#dobbypussssyindulgence

[mushysuggestion]

looking at you makes my heart blossom into tiny rosebuds whose roots seep into every crevice of my being

[actuallyadhd]

ok so i’m not sure if this is normal but i’ve been suffering from trichotillomania as well as dermatillomania. i was wondering if any other people with adhd have this problem and if so how does one stop/reduce it? even on medication i’m not able to break the habit and rather than being cathartic, all the hair pulling and skin picking only succeed in making me feel panicked and disoriented

Sent August 30, 2019

These are often associated with anxiety. I also have dermatillomania (skin picking; trich is hair) and have been struggling with it a lot for the past few months.

What can help is having an alternative activity to replace the damaging behaviour, such as fidget toys or jewelry that you carry on your person, so you can redirect yourself when you notice you’re doing it. Someone I used to know who has OCD wore a large hair elastic on her wrist and snapped it instead of picking at her scalp. I got a spinner ring off Wish to help with my picking (didn’t help much but it’s really nice) since it’s my fingers, and I have chewlery for when I start grinding my teeth (this has been an on-and-off issue for 13 years and the chewies are the only strategy that’s consistently successful). Ten years ago, I taught myself knitting and crochet to keep my hands busy while I was watching TV in the evenings, so I wouldn’t pick at my feet.

Another option is blocking, if possible. Since my current problem is the skin around my nails, when a finger gets so bad that I worry it might bleed or be permanently damaged if I continue, I wrap the tip in gauze and tape it down with plastic medical tape (the bumpy kind they use at the hospital). I leave it on until the finger is somewhat healed, which takes a couple of days, and then I remove the bandage. I’ve noticed that, while it doesn’t keep me from picking completely, it does make it harder since I can’t get at the bandaged skin and I can’t use that finger to attack other fingers, and it does take a while for me to start picking again once the bandage is gone.

I did look it up when I realized it was a big problem, and it can be helped with antidepressants. The caveat being that it can also be caused  (or worsened) by antidepressants. Mine got bad after we raised my dose of sertraline, so I’m pretty sure it’s from that; however, the medication is actually working, so I’m not willing to stop taking it. Which means alternative solutions are the name of the game.

Also, good on you for realizing what’s going on. I only fully realized that this is something I have this year and I’m a lifelong picker.

-J

PS--Thank you for not giving details of what’s going on. Squick factor is not to be underestimated!

[elle--nic]

@dobbypussssyindulgence

[hevelynhellofficial-blog]

A little gift from the artists in Hevelyn Hell!

From the talents of (in order): @cookiescr @myricethighs @spikings @tiffbaxter @shyvaporwave @hattersarts @yowbip @amaebum @4nju @dobbypussssyindulgence @mekitoji @dany-illy

[missolitude]

hi! so it seems that i’m highkey stanning patricia clarkson and i was wondering if you had any movie/show recommendations with her in them? (i’ve only seen lars & the real girl, sharp objects, and easy a oop)

Heyia! I happen to be a highkey Patricia stan too and I’m always happy to talk about her so you’ve come to the right woman 😁😘

These are some of my faves, Sharp Objects in particular! If you enjoyed her character and are curious to know more about her I absolutely recommend reading the book by Gillian Flynn as well. I feel like the show adaptation made some unnecessary changes and left some really relevant parts out, presumably because they wouldn’t translate well on screen. There is a lot more to Adora and her background than the show reveals.

As for recommendations (descriptions all spoiler free of course):

Cairo Time: A beautiful, enchanting (and nonetheless unconventional) romance that pulls at the heartstrings. Patricia’s charismatic aura and her character carry the movie every step of the way. Her performance is captivating and tantalizing and it will forever stay with me.

Learning to Drive: A movie about love and friendship, and how two people that, at first glance, have nothing in common but end up enriching each other’s lives in the most unpredictable of ways. It is very moving and touching, a totally rare gem and again, unconventional.

