#defend your scrote with statistics

[hadesoftheladies]

”you’re biased against men!” but am I wrong?

[wild-wombytch]

Not me completely ignoring the messages from the moids in my social circles because fck them and reaching out to one of my crushs that I lost contact with for years instead lmaooo For once, not reaching out to some people is not driven by anxiety but by choice. For once, I genuinely choose to spend my time on someone I admire and I enjoy the company of.

Honestly, I think after a year of being in radfems circles, I don't care about being kind to men anymore and I'm slowly leaving behind my indoctrination that I owe kindness, time, energy and mothering to them. I've finally reached the point where I'm almost ready to purge my circles from men as much as possible. Another year and it will probably be restricted to as little of possible of the men of my family and no one else and I won't even try to be agreeable to them when they say the most violently misogynistic """jokes""" ever or defend porn and female exploitation.

Let them all statistic themselves in loneliness. I want reciprocity, accountability, misogyny-free mindsets and capacity of having your shits together from my loved ones, and the only ones who are all that are genuinely all women. Men are such diapers wetters throwing tantrums and just expecting women to be their therapist, without a care. Radblr helped me to have higher standards and honestly I don't want to hang out with loser scrotes anymore. I'd rather have the company of the badass women I admire and often lost contact with out of anxiety, negligence and internalized misogyny making me prioritize men instead. Women are the only ones being truly soulful and humans, men are fucking walking abortions and degenerated apes.

Moids are so dull, bitter, angsty, negative, immature and unable to do anything right and efficiently. For about a month now, the ones I used to hold as friends ruined my joy and good things of every single day, just treating me like their emotional dumpster. They always have, like all men, but just...it has been so painfully obvious it is a wake-up call. I'll work on acquiring better social skills with women and stop being terrified of them in regards to my homosexuality.

Genuinely I wouldn't even feel that bad (or at all) if these men killed themselves but it is devastating to me to know that these women of my life, who for most of them have shitty mental health, are facing their dark days alone (because their male partnzrs or "friends" don't value them for more than what they bring them. Beside, men aren't people). The girlies needs a girl gang. I hate that the patriarchy discourages that.

[xxactlyperfect]

Chat, is it wrong to defend bisexual women from the huge amount of slander they've been facing completely unprompted ...

Y'all just like to blabber, genuinely. Where is the statistic and research that you use as a source to not only confidently say that bisexual women go for men more than women and stay in those relationships, but also to say we are using women as a placeholder? Do you not see how cruel that is?

But fine, let's not have empathy for that. Let's look at it logically. OP is saying bi women only use other women as a placeholder. So they are male-centered. But we are going off of sexuality. So is it truly wrong of me to read the post as OP implying that bisexual women have a major preference towards men, specifically sexually?

Not to mention how harmful this crap is. Lesbians can be male-centered too, welcome to the patriarchy. Some genuinely don't let themself face their homosexuality, so they end up with a Jakey in an unhappy marriage with three kids. There have been multiple cases of women marrying men, not just before homosexual marriage was legalized, but also now. Before I accepted my own attraction to women, I was constantly shaming myself for it, the way society wanted me to. Lesbians can have internalized homophobia. Compulsory heterosexuality is a real experience. To say that a woman is not a lesbian because she might have had sex with a man is unfathomable to me. Sexuality is a journey. Some women know from the get-go that they don't like men, some women have the feeling but repress it, and some might not realize till they actually try with a man. Not to say every lesbian needs to try taking dick once in life, that's just conversion therapy. What I'm saying is that everyone experiences their sexuality differently. Don't we all know these girls who used to kiss on each other but were very much straight? Or was it just my peers?

But you are already aware of this, ain't you? So why act like these women stuck with their scrotes aren't lesbians? They might as well be.

Anyway, OP. I scrolled down your blog. Maybe it's because of the anons, but most posts and reblogs are insanely weird about women's sexuality. Don't wanna date a bisexual woman? That's no one's business but your own. Posting about these big celebrities LARPing as lesbians for clout? Hell, I do that too. What's a bit less okay is to so broadly generalize bisexual women and almost have this view that their relationships with women are doomed to fail, because they are just placeholders. Or acting as if bisexuals are also polyamorous, which is just such a stupid ass stereotype.

This is from your reblogs. Along with a lot of the term "bihet" thrown around because, as you established, bisexual women don't love women. For the love of Betsy, can we genuinely quit acting as if humans are robots, all programmed the same and automatically know what they want and should?

Some people can go through multiple years thinking they're one sexuality, then turn out to find themselves and change the label. It's a normal part of self-discovery. Especially this entire "gold-star-lesbian" thing is just laughable to me because have we truly forgotten that everyone goes through puberty? And this puberty, or more specifically, just teenage years, is an experimental phase? Sometimes you know what you like, sometimes you don't. And that's fucking okay.

Also, nice try, @magicw4ys ! Very creative. I'm 4B and have no desire to indulge in any relationships with men. Never had sex with one either. Almost got me, eh?

In the end, I understand your frustrations. It's okay to vent them. But all this literally just sounds like Jakey frustrated that Emily left him for Cassie. People leave, and as long as they are fair and don't cheat, they have the right to. You don't have to coddle anyone, but there's no need for all that either. The simple existence of bisexuals doesn't muddy your damn water, we're all fish trying to swim. Sometimes we take multiple rounds around the pond to find where we wanna be.

Just a question: since it's a known fact that the majority of women calling themselves lesbians aren’t actually lesbians, and taking a good look at most of these lesbian couples a lot have histories with men and aren't gold stars. doesn’t that kind of discredit the whole “bisexual women don’t date women seriously” argument?

No it doesn’t discredit it because if you look at bi women as a whole most are in relationships with men. And I do believe a lot of bi women are just with women as a placeholder for men because they’ve been burnt by men in previous relationships. Look at how much they mention their hatred for men in comparison for saying their love for women