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thebad-lydrawn-sanses · 6 months
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For a blog called the badly drawn sanses, your arts be improveing- at least in my eyes lol. Just saying I like your art <333!
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i'm probably gonna go back to low-effort to curb burnout (posting twice a day and whatnot) but in the meantime, have a Killer in the less non-bad artstyle :D
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writeyouin · 4 years
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Rodimus X Techbug – Guardian Prime (COMMISSION)
Description – When a new Autobot joins the Lost Light, Rodimus seeks to become their mentor. However, when he learns of Techbug’s difficult past, he might find the task harder than he expected.
A/N – Hey @ask-tf-techbug​, I hope this is what you had in mind. If you want anything editing, just say the word and I’ll do it ASAP. In the meantime, thank you very much for the commission.
WARNINGS – Smut. NSFW. Mentions of abuse.
RATING – M
WORD COUNT – 2173
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Rodimus walked with a spring in his step, eager to meet Techbug, the newest recruit to the Lost Light. Ultra Magnus had warned Rodimus of Techbug’s past. Originally an Autobot who had been captured at the start of the war, he had been forced into the Decepticon ranks. Techbug had been controlled through abuse, manipulation, and torture; it had turned him into one of the Decepticons’ most ruthless killers, Silentdeath. Now that the war was over and Techbug was free to start his life anew. He had been sent to the Lost Light to receive therapy from Rung, who specialised in treating PTSD, among other things.
Although Rodimus knew of the infamous Silentdeath, it didn’t taint his opinion of Techbug; after all, Drift had once been a Decepticon, and he’d managed to turn his life around. With the right mentor, Techbug would be just fine, and Rodimus was determined to be that mentor, if only to prove to Ultra Magnus that he could be responsible when he wanted to be; besides, how hard could it really be, being a mentor?
Finally, Rodimus reached Techbug’s new hab-suite, whereupon he rapped a playful tune on the door.
“Hey Techbug,” Rodimus greeted with a wink once the door was opened, “I’m Rodimus, the co-captain of the Lost Light. Nice to meet ya.”
Rodimus didn’t let his surprise at Techbug’s appearance show. He wasn’t small enough to be a mini-bot, yet he couldn’t have been taller that fifteen feet, only coming up to Rodimus’ chassis. He also had a similar appearance to Earthen cats, with a white tipped tail that sharply contrasted his orange colour scheme, and cat audials to match; it was rare to find bots that were shaped after organic creatures. Moreover, Rodimus couldn’t help feeling that Techbug was slender, more like a femme than a mech. To be perfectly candid, Rodimus found Techbug cute.
“Hi…” He whispered quietly in response, unsure of what to say since he didn’t know Rodimus; what he would give to be more comfortable with strangers like most other bots were.
“So,” Rodimus beamed, ignoring the tension. “You want a tour of my ship? It’ll help you get more acquainted.”
Techbug gave a small nod and left his hab-suite, following closely behind Rodimus, who slipped easily into the role of charismatic tour-guide.
They were about three-quarters of the way through the tour when something Rodimus said piqued Techbug’s interest.
“This is one of three labs that we have aboard the ship. As you can see, uh- Techbug?” Rodimus looked behind him, sure that the bot had been there a minute ago.
“Look at this, it’s all brand new,” Techbug marvelled, zooming around the lab. “Is that a GR-91 Centrifuge? I haven’t seen one in real life before. The Cons’ never let me into their labs and they only had old ones anyway. Do you know how fast this could separate particles? It could- Uh… I mean… Sorry for getting so over-excited… I’ll- I’ll be quiet now.”
Rodimus grinned cockily, “Hey, don’t worry about it, it’s cool to see you so excited. You like this lab? Then take it. Nobody else uses it anyway. Brainstorm and Perceptor each have one, so you may as well get this one if you want it.”
“Primus,” Techbug’s tail piece twitched in anticipation, “All of this for me, are you sure?”
“Yeah, it’s no biggie.”
‘Oh, but it is,’ Silentdeath, Techbug’s alternate personality growled maliciously inside his processor. ‘It’s a very big deal, right Techie? What have you done to deserve this? Nothing! You’ve done nothing for this, betrayer.’
“Be quiet,” Techbug hissed.
“What was that?” Rodimus asked, having missed Techbug’s warning.
‘Ooh, he’s listening to our private conversation. We don’t want that now, do we. You should stare him down. One look from our outlier ability and the only time he’ll speak is with Primus in the Afterspark.’
“Stop,” Techbug whispered.
“Hey, are you feeling okay?” Rodimus placed a soothing hand on Techbug’s shoulder-plate. “Med-bay isn’t far from here, I could take you to see Ratchet.”
‘HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU TO MED-BAY! You remember what happens in med-bay, right? They’ll recode you again, and they’ll make sure it hurts. I can’t wait to hear your pathetic screams when they tear you apart and put you back together again. Such sweet agony.’
“GET AWAY FROM ME!” Techbug pushed Rodimus, making him stumble backwards.
Before Rodimus could protest, Techbug fixed him with a hard glare, feeling his outlier ability rising up from within, burning quickly through his already low energon supply. With the ability to freeze or kill an enemy with a look, Techbug had been one of the Decepticons’ best weapons. With a full fuel tank, he could have frozen up to three mechs, as it was however, Techbug only managed to freeze Rodimus in time before a warning flashed on his visor: ENERGON LEVEL CRITICAL. SHUTDOWN PROTOCOL ENGAGED.
Techbug passed out and Rodimus was stuck, aware of everything yet unable to help. Fortunately, it only took a few minutes for Rodimus to be released from the effects of the outlier ability, allowing him to move freely once again.
He vented the excess air from his systems, eyeing up Techbug tiredly, “Something tells me that you’re going to be a bit of a handful… I’m really glad you left your swords back at the hab-suite.”
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“I’m sorry,” Techbug murmured, unable to look Rodimus in the optics. The two were in the med-bay, where Rodimus had carried him after his energon burnout. “I didn’t mean to freeze you up like that… I was- He made me do it.”
“He? You mean Silentdeath?” Rodimus asked, feeling sorry for yet another bot whose mentality had been damaged in the war.
Techbug looked uncomfortable at the mention of his Decepticon name.
“Hey, you don’t have to worry. We’ve all made mistakes, y’know, except for me, ‘cos Primus broke the mould, I was far too perfect even for him.”
Techbug snickered and Rodimus shot imaginary finger guns at him, “And the bot does know how to laugh. Good for you buddy. Anyway, is there anything you wanna do next? I’m okay staying here for a while if you want, but now that you’re energised, I was thinking we could do something fun. What do you say?”
Going against his social anxiety, Techbug nodded, “Something fun sounds good, Captain.”
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After a few weeks aboard the Lost Light, Techbug started to come out of his shell. Silentdeath was quieter than he had ever been before. Techbug hadn’t used his outlier ability since he’d frozen Rodimus. With Rung’s help during therapy, he was even confronting some of his worst memories which he had always shut away in an attempt to forget; it wasn’t easy, and it usually left Techbug feeling a little worse for wear, but in the long run, he knew it would be helpful. Best of all, Techbug had even been making friends among the crew. He still gravitated towards Rodimus, but who wouldn’t? Rodimus was charming, funny, handsome, had a great aft-
Techbug blushed, snapping his eyes away from Rodimus’ aft which he had blatantly been staring at as Rodimus went to buy the next round of high-grade energon for them.
“Seems like you have a little crush,” Dogfight smirked, taking a seat next to Techbug and wrapping his arm chummily around him. “The name’s Dogfight.”
“T-Techbug,” Techbug whispered his name quietly, going ridged at Dogfight’s uninvited touch.
“Yeah. I know all about you. Been watching you for a while. You’ve got a few admirers yourself, by the way. I should know, I’m one of them. That’s actually why I’m here. I was thinking that maybe you could ditch Hot-Wheels over there,” He gestured to Rodimus. “-and come spend some time with me. Maybe even see where the night leads, if you catch my drift.”
Dogfight stroked the inside of Techbug’s thighs sensuously, leading his way up to his interface panel. Supressed memories of Techbug’s past surfaced, hitting him like a freight train. He remembered how the Decepticons had used him for sex. They had called him names, debased him, forced their way into his interface panel, made him their slave in the berth as well as away from it. Techbug felt like he might purge his tanks if he didn’t escape Dogfight’s touch.
Once again, he concentrated on his outlier ability, though this time he was in full control of it as he froze Dogfight in place and extricated himself from his hold. On a full energon supply, Techbug was not weakened by the use of his outlier, however it did not stop him from feeling nauseous as he ran back to his hab-suite, trying desperately to forgot Dogfight’s unwanted advance.
As soon as Rodimus saw Dogfight frozen in space where Techbug had once been, he abandoned the high-grade energon he’d just bought. He rushed out of Swerve’s and immediately transformed, driving speedily towards Techbug’s hab-suite.
“Techbug,” Rodimus called, banging on the door, worried that he might be too late to stop one of Techbug’s episodes. “It’s me, Rodimus. Are you in there?”
As he was left waiting, Rodimus seriously considered using his override code to unlock the door, but before he could do so, Techbug opened it, wiping coolant from his optics.
“I’m- I’m fine, Rodimus. You should just go, I’ll be alright.”
“You’re clearly not fine. What happened back there? I just looked up and you were gone. You should at least talk about whatever it is. Was it something to do with Dogfight? Did you have another accident? Was it Silentdeath again?” Rodimus rushed through the list of possibilities, speaking faster with each question.
Finally, Techbug relented and let Rodimus in, if only to stop the persistent questions.
“I- I just- I got spooked and I couldn’t be there anymore. I only wanted to be with you tonight anyway.”
“Me?” Rodimus pointed dumbly at himself. “Why? Were you feeling shy or something?”
Feeling simultaneously vulnerable, frustrated, and like he needed some attention, Techbug threw his arms around Rodimus’ neck, pulling him down for a kiss. Thankfully, Rodimus didn’t question the action as he returned the kiss, pressing his mouth hungrily against Techbug’s as if they couldn’t get close enough.
Up till now Rodimus had ignored any lingering romantic ideas of Techbug, worried that by being a mentor, he would only pressure his ward. Since Techbug had initiated the kiss however, Rodimus saw no reason to reject the advance.
Rodimus yelped as Techbug’s nimble fingers tugged at his neck cables. He broke off the kiss, staring uncertainly at Techbug. “Are you sure?” He asked, alluding to the prospect of interfacing.
“Yes,” Techbug vented air out of his vents eagerly. He had never interfaced because he wanted to before, it was always because he had to; this was new and exciting and he could already feel his spike straining to be free of his interface panel.