Elegy: The main story might interest you or not, but I’ve enjoyed this movie long before I’ve stanned Patricia because it has such a beautiful love story at its center. Patricia only has a couple of small but meaningful appearances in it but her role is extremely saucy and unconventionally sexual and she has some very hot scenes in it.

Out of Blue: The most recent of her films. It might be your cup of tea, might not. Patricia plays a detective that must solve a murder case. This is compelling for a number of reasons: Her character is queer coded, she has one sapphic scene in it, and she almost gives me soft butch vibes in this. Apart from this, Patricia carries the entire movie completely alone, personally I couldn’t take my eyes off of her. The movie is very mysterious and slowly unfolds and always keeps you guessing. If you found any of this interesting please give it a watch.

Jonathan: A sci fi movie with a really cool concept and a brilliant execution. A boy called Jonathan goes to bed every night. Every morning he wakes up and there is a breakfast prepared for him along with a video telling him about the second part of his day. Does that sound intriguing to you? Please check it out, it’s as interesting as it sounds. Patricia has some minor but meaningful appearances and they get more and more frequent as the movie unfolds.

Delirium: It was the movie that originally made me research about her. It’s a very well executed horror thriller but not the overly scary variety. It’s very psychological and character driven and there are a couple of really cool twists. Honestly check out that movie it’s so underrated. Patricia’s role is extremely badass and she only has a couple of minor appearances but they were oh so worth it.

The Party: Basically it’s a movie that more or less resembles a theatre piece, a couple of people, who all have their own problems, come together one evening and drama unfolds. Patricia looks like a Hollywood Goddess all the way through it and has the most sardonic and witty lines. And there’s an age gap lesbian relationship with Cherry Jones and Emily Mortimer, just to mention that as well. Not overly brilliant but it happened.

House of Cards: Now this is a problematic show that will leave you broken hearted at the end, because they did Patricia’s character so dirty and in the last season the writing is abhorrent. But I truly enjoyed it up to that point! If you just wanna watch it for Patricia’s scenes it is worth it. (Her first appearance is S5 Ep8) If you are a completionist like me you can watch the show from the beginning for more context because the writing is complex, but you don’t have to. Jane Davis is one of the most intriguing, multi-faceted roles she has ever played and there is a lot of sapphic tension going on. It often left me baffled to the point where I needed to rewind just because I couldn’t believe that these things actually happened. So it is more than worth it, just brace yourself for a broken heart.

These are the main recommendations that I would give to anyone who wants to watch the crème de la crème of her filmography.

Memorable mentions: Shutter Island, because the movie is brilliant but her tiny appearance is barely worth the mention. The Green Mile: again, a classic but don’t watch it just for Patricia. Her appearances are very memorable and emotional and she’s exceptional but they are short. The Station Agent: She is adorable in it and she has the lead! Really a classic and a fave of mine. October Gale: A really cool movie and she was badass in it, she also said in an interview that she worked out for that one and it shows! Last Weekend: Loved her performance more than the movie itself but her character is dear to my heart. Parcs and Recreation: She has two tiny but memorable and hilarious appearances, extremely lighthearted and funny. It’s Getting Late: It’s just a short movie and it’s basically just eye candy but she looks ICONIC in it and she also has a couple of scenes were she looks at a lady in the not so straight way. High Art: Patricia plays a German lesbian heroin addict, and she has some saucy sapphic make out sessions. It was the movie that eventually led to her career break through because the role was so unlike anything she had ever played before. She often mentions this role to this day and I think it’s worth knowing and watching.

There ya go! I hope this was some help to you and that you’ll enjoy the movies 😁💞💞

[chainofclovers]

hello! i'm the anon who sent you the last couple of asks regarding g&f and ur writing-- and now i have decided to stop being a chicken and ask off anon. i cannot thank you enough for how helpful your advice was, i rewatched some episodes of the show and it all started making so much sense! i've seen you talk about big little lies quite frequently and i was just wondering what your thoughts were on season 2 if you're caught up on it

Awww, yay, thank you for letting me know and for coming off anon! I appreciate the kind words in your asks and I'm so happy the writing advice was helpful.

