#dysphoria kicks my ass with a lot of outfits I like but something about this thrifted black woman’s button down is the most masc shirt I own

[headofocs-inklesspen]

It’s actually kind of funny to me that the masc outfit I think I look best in - my fitted black button down, black jeans and any of the 6 pairs of black boots I own (they’re all different, I’ll die on this hill) - is also the outfit that makes me look like every other service industry worker at the show after their shift. I am every line cook ever at the punk show with my whiskey and my work boots and I genuinely think that more than any other combination in my closet, I look hot as fuck

[thestrangestthings]

Joan Munson

Trans! MTF Eddie Munson headcanons. 

Warnings: for obvious reasons I refer to her with she/her pronouns throughout the whole post, crying, mention of underage drinking, mentions of physical fighting, mentions Joan stealing your typically feminine clothing/hair products | In the nsfw part I talk about insecurity, dysphoria, crying

The first section can be taken as platonic, familial, or romantic. The second part is romantic and contains some nsfw themes. 

Her preferred name is Joan. 

She will steal your fishnets and skirts and wear them around the house. 

Asks you to use your fancy hair products on her hair, or to style it the same way you do. 

On a day she’s feeling daring she recruits you in dressing her up to the full nine. 

Dress, boots, fishnets, a bra with padding, makeup and hair spray. She stares in the mirror for ten minutes straight, touching her hair and adjusting the dress and changing her position so she can see every part of herself clearly. She cries and it ruins her mascara but that only makes her look more metal. 

She’s trying to grow her hair out as long as possible. She always jokes she wants it to be long enough she can tuck it in the back of her pants. 

Getting drunk and sobbing about how she doesn’t feel pretty or feminine and she’ll never feel like a real girl so you and Robin pull her into the closest bathroom and raid the makeup supply. 

After that you can’t get her out of eyeliner. 

She slumps to make herself feel shorter, smaller, so she is constantly complaining of neck and back aches. 

The first time you call her the Queen of Hellfire she tears up, but it’s happy tears. 

She comes out to her uncle, voice and hands shaking and her nails digging into her palms, but he simply embraces his niece and tells her his love is unconditional and she will always be his family. 

He tries to help the best he can, saying her outfits are cute, or that her hair is pretty that day. He threatens to kick anyone’s ass who says anything about her eyeliner or long hair. He actually gets into a couple scuffles with kid’s dads over it, but people soon learn not to pick a fight with him. 

When Wayne finds out Joan told you and Robin before him, instead of being hurt he is understanding and grateful and tells the both of you you’re welcome in their home at any time. 

Has posters of Lita Ford and Joan Jett under her bed from before she came out to her uncle. Constantly saying things like “I’d give my guitar strings to look like Lita.” 

*NSFW*

When you first express your romantic interest in her it would take her a long time to come with terms that you can even be attracted to her with the body she is in. 

In the sex department, things would move very, very slowly. Lots of kissing, and hands-to-yourself make out sessions. The first time you try over the clothing touch she almost has a breakdown and begins crying, needing a moment to collect herself before asking you to continue. As the two of you get closer and she realizes, no matter how insecure she is, you still love her, she becomes more comfortable with you touching her sexually. 

The next step would be dry sex, and she would be so nervous at first. 

Would you be disgusted when you felt her hard on? What about if you tried to touch her tits and there was nothing there? What if you didn’t even get aroused, because her body didn’t appeal to you like you thought it did?

But quickly she became distracted by the pleasure, falling into it and not remembering her worries until after she had the best orgasm in her life. 

After that sex will come easier to her. Any words insinuating she has a penis will immediately kill her mood, but it’s something you learn to work around. 

She quickly finds things are far more arousing when she’s wearing lacy, feminine underwear, or a soft silk bra. She loves when you run your fingers through her long hair, or praise her for being a good girl. Any praise for that matter will have her on the edge of coming in no time. 

When she’s fucking you she will want to cum in you if possible. She doesn’t want to see her cum on you, and plus she likes the intimacy of it. That you trust her so much, love her so much, that you would allow her that deep inside of you. 

The first few times you have sex, and scattered among the times after that, she has severe dysphoria when she comes down, and wants to be held and to wear baggy, comforting clothing. 

There will be some days where she wants no sexual touch at all, the thought of being touched sexually will make her nauseous and she will wear the baggiest clothing she owns and curl up under her blankets. 

All you can do is offer comfort and support, reassuring her that she is beautiful as she is, and she is a woman no matter what body she’s in. 

