#dysfuncional parents

[ao3feed-brucewayne]

And I left you alone in a house not a home

by Thatonefandomobsessedgirl Basically Damian runs away from the manor since he's getting like more trauma than he already has He starts his own team with his friends and along the way his friends become his family Jason is trying to fix things Dick is also trying to fix things but more chaotically Steph, cass and tim are ready to murder bruce and duke is sad he never did the effort to know damian Babs knows where damian is but she prefers Bruce getting what he deserves oh and maya, mia and some other vigilante have adopted damian Words: 889, Chapters: 1/?, Language: English Fandoms: DCU (Comics), Batman - All Media Types, Batm Rating: Not Rated Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings Categories: Other Characters: Damian Wayne, Jason Todd, Dick Grayson, Tim Drake, Cassandra Cain, Stephanie Brown, Duke Thomas, Mia "Maps" Mizoguchi, Maya Ducard, Colin Wilkes, Suren Darga, Milagro Reyes, Bruce Wayne, Iris West II, Barbara Gordon Relationships: Tim Drake & Dick Grayson & Jason Todd & Damian Wayne, Maya Ducard & Damian Wayne, Mia "Maps" Mizoguchi & Damian Wayne, Damian Wayne & Colin Wilkes, Jonathan Samuel Kent & Damian Wayne, Suren Darga & Damian Wayne, Suren Darga & Maya Ducard & Mara al Ghul & Jonathan Samuel Kent & Damian Wayne & Colin Wilkes, Lian Harper & Damian Wayne & Iris West II Additional Tags: Hurt/Comfort, Bad Parent Bruce Wayne, Jason Todd Deserves Better, Damian Wayne Deserves Better, Damian Wayne Has a Heart, Dick Grayson is Bad at Feelings, everybody gets therapy not really, Damian Wayne Feels, everyvoy is bad at feelings, dysfuncional fam via https://ift.tt/FOXhxi5

[idkimnotreal]

i think i’ve been trying to impose neurotypical expectations on myself.

like, figuring out whether something is irony, whether someone is mocking me when they say something or if they’re being truthful. this is the result of being taught to be hypervigilant to social nuances when you’re autistic; i’ve been raised like this not only by society but by my parents, and on top of that i’m queer which brings me closer to the female autistic experience than the male one with the other factors counted, and it’s just that my brain has been overworking itself trying to solve a puzzle it will never be able to. this is largely what makes me dysfuncional as an adult - that i try to figure out the world as if i were allistic, as if i had an allistic brain, but i don’t and this only further causes frustration and trauma.

diagnosis was supposed to bring relief and so far it hasn’t been great at that other than the first few months. i’m still thinking of myself as neurotypical, and what i think i should do instead is just be autistic; if i think someone is being sarcastic, just take it seriously anyway, and if they become confused by that, i’ll just explain i’m bad at sarcasm. i should just stop trying to overwork my brain, waste energy and mental space on something that will take much longer and is unlikely to succeed and start using it for something i’m actually good at. stuff autism makes me good at.

[lostcauses-noregrets]

hey! i know this is mainly an eruri blog but do u know of any fic focusing on kenny raising levi? thank u!

I’m aways here for Kenny Anon!  He’s one of my favourite characters aside from the Veterans.  Here’s a few fics about Kenny raising Levi that you might enjoy. 

Superfecta Box by @ladymacbethsspot (I love this little modern au oneshot)

A dysfuncional family by @hannibalcatharsis-zero

The Time He Spent by ticonderoga

A Monster by hellenatrix

Sort of Close, I Guess by SpaceNugget11

Also a couple of fics where Kenny appears only briefly, but has a parental role

Pledge AU by @ellabesmirched

Heaven is a Place by @thefangirlingdead

Wall of Death by @lostcauses-noregrets

[lordbhreanna]

Since you mentioned about Nicholai meets Jill’s father. What about he finally meets mama Valentine? Maybe there are 2 possibilities 1. She is straightforward asking about when the wedding will happen (Ya know it happened to me that my parents ask about when will I marry with my boyfriend or do I have plan for having a child out of the blue😱) 2. Mama Valentine is extremely worried about Jill and has 0% trust in Nicholai. She might said something like “We need to talk” to Jill. But personally I think mama Valentine doesn’t against or dislike Nicholai is she worry? Maybe a bit. However, I think mama Valentine feels more relieved because her daughter finally found someone to settle down. She doesn’t want her daughter to live alone forever I guess.

I don't know why, but I imagine Mama Valentine as a sort of stuck-up person that's very bitter towards relationships, because she had a real bad experience with Dad Valentine (as I mentioned, I'm probably changing all that backstory in LO&W and it's gonna follow the book canon in that regard XD)

So what you say makes sense, that she'd be distrustful of Nicholai if they ever meet? Also Nicholai doesn't have that "perfect son-in-law" vibe at all, he reeks of trash man 😂

I also picture Jill's relationship with her parents as a very strained, distant one - mostly because it's hard to imagine RE characters having loving families and never showing up/being mentioned in the games. The ones who do have a family (Barry and Moira, Chris and Claire, etc.) are brought up, so I'm mostly assuming everyone else isn't close to their parents or lost them? Like for Leon, for example, I don't know why but I have this idea that he was raised by his grandparents, but killing off parents all the times feels lazy, so for Jill I see her as having a dysfuncional family, and the book canon lends itself to that very well.

