#anti buckabby

[canonicallyobserving911]

Buck & Eddie: “You don’t know me!” - 7x5

In 2x8, Buck told a woman, “You don’t even know me!” and according to the script for episode 5 in season 7, the title of it will be almost an exact match since it's "You don’t know me!” and it appears to be a callback to his comment.

Since it's possible some may not have watched 2x8 Buck Actually in a while, here’s a quick reminder of the conversation Buck had with Bobby.  They were discussing TK and how Buck hooked up with her in a bar restroom but Buck told him that since he had finally let go of AC, he thought she had changed him 🙄. Then he proceeded to say he had only been single for like a day and he was back to basically being Buck 1.0. When they entered the gas station, Buck kept talking to Bobby about how he was thinking about calling TK but he didn’t want her to think he was only after one thing.  While Hen was treating the woman robber victim, she overheard Buck talking and commented, “You are only after one thing.  Jerk!”.  Buck responded, “You don’t even know me!” and she replied, “You’re a man, I know enough!”

Why is this important?

It’s important because the theme of “You don’t know me” has been applied to Buck with regards to every hookup or so-called “relationship” he’s had with different women on the show.  Let’s be real for a minute because the truth is none of them AC, AM, TK, ND, Dr. Wells nor the two women he hooked up with in season 1 knew him either.  Also, the woman who made the comment was a random victim who overheard Buck talking for less than a minute and she thought she knew Buck just because he’s a man. It was implied that all men want to do is hookup and leave like he did with TK but Buck has been and continues to search for the love of his life. The conversation he had with her connects to the one he had with Eddie in 6x15 while they were standing in the cemetery.

Buck said, “I feel like I have to try and be the same old Buck… mostly for the sake of everyone else” and Eddie responded, “You don’t have to be anything for anybody”.

IMO, their comments were being made directly to the audience and they were for the people who, after six seasons still want to keep seeing Buck do the same thing over and over again (I know it’s hard to believe but trust and believe there are people in the GA and in the 9-1-1 fandom who want to keep Buck on the hamster wheel and I think it’s because they DON’T WANT HIM TO BE WITH EDDIE).  These are the viewers who would rather he keep randomly hooking up with people (it could be anybody and it doesn’t matter if it’s irrational, nonsensical, illogical, random or whatever/whomever just as long as they can see him hookup with another guy or another random love interest) instead of him finally accepting the love that him and Eddie effortlessly share with one another.  I’ve said this many times, Buck and Eddie are in love with each other, they’re soulmates (post linked here) and they share a once in a lifetime love of their lives type of love that transcends space and time.  They have a deep, emotional and intimate connection that’s not superficial and it’s not based on a hookup.  They have an EPIC love story that deserves to be told without any more distractions or the addition of one-dimensional love interests.  It’s not platonic, it’s romantic and if they do go CANON, it will make for groundbreaking television.

Back to our regularly scheduled program…

After the title for 7x5 was released a few weeks ago, I completed a post about how Connor really doesn’t know Buck the way he said he does in 6x4 (linked here) and I stand by everything I included in it.  However, this post is in addition to that one and it includes the details about how all the women Buck dated didn’t know him either.

In 1x1, the first woman Buck was shown hooking up with in the firetruck told him to his face that she didn’t want to get to know him.  He asked her for her number and she replied, “You’re cute and you’re very good at whatever it is we just did but let’s not ruin it by getting to know each other.” She didn't want to get to know him and the look on his face showed he wanted more but she didn't so he moved on to the next one.

Dr. Wells was the LAFD’s trauma therapist and SHE TRIED TO BEFRIEND Buck on Facebook before he ever entered her office.  She knew the day would come when he would need therapy and when he asked her if she sent him a friend request, she told him he should delete it but then they ended up having sex.  It was played off like a joke but that’s not what it was because she was in a position of power and as a licensed therapist, she should have been charged because it’s against the law for that to happen. IMO, since Buck didn't know any better, as his captain, Bobby should have reported her. She wasn't mentioned again until 3x9 when Buck, Bobby, Chimney and Eddie were sitting in the loft at the firehouse and all Bobby said was "She's no longer with the department". That wasn't enough and she took advantage of him. Trust and believe the situation would have ended differently if the roles had been reversed.