Rodimus reached tentatively for Techbug’s aft, massaging it gently as he made his way to the berth, falling against it rather than laying on top of it. Techbug’s interface panel slid open, his spike rubbing against Rodimus’ inner thigh.
“Is that a gun or are you just happy to see me?” Rodimus joked.
Techbug’s face-plates flushed red and his cat-like tail lashed impatiently from side to side, “I want to see yours too. I want to ride you like a hover-bike.”
Rodimus’ engines revved, “Looks like you already found the ignition.” He lifted Techbug up, letting him wrap his legs around his waist. “Now all that’s left is to get on.”
He inserted his spike into Techbug’s valve, moaning at how good it felt. Although he had planned to take it slow for their first time, Rodimus was surprised as Techbug forced himself down on Rodimus’ spike.
“I’m not that delicate,” Techbug whispered huskily.
Taking the hint, Rodimus gripped Techbug’s hips and pulled him onto the berth, so that Techbug was on top; most bots assumed that Rodimus liked to be on top but in truth he found it nice to be submissive on occasion.
Techbug began gyrating on Rodimus’ spike, growling with lust every time it pressed against his anterior node. He was desperate. He needed this attention. He basked in the warmth of Rodimus’ presence. Rodimus however, sought to toy with Techbug, reaching low to rub at his spike.
Techbug bit his lip to keep from crying out as Rodimus jacked him off. It wasn’t long before tips of transfluid beaded the top of Techbug’s spike.
“Delicious,” Rodimus purred, looking Techbug in the optics as he gathered the trans-fluid off his spike and licked it off his servo.
“Primus!” Techbug squeaked, feeling his overload building up. “I- I-” Techbug never got to finish his sentiment as Rodimus overloaded with a loud moan, followed closely by him.
He was going to tell Rodimus that he loved him, but at that moment, the words didn’t matter, and by the look on Rodimus’ face, he thought that Rodimus might know already anyway.
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misterbitches · 3 years
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Hello! @flootweed replying to the post from before. the long format was killing me. why does tumblr look like this...
I haven’t watched episode 8 yet...or have I? If it’s the most recent one. No.
Is the hornbill a bird? It probably is but I have a terrible memory and I’m dumb so. I skipped the last few weeks because I’m scawwed. How are you liking it? I did see someone say that the hornbill makes sense (without knowing what it is...at all) bc heart transplant patients only live like 5-15 years after but someone in those comments pointed out that he was so young when he got his and that’s pretty rare so he has a higher likelihood of survival. Frankly, this is the only way I will proceed. Since when did shows ever care about the heart transplant health? Never and it needs to stay that way!
What did we think of ep 6? LMAO. I need opinions! And omg it makes me feel special when I can point things out to people because I so...rarely get to LOL. Editing is like one of my favorite things ever so I can be super particular about it but I try to do the thing you do when you’re supposed to see if it works within its context. I’d like to go in with scissors and glue but alas. 
THe mic covering....the rustling....it’s like guys...please. Ironically the audio today wasn’t great. I don’t know why. IDK if you watch c-dramas but I am not even sure what’s worse between them because they dub their dramas. But actually no it’s best to have the dubbing because even tho it is painful they have to put a lot of effort into it. LOL. 
Right? @ Aey! It’s just weird if they would show us more about what he’s done instead of saying he’s done sth bad and not even explaining that....like you could even do some shitty exposition. I think if he is to be a true villain then we really need to be privvy. All the warnings make it seem like he’s a fuckin’ serial killer so when we get the scene of him at home it’s like....actually this is really serious? Maybe his pain is like...for a reason. Althought you won’t even TELL US WHAT HE’S DONE WRONG BESIDES BE JUST FUCKING WEIRD AND ANNOYING! So from what we have it’s just a realllllllll fucked up sad person lol. god i forgot about the dinner! and i totally agree. he really needs them to succeed. i like your theory because it would make the scene where he like blocks the twitter user make more sense. he also says they dont really know each other etc so it’s realllllyyyyy probable that he just sees it as a way out. if not then we shall pretend u wrote it :)
god yea i wouldnt say it is art but i also guess we technically have to since it is technically. in the way that technically performance artists are artists but mostly i uh technically ignore them. Also one of my fav BLs is called the best twins. If you do not know what it is I will not elaborate further.t 
i want to know more abt poli sci majors lmao but they sound DRAMATIC/ hopefully most ppl in ur cohort arent losers! 
hahahha i understand. there was just a thing on twitter about DSA and then the day before about reading discourse. the same thiings. over. and over. and over. and over. we are our own worst enemies but also our own best friends? but i hate tankies and that wont change. but hasan’s a decent guy. he said sth abt black ppl during biden’s primaries in GA or whatever and i was like chill. but he’s insecure and has adhd which means ur more open to being wrong and changing otherwise u will suffocate and die. 
and totally about hiding fuck ups. i’ve tried really hard bc of organizing IRL to like...be honest, question, etc but also like...approach it naturally? because if you’re trying to be perfect and so worried you’ll fuck up you don’t realize that puts  more stress on you, makes you seem like a robot, and could potentially not make you realize the mistkaes you made. also if we’re privileged in certain spaces there is just no possible way we won’t get something wrong. im light and i know that honestly any way to speak up on colorism is going to be difficult and that’s a space where i have power so i just have to figure it out. we should be uncomfortable because we have to sit with unpleasant feelings and sort through our own whatever. that just makes the next time even better and people can trust u more.  i think some people sweat it sooo much or maybe they think their personal life and what theyve been through is more the norm? on the other hand people can be sf reactionary in the worst way and idk what their issue is. there was also a user who said sth very inch arresting about tankies which i thoroughly enjoyed (how like violent lefitsts or tankies / ppl who are like ooh a gun whatever just want to be violent in another space so they have shit tendencies from jump and nothing of substance which i think i agree with tbh fo ra lottttt of ppl. like their anger is actually like “no im about to beat that ass” instead of what we actually want to get done) 
sort of in the same vein re: taking it easy...we coudl all be more understanding too. to slow it down like you mentioned about not being privvy to fucking eveyrthing and saying anything on our mind. i saw this person talk about y2k which was a huge deal while happening bc it was the turn of the millenium (bruh were u even alive?) but this twitter user grew up in a super super SUPER religious household and was like why do ppl make jokes about Y2K it was insanely traumatizing? though my first instinct was confused ive tried hard to like look more before i judge especially thanks to a friend of mine. turns out that with the further reading the more we found out he was just really traumatized; it was very common in religious households to be afraid of 2000. so we could have come at him with no understanding and he could have thought that everyone had the same experience with that year that he did. his feelings sit precedent though but i think it was just very hard for him to fathom. 
i didnt reply bc he didnt need that and what could i have said? he’ll see what the truth is with exposure and unfortunately this was something he really did go through. 
and that’s what makes most people think others could be over the top. because it sounded ridiculous but then it was this huge traumatic thing that we could have never known about. so maybe when someone sounds like actually crazy they have an explanation? of course some ppl are just batshit or annoying but that’s anywhere not just leftists it’ just means more i guess when a ~~librul is annoyed~ but it can be easy to want to make fun of ppl too. lmao.  basically what i am saying is the internet? especially twitter? for leftists? in this economy? bitch it’s the wild west out here.
i am 29! idk if i said it or not. i am OLD u probably werent even born in the year i was talking about wah. i know not old-old or old at all but compared to you i’m due for a colonoscopy.
omg i hope u can get vaxxed soon! are you wfh rn? i hope ur also not in a bad state as in state state not state as in ur being :| bleh what a fucking time. it sucks that you have to fucking do work. well unless u like school. which i hope u do. i just assume everyone hates it cos i did lmao
was it the lindsay ellis drama? that bitch is dumb. if there was other drama oh wait the drama i was referring to it all happened on the same day. idk book twitter that well but i saw something from someone who was abt that shit and wowie! the american people are not that.....intelligent to put it lightly.
i’ll get better. ppl tell me they miss me and im like aw. i have insanellllyyy bad insomnia and a lot of stuff happened this year HOWEVER I SLEPT FOR TWO DAYS FOR 8 HOURS AT A REASONABLE TIME. im a new woman.  anyways you too! i hope ur not too burnt out with school. we just dont know when the burnout is or we just dont know we are burnt out until we are. the panaramiciccici hit and all the things i was ignoring kind of just fell on me and sooo much happened at once. and frankly it’s hard to take care of ourselves. lord. 
Like if you aren’t interested in expanding on the issue in a way that hasn’t been done before all you gotta do it like… spread resources and donate if you can. I dont see the point in having to say something about every issue especially if you (not at you specifically just in general) aren’t immediately impacted by the issue. Like is the 14 yr old white marxist named sarah on twitter really gonna have meaningful insight on anti-asian violence ?
this is part of why i cannot telecommunicate. i dont want to do shit on the internet. i am able bodied so i know that this time has been of such ease for other people. but mentally i just can’t. i don’t have a comment on hand like that and i hvae no desire to engage with ppl that way. i am a super super super solitary person but thats bc it’s MY time so when it’s like all this effort with other people i dont ever want to be alone. it’s the same with the way i approach filmmaking. it isnt a sole thing so i hate it not together. that’s part of how u can get so sucked in and repeat doom scrolling. i was in this webinar last may after [redacted] and this black woman prof said “read with a community and talk” because otherwise she said we are torturing ourselves. you can’t carry that weight all on your own. unfortunately i hate zoom, discord, slack, signal, whatsapp, facetime. you name it this panera has made it evi.. L
you make a really excellent point. i think the young young gen zers are really really just interesting because it’s like this whole new world for them with leftist politics and they just can’t grasp the horrors of the world and the kind of freedom being a leftist can bring. and so many people don’t grow out of it. those people so happen to be the “least productive” in terms of how much time they spend IRL withe these issues. naturally, younger kids are gonna have a harder time. they are not as mobile as well so the internet becomes this place. but then it’s this echo chamber. and many times just things posted without sources. and social media NEEDS that to exist.
i think of the irony of leftist kids on tik tok and while i am happy it’s reaching them it’s just....different. very different. the growth of social media is so good but also so fucking sad, it’s too much! i think the point about not writing everything is major. even i have to do this which is part of the disappearing.y ou need to detach and make sure your head is on straight again. but when you think eveyrone has to be privvy to every thought and you can’t just sit back....which twitter and social media doesn’t encourage. you have to join in. that’s often why when i have something to say it is dense because i don’t feel like repeating it. ever. lmao ust ever. i cant pay attn. social media is a fucking minefield for my brain u can get so lost in it and absorb it but once u start talking you may not be able to stop. 
i think a big part of that is it not being a leisurely thing but sort of just in our lives always. this sounds like a grandpa rant but ykwim. We dont have to see the same thing over and over again. And eventually it gets sincerely diluted or its diluted bc of capitalism or whatever. Or if theyre very young or maybe they don’t have like the greatest way of sharing the knowledge? then it can be butchered. I hope this is making sense...i’m talking beyoond the boring surface-level milquetoast shit. i see really ahistorical stuff on there from leftists (like this thing about NK + africa and it being a beneficial rship as opposed to a um not beneficial one. and it isn’t.  beneficial but this young black girl was talking abt it and noname rtd and i was like it’s just too complex. there’s no good/bad here just bc it’s not america. dont get me started on this.)
but Lol that was kinda off topic but I think what I meant in my last reply about not turning off the voice in my head is about when I consume media, not necessarily when I’m online talking about. Even if I have criticism for something, I’m usually pretty chill when consuming fandom content bc I think being serious online all the time is kinda boring. Like sometimes I’m analyzing theme and shit but really most of the time im memeing.
exactly.........gotta laugh. thats why sometimes im like i cant think lmao. unfrotunately i have been ARGUING with ppl on the internet for rly no reason when  i could have replied to ur very nice fun wholesome message. i love torture. i miss memes.
