#drvwing answers

[drvwing]

That "when you block someone you gain a stalker" tag was so real

i am so incredibly sorry if this is something you’re going through yourself. blocking can be a simple boundary of removing someone from having access to you. so to ignore that and do the most to invade someone’s space, and insist on breaking that boundary; it feels very invasive and inappropriate because it is. i hate how normalized stalking has become with social media, it’s not normal and should never be brushed off imo. at the end of the day it’s a form of harassment tbh

[drvwing]

Got to see you at a concert 💕

this made my night 💖💖 seriously so cute !! just queening out at the local kk concert !!

[drvwing]

Do u ever answer these things? I feel ignored lol.

my inbox gets flooded i dont mean to ignore asks / questions, i mostly read them but then dont answer. i need to remember who i am and stop worrying about taking up space on my own social media, but thats an entirely different story lol :p

[drvwing]

How has motherhood been treating you? I’ve been following you for years now, I hope you’re doing well

there is not a single thing that matters to me more than this little girl. her comfort, safety, happiness, security, and everything else in between. every cliché & stereotype is 100% accurate. i really lucked out being her mom, everyday i am saying i don’t know how i got so lucky to be her mommy.

even on the most tiring days, i look at her and feel an overwhelming amount of love and joy.

i honestly have never been happier, healthier, or looking forward to each day like i have with her. i have experienced so much love, and she is so loved by all my friends and family. i am just really lucky.

just.. lots of love. support. happiness. i can repeat it over and over, i really just love this little life :)

[drvwing]

I follow you & the person who continues to post about you (#ex bestie) & this is going to sound harsh but she seems miserable. Does she really not see how much of a hypocritical person she is? She talks about your weight, talks about your family, is always pointing the finger your way, she does not seem like a genuine happy person. If this is how she posts online I can only imagine how she acted when you two were friends I would have ghosted her too.

i usually ignore these kind of asks because frankly i left that friendship behind as the biggest act of kindness to myself, and answering things like this would simply pull me back into that place.

there was a lot of this happening during the three years i was friends with her, so i am not shocked to hear its what shes choosing her time to post about.

i am not proud of ghosting her. its not something to be excited about, or to make fun of her for going through. it also wasnt something i was planning on doing either. i typed, retyped, and typed again notes app, after note, explaining why i needed to take a step back from the friendship. and that despite it all, i do wish her the best.

but before i could send it she was already spiraling and turning her blog into a snark page, at that point all i wanted to do was send screenshots and say “this is exactly why i dont want you in my life anymore good riddance”.

but i knew thats what she wanted, and why she was doing it. and probably why she still is. she thrives off attention, and would do anything for a reaction.

the best advice i can give is just to leave her alone, if she bothers you to the point of sending me messages, unfollow. there is no reason to hate follow someone or keep tabs on them.

as i said before and will continue to say, i hope she can heal, receive the help she needs, sober up, and can live a life that makes her happy. nobody can save or change her, it needs to be something she wants for herself.