So Mama Valentine has been burned because her ex-husband turned out to be a good-for-nothing thief, which makes her wary, and she might not trust Jill's choices, which is why her relationship with her soured over the years. But in the end, she's her daughter, and she'll be happy if she ever finds happiness in any way.

[proudninjawombat]

Can I confess something? I mean, that’s what Tumblrs for, spreading your thoughts and feelings? I haven’t gone to my online college classes in a week and a half. I’m missing so many assignments in my computers class and I can’t re-do any of them because she doesn’t accept late work. The only reason I’m passing my communications and my math is because my math is self paced, and my communications teacher allows late work and doesn’t knock points for it being late. I took a weekend to go to my best friends house and “reset” because my depression has been fucking with me a lot more recently, but it didn’t work like I thought it would. I wanna just drop out but I know if I do my parents will expect me to move out quicker, and I don’t have the money for any of it. I have a job working for doordash but it doesn’t pay the way I want it to. Also I was the one who took the initiative to put myself in these classes, and if I quit I’ll just prove my parents right that I’m “Spoiled” and “Quit when things get too hard for me” what do I do? My ADHDs Executive Dysfuncion mixed with the un-willingness of depression are making my life a wreck. I don’t wanna blame everything on Mental Illness because I feel the need to take some responsibility myself, but how can I? I’m confused.

[araglas1989]

Family

It's hard to realise and even harder to accept that, while your family truly loves and supports you and would quite possible even die for you...  they also have fucked you up big deal...

They are, especially my father and my brother, one of the biggest reasons I suffer from depression. Our relationship wasn't always the healthiest. Also the relationship between my father and my mother isn't as healthy as ist should be. While he never hit her or something like that, he really has a bad temper, getting angry fast, if something doesn't work like he want (e.g. technology but also household etc.) He tends to growl. It also doesn't really help, that he ist really bad at communicate. He seems to think you must understand him without any words and then gets angry, when you don't know what he wants (while still don't tell you, WHAT he wants... Urgs) even with 28 now, as soon as he starts growling I wonder what I might have done wrong while knowing that I DIDN'T do something. On one hand I get anexty but on the other hand I get angry. But because he always shows his anger, I always try to hide mine because I hate how he makes ne feel and I do not want anyone to feel like me.

Also when I was in my teenys both, mum and dad had a drinking problem, resulting a) to them argue much when drunk and b) for me getting into the parent role, phoneing them, asking where they are, when they will come back etc. It nearly destroyed their marriage...

I'm so happy and proud of them, that they stopped drinking at least 10 years ago, maybe even more. And I know I can always go to them. At the end of september I will move back in for a while and I’m happy to do so... But maker has this all fucked me up. I still feel often like I need to protect them from how bad my depressions are...

Though they aren't the only reason for my depressions. I know it's also from being abadoned by friends (that's why I fear losing people and in the same time feel like it's unavoidable to loose everyone...) And from really mean classmates who even used my compassion for others just to hurt me.

Still it hurts to know that even the people closest to me have, even with good intentions, made me that dysfuncional person I'm today.

And I fear so much, that I also will fuck things up, when I will be a mother some day...

[failingfuture]

person: lol so my mom did something that annoyed me

me: omg thats awful im sorry you have to deal with h-

person: what no shes decent this was like a one time thing

me: it was a what

[ao3feed-brucewayne]

And I left you alone in a house not a home

read it on AO3 at https://ift.tt/FOXhxi5 by Thatonefandomobsessedgirl Basically Damian runs away from the manor since he's getting like more trauma than he already has He starts his own team with his friends and along the way his friends become his family Jason is trying to fix things Dick is also trying to fix things but more chaotically Steph, cass and tim are ready to murder bruce and duke is sad he never did the effort to know damian Babs knows where damian is but she prefers Bruce getting what he deserves oh and maya, mia and some other vigilante have adopted damian Words: 889, Chapters: 1/?, Language: English Fandoms: DCU (Comics), Batman - All Media Types, Batm Rating: Not Rated Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings Categories: Other Characters: Damian Wayne, Jason Todd, Dick Grayson, Tim Drake, Cassandra Cain, Stephanie Brown, Duke Thomas, Mia "Maps" Mizoguchi, Maya Ducard, Colin Wilkes, Suren Darga, Milagro Reyes, Bruce Wayne, Iris West II, Barbara Gordon Relationships: Tim Drake & Dick Grayson & Jason Todd & Damian Wayne, Maya Ducard & Damian Wayne, Mia "Maps" Mizoguchi & Damian Wayne, Damian Wayne & Colin Wilkes, Jonathan Samuel Kent & Damian Wayne, Suren Darga & Damian Wayne, Suren Darga & Maya Ducard & Mara al Ghul & Jonathan Samuel Kent & Damian Wayne & Colin Wilkes, Lian Harper & Damian Wayne & Iris West II Additional Tags: Hurt/Comfort, Bad Parent Bruce Wayne, Jason Todd Deserves Better, Damian Wayne Deserves Better, Damian Wayne Has a Heart, Dick Grayson is Bad at Feelings, everybody gets therapy not really, Damian Wayne Feels, everyvoy is bad at feelings, dysfuncional fam read it on AO3 at https://ift.tt/FOXhxi5