“ i think the people who get the least enjoyment out of that are those so obsessed with getting upset with anyone thinking outside of their lines as if it equates to them “ EXACTLYYYYY
kekekekeke im glad u got it. it’s like with conservatives throwing around snowflake. now im beginning to question who the real complainers are. 
LMAO exactlyyyy. i posted a screenshot of this writer from twitter saying that exact thing. Like first of all, I’m...an adult? and if you are as well uh? i’m sorry for you but are we 12? But how is it affecting u this viscerally? And if it does why dont u...do...research? pihgofuaipoajghou but honestly everything u said. we’re trained to go into it with nothing. i was only around ur age when i started to get more serious about this stuff but you’re like lightyears ahead of where i was at 21. did i say this but i’m in iww and literally i can tell u in 2016 i did not think 2019 me would be in a union bc i told my friend in a train station that we don’t need unions. i was 23...but the thing is i didnt know what i was talking about. at all. and i knew i didnt know and she knew i didnt know and now i am the clown.
also yes at critical engagement. i had to learn so much through experience and this is tuff that i coudlnt be shielded from. there’s an empathy you kinda have to develop and this understanding that you move through the world as this person who is “nowhere and everywhere; nothing and everything” so i’ve always had to think about things differently just to survive. that’s also what can drag a lot of people towards it like theres so many black kpop fans bc i think a lot of the pain in SK can be mirrored (sort of) through our history. and theres currently a history now but it had to be forged. uh what was my point oh yea however i wouldnt have been able to move further if i didnt have my background to go off of  bc i knew something was off when i started getting into all these things (ill give u a hint) but if i had no prior knowledge and didnt have to think about it then the critical approach is either stale or stupid. 
i had to research but i dont understand how ppl are so bold with little to no research and understanding? thhey just inherently know with also like ZERO experience in what they need experience in. engaging critically means “how i see the world” with dashes of trying to be open adn understanding or whatever. actually that’s another thing like being afraid of criticizing things bc theyre foreign to you so u give it a pass (like we discussed) but it doesnt hAVE TO BEEEE JUST REAAAAAD and then take all the info ur teensy brain and apply it. be a normal human being and dont be fucking rude and racist. thats it! u can complain abt literally anything without being a dick.
as we start with LW and end with LW.....what do we think (i asked this already) omg please share wbl thoughts i THINK i know what ur talking about. well it could be two things; their rship when they came back and the physicality and then pei shou yi. i almost dont even want to use my brain to fucking look at that. i think wbl can get away with more bc of visual~*~*~* reasons (like literally, the look of the show. there’s more space to get lost in the frames. many thai dramas are a lot more literal? this isn’t the right word but it’s very heavily character focused particularly bc of $ i think) though good production also underscores flaws so i am also wrong. but like do u know what i mean? u have to kinda focus on it? or maybe it’s just cos like.....ur so used to it in thai bl idek. i’ve seen tw bl ofc. 
look i swear i will justify this forever bc there are some things we miss right but if u feel like someone’s a bad actor....theyre bad. it’s about tone movement etc etc etc and since most thai bl productions have 0 interest in that....well. they take these newbies and put them in these situations. we dont understand thai but if we see them and we’re like “wow this is really bad” then they’re bad lmao. IDC i will never be like cos idk what theyre saying NO WHY HE LOOK LIKE A ROBOT???????? DOES HE EMOTE? why is he CRYING WITH NO TEARS? and it’s not even a total requisite to cry with tears(i mean for me it is) but it’s just like what is happening on ur face right now young man????????
painful.
the inflection stuff is very valid ooh good point tho but that’s only a part of the piece. plus we get used to the way they communicate. like the ppl from sotus were prtty bad. i dont like that show but thats an ex of ppl liing the actors and the person i thought was better other ppl dont think that? well apparently hes a shitty guy but. um. so when theres decent acting its so glaring.
although i must say even tho i dont care for 2gether anymore and would never like to be reminded about its existence (only bc i just cringe lol) i honestly....didnt think bright was a bad actor? but people keep saying he is and i am much more inclined to believe them than myself. though i am not often dickmatized that could have been it. until he opened his mouth and ruined it and then i stopped paying attn.
although honestly i’m so much more critical than i could be positive. i have ben stumped for the last day about how i wasnt mad at his acting in the show. is it me? is it him? who’s......the wrong one.....(me) 
oh shit they have been denied? i haven’t been paying attn to whats been going on recently. i just got into it on MDL because of snowdrop. sometimes i literally cannot engage bc ill just be like alright well im black so this power button in my head is going off when ppl talk abt that shit. back in the day when kpop jawns were saying some real outta pocket anti black shit (now everyone is slick with it) it’d always be THEY DONT HAVE GOOGLE THEYVE NEVER SEEN A BLACK PERSON but really it’s like no...maybe they are just racist? that’s ok too.
also the past 2 weeks have been um atrocious bc how fucking easily people fell into the pit of white supremacy and started to turn their ire towards black people and making a competition between our groups just like they wanted. it’s not about the women who are dead anymore, who were sex workers, their womanhood, being asian, being poor anymore. it’s about how much black people get attention and why people only pay attn to us. i am not feeling very generous this week for ppl to excuse that hsit.
on a lighter note, ppl say that abt the whole husband and wife thing. i dont know how to explain how angry that shit makes me but maybe it’s because i do not want to think of my body in relation to a fucking penis at all hours of the day. if bls could kindly not do that it would be nice lmao 
yes there are a lot of those. who are only there to gawk lmao. and just idk worship bc of the cult of personality thing bc of how weird and open they have to be as actors. some of the others are people who /think/ theyre really smart (i think im asmart but i also think i am very dumb and i have adhd to prove that MEDICALLY!!!) but are actually not? or their observations arent great? or idk if they are they arent interesting? but i think well..........we have more refined palettes :P
jk also theres just different personalities. you and  i mesh more bc we have a lot of the same beliefs and are coming from the same place. that makes it easier to understand as well. i really try to remember that but some people are really weird so. again just...the perception of certain things even down to acting skills. but i also dont like.......believe this genre can really do anything at all. on one hand i want them to do it right bc it’s a piece of work so they should. be proud of it. cos most things arent advancing us bc representation and culturalism are a lie bla bla. it’s just that when the depictions are negative or not done well it adds to the problem as opposed to the things that are well done are fairly benign and can’t really pull us back (perf example is the black panther film. i woudl definitely not say it was transgressive as a literal work but visually it’s just stunning. and it’s sad that it’s stunning and surprising but still with basically an all black cast of mostly dark people abd like what it means in the zeitgeist yes. it’s also just a good movie. but it’s still imperialist prop and unfortunately and this is fucking pathetic to say it “opened eyes” in other countries where they hate black ppl and ignore their own racialized minorities HENNYWAYSSSS a better ex is moonlight except moonlight isnt mainstream and is indie tho...still thru a funnel of capital bc a24 but who cares bleed the fuckers dry is my motto. my point is moonlight is both a great work and doesnt bring any failures to the table and its existence helps in ways outside of art but they arent the defining things giving us material advancement sooooo i mean it’s complex (this is my conclusion to everything um guys it’s complex) 
er i had one more point in conjunction to above. oh yea so i like dont need all these extra things to make it progressive. like people really want more women in the show and i am honestly like i really dont. i dont want them to actively do this. if they cant do it naturally then let someone else do it. i am not asking for more bc i dont want it from them. when something comes along i embrace it but i do not see why women should be represented when the genre RELIES on patriarchy. there is no complete satisfying existence for the women in these series. i dont want it. i dont ask people to show us~*~* or respect~* like fuck no the people who make it make it and hopefully more will make it in the future but i will not beg bc THEY DONT WANT TO DO IT SO WOULD FORCING IT MAKE IT BETTER? just fucking leave them out entirely. that’s the answer if theyre gonna make nasty female characters then those bitches can geaux. we have other plcaes to be. booked. and. BUSY!
