#because those of us who actually have dissociative disorders dont want to AND CANNOT talk about it in the publ8c because of stigma

[fenmere]

Sup! an ask about DID diagnosis: how is it ableist, and you've chosen not to go for it?

I dont think it can't be ableist and troublish, but i just want to know how exactly, to understand problems of systems better.

OK, thank you so much for asking! So.

The most direct and immediate problem we've run into regarding a DID diagnosis is that in both the U.S. and U.K. (and likely in other countries), it can be used to legally remove your rights as a human being. It can be used in court as evidence that you cannot give informed consent, which can be used to deny you access to medical care, custody of children, or even to force you into a conservatorship, among other dangers.

We are transgender. We were figuring out our plurality just between having been granted HRT and trying to get our surgery lined up. Our therapist was very worried for us, when we started talking about our amnesia, blackouts, and changes in personality, even though we were all in agreement that we needed transitional healthcare.

She resisted giving us a diagnosis of DID because it could potentially halt our transition. And we were able to demonstrate to her satisfaction that we had effectively integrated (not through final fusion, but through cooperation). So we both agreed to forgo that diagnosis.

We were lucky we got such a good counselor.

That's one way in which DID is ableist. The diagnosis can be used to deny patients of things they desperately need, or that they should have the right to access regardless.

The other way is how the diagnosis is conceptualized as a disorder to begin with.

It's maybe getting better as medical academia is getting a better understanding of it, but the original diagnosis of DID is a step back from Multiple Personality Disorder.

Part of the whole purpose of replacing MPD with DID was to deny the autonomy of alters and system members, and to refer to them as "dissociative identity states" rather than people. Which is not how most pluralities experience themselves.

But also, just at the very basis of it, both MPD and DID have been classified, studied, and defined almost solely by singlets. Not pluralities. Not people who are actually experiencing these things. So the diagnosis is rife with misunderstandings, mischaracterizations, and bad assumptions.

And it's all based on the assumption that being a singlet is the default, healthy state of a human being, and that deviation from being a singlet is somehow disordered and wrong and needs to be fixed.

Sure, if someone experiences genuine distress at being plural, they should be able to seek help regarding it. And there is now language in the diagnosis to accommodate some of those who are not distressed by it. But it was originally rooted in that saneism, and most clinical professionals still exhibit it, and prove themselves to be dangerous to their patients and their patients' human rights.

[faesystem]

Quite a long post as this is a mixture of my and Fearne's thoughts. Fae wrote the part under the -, but asked for me to reword what fae meant to be clearer.

When it comes to the discussion of CDDs and certain alters being disabled in ways the rest of the system is not, people often times do not acknowledge that it is the CDD itself that is playing a major role in that disability.

Fearne struggles with the ability to communicate. The rest of the system is able to far easier and clearer than fae is able to. While it is likely being autistic plays a part in this, it is the dissociative barriers that are what inhibits faer from accessing the skills the rest of the system have.

Fae believes that it is important to acknowledge the fact that it is the CDD itself that is disabling. For example, in the instance of alters who cannot speak in a verbal system, it is not being nonverbal that is the culprit behind that disabling symptom, it is having a CDD. Fae believes it is important to recognise that, both to ensure that those who are actually nonverbal are not spoken over, but also because it is a disabling symptom of a disorder that should be acknowledged and spoken about.

As an alter in a system who is disabled in ways others are not, fae wishes to open up the conversation about how that is a real thing that pwCDDs experience. Not because they have disabilities the body does not, but because they have CDDs.

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since the topic of 'nonverbal' alters in systems have come up, i wanted to talk about how i dont really see people talk about how cdds can be disabling because certain alters cant do stuff the others can.

im one of our hosts now. and i struggle to communicate a lot. and this is partially because of our autism symptoms pretend as me as an alter, but its the DID that makes me unable to access the skills the rest of us have. like. the others know what they feel better than i do, and can describe it. i dont know if im sad or angry about a certain person in our life, i just know i want to hit them with a car. and i cant explain why. because i also dont want to. but the fact that i dont want to makes me want to hit them with a car even more. which. is confusing.

and i struggle to put words together. typing these things is taking so long, so much longer than when someone else in our system does it. every single word is an effort, and putting it together is hard. but im not able to be coherent at all really went verbally trying to say it, so. i dont know.

i just think that we should talk about it more.