As for BLL, I'm only two episodes into the second season, but I really like it so far. Renata Klein 4ever. This season, understandably, feels more like the processing of trauma than the unveiling of trauma, and for that reason it's a bit tough to watch, but it's soooo pretty and dramatic and full of great actresses. What do you think so far?!

[thegirl20]

dobbypussssyindulgence replied to your photoset “Now that I’ve decided I can no longer watch Big Little Lies, I’m going...”

there's actually a fic for them! https://archiveofourown.org/works/17254787

Thanks for the rec! I’ll definitely check it out :)

[sarahstreep7]

22, 31, 33, and 44 for the lesbian asks!

Hiii!!

22. What lesbian stereotypes do you fit into, if any? I do love a good plaid flannel.. would the into mature women thing be a stereotype? I’m not sure if theres any others??

31. Talk about your interests or hobbies! I really like painting.. I paint mostly watercolour.. its totally my comfort zone.. I’ve been trying oils recently though.. I guess my kitty cats could be an interest or hobby.. I have 3 Jess (17) Charlie (3) and Rosie (9months) and I loveee themmmm 

33. Do you love easily or does it take time for you to warm up to someone? Honestly.. it depends on the person? I get vibes from people and usually i trust them.. sometimes they’re stronger than others.. if its a strong good vibe its so easy.. of its not so strong it takes a while.. i kinda don’t try with mediocre vibe people..

44. Who was your first lesbian crush? If we’re going way way back.. this old lady on this kids programme I used to love.. A little later.. Elizabeth Sladen in the Sarah Jane Adventures.. obviously then Meryl.. and after that you can just go back on my blog to seee crushes lol!!

Thank you soooo much for asking!!!!

[wongkarwives]

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[emmathompsonsmartini]

Rules: We’re snooping on your playlist. Put your entire music library on shuffle and list the first 10 songs. I was tagged by @elle--nic Muah! Thanks love.

1) I Have a Dream — Lily James

2) Party Favor — Billie Eilish

3) I Don’t Wanna Live Forever — ZAYN ft Taylor Swift

4) Sue Me — Sabrina Carpenter

5) Photograph — Def Leppard

6) One of Us — Amanda Seyfried and Dominic Cooper

7) Trampoline — SHAED

8) Money Money Money — Meryl Streep (a bop lbr)

9) Touch the Sky — From Disney’s Brave

10) Feeling Good — Michael Bublé

I love these games lol. Tagging these babes: @eloquent-overlord @amazoniantimelord @garciaflynnismyspiritanimal & @wolfie-doggo @dobbypussssyindulgence you’ve been tagged already but you better do it

[unabombshell]

Was tagged by @bpd-bambii to show a selfie and I literally haven’t taken one in so long but here

Obviously I’m joking that’s a card based on my final form. This is what you wanted

This is from like November idk but I haven’t changed since then except a new wave of freckles invading my face because it’s summer

I’m gonna tag @viper-official @dobbypussssyindulgence @gomez--addams @loyalblight @amethyst-wind-uk

[borderlineshiv]

@dobbypussssyindulgence

[dropsofjupit3r]

Top 6 celeb crushes

I was tagged by @elle--nic (this girl is obsessed with me Geezus) and @dobbypussssyindulgence ❤️

1. Meryl Streep - this May shock you, I know, but it’s true

2. Jodie Whittaker - my babey

3. Keira Knightley - the OG, part of my Gay Awakening Club

4. Blake Lively - honestly these women are all my Gay Awakening

5. Gal Gadot - any words needed???

6. Maya Hawke - my smol bean

Tagging: @maxxiewhomst @deeplore bc idk who else to tag lmao

[elle--nic]

28 for mirandy blease!!

28. “Marry me?”

Andy’s head snapped up from the book she was reading to look at Miranda who was focussed on her own novel. Did she just...?

“Huh?“ She said intelligently.

“I’m certain you heard me, Andrea,“ Miranda murmured. 

