#and which kind of exercises I should be doing

[frickfatphobes]

This might sound weird but would you say that simply not wanting to exercise it get in shape because it doesn't make you feel good is valid for a very big girl like me (like around 450lbs)?

I've honestly found that my body feels best when I limit how much I move throughout the day. Some may say that the limitations I have on my mobility are a bad thing but honestly as I've put on weight over the past decade but especially since COVID, I haven't really noticed them that much, I've found ways of adapting to my bodies needs such as having a rolling stool so I don't have to stand or walk to do most housework. Despite all that however, I've tried exercising to at least get my mobility up a little and though it did improve some it always came at the cost of making me feel stressed about continuing to exercise and the constant soreness

I guess I'm just a bit lost, I'm honestly ok with my body currently but I just feel a constant pressure from society and even my own family that it's not ok.

Thank you so much for this ask. I want to say upfront that I'm not a doctor, so please don't take what I say as gospel. I can and do make mistakes. However, I have done a lot of research about these kinds of things, so I'll try my best to formulate a response that I hope will bring you clarity.

"Not wanting to exercise to get in shape" is not a moral failing. Getting into shape or becoming thinner is not something you owe anyone. If you want to make healthy choices (many of which will very likely not make you thinner, because health is a nuanced concept that people don’t fully understand), that's completely up to you.

What many people don't know, is the majority of cardiovascular health benefits cap out at twenty minutes of exercise per day. These minutes simply need to raise your heart rate, and they don't even need to be consecutive.

THAT BEING SAID, if exercise still hurts or makes you very uncomfortable, that means there is a detriment to exercise as well. Is it worth getting daily exercise if it means enduring pain or sensory issues every day? It will depend on the person.

When it comes down to it, intentional weight loss is generally much more harmful to your health than just trying to treat your body well without changing its shape. Getting thinner will be much more detrimental in the long term than letting your body be large in the first place. (See the @bigfatscience blog for more of the medical and scientific side of this.)

When I felt pressured to lose weight, I hated exercise of any kind. It was like torture. At least for me, until I stopped treating exercise as an "I have to," I never wanted to do it. I would say, using similar principles as intuitive eating, don't feel forced to exercise or change your body shape, especially if for the most part, you're okay or happy with your body. If you heal your relationship with exercise down the road and change your mind, great. If you don’t, great. Exercise should not be used as a self-torture method for heavier people.

Your body deserves the same love and respect as any thin or "in-shape" body. Making accommodations for oneself is something I will always be happy to hear someone do. And no, you didn’t “let yourself go” because you decided it wasn’t worth being in pain. Please ignore the societal pressures. You should never ever feel like you have to change because strangers don't like something about you, especially since it isn't hurting them. And if your family is pressuring you? Ignore their pressures tenfold. I became atypically anorexic because my mom wanted a thin daughter. If you don't feel like it will make you happy, there is absolutely no reason you should feel like you have to do it.

TLDR: Ignore anyone who thinks they should be allowed to judge or pressure you, do what makes you feel safe and comfortable and happy, and know that you don't exist on this planet to feel unsatisfied with your body until you leave it.

Thank you so much for the ask. I hope you find more peace and safety in your body as it is. You deserve to feel happy without changing first. <3

[theloganator101]

Am I the only one who feels that Vaggie has this whole 'It's bad when you do it, but it's perfectly fine whenever I do it' kind of attitude.

Like, throughout the show, there have moments where she has been displeased over something one of the characters does, but when she does the exact same thing or something similar to what that one character has done, no one, not even the narrative, bats an eye or calls her out for this.

Like, for example, she doesn't want Alastor to do anything bad to the guests, and yet she does this on a day to say basic.

Or when in Episode 3, she didn't want Pentious using weapons in the hotel, and yet, she still has this angelic spear around from her exorcist days and still uses it to threaten the same sinners she had once slaughtered.