AC wasn’t any different because after Buck stood by her and helped her after her mom died, he was being catfished by a man and several women were after him because of that guy's lies. After a woman threw a drink in his face, he said to her, “You know me right? Come on” and she replied, “I don’t even know who I am right now. But I definitely don’t feel like I know who you are right now.” She ended up ghosting him and abandoning him while he waited for her for months.

When she returned two years later, she didn't even apologize to him.

AM didn’t know Buck either and don’t get sidetracked by the fact that she called him Evan sometimes.  It was proven she didn’t know who he is when she said, “I know it’s who you are” after he said, “You want me to quit my job”.  Well, being a firefighter is NOT who Buck is, it’s what he does but she clearly saw him as a hot firefighter just like AC did and was looking for a good time. Please remember she didn't have a problem leaving him because of it.

TK didn’t know Buck at all and for everyone who thinks just because they were having sex and living together, that doesn’t mean anything because after meeting four years earlier, TK still had no idea who Buck was before it was over and she didn’t care.  If she had known him then she wouldn’t have betrayed his trust.  Also, he did cheat on her which made the situation worse but neither of them wanted to admit they weren’t supposed to be together and they clung instead of just ending it.  When he got ready to break up with her, she didn't try to see his side of it, she just stuck to her immoral ideals and wanted him to be ok with her running with the Jonah story.  Instead of saying, “I understand and I apologize” she said, “You knew who I was when we started dating” and he replied, “I guess I thought I could learn to live with it”.  She made it all about her the same way Buck makes everything about himself. They were two self-centered people with tragic childhoods in a trainwreck relationship and it shouldn’t have ever happened. It's still interesting that Buck ended up in a relationship with her after everything she did to Bobby and the 118 four years earlier (related post linked here and here).

ND fangirled over Buck and was so enthralled by his death but when she found out he had a full life, she did judge him.  He said, “I know this is something that’s easy to judge” but even though she said that him being a sperm donor was a kind gesture or whatever, she left because she couldn't handle his full life. Granted she was a death doula but her actions weren't professional and it would have been better if she would have helped him deal with his death. Her return should have ended with Buck saying "No thanks" and sending her on her way but of course he was shoved into another lackluster one dimensional relationship. Also, them telling each other, “I like you” was very high school like🙄.

Please understand, I don't like TK but in 4x8 she said, "You just can't stand the idea of someone not liking you" and she was right. Buck works hard to make people like him and it's very reminiscent of the way he's been trying to get his parents to love him anyway. He needs therapy.

It seems like he's still doing it and the words Bobby spoke in 6x11 during his coma dream had no effect since he still cares about how people see him. He hasn't learned anything yet but hopefully he will in season 7.

Eddie Diaz is the ONLY person on the show who KNOWS and SEES Buck and the video above includes several snippets from different episodes to prove it.

Eddie knows him at his core. He knows when to call him on his BS, he recognizes when Buck makes things about himself and he knows when he's trying to fix things instead of understanding it's not always his job to fix them.

Maddie is Buck's sister but she still sees Evan (post linked here) her little brother but Eddie knows Buck and after they become a CANON couple, he’ll know Buck even more. 

While I’m not sure who’s going to say, “You don’t know me” in 7x5 or if it will be said at all, I do believe Buck might say it again and if he does, it will be a callback to 2x8. Also, 6x15 could be included in it since Buck might not be trying to be the "same old Buck" anymore and hopefully it will be enough for the naysayers to understand he's not the same person. IMO, I still think it’s something he will say to Connor especially since the sperm donor arc is supposed to return and OS said in an interview it won’t be revisited before the first 5 episodes.  Hopefully, Buck will finally realize the people he thought knew him really don’t including Connor.

Is it possible Eddie could say it to M, maybe but I don’t know because IMO that doesn’t sound like something he would say to anyone.  But he is all therapized now and he’s supposed to be joking or whatever this season so who knows.

The point of this post is to illustrate how Buck said, “You don’t even know me” in 2x8 and apparently, it’s going to be a callback in 7x5 but the question is, if he does say it, who’s he going to say it to? 👀 

[chronicowboy]

[lewislovesroscoe]

B*cktommy is the same as Buck/Abby. Abby was a guide for Buck in his first serious relationship. And it’s sounding more and more like Tommy is guiding Buck in his first relationship with a man.