Well, of course Andy thought she heard her, but surely she misheard?

“You- I, uh... Huh?“

Miranda looked up at her, her glasses perched precariously upon her nose. Andy loved her nose and liked to remind Miranda at every available opportunity. Since she had moved in three months before, there had been ample opportunity indeed to heap Miranda with the love and praise Andy knew she deserved.

“Andrea, you have won a Pulitzer,“ Miranda admonished gently. Andy heard her love’s voice waver ever so slightly, and realised with a start that she hadn’t answered Miranda yet. The poor woman was probably thinking the worst!

“You’re being serious, right?“ She didn’t think that Miranda would ever joke about something like that, but she had to be sure. Miranda rolled her eyes and moved from the couch opposite Andrea to straddle her lap. She ran her hands through Andy’s thick auburn hair and sighed a soft smile that Andy knew belonged to her alone.

“Yes, Andrea, I’m being serious,“ she whispered. Her lips brushed against Andy’s cheeks, then her forehead, then her chin, their noses bumping playfully.

“Marry me,“ she breathed.

[xvnot15]

Bits about me.

elle8I was tagged by @dobbypussssyindulgence. I wonder why they want to know? heh

 birthday: Much like our own deer Queen I have two birthdays. No, really I do. April 9th is my birth date, December 22 is my second birthday, the day I was born into my adoptive family. My Mum and I exchange gifts on this day.

zodiac: Aries

hobbies: Reading, writing, baking, history, embroidery, Telly.

favourite colour: Most shades of blue but especially the colour of Lapis

height: 5’4

favourite book: One??? Can’t be done. I will say one book that I love and has had an enduring influence on me is Child of the Morning by Pauline Gedge.

last song i listened to: Shut Up and Dance With Me

last movie i watched: Ugly Dolls

inspiration or muse: mainly My Lady Wife

dream job: Edwards Professor of Egyptology

meaning of url: Okay well there’s a story and a half there. My original nickname is XenaVirgin and has been since 2005. At the 2005 Xena Con I got to ask Lucy and Renee a question and when I stood up to ask it I started by saying, “Hi I’m a Xenavirgin.” Meaning this was my first convention and I’d not been a fan for too long.  Lucy bantered back with me and offered Renee to take care of that little problem etc. And when they did the Convention DVD the entire section is called I’m a XenaVirgin. So my 5 minutes of Xena Fame. Lol. The Lady Wife then bought me then next fan kit from Creation and set up a yahoo email to access the Club group and she thought it was a hoot to create it as XenaVirgin so the name stuck. That’s how Xenites knew me and they called me that and that was fine with me. But my other fandoms thought it was a bit weird and embarrassing to write or say out loud and they shortened it to XV and that really stuck, in fact most of my friends call me XV so I’m used to that.   Along comes my dear friend Dax (Daxilla on FFnet), her memory be always for a blessing, and she started teasing me by constantly calling me 15 (XV in Roman numerals = 15).  So to put the kibosh on that I took up the handle XVnot15. PPheewww. LOL

Right so I’ll tag, erm....  @wapwani, @elle--nic, @gentjackthelass, @spacedmuch, @ncruuk,  and anyone else who would like to. :D

[missolitude]

Top 6 Celebrity Crushes

I was tagged by the lovely and ever marvelous @queenology, thank you so much! Love your list, as always you have excellent taste! 💕

I literally never have a top list of anything because my faves are in a constant flux and my state of obsession changes about every month or year, but here are some ladies that I admire a lot and are very important to me for various reasons.

1. Patricia Clarkson

2. Sigourney Weaver

3. Michelle Yeoh

4. Proschat Madani

5. Phoebe Waller-Bridge

6. Catherine Frot

I tag: @ballion @mirandaottos @mirandaputsherbestbuttforward @cassandra-pentughasst @dobbypussssyindulgence @keepstraightahead @babymyleopard @room-on-broom @make-it-sow @itslacroixsweetiedarling @brightsidekindagal @bubblygothzombie and whoever else would like to do this! 💞