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Hello! This is a raw-text paste of the huge amount of thoughts I provided for the recent interview with The Guardian - it was written by Simon Parkin, who is superb - so I really recommend you go and read that first. https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2018/sep/08/youtube-stars-burnout-fun-bleak-stressed (This is all copy-pasted via my phone, and I haven't edited it as I would an article - it may be full of errors and it's definitely formatted quite badly. Ta!) *** I first properly got into YouTube after taking a job to head up a channel for a video game website, after working as a print journalist for a couple of years. Now I do my own thing and run a couple of channels, which collectively have just over 150,000 subscribers. It's pretty much a full-time job for me, and has been for just over 5 years. YouTube has been incredible in terms of creating opportunities - with low budget equipment and software I was able to create work that could easily reach thousands of people. Five or six years ago it felt very freeing - a system that allowed quality to naturally find audiences without having to go through gatekeepers. The sheer scale of the numbers you're looking at are the main thing - a handful of written pieces I've worked on have been read by more than a million people, but when videos go viral it's something quite different: one of my earliest, biggest hits was watched 5 million times in just a few days. I'm admittedly wary of that level of success now, and actively try to avoid "going viral" - but the brief explosion of mild internet fame I achieved in 2013 has allowed me some unbelievable freedoms: a small handful of that audience has kindly followed everything else I've done since, and I've managed to shift my YouTube career into something that feels sustainable - both financially and mentally. The channel I worked for blew up pretty quickly - after a handful of viral hits, I kept plugging at creating new regular content. YouTube is very strange in that it's not enough to simply create great things - most audiences expect consistency and frequency. If you're a channel looking to grow, this means both playing to the gallery of the followers you've got as well as pleasing the whims of "the algorithm". As a platform funded by advertising - of which Google take a healthy cut - YouTube's algorithms promote the videos that best suit the needs of those adverts. Because of that, real success on YouTube requires creators to jump through a series of constantly changing hoops: changing the upload frequency and duration of their videos to better align with the current criteria, in the hopes of seeing their work being fed more frequently to users who haven't seen their work before - or even, grimly, having their work being seen more frequently by those who already subscribe to their channels. I find the idea of chasing algorithms a frankly miserable starting point for creative work, however, so whilst I'm acutely aware of how to achieve success on YouTube the process that leads to it seems depressingly dull. There's a bleakly cybernetic tone to it all - sci-fi has mostly presumed that transhumanism would see technology being integrated into humans, but the zeal with which people aim to please algorithms suggests we're going to save a fortune on futuristic surgeries. What we're seeing a lot of these days is people using services like Patreon to get around the requirements of YouTube's algorithms, allowing people to make a living without having to achieve huge amounts of video views. Over the past few years it became a lot tougher for a lot of people to make a living from advertising on YouTube - mainly because the automated algorithms were whacking adverts on fairly inappropriate stuff - it was a Wild West situation, and every gold rush eventually ends. A lot of people have moved over to Twitch, where it's currently much easier to make a bunch of money - but the person costs involved are not insubstantial: there's a real difference between uploading videos and putting yourself out there, live, every day. I think if you're someone who really cares about putting on a good performance, these platforms end up being vampiric - always asking you for just a bit more until you've nothing left to give. For people who really care about their work, it's absolutely an unhealthy ecosystem. The sense that you should always be working is an absolute killer. YouTube very much has its own culture: people talk a lot about the community they have on *their* channel, but in truth YouTube itself *is* the community, and the tone and expectations of that wider community are far from ideal, to say the least. Knowing that working more could earn you more money is a standard freelancer anxiety, but with YouTube it's more the fear that if you take a break you might lose it all. Riding on the wave of success requires consistency, and with a fresh supply of wannabe stars toiling to find an audience on these platforms it's incredibly easy to slip off the radar - to lose favour with the algorithms that gave you your wings. I worry a lot about the health of many young people trying to find success on these platforms today - a nasty side-effect of algorithm-led content creation is that creators themselves are largely disposable: churn until you burn out, get replaced by three people doing the exact same thing. A crucial truth about internet culture that we've yet to fully appreciate, I think, is that human brains really aren't designed to be interacting with hundreds of people every day. When you've got thousands of people giving you direct feedback on your work, you really get the sense that something in your mind somewhere just snaps - we just aren't built to handle empathy and sympathy on scales of that level. Critical feedback is essential for growth - but it also takes time to properly absorb it. When you've got new strangers every day launching into a fresh intervention, your capacity for reflection goes right in the bin. "You aren't making enough videos". "You're wrong." "You used to be funnier." "You've let me down." These comments only represent a tiny fraction of your audience - most of whom will hopefully be positive and supportive - but the human brain is rubbish at numbers: you don't see ten negative bits of feedback as a fraction, you envision ten people you've really disappointed. When this becomes a regular occurrence - and you're already ploughing ahead making the next thing - you don't have the time or capacity to work towards any legitimate sense of closure, so you either get upset or angry and dismissive. A thing I've experienced that seems to be common is the way that your brain gets so used to these negative comments that it starts to automatically invent them while you're working - I suspect it's a kind of self-defence mechanism, helping you to catch potentially contentious aspects of your work, or things that might easily be misinterpreted. I definitely think this process does help with minimising negative feedback in the actual work, but if it means you're still living through the experience of that negativity - despite it being fictional - is that actually any better? One of the great things about supporting my work through Patreon is it allows me to work at a pace that actually provides room for reflection: I currently make one Cool Ghosts video once every two or three months: it's a broadcast-quality show that's deeply strange, and we take as long as we need to create it. It's the best work I've ever done, but I still feel the constant guilt that I'm not doing enough - I'm not working hard enough. Patreon allows people to work without the worry of getting enough views to make money from adverts, but unfortunately just creates a new strain of stress: You look at how much money you're earning every month, and worry that you aren't doing enough work to justify that figure. But the harder you work, the more that figure is likely to increase - so it's an impossible carrot-on-a-stick situation. Even when you're working as hard as you can, it's so easy to feel like you should be doing more. The first time I really experienced burnout was at the end of 2013. I'd taken a YouTube channel from 1,000 subscribers to 90,000 in just under a year, and my work had caught the attention of Charlie Brooker - leading to an incredible opportunity to work on a one-off show about video games. Trying to juggle that alongside my main YouTube job had me working 18-20 hour days for about 3 weeks, after which point I felt exhausted and frazzled in a way that weirdly seemed totally impervious to rest. Looking back now, I'd clearly been burning out for months prior to that: I looked pale, gaunt - my work had become increasingly rushed, increasingly acerbic in tone. Worryingly, this didn't affect my popularity - one of the most toxic things I've discovered about making content online is that the points at which you're breaking down, being slowly consumed by frustration, are the points at which the algorithms love you the most. "Divisive" content is the king of online media in 2018, and YouTube heavily boosts all content that causes people to get riled up. Explaining why you hate stuff gets you 10 times as much traffic as explaining why you love something - but it also means that the commentary you're dealing with is consistently angry. I don't think it's possible to exist in that space without the stress from that negativity bleeding back into your work: Anger is like a virus - it's fantastic for keeping audiences engaged, but it also motivates creators to better serve the algorithm: working and uploading in a rash, rapid fashion. It's why you see YouTube politically so dominated by right-wing creators - introspection, balance, empathy and care are all values diametrically opposed the platform's core values of More and Now. I think it's possible for creators to be maintained by that anger - nourished by the stuff - for months, years, possibly indefinitely. You see that so much on YouTube these days - people who've slipped into a deeply unhealthy place, keeping it together on a weekly basis by channelling that anger into exponential success. It's like one of those coins spinning around those circular charity things - escalating in a loop as they gently slide towards the void. Burnout happens at the point at which you pause, and I think that anger effectively allows people to maintain velocity for quite a long time. Over the past few years burnout has been more frequent and more serious - my wife was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer in 2014, and since then I've been mentally wobbly in a way which is frequently incompatible with living on the internet. Still though, I think I was burning out perfectly well without that - I spent my twenties working ceaselessly, feeling invincible and boundless. And honestly, I was. Right up until the point where I wasn't. I really worry about young people devoting their lives to platforms like YouTube and Twitch - because when you're young? You absolutely can. You've got the energy and focus to work incredibly long hours, you've got very few responsibilities to take your attention away from work, and - perhaps most importantly - you've likely still got a solid social circle, friendships that aren't difficult to maintain. The reality changes sharply when you get a bit older: your energy levels start to flake out, the stress you've put yourself under has started to damage you physically - my thyroid stopped working properly in 2016, and I've developed frequent patches of anxiety and depression. What starts out as being the most fun job imaginable - getting paid to sit and play videogames all day - can slide into something that feels deeply bleak and lonely: sitting alone for hours playing games and making videos is understandably aspirational when you're a teenager, but as an adult it's a cocktail for disastrous mental health. Suddenly in your thirties everyone gets busy - commitments make friendships harder, and the perception of success & having a "dream job" can slightly poison the way that friends treat you - leaving you understandably uneasy about complaining about your situation. It's this social aspect that leads to some of the biggest issues we're seeing with YouTube: if your life becomes so defined by the platform that you don't really have the time for a life outside of it, it's easy to double down on the relationship you have with your audience. This idea of being friends with your fans is inherently unbalanced, and a phenomenal source of power that many take advantage of with incredible cynicism. Perhaps worse than this, though, is the side-effect of creators having largely grown up being socialised within a constant feedback loop: the things you say and do on your channel define the behaviours of your community, but the behaviour of your community also defines your ideas of what is and isn't OK. It's unsurprising to see people who've spent most of their adult lives working on YouTube having automatically hoovered up some awful characteristics and worldviews from the platforms they exist on - it's a factory line that predictably churns out half-baked, bigoted variations of Peter Pan. I'm still trying to learn how to switch off, even now when I've fully escaped the churn. I think once you've immersed yourself fully into the Content-Creation mindset, it becomes pretty hardwired into your head. I'm mainly thankful though that I approached it as an adult - I think that without the wider perspective of previous work, I maybe wouldn't have realised how toxic it was. I think it's definitely possible to be successful without it taking over your life, providing you know what success looks like. If you're brilliant at what you do and you do something unusual, eventually you'll find an audience. If you stay true to what you love and remain honest with the people who love what you do, it's entirely possible to make a decent living without devoting your entire life to this stuff - if you care about your long-term happiness rather than just a short-term boost of cash, I honestly think it's the only real option. I've never had any formal relationship with YouTube itself, but I've never been impressed by the advice it gives creators. Emphasis is always firmly placed on growth - how to boost the size of your audience, how to get the most out of promotion, how best to "engage" with your community. I've always felt deeply uneasy about the way these things sit side by side: spend extra time making your fans feel loved - it's very an effective way of boosting your income. Patreon in many ways has only amplified that, with one popular company going so far as to label those who pay them monthly as their "best friends". It's incredibly cynical behaviour, but even when genuine it doesn't feel healthy - for many creators it seems from afar that their community has effectively become their main support network - that's an awful lot of eggs to put in one basket. We've seen cursory mental health advice popping up on the platform over the last year or so, but it feels far from sincere: encouraging creators to "take a break!" is pretty laughable when coming from the mouth of a system that actively promotes quantity over quality. There's no sense of responsibility for the culture that they've created - no good advice for dealing with the pitfalls that most people will have to deal with. Steady growth is great, for example, but what happens when growth explodes? When something goes viral? On paper that situation is 100% great, but in reality you're suddenly dealing with a vast, new audience - perhaps an audience that differs in tone to the one you're used to. What happens if the size of this new audience actively swamps the community you had before, leaving you suddenly creating videos for an audience you don't necessarily even like? Fame is the toxic by-product of success, and these platforms allow people to achieve fame quite suddenly - the realities of that are a double-edged sword. I think it's important that young people know it's OK to be unhappy whilst also a success: YouTube stars are always loved best when endlessly thankful for how lucky they are, but the harsh truth is that working on YouTube is just another form of job - you're allowed to decide that you actually don't like it, even if everyone you know keeps telling you that you've got the greatest job in the world. If you're not having a great time doing it, there's literally no point in doing it at all - don't let the demands of the audiences of algorithms steer your life into a position where it's no longer fun. It's important to be wary of rapid growth: if 50,000 people suddenly turn up on your YouTube channel, the obvious reaction is to be thankful and thrilled. If 50,000 people turned up outside your house? You'd probably hold off on opening the champagne until you'd worked out why. Finally, recognise that if you become mildly famous - your relationships with those around you will change. Don't let your desire for internet success get in the way of real-life relationships: the impossible-sounding truth about growing older is that it's remarkably easy to go from having loads of friends to realising you've actually only got 4. Being lonely and successful is a terrible combination, and one that seems to creep up on a lot of people without much warning.