[matan4il]

One thing I have been ever grateful for is we didn't see boyfriend Buck for Ally or Taylor like he was for Abby. Like I may have had a huge disdain for how Abby treated him, but I loved him in that mode. I can't wait to see him just charm and overwhelm Eddie who so deserves to be daily swooned. Like I want Chim getting annoyed because Maddie is like "why don't you write love notes in my lunch".

Anyways so married gifts... In my head I feel like Buck is the husband that buys the cute stuff you don't need. Like every Sunday he buys Eddie flowers. Eddie of course rolls his eyes and complains flowers just die Buck. But he waters it every mid-week to keep them alive and his morning coffee with them every day to stare at them fondly. And Eddie is true practical husband. Like when he hops in the jeep he always fills up the gas tank for Buck, or if he noticed he needed gardening gloves suddenly they are just there with no fan fare.

What's your opinion on their husbandly love languages?

Nonnie, I could not agree with you more! It was lovely to see Buck so invested in a relationship, even though Abby's treatment of him made it (especially in re-watches) quite heartbreaking. I'm glad we never had to see him doing the same for women who were clearly always going to be a fleeting chapter in his life, as significant as learning from these relationships is for Buck.

And I'm with you, I can't wait to see that side of him once again when he's with Eddie! I agree with you. Buck is the guy who smiles softly to himself when he sees a way to spoil Eddie and make his life more pleasant even when, especially when, it's not needed from a practical POV. Those nice things are the ones that Eddie has been denying himself for years, and Buck making these gestures would add so much needed softness to his life, and would mean so much more because it's such a statement of love. Meanwhile, Eddie would be the one whose love is expressed through paying attention to what Buck needs and isn't always good at getting for himself. In fact, I'm so convinced of this, I even wrote a small drabble about this once, Forever Hold Your Peace.

Thank you so much for sharing these insights and headcanons with us, lovely! I hope you have a great day. As always, my ask tag. xoxox

[vessel-full-of-stories]

So, since my previous analysis of Buck and physical affection excluded canon romantic relationships, I decided to make one focusing on Abby.

As discussed here and here, Buck isn't someone who typically initiates physical affection with those around him. He waits for permission and doesn't ask for physical comfort, only accepting what others offer him instead.

Considering he and Abby were in a romantic relationship, there might be some shift in his approach to physical affection, right? Not really.

Abby was a key turning point for Buck. He didn't want to be "Buck 1.0" and immediately jump into bed with her. He established boundaries - limiting contact to phone calls - and their relationship developed at a distance, where he could trust himself.

That all changed in 1x05 when Abby's mom goes missing and they have their first face-to-face.

Nothing happens. They're both too caught in the moment to do anything before they focus back on finding her mother. Their first actual point of contact comes after they intercept a call about a downed power pole with possible injuries on sight.

After working together to save a child, Buck offers the dispatcher a high five. Once she accepts, he takes her hand, holds it close to examine it, and laughs when she questions what he's doing. Later, he would explain that he was checking to see if her hands were shaking like his did on his first calls as a firefighter.

It's a simple gesture but he doesn't go beyond that, letting her go after she questions him and sticking his hands back in his pockets.

That doesn't stop him from letting their shoulders bump together as they walk.

They're still in this pre-relationship territory that Buck established. Her mother is home, safe, and they're happy, but he still keeps his distance. Abby is the one to close the space and initiate the hug, not that Buck minded. He likes her. He admitted that when he set the boundary. It's why he set the boundary.

Once their hands break away, he shoves them back in his pockets and says goodbye with a quick wave. The boundary is still there, but it is diminished slightly.

On par with building this relationship before it gets too physical, Buck invites Abby to Chim's Welcome Back party to meet the team and ask her on a date.

Aside from the initial hug she initiates, there's no physical contact, even after she says yes. (Granted, they were running out to answer a call.)

When Buck nearly unalives himself after choking on bread, Abby saves him and offers him a hand for comfort, which he takes.

And my interpretation could be wrong but with all of the contact Abby initiates, it seems to only be after Buck does something big for her. Which might actually reflect how surface level their relationship was in her mind. Yes, he is important because he was with her throughout these major moments in her life, but she doesn't actually like him like him. And I say this because she offered her hand to comfort him in the moment, but she doesn't hold it while he's in the hospital bed.

She is shown to be the one consistently initiating contact, but she didn't once the danger had passed. She just sat by him. Again, she cares for him, but at a surface level. She doesn't love him.