[uncanny-tranny]

hey! I don't know if it's okay to send this here but since many people read your blog I thought it'd be useful :) these are some things I try to do on bad dysphoria days that have helped me a lot so far:

1) the moment I recognize my dysphoria is kicking my ass I try to first take a few deep breaths to ground me

2) I go look at myself in the mirror and stare for a while

3) I start talking to myself out loud and say things like this is only one bad day and nothing else. that just because I'm feeling bad about this it doesn't mean I'll feel like that forever.

4)then I try to remember how I feel on good days and focus on that feeling for a second and I tell myself that I'm the same person as then.

5) If I'm obsessing about what to wear or my looks, I'll literally give it up, put on my safe outfit or whatever I have and just take it in as it is telling myself there are plenty of days in the year to wear more elaborate things but that I shouldn't worry about something like that now. my safety comes first.

I hope these help someone just like they help me! they're nothing but a way to tell ourselves to slow down a bit 🌸

I like to point out the things about me that make me euphoric whenever I look into the mirror! Sometimes, being able to just step back and trying to make light of your situation can really help to put things into perspective!

Grounding techniques can be very important for some people, and I encourage anybody who wants to do it to try it out!

[midnight-heroes]

hey! i just read your ftm headcannons with bakugo and i really liked them! they helped me out a lot. i was wondering if you could do another ftm dysphoria headcannon for dabi, todoroki, and toga? :)) thank you!

//It seriously makes me to happy to hear that, considering I know next to nothing about how those with dysphoria may feel. The closest I feel I can relate, is not feeling comfortable in my own skin because of my appearance, so to not feel ‘right’ in your own body because you feel as if your body isn’t the body you were supposed to be born with, must feel absolutely awful and I hate to think- no- know. I hate to know that there are people out there who feel this way. So if me writing something short and kind of inaccurate helps in any way, then I hope I can continue to help.

Dabi

Dabi is a man who knows what it’s like to ‘not belong’ in a sense. In a different sense of course. He didn’t belong in a place so he got out of there. You’re a whole different situation though.

You’re stuck in a body you feel you don’t belong in and you can’t escape that without taking the necessary steps which can be quite daunting. 

There isn’t much Dabi can do for you, considering it’s not like he can kidnap you from your own body. If it was a house, sure, he’d take you away and make sure you never look back but your body was your body. There’s nothing he could do about that.

So what he does do, is ask questions. He doesn’t care for the most part. You feel however you feel for a reason right? You’re allowed to feel that way but if it’s bothering you, then he’ll ask what he can do to help.

Call you by your preferred pronouns? Sure, he called you babe most of the time anyway. 

Hey, didn’t he have a girlfriend last week?

Nah, he’s only ever had a boyfriend, what are they talking about?

If you don’t want him touching certain parts of your body due to you not liking those parts, he’s gonna be a little bummed out but it’s your body, your rules, so okay.

I don’t see him as too much of a cuddle bug but I don’t think he would mind holding you if you’re just needing to be held. 

I think that’s all he’d really be able to do for you when you’re struggling with your dysphoria. He’ll hold you and change some things about how he speaks and treats you but he won’t be too good at talking about it. All the same though, he is trying and sometimes, you gotta take what you can get.

On a different note though- he would suggest you get the surgeries done to make you more comfortable in your own body. He won’t be able to get you into an actual hospital with a legal surgeon but he knew a few really good underground doctors who he figured would be able to help if you’re brave enough to take that route.

Shoto Todoroki

I feel like Todoroki is a little more aware of this kind of stuff than he gives off. 

Being a teenager in this day and age, and in hanging out with the people he does, he is probably very aware of the LGBTQ+ community, which means he’s heard about the struggles that could and usually do come with being transgender. 

Of course he is no expert though. Once he finds out that you’re a trans male, he’ll accept it but will be sure to ask questions as to what that means to you, for him and for your relationship. 

He’ll use the pronouns you’re comfortable with, with treat you however you’re most comfortable- which is what he did anyway and so on, so forth.

He’ll even ask people like Mina- who I believe is very aware of these kinds of things, and would do his own research, online, through reading and asking doctors occasionally when he goes to visit his mother. 

When you are struggling with your dysphoria however, Todoroki isn’t going to know what to do. He’ll be awkward and struggle to comfort you if that’s what you’re looking for. 

He will go for the default form of comfort, that he would normally use for other issues, which would be holding you, but if that’s not what you’re after, you’re going to have to tell him. 

He’ll gradually learn how to comfort you, he’ll learn the right things to say, to make you feel better, he’ll figure out all your little needs and your big needs.

He gets better at this the longer the two of your are together and as adults, I’d say that’s where he would help you take the next step if that’s what you are wanting to do.