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16 More Quotes to Inspire Your Content Marketing
In 2017, I shared a compilation of 23 inspirational quotes, from Rachael Ray to Ann Handley to Andy Weir and many people in between. Each of those quotes continues to inspire me and impact the way I think about content marketing
Today, to kick off the new year, the CMI editorial team asked me to share some more quotes.
I’ve been a quote junkie since I was a kid. Some of the quotes I’ve included this year I picked up recently. Others came from the dog-eared journal I started in 1993, which includes gems like this one:
Embarrassing? Absolutely. But …
My hope is that you pick up some inspiration from these quotes or think about familiar ideas in a new way.
Maintain your energy
Much of the work we need to do as marketers – and, more importantly, as makers – requires us to think and create. And, quite frankly, there is only so much time we can meaningfully write, develop, or create day in, day out.
Michael Simmons captures the idea perfectly in his article aptly titled An Ambitious Person’s Brutally Honest Take On Work-Life Balance:
“In the world of long-distance running, the idea of someone starting off a race by sprinting as fast as they can until they collapse from exhaustion is obviously stupid. Yet, when it comes to our careers, many of us follow this mentality.
Expert marathoners, on the other hand, purposely run slower than their full potential so they can run longer and actually win the race.  
We need to redefine hard work from how many hours we work in a week (the equivalent of our sprinting speed) to how consistently hard we work over a long period of time.”
And, speaking of marathons, we often hear how content marketing is a marathon, not a sprint, and many articles reference 18 to 24 months as the time frame to build a brand with content marketing. But in the last few years, things have gotten more difficult, and, as  Mark W. Schaefer observes, the journey requires more time:
What I determined was that it took, on average, between two and three years for a personal brand to really ignite. Two and half years. Wow. That’s 30 months of patience.
On average, it takes 2-3 years for a personal brand to ignite, says @markwschaefer. #quotes Click To Tweet
Maintaining focus is tough, especially when the work required will take months, if not years. But, this insight from Entrepreneur Editor in Chief Jason Feifer plays in mind to help me stay on track:
I don’t want to work nonstop – that only ends in burnout – but I want to make sure I’m using my time as wisely as possible. So I started measuring time in terms of outcome. I’d ask myself, ‘What do I get for this hour spent? What can I show for it later?’  … There may never be time for everything, but there is always time for plenty. It’s just a question of priorities.
There may never be time for everything, but there is always time for plenty, says @heyfeifer. #quotes Click To Tweet
While maintaining that focus is an ongoing journey (ahem, struggle), the best thing to get me back on track is unadulterated, pure quiet. I emphasized this idea in my previous quote post, and it’s why I was so mesmerized by this quote from Zen master Ryutan:
You are like this cup; you are full of ideas. You come and ask for teaching, but your cup is full; I can’t put anything in. Before I can teach you, you’ll have to empty your cup.
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Do, don’t (over)think
Like many marketers, I love coming up with ideas and starting projects, but I can burn out as the project slogs on. But these next quotes remind me that the actual doing (not the thinking about doing) are most important.
You’d be hard pressed to come up with an idea so bad that it couldn’t succeed with the right execution. And it would be even harder to imagine a great idea that couldn’t fail if the execution were left to morons. Ideas are worthless. Execution is everything. – Scott Adams, Dilbert creator
Ideas are worthless. Execution is everything. @Dilbert_Daily #quotes Click To Tweet
You are not a leader because you have better insight – you are a leader because you make decisions. – David C. Baker, The Business of Expertise
Embrace constraints
Too often we bemoan lack of time or lack of budget or lack of (insert your gripe here). But sometimes, it’s these very constraints that help us focus.
Here’s a fact: Creativity comes easier within constraints …  Constraints make the haiku one of the world’s most moving poetic forms. They give us boundaries that direct our focus and allow us to be more creative. This is, coincidentally, why tiny startup companies frequently come up with breakthrough ideas. They start with so few resources that they’re forced to come up with simplifying solutions. – Shane Snow, Smartcuts
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Connect with the (right) people
Another thing that keeps me energized is working with people who challenge me – and whom I enjoy. I have been proactively reaching out to marketers and business owners this year, and while not every conversation has an action, I always learn something new. (And, thus far, everyone has agreed to talk.)
Working with people who challenge me energizes me and my work, says @MicheleLinn. Click To Tweet
Allen Gannett expresses this idea clearly in this quote from his book The Creative Curve (I recommend it):
The point is, don’t wait for someone to take you under their wing; initiate the process yourself. If you meet someone who is successful in a field you want to learn about, approach them. Be curious. Be relentless!
Don’t wait for someone to take you under their wing; initiate the process yourself, says @Allen. #quotes Click To Tweet
My business partner, Clare McDermott, and I often talk about the value of “creative abrasion.” I always look to work with people who ask questions, poke holes in my thinking, or otherwise give me a new perspective. While too much friction isn’t a good thing, embrace what Allen calls the conflicting collaborator:
For this reason, I call the ideal person to work with a conflicting collaborator. Basically, you don’t want to collaborate with someone who is so easy to get along with that they don’t push you. The goal is to find a person who will help you discover and overcome your flaws. 
Here’s another reminder why it’s critical to embrace other perspectives:
Our senses are limited therefore our view of the world is limited. This is not a problem unless we start believing that what we perceive is all there is to be perceived. – Peter McWilliams, self-help author
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Embrace your own path
One of the drums beating loudly this year is eschewing best practices and forging our own paths (and the more varied perspectives you have, the better).
As such, I can’t help but be reminded of this quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson. (Did anyone else go through a transcendentalist phase in high school? Just me? My quote book is littered with ideas from Walt Whitman, Henry David Thoreau, and Ralph Waldo Emerson.):
Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail, says #RalphWaldoEmerson via @MicheleLinn. #quotes Click To Tweet
Taking your own path also means having a point of view, which Meera Kothand summarizes in her book, Your First 100. (Meera is a new-to-me content marketer I stumbled upon this year. I’ve really enjoyed her action-oriented emails and books):
Value doesn’t come from feeding your audience with free tips that everyone else is already saying. You provide value when you’re able to inspire a commitment to change. You add to the content literature in your niche when you have a distinctive point of view. This is also how you build content authority.
You add to the #content literature in your niche when you have a distinctive POV, says @MeeraKothand. #quotes Click To Tweet
This is not to say that we can’t learn from others, but I challenge you to take the best of what you know, apply it, and do you.
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Start now, from where you are
This last set of quotes (of which there are quite a few) may be the most important and universal. Own where you are and keep moving forward.
I unfortunately don’t know who said this next gem, but I have repeated this quote numerous times since I heard it at Content Marketing World last year:
“You can’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.”
It echoes these popular Chinese proverbs:
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”
“Be not afraid of going slowly, be afraid only of standing still.”
And I leave you with this quote from Jay Acunzo who is talking to all of my marketing friends who experience this sense of paralysis because we think our work can be better:
Perfect isn’t the enemy of good, nor is it the barrier to done. I just think we’re framing the idea all wrong. Aspire to perfection over time, but make sure you’re taking one step forward today.
Aspire to perfection over time, but make sure you’re taking one step forward today, says @jayacunzo. Click To Tweet
Continue to prioritize, do, and own the best possible version of yourself, while making sure you have a hearty dose of quiet, so you can recharge and keep moving forward no matter where you are.
I’d love to hear what you are thinking about as we start the year. Share your favorite quotes – or ideas – in the comments.
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8 Things to Leave Behind in 2017 (So You Can Have the Best 2018 Ever)
You know the best thing about New Year's? Yes, the answer is champagne toasts. However, every January 1 is also a clean slate, an opportunity to start fresh. So why take the habits that are no longer serving you along for the ride?
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Here are eight things you need to leave behind in 2017 so you can have a happy and healthy 2018 and enjoy the year you deserve.
1. Comparing yourself to people on social media.
Here’s the thing: Social media isn’t real. The vast majority of what you see on social media is simply not an accurate representation of real life. So if you find yourself getting serious FOMO when you see Insta photos from your friend’s recent backpacking trip, or stressing that everyone you know seems to be getting married while you’re still swiping left on Tinder, remember: You’re not getting the whole story.
Your friend’s backpacking trip looks amazing, but she definitely wasn’t posting pictures of the three days she spent laid up in bed, sick as all get out. And it might seem like everyone you know is having the perfect wedding, but they’re not sharing the epic meltdowns they had getting there (or the imperfect aspects of their relationships—which definitely exist).
The point is, no one’s life is perfect, no matter how it looks on social media. So stop comparing your real life to someone else’s highlight reel.
2. Spending all day with your butt in a chair.
If you spend all day with your butt in a chair, 2018 is the year to get up and get moving. No, sitting is not the new smoking, but holding any one position all day can have seriously adverse effects on your health. Research has linked too much sitting to all sorts of health problems, including cancer, heart disease, and depression.
So if you spend all day sitting at a desk, this year, make a commitment to get up and move. A recent study found that people who sit for less than 30 minutes at a time have the lowest risk for early death—so set an alarm on your phone to go off every half hour, and when the alarm goes up, get up, walk around, and stretch for five minutes. You can also combat the "too much sitting" syndrome by getting your sweat on every day and by alternating sitting and standing throughout the workday (try a standing desk!).
3. Wearing "busy" as a badge of honor.
We live in a culture that places value on being constantly busy. As we rush from one appointment to the next with barely a minute to breathe in-between, we wear our heavy workloads like badges of honor, as though the more we can squeeze into a day, the better we are as people.
Yeah… let’s stop that, k? Being #omgsobusy isn’t something to be proud of, and having a jam-packed schedule isn’t virtuous—it’s a fast track to complete and total burnout. Plus, being busy can increase stress levels, and too much stress can cause a whole slew of health issues like anxiety, irritability, heart disease, and high blood pressure… seriously, it’s bad stuff.
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Leave your admiration of overloaded schedules in 2017. This year, focus on balance: Create pockets in your schedule where you don’t have any plans or obligations. Say "no" to things you don’t really want to do. Schedule time for self-care. The less busy you are trying to do ALL THE THINGS, the more time you’ll have to do the things that actually matter.
4. Hitting the snooze button.
We’ve all had those days: You’re all nice and snuggly in your bed when your alarm goes off. All you want is ten more minutes in dreamland. So you hit the snooze button to give yourself a few more zzzs. And then you do it again. And maybe one more time. And then you’re totally late for work and have to rush around your home figuring out where you put the clean socks.