This is different for Buck because he really does like her. He wants to be in her space. He let's himself take that next step forward with her permission. He is so smitten with her and she is enjoying every bit of the affection, even if she doesn't entirely return it.

(This is turning into a character analysis post more than focusing on the physical affection. As you can see below, Abby initiates the hug. Buck holds out his arm, allowing Abby to decide whether to take it. Abby kisses him goodbye. Their conversation at the table shows Buck with his arm stretched out over the table, making it available for her to grab at any point through the serious discussion. She eventually puts both hands out to touch him before leaning in for a kiss. Basically, again, no direct initiative from Buck. Just opportunity.)

This doesn't make her heartless. She does show genuine remorse when she has to cancel their hot air balloon ride to help her mother. There are a lot of conflicting things in her life demanding her attention, and she can't sacrifice them just for Buck. Even if she thinks he's sweet, kind, and fun.

With some advice from Bobby, he tells her he's all in with this grandiose, heartfelt speech. And she appreciates that, expressing it with a kiss, but again, it feels surface level. Like he's more invested in making them work than her.

This moment could be seen as him giving comfort without permission but I consider it a rollover from her asking for comfort at the funeral. There, she had walked over and reached out, asking for the hug, and he gave it to her. She is very much still in the mindset she was at the funeral as she finishes moving her mother's things out of her dining room. It is very much a second funeral, and Buck takes her breakdown as permission to continue the comfort she asked for before.

Finally, she decides to leave.

(Disclaimer: I know this was a post about physical affection but now I'm just gonna rant about Abby and her treatment of Buck. Fair warning.)

In this scene, Abby says, "I must be crazy to be leaving you behind." Because she knows how much Buck loves her and cherishes their relationship. How devoted he is to her.

She is not obligated to love Buck back in any way. Relationships working isn't a guarantee when you first start out, and they are a fairly new relationship. The reason she is a terrible person from this scene on, is because Buck says, "I'm gonna be right here when you come back, ok?"

And she says nothing. She lets him carry on, tells him to take care of himself, and kisses him goodbye.

She does not end things. She does not ask for a break. She knows he is going to wait for her, even when her feelings don't run as deep, and just lets him suffer.

She strings him along for months. Buck talks about their dwindling phone calls. How detached he feels from her, but how he's enduring it all to support her while she tries to find herself.

She saw Buck as a safety net. Something to fall back on if everything else didn't work out. Which, clearly, it did as she returned at the end of season 3 (roughly two years later) with a fiance. Never telling him they were done personally, just assuming he moved on. How inconsiderate and evil for someone to do that when she knew exactly how loyal of a man Buck was.

Buck is the one who had to break and give up, rather than her just letting him go. That selfish entitlement is exactly why I raged at her lack of shame when talking to Buck on that bench.

She apologized for him "finding out like that", that she wanted to tell him about Sam and "everything" while she was in town.

He called her out for leaving him at the airport while she had no intention of coming back. Well, "I thought I would." But does that include all the other places he mentioned her visiting before that? She never said when she knew. Just that it didn't start that way.

Then she went into her own issues with her work, her mother, her sense of self. Completely bypassing what she put Buck through like Buck wasn't right there with her. Like he didn't know all of that. Like that wasn't specifically what they talked about at the airport.

And he called her out for that, too! She said being away helped her remember who she used to be. And he says "But you still didn't come home." LIKE SHE IMPLIED SHE WOULD.

To paraphrase, her excuse is "I was afraid that being here, being with you in this city, I would lose myself again" and that is completely understandable. BUT THAT ISN'T THE POINT.

That is a completely justifiable cause for her to never come back to LA. That is in no way, shape, or form a reason to lead Buck on. To drag his hopes through the mud for MONTHS with increasingly decreasing contact. To never say directly to him "I think we should end things."

No, she missed the entire fucking point because, again, she never really loved him. Her reasoning centers around her, how she missed him and wanted to see him, and his feelings don't even f***ing register in her brain. God dammit. She makes me so mad.

This is why I had to dedicate a whole post to her.

TLDR : While Buck loved Abby, his basis for physical affection didn't waver. (Possibly because Abby didn't love him back and never recognized the permission he needed to establish that kind of relationship.) I can examine his later relationships (Ali, Veronica, and Taylor) if you want but I thought Abby was the most prominent and definitely the most scarring. So.

