going to smash my washing machine?

[icycoolslushie]

Why have I not seen a single person talking about the fact that Jace is half-French?

There is so much potential to use this fact somewhere!!!!

[melonisopod]

I'm glad they addressed Verg's non-involvement with the Ligmas and it turns out he's under contract to not interfere with the Sinners' work or endeavors to get the Golden Boughs. Also he seems to be starting to like them which is certainly...unexpected...