Hitting the snooze button in the morning is so, so tempting, but if you want to get the most out of your sleep—and have a killer day as a result—hitting snooze is something to leave behind in 2017.
Most sleep experts agree that it's a bad idea. You’re actually making it harder to get up on time in the future because you’re interrupting the natural stimulus and behavioral response cycle (your alarm goes off, you get out of bed), which makes it difficult to establish the habit of getting out of bed on time.
Interrupting your sleep with the snooze function can also inhibit your functioning throughout the day, making you feel sleepier and less energized as the day goes on. So if you want to get the most out of your sleep in 2018, disable your snooze button.
5. "Friends" who make you feel bad about yourself.
Do you have a friend who makes you feel bad about yourself? Someone who’s always criticizing or judging you? Someone who leaves you feeling drained every time you talk to them?
If so, 2018 is the year to cut them loose. Frenemies are the WORST. You are far too awesome to keep people in your life who drag you down. Everyone—yes, including you—deserves friends who are supportive, kind, caring, non-judgmental, compassionate, and all-around amazing. And if that doesn’t sound like some of the people you hang out with? It’s time to find new friends—or cultivate closer relationships with other people in your life who make you feel loved and valued.
6. Waking up and falling asleep with your phone.
If the last thing you do before you go to sleep and the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning is reach for your phone, this one’s for you.
Smartphones are amazing. It’s hard to believe that only 15 years ago, we were playing "Snake" on our Nokias and now everyone and their mom is carrying around a fully-functioning mini-computer in their pocket. There’s no denying the positive changes that have come from smartphone technology (looking at you, map app, without which I would have probably perished on numerous occasions), but there’s also no denying the downsides.
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And too much time on your phone just isn’t good for you. Spending too much time gazing at a smartphone screen can actually lower cognitive functioning and drain your ability to think properly. Too much screen-time can also throw a wrench in your sleep habits, especially if you’re checking Instagram before your head hits the pillow; researchers at the University of California San Francisco found a direct correlation between scrolling through your phone at bedtime and decreased sleep efficiency, as well as poorer sleep quality.
We’re not saying you need to give up your smartphone entirely, but in 2018, make it a point to be on your phone less—especially at night.
7. Food shaming.
"I’m so bad for eating that piece of cake!"
"You had the pancakes for breakfast… maybe you should just skip lunch altogether."
"I can’t believe how much I ate today… I’m such a failure."
Food shaming (whether you’re shaming yourself or someone else) is a serious problem. Labeling certain foods as "good" or "bad" can cause us to judge the person who’s eating those foods as "good" or "bad." Food is not a moral choice—your friend who orders a smoothie for breakfast isn’t somehow better than the friend who polishes off a stack of French toast.
And the guilt we experience when we food shame ourselves can actually make it harder to make healthy food choices; a recent study found that when subjects reported feeling guilty after eating a piece of chocolate cake, they also reported higher levels of difficulty in controlling their eating.
8. Thinking that perfection = happiness.
The last thing to leave behind in 2017 so that 2018 is your best year ever? Thinking that perfection equals happiness. Perfection is an illusion. No one and nothing is perfect, and there’s no need to be! Imperfections are good stuff; they’re what make you you, and embracing those imperfections is the key to happiness—not trying to change yourself to fit into someone else’s idea of what "perfection" looks like.
So this year, remember: You don’t have to be perfect to be happy. You just have to be you.
Deanna deBara is a freelance writer and accidental marathon runner living in Portland, OR. Keep up with her running adventures on Instagram @deannadebara. from Greatist RSS http://ift.tt/2BWw6I8 8 Things to Leave Behind in 2017 (So You Can Have the Best 2018 Ever) Greatist RSS from HEALTH BUZZ http://ift.tt/2BMpWaZ
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8 Things to Leave Behind in 2017 (So You Can Have the Best 2018 Ever)
You know the best thing about New Year’s? Yes, the answer is champagne toasts. However, every January 1 is also a clean slate, an opportunity to start fresh. So why take the habits that are no longer serving you along for the ride?
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Here are eight things you need to leave behind in 2017 so you can have a happy and healthy 2018 and enjoy the year you deserve.
1. Comparing yourself to people on social media.
Here’s the thing: Social media isn’t real. The vast majority of what you see on social media is simply not an accurate representation of real life. So if you find yourself getting serious FOMO when you see Insta photos from your friend’s recent backpacking trip, or stressing that everyone you know seems to be getting married while you’re still swiping left on Tinder, remember: You’re not getting the whole story.
Your friend’s backpacking trip looks amazing, but she definitely wasn’t posting pictures of the three days she spent laid up in bed, sick as all get out. And it might seem like everyone you know is having the perfect wedding, but they’re not sharing the epic meltdowns they had getting there (or the imperfect aspects of their relationships—which definitely exist).
The point is, no one’s life is perfect, no matter how it looks on social media. So stop comparing your real life to someone else’s highlight reel.
2. Spending all day with your butt in a chair.
If you spend all day with your butt in a chair, 2018 is the year to get up and get moving. No, sitting is not the new smoking, but holding any one position all day can have seriously adverse effects on your health. Research has linked too much sitting to all sorts of health problems, including cancer, heart disease, and depression.
So if you spend all day sitting at a desk, this year, make a commitment to get up and move. A recent study found that people who sit for less than 30 minutes at a time have the lowest risk for early death—so set an alarm on your phone to go off every half hour, and when the alarm goes up, get up, walk around, and stretch for five minutes. You can also combat the “too much sitting” syndrome by getting your sweat on every day and by alternating sitting and standing throughout the workday (try a standing desk!).
3. Wearing “busy” as a badge of honor.
We live in a culture that places value on being constantly busy. As we rush from one appointment to the next with barely a minute to breathe in-between, we wear our heavy workloads like badges of honor, as though the more we can squeeze into a day, the better we are as people.
Yeah… let’s stop that, k? Being #omgsobusy isn’t something to be proud of, and having a jam-packed schedule isn’t virtuous—it’s a fast track to complete and total burnout. Plus, being busy can increase stress levels, and too much stress can cause a whole slew of health issues like anxiety, irritability, heart disease, and high blood pressure… seriously, it’s bad stuff.
You might also like
displayTitle READ
Leave your admiration of overloaded schedules in 2017. This year, focus on balance: Create pockets in your schedule where you don’t have any plans or obligations. Say “no” to things you don’t really want to do. Schedule time for self-care. The less busy you are trying to do ALL THE THINGS, the more time you’ll have to do the things that actually matter.
4. Hitting the snooze button.
We’ve all had those days: You’re all nice and snuggly in your bed when your alarm goes off. All you want is ten more minutes in dreamland. So you hit the snooze button to give yourself a few more zzzs. And then you do it again. And maybe one more time. And then you’re totally late for work and have to rush around your home figuring out where you put the clean socks.
Hitting the snooze button in the morning is so, so tempting, but if you want to get the most out of your sleep—and have a killer day as a result—hitting snooze is something to leave behind in 2017.
Most sleep experts agree that it’s a bad idea. You’re actually making it harder to get up on time in the future because you’re interrupting the natural stimulus and behavioral response cycle (your alarm goes off, you get out of bed), which makes it difficult to establish the habit of getting out of bed on time.
Interrupting your sleep with the snooze function can also inhibit your functioning throughout the day, making you feel sleepier and less energized as the day goes on. So if you want to get the most out of your sleep in 2018, disable your snooze button.
5. “Friends” who make you feel bad about yourself.
Do you have a friend who makes you feel bad about yourself? Someone who’s always criticizing or judging you? Someone who leaves you feeling drained every time you talk to them?
If so, 2018 is the year to cut them loose. Frenemies are the WORST. You are far too awesome to keep people in your life who drag you down. Everyone—yes, including you—deserves friends who are supportive, kind, caring, non-judgmental, compassionate, and all-around amazing. And if that doesn’t sound like some of the people you hang out with? It’s time to find new friends—or cultivate closer relationships with other people in your life who make you feel loved and valued.
6. Waking up and falling asleep with your phone.
If the last thing you do before you go to sleep and the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning is reach for your phone, this one’s for you.
Smartphones are amazing. It’s hard to believe that only 15 years ago, we were playing “Snake” on our Nokias and now everyone and their mom is carrying around a fully-functioning mini-computer in their pocket. There’s no denying the positive changes that have come from smartphone technology (looking at you, map app, without which I would have probably perished on numerous occasions), but there’s also no denying the downsides.
You might also like
displayTitle READ
And too much time on your phone just isn’t good for you. Spending too much time gazing at a smartphone screen can actually lower cognitive functioning and drain your ability to think properly. Too much screen-time can also throw a wrench in your sleep habits, especially if you’re checking Instagram before your head hits the pillow; researchers at the University of California San Francisco found a direct correlation between scrolling through your phone at bedtime and decreased sleep efficiency, as well as poorer sleep quality.
We’re not saying you need to give up your smartphone entirely, but in 2018, make it a point to be on your phone less—especially at night.
7. Food shaming.
“I’m so bad for eating that piece of cake!”
“You had the pancakes for breakfast… maybe you should just skip lunch altogether.”
“I can’t believe how much I ate today… I’m such a failure.”
Food shaming (whether you’re shaming yourself or someone else) is a serious problem. Labeling certain foods as “good” or “bad” can cause us to judge the person who’s eating those foods as “good” or “bad.” Food is not a moral choice—your friend who orders a smoothie for breakfast isn’t somehow better than the friend who polishes off a stack of French toast.
And the guilt we experience when we food shame ourselves can actually make it harder to make healthy food choices; a recent study found that when subjects reported feeling guilty after eating a piece of chocolate cake, they also reported higher levels of difficulty in controlling their eating.
8. Thinking that perfection = happiness.
The last thing to leave behind in 2017 so that 2018 is your best year ever? Thinking that perfection equals happiness. Perfection is an illusion. No one and nothing is perfect, and there’s no need to be! Imperfections are good stuff; they’re what make you you, and embracing those imperfections is the key to happiness—not trying to change yourself to fit into someone else’s idea of what “perfection” looks like.
So this year, remember: You don’t have to be perfect to be happy. You just have to be you.
Deanna deBara is a freelance writer and accidental marathon runner living in Portland, OR. Keep up with her running adventures on Instagram @deannadebara.
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8 Things to Leave Behind in 2017 (So You Can Have the Best 2018 Ever)
New Post has been published on http://foursprout.com/health/8-things-to-leave-behind-in-2017-so-you-can-have-the-best-2018-ever/
8 Things to Leave Behind in 2017 (So You Can Have the Best 2018 Ever)
You know the best thing about New Year’s? Yes, the answer is champagne toasts. However, every January 1 is also a clean slate, an opportunity to start fresh. So why take the habits that are no longer serving you along for the ride?