[himbos-hotline]

Explain your bio cause there’s so much going on there

I cannot tell if this is positive or negative, if its negative i dont get why. my blog is my house and google is free if its positive and someones genuinely confused lets go bit by bit! I made it on a google slide since its easier [im soryr if this comes off as rude, I dont mean it that way im just overwhelmed/sleepy] [ive been awake since just before 5am<- just over 14 hours]

Image description/ text for screen readers [I dont know if ive done this right] [this is also gonna add extra info and things I couldnt fit on said google slide. Sorry]

[A screenshot of a google slides explaining what is on my account. The background colour is a gradient of light blue to a dark-ish greeny blue. In the middle is a screenshot of my tumblr bio: That has a soft grey-blue background with gold text. At the top of the tumblr bio it reads: He could make me golden in dyslexia friendly font. Surrounding it and pointing towards the smaller text below is multiple arrows in a brighter, cleaner blue. Following those arrows points towards various text boxes written in white which read, following left from right:

ʚ♡ɞ || 22 -> The text simply reads "Age/ system tag"

Extra info: my age/the tag we use as a system. We are a system due to our dissociative identity disorder or DID, we're traumatised, before anyone asks. No you cannot know our trauma.

18+ -> The text reads "Who I would like to follow me followed by in brackets [Im an adult. I dont want minors following me and then getting pissy if they see smut]

Extra Info: I am an adult, I am twenty two. I do not want anyone under the age of 18 following me because occasionally I write/talk about topics such as sex or kinks because thats not meant for them, clearly and understandably. What I post on MY tumblr is for me and my mutuals to reblog, this is my house and if I get hate anons over it. You will be blocked

host of the paradox system [Sp: WrestlingTragerdy]: The text reads "system role/system name/simply plural]

Extra info: we collectively are known as the paradox system. A refrence to our special interest in In space with Markiplier. I am the host which basically means that I am the "main guy" although a lot of other alters use my account to reblog things they like [hence sometimes posts will be tagged with a name and emoji and "the paradox system"] Sp is simply plural, an app used in link with pluralkit as a way to track front history and other system things, That is the name we use there and yeah its purposely spelt wrong

Chuck Taylors husband -> the text is simply "self explantory" and is highlighted in white and the text is grey because I pressed the wrong button

Extra info: I dont really know what to say. thats my source, where I come from. we were married..he's my wife, my husband. I talk about him frequently that you can find either under the tag "source memories" or "🧇🐭" on my account.

Trans masc aroace -> the text is in white and simply reads "gender/sexuality"

Extra info: I do not know my gender label, I use things like genderfaun/demi boy but I simply just say im a trans man because that seems easier to say and doesnt require more questions. I am also asexual and aromantic, shortened to aroace. I am not interested in sex or romance and am sex replused to sex netural [I love writing smut and stuff like that but I hate the idea of it actually happening to me] and I guess I have very little romantic feelings...hence aromantic. no that doesnt affect that me and chuckie are married/are in love.

Dyslexic writer -> the text reads " "role" in fandom"

extra info: I write. A lot but it takes me longer and I make more noticeable mistakes in things like asks/posts that I might not see. I have a post about being dyslexic and writing fanfic somewhere on account if I find it Ill tag it [yknow tumblrs search feature]

Requests open -> the text reads "if my ask box is open to requests" and the following text "writing//moodboards/gifs" is gray text and highlighted white because again, I am an idiot]

extra info: you can find my writing at #mouse writes or at Kentucky_himbo on AO3, my gifs and moodboards are under # mouse makes gifs now and #mouse makes moodboards respectfully

Local dumb puppy: the text reads "i puppy regresser"

extra info: I dont think there is one...I just, regress as a puppy but I havent really felt safe enough too rn

[swagging-back-to]

real talk,

the online resources for people with osdd and did are trash because it's overrun with tiktok teens and 20 yos who think them wanting to be an anime character, or their ocs, is them having a crippling and completely debilitating mental disorder caused by *severe* trauma before the age of 7 (oh and at the same time they dont even believe did develops because of trauma!)

[benchgenderstudies]

Busting Dr Cynthia Buliks Injurious Revisionism of Anorexia and Eating Disorders.

By Michael Bench, MEP, WGSGC

1.Can you tell who has eating disorders?

Cynthia says “no”.

Actual Answer: Yes.

Starvation effects are observable and anorexia is cosmetic starvation. Those females with an early eating disorder (EDNOS) or using Anorexic behaviors should be addressed and reported to school staff or counseling for their safety; Crash Dieting is disordered eating even if not a diagnosis and is part of a larger social problem of aversions to patient and honest physical conditioning. Crash diets are the tools of lushes. The very lushes that publish female targeted media promoting cleanses and ‘quick fix tips’.  Medical and health advice, if from a document, should only come from academic journals. 

2.Are mothers to blame:

Cynthia says no.

Actual Answer: Often

Mothers who have seasonal weight control efforts and use crash diets to cheat their way to a 'beach body” are modeling disordered eating. Crash diets are disordered eating. Mothers involved with pageants have also been known to use other methods like infecting their daughters with tapeworms to reach a desired thinness.