I think I'm gonna do one for Shannon and Eddie, too. Maybe. Definitely thinking about one just between Buck and Eddie. It helps if I know people are actually reading these, so, do with that info what you will hahaha.

Thank you for coming to my TedTalk.

[lovelyfinch]

i started rewatching parts of 911 and oh my god i forgot how much i absolutely hate abby

i just cannot stand her and her and bucks relationship, cannot stand it at all

[tommykinrd]

rules: link your favourite and/or most popular post from each month this last year & tag some ccs you love! thank you @eddiediaaz and @moirainesedai for the tag!! <3

— January — most popular: buck + perfect favourite: buckabby and eddieshannon + wildfire

— February — most popular/favourite: buddie + out of the woods

— March — most popular: buddie + 6x10 quote favourite: buddie + follow you, buck + anti-hero

— April — most popular: buck and ravi parallel favourite: buddie + emergency contact, buck + camisado

— May — most popular: buddie pre-cannon timeline favourite: buddie + reputation

— June — most popular: sense8 + pantone colours favourite: buddie + waves, yellowjackets + the sharpest lives

— July — most popular: eddie + better than revenge favourite: buck + you're losing me, buddie + electric touch

— August — most popular: henry + rwrb quote favourite: ineffable husbands + false god, ineffable husbands + would've could've should've

— September — most popular: ineffable bureaucracy + favorite record favourite: buddie playlist

— October — most popular: buddie + do more parallel favourite: bobby + call your mom, buck + avalanche

— November — most popular: buddie + wide awake

tagging @tawaifeddiediaz @disasterdiaz @jdeanmorgan @laurabenanti @singularities @captain-hen @nymika-arts @miserykites @icarusbuck @deareddie @rewritetheending @henswilsons @jakeperalta @buckhelped @stationoneeighteen and anyone else who wants to do this!

[burnthatbridge]

you tell me not to worry, i’m the only thing you see; well, yeah, i fucking better be

[bobbiamorse]

creator tag game

I was tagged by @katebishps who also originated this game, thanks Hella! :)

rules: pick your 5 favourite gifsets of 2021 that got less than 1000 notes and then pick 10 gifsets of someone else’s from 2021 that got less than 1000 notes (its really easy to see note counts and lots of posts in the archive page)

all of my gifs got less than 1000 notes, so this is just my five favorite gifsets of the year :)

anti everything (philinda)

good things come in threes (bobbi, hunter, and mack) (via aosedit)

i love you the most (huntingbird)

parting shot (aos team)

sos parts 1 and 2 (aos team) (via aosedit)

and others’:

#besties (hunter and mack) by @elizabeth-henstridge (via aosedit)

#disasterteam (daisy and hunter and mack) by @dearemma​

and if the devil was to see you (sharon carter) by @katebishps

bobbi morse in the hen in the wolf house by @cindylouwhos (via marvelladiesdaily)

full moon (buckabby) by @madsbuckley

ivy (huntingbird) by @swanthief

let it hurt let it bleed let it heal let it go (daisy) by @monae

the bellweather unit by @lilapittss

they’ve got red in their ledger (aos team) by @benoitblanc

this is not the end of a love story (huntingbird) by @katherineebishop

There were so many other amazing sets that it was so hard to choose!!! Tagging everyone above as well as anyone else who sees this and would like to spread the love <3

[canonicallyobserving911]

Buck & Eddie: The couch in Buck’s coma dream

The couch Buck, Philip and Daniel sat on in Buck’s loft in 6x11 “In Another Life” during his coma dream was white and the color was significant for two reasons. First, his mother picked it out and she admitted it to him during his coma dream when he asked her about the Ferris Wheel.  He said, “What’s this?” and she responded “No idea. It doesn’t go with anything else I picked out.”  Then after he finished having a brief flashback of the Tsunami, she said, “If you like it... I love it.”  Therefore, Margaret picked out every piece of furniture that was in Buck’s loft during his coma dream including the couch but SHE DIDN’T PICK THE FERRIS WHEEL (detailed post about the Ferris Wheel here).  Margaret picking the couch for him is synonymous with Buck’s comment to Eddie in 6x1 “Let the Games Begin” about the way he didn’t pick his last two couches since they were picked out by his ex-girlfriends (AM & TK).