Himiko Toga

Toga is also very aware of transgender people, and that’s thanks to Magne!

From the moment she met the woman, she was on her, asking all kinds of questions, wanting to learn about her, how she came to this point in her life and then taking it all on to treat her the way she wanted to be treated, and that is as an ass kicking woman. 

So when she met you, someone who was clearly very uncomfortable in their own skin, she was suspicious from the start. 

She figured you were transgender before you even told her, but once you told her, that was when she could finally openly start treating you the way she’s been wanting to.

Toga is crazy, we all know this and she does what she wants, when she wants, but she was holding back because of what she had learned from Magne and wanted to wait until you were comfortable with her knowing. 

So she has no issues with switching to calling you by your preferred pronouns, treating you like the handsome man you are and all that.

When you’re feeling down and heavily dysphoric, she’ll step up her game a bit. 

She’ll cuddle, talk, sit in silence, listen, whatever you want.

What she loves doing however, is giving you a makeover, or a ‘man-over’. No makeup involved. I’m talking a new outfit of your liking, a haircut if that’s what you’d like, ‘buy’ you some new cologne, etc. Just things that may help you feel more like a man and perhaps just a little more comfortable, even if it’s only for a short period of time. If it helps, she’ll go through with it.

[thermie]

h h hewwo owoo 22 / 23 / 29 / 31 / 34 / 50 / 58 / 61 / 88 in any order, and u can also just. pick only those that u want :3

hhhh-ewwwo? I did say I wanted to chat and I desperately do not want to do work or studies so buckle in for a long post (derogatory). 22. role model? Oh man, I don’t think I have any, like, specific ones for entire things, though I do fall in my hero-worship phaes and then fall out of them like everyone else. I think that taking an entire person and being like I wanna be like them is... not for me though. But I do look up to some people for specific things - I look up to, weirdly enough, Abigail Phylosohpytube who I didn’t watch before her coming out for her graceful coming out video though she admits that the experience wasn’t obviously as smooth. I look up to lots and lots of people for their ability to create and their art (not gonna tag my fav artists bc am tiny and do not want people to look at me, but i do be reblogging). I look up to people like ConcernedApe Stardewvalley and Supergiantgames Hades for their ability to put so much soul in their work, smth I aspire to do. I look up to @not-poignant for, among other things, their idk how to say it best, wisdom in understanding and communicating with others and with myself? I’ve learned a lot by just sort of being in their periphery and seeing how they articulate their thoughts and choose to be kind and witness other’s pain. Hell, I look up to twitch streamers and youtubers sometimes (the recent nice trait I’d like to have if I ever went into bigger content production is how ibxtoycat deals with parasocial relationship realities). 23. strange habits? Hm. I don’t think drinking tea whenever I need a pick-me-up is strange, that’s just probably forcefully assigning a British nationality to me. I think my insistence on misspelling words in a way I think is lowkey funny might be one, I say thamks bc it feels softer, or thank bc it’s funny, I say sleeb, I say finkers or tryink or otherwise replace g with k for lulz. I also don’t know if it counts as a habit but I have a small leather band around my wrist that’s been there for a year soon. Hmmmmmmmmmmmm I probs have like, stranger habits but I can’t recall rn. 29. best way to bond with you? Hmm. Well, if you show initiative and are explicit about wanting to spend time with me, that’s already a big chance of me spending time with you. And then if our interests match and I don’t think that you’re like, young in a way that automatically puts me in a position where I don’t feel comfortable really being myself around you bc in my head I have to look out for you (it has happened with two of my friends, sigh), and we regularly spend time together, voila, friend acquired. It simultaneously doesn’t take much and takes a bit to be my friend and bond with me - it’s easy af to become a casual friend cuz I’m always open to new people, but there has to be a level of trust to become like, a close friend. Respecting my boundaries, talking shit with me, being explicitly committal about wanting to bond with me are big steps that way. 31. what outfit do you wear to kick ass and take names? Uh, I don’t do neither, but a current fave that is reasonably badass is my black tshirt with like, a ritual circle and a deer skull. V edgy, 10/10. I also used to have like a real edgy tshirt with a jester and some dice that said the game of life, but I threw it out bc dysphoria. or maybe I put it at the back of my closet along with one other shirt In Case I Get Top Surgery so I can wear them then. 34. advertisements you have stuck in your head? Many, such is the nature of advertising, alas. I have managed to avoid most of it tbh though, so the only place I am forced to sit through ads so they stick is my scrabble capitalist nightmare app where I play and always beat haha my coursemate. And they have adds for those shitty apps where you have to solve a puzzle that ends up failing in the add and like, drenching a man in green goo. I find those kinda fascinating tbh. Who plays these games? Who plays these shitty shitty games whose ad has to be “prove your IQ“ to make you want to prove yourself to play them? Oh and also, the insidious nature of ads in media I consume - the mcelroys have gotten me informed about many many things bc they do it in a funny way. Have you heard about squarespace? What about meundies? I also literally installed honey yesterday that I knew abt bc of the relentless adds and I wanted to save, uh, 2.50 from my minecraft server purchase (and then spent some time googling how they make money before giving up. just say u sell my data, that’s easier than not knowing what part of this makes you money). I was tired and in a weird mood, ok. 50. what made you laugh the hardest you ever have? It’s always the stupidest jokes, what matters more is laughing together with someone and getting caught in a laughing loop. I still remember laughing with my siblings until our stomachs really really hurt bc I think one of us said a rug was vomit-colored and it was funny in the moment. How many times have I laughed like that with you too, vit. I know that Laura’s one is nostrilatu, right? :D :D It’s just something that catches you off guard, I think.