Another example related to Episode 3, would be how she was perfectly fine with dragged the Hazbin gang into a turf war, despite not liking how Angel was in one during the pilot.

Also, speaking of that, I just want to point out how much of a massive plot hole that turf war sub-plot was, because even if Angel hasn't participated in it, the fault would still be on Charlie and Vaggie for failing to prepare an actually convincing presentation, thus making themselves to blame for being shown as fools. Plus not only that, but because of these plot holes, the writing only allows Charlie to fail and only fail, as well as attract attention to Alastor, who has his own nefarious plans in mind. I mean, back in 2020, there have been Tumblr posts done by someone who works as a marketing copywriter who have pointed out these plot holes, here are the links to them (Yes, I acknowledge that they're reposts, but they include more detailed info that was added onto the original conversations) Link 1: www.tumblr.com/awarmbowlofhome... Link 2: www.tumblr.com/awarmbowlofhome...

Plus, while on topic about the pilot, I also want to say that there's this Tumblr post that calls out how poorly Vaggie and Charlie handled the situation in the limo scene, as well as re-contextualizes Angel's actions in the pilot, along with the 'Addict' music video and the 'Dirty Healings' prequel comic, it kinda makes that scene from the pilot hard to rewatch it after reading the analysis, here's the link to that analysis Link 3: www.tumblr.com/unknowconcretef...

Anyways, that's enough of my rambling

It all makes Vaggie look like a big hypocrite in the process and that she doesn't care for them until the plot calls for it.

And you are right about Episode 3, I've noticed how when it comes setting up exercises for their clients to learn a lesson, they don't have shit planned at all. And considering what they are (Charlie being Hellborn and Vaggie an Exorcist Angel), it feels like they don't have a clue as to what even makes a good person in the first place.

Which is KIND OF bad for your show hinging on the theme of redemption and changing for the better.

And the fact that they don't even try to understand Angel Dust and his conflict, it makes them look incompetent and not the right people to run the hotel.

And I'm not saying they should know EVERYTHING or already be certified experts, but to at least have SOME basic understanding on where to go.

[wrexie]

absolutely. there's no harm in ass stretching for back pain!! it helps whether you do it just when it's achy or you do it regularly!! any amount helps!!

(UNLESS YOUR DOCTOR HAS GIVEN YOU EXPLICIT INSTRUCTION NOT TO OR YOU ARE HYPER FLEXIBLE. DO **NOT** BEAN SOUP THIS POST--)

the first thing to recognize about back pain is the thing that most people in the middle of an anatomy art course also recognize:

the back is an intricately woven mess of muscle groups and it is ALL. CONNECTED. together.

the reason ass stretching works for back pain is because the ass is connected to your lower back which is connected to your upper back which is connected to your neck and shoulders... so don't be surprised if stretching your ass also reveals other things that ache and ask you to stretch them!!

I'm gonna explain a bunch of stretches and exercises that do essentially the same thing at different needs levels. try them out and see which one fits you best!

DIFFICULTY ONE

you will need: A chair that is tall enough to keep your legs at a right angle but not so tall your legs dangle like shrimps, a towel (optional)

start by keeping your spine straight up and your shoulders relaxed.

either by your own willpower or by using a towel, lift one foot onto your other knee. keep your toes pointed out!

DIFFICULTY SUBTYPE 1: If your knee isn't flat/at the same level as your foot and is instead pointing up like a chicken wing, push it down until it does so, or until you feel your muscle stretch. If you feel the stretch here then this is your stretch! If not, then continue to step 4.

DIFFICULTY SUBTYPE 2: Keeping your back straight and your leggy flat, lean forward until you feel.... something in your leg/ass stretch. (it's called your illiotibial band and it's a part of your ass.) (also back pain can be leg pain.) (I KNOW. I'M SORRY. IT'S ALL ASS.)

repeat for the other leg!

DIFFICULTY TWO

you will need: A wall or something to help you stand upright on one foot

start by finding said wall, brace yourself, then lift up one leg until your leg sticks straight out, like you can fit a square box upright under your leg perfectly.

