#deconstructing masculinity

[forgottenbones]

Dorian Electra - Edgelord (feat. Rebecca Black)

[dahliaduvide]

Just another reason to be in love with The Idles.

[lejournaldupeintre]

Sandrine Rousseau and Julien Bayou : French Greens party boss resigns in fresh blow to left

Sandrine Rousseau and Julien Bayou : French Greens party boss resigns in fresh blow to left

The head of France’s Greens party resigned on Monday after being accused of “psychological violence” by a former partner, dealing a fresh blow to the country’s beleaguered left-wing political coalition. Julien Bayou, head of the Europe Ecology Greens party (EELV), said in a statement that he was stepping down due to the “unsustainable” nature of his position. He has denied the allegations and…

[solemnpancake]

[sampersandman]

[MetalInsider] a couple of the times recently Brendon has talked about the themes of Masculinity. I may add on to this as I recall stuff, because there is actually depth to the stupid dick jokes throughout the show and the movie, it’s just happens that he’s explicitly acknowledged that more recently

where he’s basically talking about the scene where Nathan reconciles with the band and apologizes to Abigail, he’s literally reconnecting with them and consummating the relationship. But this theme is present in A LOT of the show, like I can’t stress enough how many times a dick joke doubles as some metaphor for their characterization. For instance, “Black Fire Upon Us” (the episode) has the alternate title “Dethrelease” because it followed Dethrecord, where they’ve finished it and now they’re trying to release the thing, But it’s also called Dethrelease because half of the episode is spent on the band (minus toki) trying to suck their own dicks. They’re interrupted by Toki being hurt and they talk to each other about how they’re not supposed to care about each other, go back to trying to suck themselves off (unsuccessfully) and throwing a release party (celebration of themselves) which gets cut short because mordhaus is attacked by the people who want revenge on Dethklok for how they’ve been hurt by the band’s selfishness. At that point they’re finally forced to be selfless but it’s too little too late and their manager is dead, and they can’t get their release. Going Downklok follows the same logic, with “going down” taking on 3 meanings. That scene in the movie becomes the final answer to it.

idk it’s just sad that there’s like 0 people around who actually want to talk about it because I’m pretty fascinated by the whole thing but I feel weird talking about this lol

especially for how long he’s been addressing it,

October 2009 November 2009

Like he reflected on it in that month’s time and came back with that answer haha, but it stuck. back to another recent interview;

I’ve considered it a lot and I think that with the movie there’s an overarching theme for all the characters where they have to confront their relationship with masculinity and what they consider femininity, in addition to what they literally call “gay” throughout the series (emotional investment and sincerity). In the show, their relationship with women and femininity is represented by their respective mothers. And in the movie, in order to finally mature, they have to embrace their “feminine sides” so to speak. Which is more or less the point of this line:

[williamvapespeare]

lads i'm posting a new fic today that isn't chapter 3 of David Bowie but that one is almost done and will be next, pls do not fear!!! it's just that edwin payne himself came to me and said "why don't you reread Ovid and then spiral and imagine me in class learning Latin? remember when you did a phd about the creation of the humanist grammar school? why don't you have the boy i love give me some cuddles to make up for my horrible sad life??" so i did.

[spitblaze]

No no, I don't think sex is bad because it's evil and dangerous, I'm not a puritan. I think sex is bad because its something men like to do, because they're evil and dangerous. Completely different.

[sarasade]

I remember when I started to watch The Dragon Prince and went to YouTube to find reviews of the show. I saw several people expressing confusion around Viren’s character. Like what’s his role in the story. Is he a good guy or a bad guy? People saying his character and motivations are confusing etc.

Like damn, you’ve never met a man like Viren??

You aren’t familiar with the type of guy who tries to live up to the unattainable or downright destructive ideals of hegemonic masculinity. A man who buys into those ideals so much that he dehumanises himself and by extension others and becomes completely unfeeling while also acting like he’s the victim when people push back on the injustices his ideals enforce? A person who sees himself as the hero and gets offended when others don’t buy into his narrative of individualistic heroism that reduces other people into props to be used and controlled in his story of greatness and self-sacrifice.

Hmmm I think this show might have something to say about masculinity here.