3.Are families to blame?

Cynthia says no.

Actual Answer:Yes.Situationally.

Involvement with sport, social or classist activities that prioritize gender roles before sport itself is a complicity to eating disorders and body dysmorphia. A parent who willingly lets an industry or coach alter her child’s course of physical maturity is actively neglecting their child no matter what the presumed benefits.  Families also normalize some seasonal classism, poor nutritional behavior, and poor communication that can be seen in children using anorexic trope behavior and insincere-suicidal attention getting. Mothers who believe their daughters should be paying attention to female targeted fashion media and other retail or pop culture are poorly guarding their children.

4.Is society to Blame? (Far too general. Go home Cynthia.)

Actual Answers: Media is to blame partly in that it protects its advertisers exploitation and revisionism of need/want psychology. Media also forwards health talking points for the unhealthy. The term “weight control” for example is an index case of tolerating a slothful deviant-leisure society who cheat their way to “good looks” simply for summer exhibition. Then they return indoors for winter with their indoor sloth and lazy nutritional rituals.

Coaching & Fashion: Females are not males. Training them as males or believing diet is a form of genetic engineering is magical thinking that can injure the athletes. Instead, minimum ages in sport should be raised so children in gymnastics ,for example, are not used as carnival acts. Lacking a period, a females maturity/fill out has not been “stalled”. She is amenorrheic whether with or without a visible menarche; an event itself that’s been postponed. Females cannot sustain low BMI male thinness to appear his heterosexual-binary-other. In fashion , the binary roles are actually the same , only at smaller emaciated sizes and not androgynous as reported. Fashionistas who take their model's health for granted as an act of 'luxury artification” are long guilty of endangering her health/assault , among other violations like complicit child trafficking  (Set aside whether the female volunteers the risk, the runway’s terms are decided by the foolish and nihilist cosmosexuals having very little competence about human physiology. Respecting ‘who we are” ,eh?) Females normalizing anorexic/disordered eating as a justification of their (model) career or fame are themselves a microphone for social blame. 

5.Are Anorexia and Eating disorders a White race problem/Female problem.

Actual Answer: Yes.

The democratization of Western and American market views of ideal beauty and ideal sexuality has not changed the core source of toxic constructions of binary gender. The manipulation of the female body to conform to eras if disinformation and beauty trends, ie Gibson girl and the Heroin Chic waif, show that 'disordered eating' and its long term effects are practiced as luxury fads. Actual mental disorders escalated to Anorexia Nervosa or Bulimia Nervosa stem from European and South Asian religio-social pacts of personal virtue(Breatherism/Inedia). Ever since the first London and American reports of Inedia or fad fasting the practicioners lied about how little they ate. Anorexia, breatherism and inedia have always been appropriate religious rituals used by desperate zealots for attention.. The vulnerability to this sort of radicalization around fasting links to psychological vulnerability and distortions of their self  (a specific form narcissistic personality disorder)

6. Consider the remainder of her list debunked.>>(will add the rest later)

>>Anorexia is NOT A CASH COW.

If researchers want to do genomics research, have at.   Anorexia itself has provably been found occurring as fads. If the 'formal' uppity journal community don’t have the courage to admit mental illness can be market caused and that the external sphere of society can be toxic..  it is their own failure to confront it and demand regulation. Gibson Girl, Heroin Chic, and proana ‘lifestyle’, are fads whose females are too often seen as ‘victims’ of a male privilege error rather instead their own stubborn choices and long term effects there of : I reject the notion Anorexia should be tolerated as a go-to for researchers that simply need grant money and repudiate those that attempted to distract its identity. The democratization of Anorexia as ‘everyone’s disease’ leads me to be highly suspicious of Buliks motivations as a professional  and what diet/pharm companies are handing her NCEEDUS checks. 

“ Aye , I hear you was gonna go on a crash diet. You dont wanna be one of those wanna bes..  A real crash diet , ya cut your own brake cables , go for a drive on elevated roads and see how many cliffs you can climb back up from.”

What is Anorexia Nervosa:

Behaviors of Disordered Eating are not themselves the source of the problem. All persons using crash diet and anorexic symptom behaviors however should be considered ‘eating disordered”.  Anorexic behaviors are actions of solving a problem the subject appears to suffer even if originally having a healthy proportioned body.  Current research suggests that between 3-10 exposures to any message makes an audience more willing to oblige and 'know' its message. This also means a female convinced that eternal youth is where she must rest her physical body to be beautiful is not technically a mental disorder yet. In the struggle to keep her body looking prepubescent the damages of malnutrition and gray matter deterioration lead to distortions of thought. These distortions then create  new symptoms, unoriginal symptoms that are signs of a narcissistic depression and helplessness.