Keeping your foot flat, swing your foot side to side. You should feel a gentle stretch in your hips. (your hips are also a part of your ass.)

keep swinging for a minute or so, continuing to increase how far your foot swings and increasing your range of motion.

repeat for the other leg!

DIFFICULTY THREE

you will need: enough space on the ground for you to lay down on. you can use your bed too but the floor is therapeutic

lay down with your back flat on the ground. imagine your back is GLUED there, it should not move off the ground

drag one knee up. without moving your shoulders off the ground, tilt your hips to the side to bring the bent knee over your other leg until you feel a stretch in your back/ass/leg/hip

AAAHHGGHHGHHHH

repeat for the other leg!

DIFFICULTY FOUR

you will need: some kind of rail or countertop/sink that is hand-height. ish.

hold onto the rail/countertop/sink.

hook your ankle over your other knee.

keeping your arms and back straight, lower your body back/out/down.

"that's confusing!" I'm sorry I don't know how to explain this one. essentially do it in the way that stretches the whole shebang. this one does EVERYTHING. legs. hips. ass. back. upper back. shoulders. arms.

if you tilt your head down it'll even stretch a bit of your neck. after you start appreciating stretching this feels fucking orgasmic dude trust me

repeat for the other leg!

one thing you may notice about these stretches is that I have not included a time.

that's because the appropriate amount of time to do a stretch is "until your muscle stops freaking out that it's being stretched and chills the fuck out". while you're stretching, notice the way your muscle feels. you should feel a slight tensing, then relaxing sensation. much like popcorn popping in a microwave, there will be a lot of it first, and then the tensing will slow to a stop. that's good!! when the muscle is fully stretched, you're done!

another thing I like to do to keep myself stretching is to make stretching feel like a treat, not a chore. put on a nice candle, start some relaxing music, whatever you want. whatever gets you to pavlov yourself into liking taking care of yourself.

if you're having difficulty with any of these stretches, try doing them after a hot shower. the heat will help loosen your muscles and prevent you from injuring yourself while stretching.

happy stretching time!!

(this post will eventually be updated with diagrams for visual learners but ohh m ygod give me a minute I gotta.... I just worked ten days in a row dude I gotta pass out)

single-handedly saving the lives of my retail coworkers by teaching them all how to stretch their fucking ass. "ohh my back hurts woe to getting old!!" no babe it's your ass. your ass is tight as hell. not in a good way. yeah do these exercises with me. YEAH FEELS BETTER DOESN'T IT. not good. but better. yeah it turns out it was your ass.

[joyridingmp3]

wish I had money to see a nutritionist or someone who has information about food

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

hope you feel better soon!

I am riddled with ailments, but I stay silly!

[kerizaret]

Museum sketches

[cosmogyros]

I ought to be well accustomed by now to the fact that I live in backwards-land when it comes to most physical/health things, but it still confuses the heck out of me that eating food saps my energy so drastically.

Today was a classic example: I woke up in the morning full of energy, peppy and motivated. I was dancing around the house, getting a ridiculous amount of chores done, listening to music, having a great time...

...and then I had breakfast. Now, it doesn't really matter what the food in question is - my usual breakfast is either oats with a bunch of toppings (seeds, nuts, fruit, yogurt) or else eggs and toast - and today it happened to be a piece of pita bread with homemade guacamole (avocado, tomatoes, nooch, spices, lime juice) plus a protein shake.

And I have felt like a ZOMBIE since then. Exhausted, limbs heavy as lead, and I spent all the rest of the day on the sofa because I couldn't muster up the energy to walk from one room to another.

This happens so consistently. Whyyyy?! Why does my body hate food :(

[ionlycareaboutyou]

it's so funny i can have a relatively good week and be in a good mood but then i start thinking about food too hard and i'm like well time to end it all

[tonyglowheart]

..huh. so I always kinda thought eh idk if the meds are really doing anything, on account of how I still have the depression

but I just realized. it's been a hot second since I've been, like, really anxious or stressed about anything. And shit used to stress me out from time to time, you know?