Second, every time a white couch was shown throughout the seasons, it was temporary or it was used as a metaphor and foreshadowing for Buck’s and Eddie’s relationships with AC for Buck and AF for Eddie (explained in the Couch meta linked here).  Those relationships were temporary and they were never meant to last and neither of them did but five years later and Buck and Eddie are still on their journey to FOREVER.

Even Maddie’s white couch in 2x6 “Dosed” that Buck and Eddie moved into her new apartment was temporary because she eventually moved in with Chimney.  

The couch Chimney and Maddie had in their apartment was light grey or beige (shown above in 4x4 “9-1-1 What’s Your Grievance?" and it was still in their apartment in 6x1).

While the couch in their new home as shown in 6x10 “In a Flash” is NAVY BLUE (the same color as Eddie’s couch but it’s a different style and made from a different fabric)!

The color of the couch in Buck’s coma dream is significant because it represents the temporariness of it being there the same way the couch Margaret bought for him after he was discharged from the hospital is temporary.

The most interesting thing about the couch Margaret purchased for him in CANON is it was never shown up close.

Even when Buck tried to sleep on it, the couch could barely be seen.  

It’s the same color as his armchair but IT’S NOT RIGHT FOR HIM the same way the couch Buck bought when he moved into the loft in 2x18 “This Life We Choose” while he was dating AM wasn’t right and TK’s couch wasn’t right for him in 5x13 “Fear-O-Phobia” and that’s why he couldn’t sleep on it.

Eddie’s couch is the only couch that fits the relationship metaphor and that has been FORESHADOWED multiple times.  He’s slept on it many times including 4x14 “Survivors” after Eddie was shot and again in 6x12 “Recovery” after he went over there and fell asleep on it.

The point is Buck has to pick his own couch/relationship and the only couch/relationship that fits is EDDIE! That’s it and that’s the metaphor.  If the narrative continues, there aren’t any other options for him.

Could the narrative change, ABSOLUTELY.  Will it?  Only the showrunner(s), writers and producers know the answer to that question.

GIFs, 6x12, 1x10, 2x7, 4x8, 2x6, 6x11, 4x14, 5x14, 6x9, 6x12

[matan4il]

Another amazing meta. 💙❤️ Every time I feel doubt creeping in on whether buddie will go canon, I head to your meta to remind myself that it'll be a crime not to follow through.

And this week's was... wow. So much happened in only a handful of scenes. That "solid ground" line from Bobby. The second I saw the GIFs for it I instantly thought there's another Buddie/Bathena parallel.

But the moment that really got me was Eddie return to the couch with beers only to find Buck asleep. It reminded me of the trope where the couple who haven't seen each other for a while, are all set to get jiggy, one goes to the bathroom and comes back to their partner sparko on the bed and sighs. So when you said it's the most naked they could be without removing their clothes, I understood you completely.

I honestly looking forward to the rest of the season, especially their date night. ☺️

Hello, my darling! Thank you SO MUCH for the kind words about my 612 meta! :D I'm so happy that you liked it. And honestly, every aspect of Bathena in this ep (though that "solid ground" line was probably the highlight) screamed that they're paralleled with Buddie. It was stunning!

YES! Hon, that is exactly it. Because whenever that trope happens, we're not meant to read it as "these two aren't interested in each other," we're meant to understand that they have reached THOSE levels of domesticity, of comfort. And that's what we see with Buddie in this ep.

I'm very much looking forward to their date night as well! I still can't believe no one else posted this spoilers pic of their poker night before I did. I was so sure I couldn't be the first one, it's why I phrased it as a question... But it makes me so happy the entire fandom went crazy over it, 'coz yeah, same! That poker game scene is gonna DELIVER. I just know it.

If it's okay, since you sent me a second ask and I'm falling behind, I might answer it here too, if it's alright with you?

Omg that anon just made me realize that it's not just the couch Buck hasn't really picked. So he was living with friends (frat house as the anon called it), then Abby's apartment, and then he chose the loft with Ally, obviously expecting it to be there home (and I may be misremembering but wasn't it her choice). I can't believe I never realized that.

I don't hate the loft either, and your right, it fits his bachelor lifestyle. It definitely feels like a bachelor pad, but now I can't get over the fact he didn't choose it alone, for himself.