You might also like
displayTitle READ
Here are eight things you need to leave behind in 2017 so you can have a happy and healthy 2018 and enjoy the year you deserve.
1. Comparing yourself to people on social media.
Here’s the thing: Social media isn’t real. The vast majority of what you see on social media is simply not an accurate representation of real life. So if you find yourself getting serious FOMO when you see Insta photos from your friend’s recent backpacking trip, or stressing that everyone you know seems to be getting married while you’re still swiping left on Tinder, remember: You’re not getting the whole story.
Your friend’s backpacking trip looks amazing, but she definitely wasn’t posting pictures of the three days she spent laid up in bed, sick as all get out. And it might seem like everyone you know is having the perfect wedding, but they’re not sharing the epic meltdowns they had getting there (or the imperfect aspects of their relationships—which definitely exist).
The point is, no one’s life is perfect, no matter how it looks on social media. So stop comparing your real life to someone else’s highlight reel.
2. Spending all day with your butt in a chair.
If you spend all day with your butt in a chair, 2018 is the year to get up and get moving. No, sitting is not the new smoking, but holding any one position all day can have seriously adverse effects on your health. Research has linked too much sitting to all sorts of health problems, including cancer, heart disease, and depression.
So if you spend all day sitting at a desk, this year, make a commitment to get up and move. A recent study found that people who sit for less than 30 minutes at a time have the lowest risk for early death—so set an alarm on your phone to go off every half hour, and when the alarm goes up, get up, walk around, and stretch for five minutes. You can also combat the “too much sitting” syndrome by getting your sweat on every day and by alternating sitting and standing throughout the workday (try a standing desk!).
3. Wearing “busy” as a badge of honor.
We live in a culture that places value on being constantly busy. As we rush from one appointment to the next with barely a minute to breathe in-between, we wear our heavy workloads like badges of honor, as though the more we can squeeze into a day, the better we are as people.
Yeah… let’s stop that, k? Being #omgsobusy isn’t something to be proud of, and having a jam-packed schedule isn’t virtuous—it’s a fast track to complete and total burnout. Plus, being busy can increase stress levels, and too much stress can cause a whole slew of health issues like anxiety, irritability, heart disease, and high blood pressure… seriously, it’s bad stuff.
You might also like
displayTitle READ
Leave your admiration of overloaded schedules in 2017. This year, focus on balance: Create pockets in your schedule where you don’t have any plans or obligations. Say “no” to things you don’t really want to do. Schedule time for self-care. The less busy you are trying to do ALL THE THINGS, the more time you’ll have to do the things that actually matter.
4. Hitting the snooze button.
We’ve all had those days: You’re all nice and snuggly in your bed when your alarm goes off. All you want is ten more minutes in dreamland. So you hit the snooze button to give yourself a few more zzzs. And then you do it again. And maybe one more time. And then you’re totally late for work and have to rush around your home figuring out where you put the clean socks.
Hitting the snooze button in the morning is so, so tempting, but if you want to get the most out of your sleep—and have a killer day as a result—hitting snooze is something to leave behind in 2017.
Most sleep experts agree that it’s a bad idea. You’re actually making it harder to get up on time in the future because you’re interrupting the natural stimulus and behavioral response cycle (your alarm goes off, you get out of bed), which makes it difficult to establish the habit of getting out of bed on time.
Interrupting your sleep with the snooze function can also inhibit your functioning throughout the day, making you feel sleepier and less energized as the day goes on. So if you want to get the most out of your sleep in 2018, disable your snooze button.
5. “Friends” who make you feel bad about yourself.
Do you have a friend who makes you feel bad about yourself? Someone who’s always criticizing or judging you? Someone who leaves you feeling drained every time you talk to them?
If so, 2018 is the year to cut them loose. Frenemies are the WORST. You are far too awesome to keep people in your life who drag you down. Everyone—yes, including you—deserves friends who are supportive, kind, caring, non-judgmental, compassionate, and all-around amazing. And if that doesn’t sound like some of the people you hang out with? It’s time to find new friends—or cultivate closer relationships with other people in your life who make you feel loved and valued.
6. Waking up and falling asleep with your phone.
If the last thing you do before you go to sleep and the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning is reach for your phone, this one’s for you.
Smartphones are amazing. It’s hard to believe that only 15 years ago, we were playing “Snake” on our Nokias and now everyone and their mom is carrying around a fully-functioning mini-computer in their pocket. There’s no denying the positive changes that have come from smartphone technology (looking at you, map app, without which I would have probably perished on numerous occasions), but there’s also no denying the downsides.
You might also like
displayTitle READ
And too much time on your phone just isn’t good for you. Spending too much time gazing at a smartphone screen can actually lower cognitive functioning and drain your ability to think properly. Too much screen-time can also throw a wrench in your sleep habits, especially if you’re checking Instagram before your head hits the pillow; researchers at the University of California San Francisco found a direct correlation between scrolling through your phone at bedtime and decreased sleep efficiency, as well as poorer sleep quality.
We’re not saying you need to give up your smartphone entirely, but in 2018, make it a point to be on your phone less—especially at night.
7. Food shaming.
“I’m so bad for eating that piece of cake!”
“You had the pancakes for breakfast… maybe you should just skip lunch altogether.”
“I can’t believe how much I ate today… I’m such a failure.”
Food shaming (whether you’re shaming yourself or someone else) is a serious problem. Labeling certain foods as “good” or “bad” can cause us to judge the person who’s eating those foods as “good” or “bad.” Food is not a moral choice—your friend who orders a smoothie for breakfast isn’t somehow better than the friend who polishes off a stack of French toast.
And the guilt we experience when we food shame ourselves can actually make it harder to make healthy food choices; a recent study found that when subjects reported feeling guilty after eating a piece of chocolate cake, they also reported higher levels of difficulty in controlling their eating.
8. Thinking that perfection = happiness.
The last thing to leave behind in 2017 so that 2018 is your best year ever? Thinking that perfection equals happiness. Perfection is an illusion. No one and nothing is perfect, and there’s no need to be! Imperfections are good stuff; they’re what make you you, and embracing those imperfections is the key to happiness—not trying to change yourself to fit into someone else’s idea of what “perfection” looks like.
So this year, remember: You don’t have to be perfect to be happy. You just have to be you.
Deanna deBara is a freelance writer and accidental marathon runner living in Portland, OR. Keep up with her running adventures on Instagram @deannadebara.
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30+ Life Skills That Aren't Taught in School but Largely Affect Our Lives
What do you remember learning at school? Algebra? Shakespeare? Chemistry? Baseball? Chances are, your teachers taught you all sorts of useless stuff, without including any actual life skills. But don’t despair – there’s still plenty of time to learn.
So, what exactly are life skills?
Put simply, life skills are the skills that allow us to live a full and happy life. [1] Without good life skills, you might struggle through failure after failure, disappointment after disappointment, wondering why you can’t seem to do anything right.
A study which followed 8000 people for 11 years showed that those with good life skills were healthier, happier and richer. [2]. Those without good life skills were more likely to be depressed, isolated and unhealthy.
Want to maximize your chances of being happy, healthy and wealthy? Check out the huge list of life skills below, along with links to helpful learning resources.
It’s never too late to start improving yourself.
Ways to Excel in Learning
How to master a new language
This is a hugely beneficial skill that can give you the edge in your career, and help you make new friends from around the world.
You Need To Know This Science Of Learning Languages To Perfectly Master A Foreign Language
How to train your brain
Keeping your brain in good shape will help you learn faster and think up novel solutions to tricky problems.
8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More
How to boost your memory
Wish you could remember more? Spend some time learning clever tricks to boost your memory.
13 Simple Tricks To Improve Your Memory
How to enhance your observation skills
Being able to make good observations helps us solve problems, avoid danger, and draw insight from different situations.
Increase Your Powers of Observation
How to use online resources to learn more
The internet is an amazing tool for education, and many resources are completely free.
25 Killer Sites For Free Online Education
How to have fun
Life isn’t all about work. Learn to have fun wherever you are and you’ll and massively boost your health and happiness.
30 Fun Things to Do at Home
Ways to Be Better at Communication
How to negotiate skillfully
Negotiation skills can come in handy when trying to get a higher salary, haggling for a better price at the shops, or dealing with difficult clients. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.
How To Negotiate With People Who Have More Sway Than You
How to talk to a stranger
All friends start off as strangers! Being able to talk to new people without feeling uncomfortable is a great way to make connections in any situation.
How To Start A Conversation With Anyone Without Awkward Silence
How to solve a conflict
People won’t always agree with you, and that’s okay. Being able to peacefully solve conflicts is a great skill for work and relationships.
8 Simple Steps to Resolve Any Conflict Like a Zen Master
How to have an interesting conversation
Good conversation skills can turn dull small talk into a genuine, interesting connection.
Have Mindful Conversation in 9 Easy Steps
How to express yourself clearly
People aren’t going to know what you’re thinking unless you tell them. Learning to express yourself clearly and boldly is a key step on the journey to self-confidence.
8 Effective Ways To Be More Assertive
Ways to Raise Your Mental Toughness
How to stop caring what others think
Life is so much easier when you stop worrying about other peoples’ opinions of you.
6 Steps to Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You
How to avoid being manipulated
Not everyone in life has your best interests at heart, and you may find yourself being manipulated by others. Stay strong and stand your ground.
8 Ways To Stop Emotional Manipulation
How to be more resilient
Being resilient means being able to deal with whatever life throws at you, rather than being thrown off course when things don’t go your way.
10 Strategies Resilient People Use To Bounce Back When Life Knocks Them Down
How to deal with change
Change is inevitable, and learning to deal with it means you can embrace the ups and downs of life, enjoying every moment.
4 Ways to Deal with Big Life Changes
How to cope with stress
If you’re not prepared, stress can build up to unmanageable levels, damaging your mental and physical health. Learn to deal with it in a healthy, productive way.
30 Easy Ways To Beat Stress Quickly
Ways to stay healthy
How to exercise more
Exercise reduces your chance of illness, improves mental health, and can be a lot of fun.
15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit
How to sleep better
Sleeping well feels good, keeps you healthy, and ensures you can make the most of every day.
11 Sleep Habits of Successful People
How to eat more fruit and vegetables
Get creative when cooking fruits and vegetables to stay healthy.
Top 10 Creative And Healthy Ways Of Cooking Fruits And Vegetables
How to manage your weight
Staying at a healthy weight is a key part of feeling good and avoiding illness.
8 Highly Effective Weight Loss & Muscle Building Tactics
How to improve your mental health
Mental health is just as important as physical health, so make sure you don’t neglect it.
5 Easy Tips To Improve Your Mental Health
Ways to make the best use of time
How to stop wasting time on social media
Social media is a great way to keep in touch with friends, but can easily turn into a time sink. Keep your usage minimal.