Starting at that point for internal pathology....

If Anorexia is a mental illness aside from market learning then it must be recognized a problem of extreme dissatisfaction with the self that has escalated.  Anorexia Nervosa , or the most extreme form of cosmetic starvation is then to be recognized : A narcissistic depression formed from the conflict or inability to adapt to adolescent body changes. Social messages denouncing the mature female body and independence may solidify these formerly inert cautions. Further, body changes of the teen are used by marketers to embarrass and humiliate the teen for imperfections; a classic 'witch hunt' scenario of threatening the girl with being burnt at the stake for not being a sexual object. The anorexic is faced with that environment daily; an environment where she has no choice to identify as an adolescent among peers and media , whether she’s ready to adapt or not. There is a clear ‘at adolescence trigger” that points to an adaptation difficulty in a soup of marketing that denounces the aged female as roast beef, spent, junk in the trunk and other negativity. The Youngest females.. healthy or by pathology would have a difficult time concluding what is good about being female when the unhealthy deposition of fat at the waist and hips is normal for her maturity.  That is mainly due to problems in the fitness community media leaving no appreciation for fitness itself. Magazine imagery is purely body sculpted or body building.. actual athletic conditioning with the time allotment it requires. 

 I am also referring to Anorexia as a form of Gender Dysphoia who's conflicted social and internal views of teen maturity can lead to traumatized states.  This should not leave room for stable anorexics or unstable females to characterize the adoption of their injurious methods for 'an in-crowd” elitism.

Anorexia Nervosa and its less severe 'eating disorders..  should actually be called #BodyDysmorphicSIBDieting ( Self Injurious Behavior-Dieting)..It includes caloric restriction, multiple stimulant abuse, dissociative abuse and abuse of prescribed medicines,  poor choices in recovery foods which adds to their narcissistic shaming. Pro Ana websites and groups must be understood part of the symptom of a sociopathic “narcissism supply”. Because Anorexia is so well known, applying its known traits can mimic actual anorexics but these body dissatisfied people are factitious disorder candidates. (they are still disordered and mentally unwell. Thereby groups calling themselves pro Ana that taunt new members as ‘wannabes’ are not doing their job as a support group; Support groups and other health resources pages welcome members  and hope to spread positiivity. Instead pro ana sites often feature a core group functioning as an exclusive cliq who give merit to the identity of ANOREXICS as it surrounds her; the actual board member is of no consequence. The Pro Ana board is an active process of denial/bargaining by making their narcissist affliction sound positive and trendy.

In no way should statements of recovery or links on these proana sites be presumed to be safe.  Anorexia Nervosa is technically an umbrella term for three or more groups necessitating 'shortcutting dieting techniques” to achieve a desireable body. One is truly a mental illness of its own, another is a sociopathic illness that has adopted anorexic traits for its factitious parading.. but is also as serious. Also be mindful that persons starting pro anorexic boards might also be sadists and psychopaths who find artificial arousal in providing a place for harm.  All persons utilizing starvation and self abuse for an undisciplined 'thinspired body” are all heading to the same fatal end; including fashion models. Anorexia in name, in diagnosis, or in method IS STILL ANOREXIA. A refusal of recovery and presumption that anorexia is a lifestyle in name , point to a group still in denial that their practices are injurious. Denial of self failure/deception is one narcissist flaw even if the personality disorder symptoms dont apply to the factitious supplicants 

Third is a general category of body dissatisfied females who use encourage each other with SIB Diet techniques rather than actually go to a gym and perform both cardio AND resistance-exercise-for-STRENGTH.. which will infact lead to hypertrophy and better metabolism. This third group is often heckled by the others as fakers and wannarexics. In fact it is the other two groups proving the sociopathic tendencies of their guilt being made manifest on others. Since they cannot empathize, they neither should be empathized. Those yelling 'wannarexics” can be considered social trash and treated accordingly. A combined trait among all 'anorexics' is they mistake strength as an inside characteristic to excuse responsible self conditioning. .. or to justify their fears lifiting weights .. as a behavior is too masculinity  defining.  Her ego exploits her physical body and the body at times will take back such time to demand fueling.  It is then rightful the ego feels shame but not for eating .. rather for the fasting that causes binging in excess of regular fueling of activity.  This singular matter has a strong motivation to be fatally thin and is their excuse to avoid most legitimate forms of  balanced physical conditioning. The thinness is of no consequence. Those who intend to crash diet their way to a perfect body will eventually succumb to the cheapness of their diets. There is no diet that achieve what physical benefits come from physical conditioning. Research addressing diet as more important than exercise in weight control addresses a foolish society terrible at both.   MB.