This is in continuation to the anon asking about the loft. You're both absolutely right! From the way Buck and Ali interact with the sales lady, it's clear that Ali HAS a lot of say, and that she saw Buck's loft as the place that would be her other home. Did she have the final say? We don't know. But at the end of the day, the way he presents it is that this would be the first place he gets on his own.

So IDK, I'm still mostly positive about the loft. Did he choose alone? No. 'Coz he did have a gf he was committed to, and even if they weren't at the stage of fully living together, they were on the road there (a bit similar to how we saw Taylor in his loft in 5a, TBH. And yes, that very much strengthens the similarity to how he didn't choose the couch). But he was so enthused about being "an adult" who supports himself and is paying for his place on his own. I can't overlook that. And much like the whole idea of how a journey through the wrong r/s is needed in order to find the right one, that's how I kind of feel about the loft. It's not Buck's ultimate destination (that's Eddie's house), but it is an important step on the way there...

Thank you, darling! Hope you have a beautiful day! As always, here's my ask tag. xoxox

[canonicallyobserving911]

Buck & Eddie: Underrated scene # 1 of ∞

In 2x13 “Fight or Flight” Buck was completely distraught after Doug stabbed Chimney and took Maddie without a trace. Maddie is his sister and she’s one of only two people who can comfort him when he’s spiraling and the other person is Eddie.  After Eddie arrived at the hospital he found Buck almost immediately and he stayed with him until Athena told Buck “Let’s go, the car’s out front”.

It’s important to note some of the reasons why this scene can be considered “underrated”.  First, Buck was in a relationship with Ali but she wasn’t there when he needed someone to comfort him. It would have been easy for the show to have her be present and offer him the comfort he needed while his sister was in distress but a DECISION was made and it was VERY LOUD.  Second, when Buck found Chimney lying on the ground, he had just made it home and based on the way he was dressed, a nice button-down shirt with a pair of slacks, he obviously hadn’t been at work. It looked like he was returning home after having been on a date.  If he was on a date with Ali, why didn’t she show up at the hospital?  Third, after Shannon arrived with Christopher and pizza for the team, she said she didn’t bring enough but Eddie told her (without looking at her) that she brought everything he needed while he continued looking at Christopher. Then he told her she could leave if she had something else to do but after she explained how she wanted to be there with him, the look he gave her was VERY LOUD too!  He wasn’t shown thanking her for coming but he was shown rubbing his forehead the way he does whenever he’s stressed out.

Ali’s absence and Eddie’s indifference regarding whether Shannon stayed or left was also LOUD.  It seemed like they both wanted to keep their significant others away from each other and away from their found family.  Reminder, Abby went to the firehouse in season 1 but Ali was never shown there, actually she was only in four episodes and two of them where during the earthquake before she and Buck started dating.  She was in 2x8 “Buck Actually” after she asked him out and she was in 2x18 “This Life We Choose” before and after the ladder truck explosion but she broke up with him after he was discharged from the hospital.  The only reason why she knew Eddie was because he and Buck were the two who rescued her during the earthquake and Buck called her Abby during the rescue 👀👀.  Also, the only time Shannon went to the firehouse was when she showed up unannounced in 2x10 “Merry Ex-mas” when she asked Eddie in front of Buck and Chimney when he was going to let her see Christopher.  Then she blabbed all of their business about them sleeping together again.  Her unannounced visit should seem familiar because Ana did the same thing to Eddie in 5x2 “Desperate Times” and everyone knows how Buck completely ignored her during that visit and the way Eddie had a panic attack while they were all standing there with Ravi 👀👀.

It appears decisions and choices were made to illustrate the importance Buck and Eddie have in each other’s lives and it’s continued for the past four and a half years.  Buck listens to Eddie and Eddie takes care of Buck and that’s the way it’s been since they pulled a grenade out of Charlie’s leg in 2x1 “Under Pressure”.  Will they be allowed to be there for each other in 6B or will they continue to be kept away from each other the way they were for the majority of 6A?  Only the showrunner(s), writers and producers know the answer to that question.

GIFs 2x13 “Fight or Flight”

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Buck & Eddie: Eddie takes care of Buck

Even though Buck has previously been in romantic relationships, Eddie his proven to be the only person who knows how to take care of him emotionally, mentally and physically.  He's comforted Buck many times over the past few years and the truth is he's probably the only one who can.  The nature of Eddie and Buck's relationship is built on trust which allows them to share a deep level of intimacy that couldn't be experienced with either of their romantic love interests.