Managing Your Social Network Addiction
How to be a morning person
Some of the world’s most successful entrepreneurs are morning people, and you can be too!
Take These 10 Simple Steps To Make You A Morning Person
How to focus and get more done
Good focus is key to getting things done and achieving big goals.
7 Tips To Improve Your Attention Span And Focus Instantly
How to work faster
Less time working = more time having fun. Learn to work smarter, not harder.
How To Work Faster And Smarter
How to improve your time management
Time management skills are essential to a well-balanced life. No more staying late at work or arriving at meetings way too early.
10 Ways to Improve Your Time Management Skills
Ways to have happy relationships
How to tell someone you love them
Found that special person but aren’t sure how to tell them?
How To Tell Someone You Love Them Subtly Yet Sweetly (100 Ways Provided)
How to manage arguments
Arguments happen in all relationships – it’s how you deal with them that matters.
7 Things Couples Always Fight About (And How To Deal With It)
How to know it’s time to break up
Breaking up isn’t easy, but sometimes it’s necessary. Plan ahead to avoid getting hurt.
Breaking Up is Hard to do – 20 Questions to Help You Know When it’s Time to Let go
How to plan a great date
Fun dates make any relationship better – whether it’s your first meeting or you’ve been together for years.
30 Cheap And Amazing Date Ideas For Couples
How to talk about the future with your partner
Planning for the future is an important part of any healthy relationship.
15 Things To Talk About In A Healthy Relationship
Ways to work towards a goal effectively
How to set goals
Creating sensible goals sets you up for success and helps you avoid failure.
How To Set The Right Direction For You Life And Do What You Want Most
How to stay motivated
Those goals aren’t going to achieve themselves. Learn to stay focused and motivated for best results.
8 Steps To Continuous Self-Motivation
How to stay optimistic
Feeling down because you haven’t hit your goals yet? Learn to stay optimistic about the future.
Become More Optimistic with These Simple Methods
How to avoid burnout
Working too hard can lead to burnout and exhaustion. Make sure you take time out to relax and unwind.
9 Ways To Prevent Burnout
How to stop giving up
You won’t achieve anything if you give up. Learn to keep going, no matter what.
7 Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up
Ways to have a satisfying career
How to negotiate salary and get what you want
Don’t settle for low pay – learn to get the wage you want and deserve.
How To Negotiate Salary Skilfully Without Being Pushy
How to plan a career change
Feeling stuck in the wrong career? Make a change before it’s too late.
Motivation To Make A Career Change
How to leave a job
Sometimes it’s time to move on. Learn to leave without burning any professional bridges.
5 Critical Steps to Take Before Quitting Your Job For Good
How to start your own business
Fancy being your own boss. Take a leap of faith and become a successful entrepreneur.
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How to enjoy work
Life is a million times easier when you enjoy your job, and it’s not hard to learn how.
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Are you ready to start learning the life skills that will turn your life from average to amazing? Start with one small goal right now.
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[1]^Skills You Need: What are Life Skills?[2]^Telegraph: Scientists find 5 life skills which bring health, wealth and success
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30+ Life Skills That Aren't Taught in School but Largely Affect Our Lives
What do you remember learning at school? Algebra? Shakespeare? Chemistry? Baseball? Chances are, your teachers taught you all sorts of useless stuff, without including any actual life skills. But don’t despair – there’s still plenty of time to learn.
So, what exactly are life skills?
Put simply, life skills are the skills that allow us to live a full and happy life. [1] Without good life skills, you might struggle through failure after failure, disappointment after disappointment, wondering why you can’t seem to do anything right.
A study which followed 8000 people for 11 years showed that those with good life skills were healthier, happier and richer. [2]. Those without good life skills were more likely to be depressed, isolated and unhealthy.
Want to maximize your chances of being happy, healthy and wealthy? Check out the huge list of life skills below, along with links to helpful learning resources.
It’s never too late to start improving yourself.
Ways to Excel in Learning
How to master a new language
This is a hugely beneficial skill that can give you the edge in your career, and help you make new friends from around the world.
You Need To Know This Science Of Learning Languages To Perfectly Master A Foreign Language
How to train your brain
Keeping your brain in good shape will help you learn faster and think up novel solutions to tricky problems.
8 Ways to Train Your Brain to Learn Faster and Remember More
How to boost your memory
Wish you could remember more? Spend some time learning clever tricks to boost your memory.
13 Simple Tricks To Improve Your Memory
How to enhance your observation skills
Being able to make good observations helps us solve problems, avoid danger, and draw insight from different situations.
Increase Your Powers of Observation
How to use online resources to learn more
The internet is an amazing tool for education, and many resources are completely free.
25 Killer Sites For Free Online Education
How to have fun
Life isn’t all about work. Learn to have fun wherever you are and you’ll and massively boost your health and happiness.
30 Fun Things to Do at Home
Ways to Be Better at Communication
How to negotiate skillfully
Negotiation skills can come in handy when trying to get a higher salary, haggling for a better price at the shops, or dealing with difficult clients. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.
How To Negotiate With People Who Have More Sway Than You
How to talk to a stranger
All friends start off as strangers! Being able to talk to new people without feeling uncomfortable is a great way to make connections in any situation.
How To Start A Conversation With Anyone Without Awkward Silence
How to solve a conflict
People won’t always agree with you, and that’s okay. Being able to peacefully solve conflicts is a great skill for work and relationships.
8 Simple Steps to Resolve Any Conflict Like a Zen Master
How to have an interesting conversation
Good conversation skills can turn dull small talk into a genuine, interesting connection.
Have Mindful Conversation in 9 Easy Steps
How to express yourself clearly
People aren’t going to know what you’re thinking unless you tell them. Learning to express yourself clearly and boldly is a key step on the journey to self-confidence.
8 Effective Ways To Be More Assertive
Ways to Raise Your Mental Toughness
How to stop caring what others think
Life is so much easier when you stop worrying about other peoples’ opinions of you.
6 Steps to Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You
How to avoid being manipulated
Not everyone in life has your best interests at heart, and you may find yourself being manipulated by others. Stay strong and stand your ground.
8 Ways To Stop Emotional Manipulation
How to be more resilient
Being resilient means being able to deal with whatever life throws at you, rather than being thrown off course when things don’t go your way.
10 Strategies Resilient People Use To Bounce Back When Life Knocks Them Down
How to deal with change
Change is inevitable, and learning to deal with it means you can embrace the ups and downs of life, enjoying every moment.
4 Ways to Deal with Big Life Changes
How to cope with stress
If you’re not prepared, stress can build up to unmanageable levels, damaging your mental and physical health. Learn to deal with it in a healthy, productive way.
30 Easy Ways To Beat Stress Quickly
Ways to stay healthy
How to exercise more
Exercise reduces your chance of illness, improves mental health, and can be a lot of fun.
15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit
How to sleep better
Sleeping well feels good, keeps you healthy, and ensures you can make the most of every day.
11 Sleep Habits of Successful People
How to eat more fruit and vegetables
Get creative when cooking fruits and vegetables to stay healthy.
Top 10 Creative And Healthy Ways Of Cooking Fruits And Vegetables
How to manage your weight
Staying at a healthy weight is a key part of feeling good and avoiding illness.
8 Highly Effective Weight Loss & Muscle Building Tactics
How to improve your mental health
Mental health is just as important as physical health, so make sure you don’t neglect it.
5 Easy Tips To Improve Your Mental Health
Ways to make the best use of time
How to stop wasting time on social media
Social media is a great way to keep in touch with friends, but can easily turn into a time sink. Keep your usage minimal.
Managing Your Social Network Addiction
How to be a morning person
Some of the world’s most successful entrepreneurs are morning people, and you can be too!
Take These 10 Simple Steps To Make You A Morning Person
How to focus and get more done
Good focus is key to getting things done and achieving big goals.
7 Tips To Improve Your Attention Span And Focus Instantly
How to work faster
Less time working = more time having fun. Learn to work smarter, not harder.
How To Work Faster And Smarter
How to improve your time management
Time management skills are essential to a well-balanced life. No more staying late at work or arriving at meetings way too early.
10 Ways to Improve Your Time Management Skills
Ways to have happy relationships
How to tell someone you love them
Found that special person but aren’t sure how to tell them?
How To Tell Someone You Love Them Subtly Yet Sweetly (100 Ways Provided)
How to manage arguments
Arguments happen in all relationships – it’s how you deal with them that matters.
7 Things Couples Always Fight About (And How To Deal With It)
How to know it’s time to break up
Breaking up isn’t easy, but sometimes it’s necessary. Plan ahead to avoid getting hurt.
Breaking Up is Hard to do – 20 Questions to Help You Know When it’s Time to Let go
How to plan a great date
Fun dates make any relationship better – whether it’s your first meeting or you’ve been together for years.
30 Cheap And Amazing Date Ideas For Couples
How to talk about the future with your partner
Planning for the future is an important part of any healthy relationship.
15 Things To Talk About In A Healthy Relationship
Ways to work towards a goal effectively
How to set goals
Creating sensible goals sets you up for success and helps you avoid failure.
How To Set The Right Direction For You Life And Do What You Want Most
How to stay motivated
Those goals aren’t going to achieve themselves. Learn to stay focused and motivated for best results.
8 Steps To Continuous Self-Motivation
How to stay optimistic
Feeling down because you haven’t hit your goals yet? Learn to stay optimistic about the future.
Become More Optimistic with These Simple Methods
How to avoid burnout
Working too hard can lead to burnout and exhaustion. Make sure you take time out to relax and unwind.
9 Ways To Prevent Burnout
How to stop giving up
You won’t achieve anything if you give up. Learn to keep going, no matter what.
7 Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up
Ways to have a satisfying career
How to negotiate salary and get what you want
Don’t settle for low pay – learn to get the wage you want and deserve.
How To Negotiate Salary Skilfully Without Being Pushy
How to plan a career change
Feeling stuck in the wrong career? Make a change before it’s too late.
Motivation To Make A Career Change
How to leave a job
Sometimes it’s time to move on. Learn to leave without burning any professional bridges.
5 Critical Steps to Take Before Quitting Your Job For Good
How to start your own business
Fancy being your own boss. Take a leap of faith and become a successful entrepreneur.
17 Steps To Start Your Own Business Even If You’re Working Full Time
How to enjoy work
Life is a million times easier when you enjoy your job, and it’s not hard to learn how.
15 Ways You Can Enjoy The Job You Hate
Are you ready to start learning the life skills that will turn your life from average to amazing? Start with one small goal right now.
Reference
[1]^Skills You Need: What are Life Skills?[2]^Telegraph: Scientists find 5 life skills which bring health, wealth and success
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