...so maybe the meds ARE doing something, lmao, just not uhh the like thing I was mainly hoping it might magically do something on

[scarletiswailing347]

you can really tell i mellowed out about zam cause i draw him about as much as i do my other blorbos now aka never lol jk

[theophagie]

Support group for people who want to lose weight not for body image issues or anything but because they want to fit into their brothers' trousers since they can't otherwise get their hands on men's clothes

[mcwexlerscigarette]

ok on my path to healing I have decided to be more responsible with myself. and if I'm gonna take care of myself mentally, I need to be in order physically. So I scheduled much needed appointments that I've been putting off for a while. good for me

[gender-euphowrya]

attempting to learn code Again

[exopelagic]

i can’t believe i managed to get fucking mono and didn’t even get it by doing anything fun

[cosmic-kiwi]

[jewishvitya]

what made u anti zionist / helped u unlearn zionism

Unlearning is a work in progress, but basically finding out the information I was given wasn't true. I was taught the "a land without a people for a people without a land" - found out Palestinians, you know, lived here, actually. Was taught all the violence we committed was in self defense - found out we destroyed whole villages to take over the land. Was taught our military is very ethical and never violent without necessity - saw what we do to Palestinians even today (and by "today" I mean before the current escalation in Gaza, I have no idea how anyone can ignore this one now). Was taught we "made the desert bloom" - learned some about native and non-native plants, and about the colonialist nature of trying to transform a whole ecosystem to suit us instead of living with the land as it is. From "Israel vs the Palestinian territories" to learning that even the lands taken over in 48... were taken from them. From "this is our land because this is where we come from" to learning that we aren't the only people that originated in this land and we can't just override the claim of the people who lived here for generations.

None of this, like, inherently means you'll let go of zionism. I know zionists who would agree with me about many of these points. But, I suppose, for me it's a broader anti-colonialism and anti-isolationism thing, and... anti-exceptinalism?

Like, I had to unlearn the idea that antisemitism is a unique and singular kind of oppression that no oppressed group can ever relate to or have solidarity with. The idea that we're alone, we'll always be alone, we're destined to be hated and murdered in ongoing and repeated extermination attempts unless we segregate ourselves in our own state with our own military where we can double down on "kill or be killed" over and over. And because we're the only ones who are this completely rejected by the rest of humanity, anything we do to achieve that goal of safety is justified regardless of who we hurt. Or even that our unique state as victims means we can't actually cause harm in the ways that we were hurt.

Antisemitism is unique in the same way that anti-Blackness is unique and ableism is unique, they all have their own elements. That doesn't mean we can't fight together and form coalitions with other marginalized groups. Romani people are another example of how our experiences are both unique and not. They don't face antisemitism, but they were still part of The Final Solution. We're not The Ultimate Victims, we're one group among many.

All of this together, for me, meant going from "we're the only nation not allowed to have our own country, self determination," to understanding that the issue isn't the question of the right to self determination, it's the fact that we decided to exercise it at the expense of other people. Pretty sure Romani people would face the same reactions if they decided to displace another nation for the sake of their own self determination. This isn't a game of musical chairs, we can't just go "your turn in exile, get out" and expect that to be okay.

Some stateless nations live in a specific location under another country, and they can declare independence in that place without causing harm. It's unfortunate that we didn't have that. But Palestinians shouldn't pay the price.

And Jewish people should be safe everywhere, not just in the small patch of land where we're the oppressor.

Final thing is, had to read a bit about what Palestinians think of all of this. Which is complicated, no group is a monolith, and I don't think I'm qualified to break that down. But after unpacking all the "about us" things, I had to look at their goals from liberation, and now I try to do my best to stay informed and support those goals.