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[westwing1997]

Attachment Styles of The West Wing Characters- Amature Take

***Spoilers!***

CJ- Dismissive Avoidant

Not completly sure, but she seems like someone who is always caught up in her work and uses it as an excuse to not open up to new relationships, despite really wanting to have one. It is very hard for her to be emotionally vulnerable with Danny and then persues Simon because he is professionally unavailable. "I'm good at working Danny, I'm not good at this!"

Sam- Secure

Despite Sam's anxious ways, he seems very balanced in his view on relationships even if things don't work out for him and he has good self esteem.

Toby- Dismissive Avoidant

He is similar to CJ who involves himself in his work but also wants to have a relationship with Andy. She has her own problems as well. Toby seems to be more aware of his dismissiveness than CJ and works hard to be secure in his life in the later seasons.

Leo- Disorganized

Leo has both dismissive avoidant and anxious avoidant traits. He wants to make sure the people who he cares about stay with him, but also is very dismissive avoidant towards his wife. He wants to take his attorney out on a date immediately and then pulls away later.

Josh- Dismissive Avoidant

Josh is the typical workaholic who doesn't know how to get close to people or pick up on cues that people like Donna like him. But he does go after Amy and Mandy, but they were never that serious.

Donna- Secure?

She is a tough one. I see her as being the most well adjusted characters on the show who knows her boundaries and what she wants.

Jed- Secure?

Also a hard one. He seems secure but I could also see him as dismissive avoidant because he does what he wants with his life without always consulting Abbey, who has to keep reminding him they're a team.

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[kevin-for-what-ails-ya]

13.

Do you get jealous easily?

I used to. I have a more mature approach to fidelity now. As in, people are going to cheat, and it’s better to accept that and give your lovers the freedom to do that when they feel they must, openly and without jealousy. For instance, if my lady was all worked up about the hot barista at her Starbucks and wanted to fuck him, she can go ahead. She can take photos with his dick in her mouth and show them to me. In fact, she can fuck him right in from front of me if she wants. The important thing is that I am not being betrayed emotionally. Most affairs are just, in essence, masturbation. I’m not going to get upset at my lady for masturbating. Now, if she is going out every night and leaving me at home alone, that is a different story. Stepping out once in a while is not the same as making a habit out of it.

It’s a tricky balance, but I think that for any relationship to work, complete honesty must be achieved, and that includes seeking out permission to “cheat”, which is not cheating, actually, when your partner knows about it and approves. Love is honesty, and it doesn’t work any other way.

I will try this with the next relationship I get into, though there will of course be bumps along the way.

[paprofessor]

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