[theopolis]

Me trying to be hype for Harry having a big role in Spider-Man PS4 sequel even though I'm 97% sure the game will have zero investment in reflecting the themes and intricacies of his character just like almost every adaptation that came before it, despite having accidentally created the perfect set up to do so

[the-malfunctioning-somnambulist]

TIL that the word "seme" originally means "attacker" and the word "uke" means "receiver of the attack" in martial arts - including kendo. These were apparently already used for yaoi archetypes in the 1970-80s, and RGU is from the 90s.

So if we see Touga and Saionji as a couple and not just friends who are good at kendo, could it mean the author knowingly and intentionally rolled the words back to their original meanings - not who tops/bottoms, but who does damage and who lets them?

Except the internet also said the "receiver" does not passively take the blows, but anticipates them and defends himself properly in order for the whole dynamic to work. Which Kyoichi "I'm the only one who's fine with you besting me" Saionji very much does.

[sendmyresignation]

deeper into major labels and while i disagree with a lot of it its become more of a fun intellectual exercise since now it's much clearer sanneh is in his own critical zone instead of just going total summation mode.

[meteorherd]

i don't think this is a controversial ranking per se but now that i have seen every child's play movie i need to rank them because what else is the reason for watching a movie franchise. anyways my order from lowest to highest would be 3 < cult < seed < curse < 1 < bride < 2 🤭

[tiefling-queer]

there is no universal accessibility. there is no one-size-fits-all.

as a genderqueer person, i'd be over the moon if someone looked at my presentation and stumbled or asked what my pronouns are. there are gnc people, trans and cis, who don't present or perform gender in a way that makes it 'obvious' what they are 'going for'. for me, that pause, however performative, is validating and affirming. for me, as a genderqueer person, presentation anarchy and public acceptance of gender nonconformity is comforting.

and on the other hand, i know trans women who are understandably frustrated at people ignoring cues in wardrobe and makeup and opting to degender them. being degendered or misgendered because cues are being missed or ignored is an awful feeling, and this is especially a problem that trans women and other trans fems face.

we've cultivated these protocols that are polite in specific circles that i genuinely believe are used in good faith most of the time, but that doesn't stop them from mimicing bigotry.

i have no answer. ask for my pronouns and don't ask my trans sisters for theirs. there isn't a nice answer.

[enby-denby]

So my partner informed me (with derision of the concept, I should note) of an Andrew Tateism that I couldn't help but deconstruct along literal terms: "Better to live one year as a Lion than a decade as a Sheep."

Because here's the thing: a single year as a lion looks like a miserable prospect. Let's assume the metaphor means a year as a grown lion-- it doesn't specify lion cub, after all. So you project into the body of a three year old lion, and are dead at four years old. That is... not a full life for a lion. Even in the wild. That length of lifespan doesn't suggest a lion that has won access to a pride-- or if so, not long enough to hold it for any meaningful time. More likely, this life is cut short by a pack of vengeful hyenas, a belligerent hippopotamus, an enemy lion or a horrible disease. Perhaps even starvation, as I would presumably be hunting alone and struggling to bring down game. The most painless and dignified death I can imagine for this life is a poachers bullet, and then my body gets converted into some rich guy's bathroom rug.

Meanwhile, ten years is a relatively full life for a domesticated sheep. And what a life it is! I am well cared for by a shepard, surrounded by friends, given unlimited access to delicious pastureland and a warm safe barn to sleep in at night, safe from predators. Twice a year I get a full-body haircut that gets turned into clothing, which assuming I am sheared with care is painless and low stress. Sure, the sheepdog nips at my heels when he herds, but that's all he does-- nips. I am-- barring the aforementioned dog and horses-- least likely to be eaten by the farmer. If I get sick-- from the sniffles to bloatfly to anything short of scrapie-- I will be treated by a vet. After a decade of frolicking in the field, I settle in for a nap on a bed of clover, and peacefully pass away.

I get that its not the metaphorical point of the saying, that its more a statement on "bravery" or "independance" or whatever the Hell this type of dudebro values. But in biological terms, using the same logic that the claim to prize above all else, I have concluded that it is objectively better to live a decade as a sheep over a year of lionhood.

[snekdood]

love how its cool when trans women wanna reject manhood or masculinity and everyone praises them but i wanna embrace it suddenly everyone wants me to second guess myself or stop

[jamietxrtt]

look i really liked the last episode but i feel like i have to say. the whole ‘just forgive them and move on! that’s the best revenge :)’ scene really made me cringe