58. four talents you’re proud of having? Oh shid. Hm. 1) My ability to analyze data and understand the basic building blocks of something. Makes me cool at studying and sexy at explaining things to my course-mates. 2) Not a talent more like a skill that I’ve worked hard on through therapy - but my inner positive voice/healthy parent is very strong and automatic (something I was sure would never happen). A good example is me going out for a walk, my phone dying so I can’t listen to music, when I went in my head “well I can always make music in my head. do-do-do *drum sound*“ and I could feel the wave of self-reprimand cresting but before I could actually hear any negative comments the positive voice said with a light of a thousand suns NO THAT IS ACTUALLY CUTE AND SEXY and just haaaaaaah. 3) I sing good. Need to sing more. 4) I think I’m good at making conversation. Even with people I don’t necessarily like or want to talk to. More of a skill again but whatever. 61. favorite line you heard from a book/movie/tv show/etc.? Do not come to me and ask for favorites, witch. Uh, I have some quotes in my notes app, like 7 from Pia’s writing :D. But imma go with “It’s a serious thing just to be alive on this fresh morning in the broken world“ by Mary Oliver. It counts, ok. Or, wait, something I will for real one day either crosstitch of commission shitpostcalligrapher: “t’s like in the great stories, Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger, they were. And sometimes you didn’t want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something, even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn’t. They kept going. Because they were holding on to something. “What are we holding onto Sam?” “There’s good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it’s worth fighting for.“” 88. your greatest wish? Hrm. Right now? To have like a couple days with no responsibilities and without the outside world bearing on me as heavily, to be tiny tiny tiny so I’m invisible and can drink tiny tea on a tiny leaf. Uh, in general? My recently formulated wish or a goal is stability/peace. Then everything else becomes ok because you can bounce back to stable ground between feeling shit or everything happening so much. And I’ve sort of reached that. Also like, half a million euros would be nice too so I can get a house and a car and go on a few trips abroad. :D // there’s two ask memes in my blog recently, go wild

[doomsdaydicecascader]

🔥 talk about the alpha kids sprites (im asking you to talk about tavrisprite but like i get if you dont so theres the out to talk about like fucking arquius or whatever)

tavrisprite is so critical to my understanding of homestuck. like, this moment where they’re both experiencing what the fuck the other goes through is literally the first step of the (vriska) redemption arc, which is like. the soul of homestuck to me. and i LOVE that tavros comes out of the experience MORE of an asshole, like. its so fucking juicy. 

in catnapped, the newspaper that announces that jasprosesprite^2 just kidnapped jane is addressed to fefeta’s reach, which is like. that’s cute. its very pandering to me specifically but i think that since one of the more widely-spread hot takes about the epilogues, and the one that started the cold war between me and k8 mitchell, had a lot of focus on fefetasprite not getting a funeral, id like to think it was an olive branch of sorts. 

i’ve never really enjoyed transfem eridan but i really kinda dig the read where it’s more of an accessory to nb jake, like. erisolsprite is this kind of manifest8ion of gender dysphoria, and i think theres something to that. 

arquius kicks ass? theres not that much to say about him, other than i wish i had more excuses to write him. he’s in the concept art for what is now act 3 of bdth that i drew last year, next to terezi in a dragon’s outfit, but that wound up getting cut because i went another direction with that plot line and im so sad about it. theres a scene in bdth with him that i really like but i dont want to spoil it. legitim8ly like, arquius is so fucking funny