Examples of those who didn't support Buck

1.  Abby abandoned him after he choked on a piece of bread while he was on a date with her and he ended up being hospitalized in 1x6 "Heartbreaker". She looked disgusted at the thought of having to take care of him while she sat in his hospital room. When Bobby arrived he saw the look on her face and said, "I can stay with him if you want to leave" (foreshadowing for when she actually did leave him in 1x10 "A Whole New You").

2.  Ali abandoned Buck too, right after his leg got crushed by a ladder truck in 2x18 "This Life We Choose".  She said it was due to his job but he told her that's what he was doing when they met.

3. Taylor's number one priority was and always will be her job.  Since they really didn't know each other, the three times he needed comfort, she wasn't able to provide it. In 5x4 "Home and Away" after Chimney punched Buck, he called Eddie for emotional and physical support. The advice or emotional support she tried to provide to Buck in 5x5 "Peer Pressure" only confused him because he couldn't relate to it.  Finally in 5x6 "Brawl in Cell Block 9-1-1" when Buck returned to his loft after being injured, he rejected her advances to physically comfort him.

Buck had an unusually difficult childhood due to his trifling parents and the reason they decided to conceive him.  He has always exhibited a need for validation and to have people like and accept him.  He wears his heart on his sleeve and he genuinely wants to help others.  While he usually appears to be a strong firefighter, he's constantly filled with self-doubt and self-worth issues. He willingly sacrifices his own safety for victims when they are in danger.  That's why he should be in a relationship with someone (Eddie) who not only knows him, they also need to be able to support and understand him.

Examples of Eddie supporting Buck

2x1 "Under Pressure" Eddie complimented Buck regarding his ability to help him remove a live grenade from a victim's leg while in the back of an ambulance.

3x1 "Kids Today" Eddie offered Buck mental support by checking on him after he quit his job due to an embolism.  He brought Christopher to Buck's loft so that Buck could spend the day with him.  He wanted Buck to stop feeling sorry for himself and to stop being depressed.

3x3 "The Searchers" After the Tsunami, Buck was mentally struggling after he and Christopher got separated.  Eddie brought Christopher back to Buck so that he could care for him as a way to prove that he still trusted him.  Buck thought he failed them but Eddie reassured him by saying, "There's no one in this world I trust with my son more than you".

3x18 "What's Next?" Eddie asked Buck "Are you ok?" after Buck saw Abby leaving with her new fiancée.  He offered Buck the emotional support he needed.

4x4 "9-1-1 What's Your Grievance" Eddie emotionally supported Buck while his trifling parents were in L.A.  He told Buck it was ok to feel upset especially if his parents caused him to feel that way.  He said "Did you say anything that wasn't true?" Buck said "No!". Then Eddie said "Then what do you have to apologize for?".

4x13 "Suspicion" Even though Eddie was physically hurt after he got shot, his main concern was if Buck was hurt.  He asked him, "Are you hurt?" while Buck was trying to stop Eddie's shoulder from bleeding. 

4x14 "Survivors" After Buck visited Eddie in the hospital and said, "I think it would have been better for him if I was the one who got shot", Eddie immediately devised a plan to stop him from spiraling.  When Buck came to pick him up when he was going to be discharged, he told Buck about the will.  He said "No one will ever fight for my son as hard as you and that's what I want for him".

5x4 "Home and Away" Buck called Eddie after Chimney punched him; therefore Eddie was able to provide him with emotional, mental and physical support.  He allowed Buck to share his side of the incident and offered him sound advice on how to handle it. He said, "You're the guy who likes to fix things. But sometimes things don't need to be fixed".

5x18 "Starting Over" Eddie emotionally and mentally supported Buck by offering sound advice regarding Buck's need to end his toxic relationship with Taylor. He also provided a therapeutic perspective on Bobby's rising guilt over the Jonah situation.

Whenever Buck needed to be comforted by any of his previous love interests, they abandoned him and didn't know him well enough to provide any of the types of support that Eddie effortlessly provides to Buck.  Eddie truly knows Buck which means he can offer support from every aspect to help Buck feel valuable and worthy.  He also listens to Buck and remains interested whenever he rambles about random facts which helps him to feel seen and heard.  Eddie's ability to comfort Buck is one of the many reasons why they are perfect together as work and life partners.