#everything is worth celebrating

[tbh-entp]

Hi , entp girly here ! As you know expressing our feelings is not one of our best qualities but how do you do when it starts to bring big issues in your relationships? Like people think I can care less about them while it's totally the opposite, it's just the way I act by being teasy and easy going all the time. I just want them to know when I want it to go further when it comes to a guy and how much I like him but my mixing signals don't seem to work. I know I'm missing on big connections with this behavior so I wondered if you had any tips or any similar experiences ? Thanks you xx

Hi!

Wow, great question. yEAH, I totally understand what you're dealing with and where you're coming from on this. I #avoided relationships possibly up until now primarily due to fear and difficulty of expressing emotions. But since I'm living very very far away from family and close friends, I've become much better at bonding closely to new people in adulthood. I'm also single and wow, communication is hard.

The key is just to practice and see how it feels. As I've grown, I've turned down my sarcasm (it really only comes out now when I'm not comfortable around people), and turned up the basic genuine responses.

When it comes to communicating in relationships, it's really difficult to get past the nerves part. Vulnerability also is so wholly horrifying. Soo, I've also trained myself to feel pride for shots that I shoot. Whether or not it's asking someone out, saying that I still have feelings, or telling someone who I love that he's got to move to Thailand and let us go (side eye), it's all something to celebrate and be proud of. (omg this weekend actually i went out with a friend and shot my shot but got rejected and... its good lol I'm proud of myself and imma still be friends with this guy because he's cool!)

Idk, all I've got is practice makes perfect, and reward yourself for the small accomplishments along the way. You are very capable of being open and vulnerable.. and maybe it will be weird for people to see this from you at first but we're all allowed growth, and they'll get used to it. (my first foray into being open was crying nonstop at my friend's wedding and everyone was so confused but like love is beautiful? and everyone was so happy? the daddy daughter dance? ahh) Also people will mirror you! We tend to adapt to the energy that other people put out.

A final note, being more open and vulnerable comes with a lot of positives. I'm very mid at it and even then, I truly think that it's allowed me to just be more in touch with the world. Friends are more accessible, mountains are more beautiful, pride is more love. Everything is just more.

[gojoest]

i think satoru likes to celebrate all the tiny milestones in your relationship like your first ever date anniversary, your second date anniversary, the third, the forth and etc etc, the first time you watched a movie together, the first time you ever held hands, the first time you hugged, the first time you kissed, the first time you called him by his first name, the first time you had sex, the first time you stayed at his house, the first time he spent the night at yours, the first time you cooked for him, the first time you left a piece of clothing at his house, the first time you wore his shirt, the first time you said i love you, the first time you fought, the first time you used a pet name, the first time he met your family & friends, the first time you met his, and the list goes on and on, growing bigger each day. he remembers everything about you and him — you together, and it’s easy to keep track of it without even writing it down somewhere or setting a reminder bc you’re the sun and he’s the earth revolving around you

[cashweasel]

Some things never change ❤️ happy anniversary to the beloved blorbos (and happy birthday to yazan! whose 25th bday present was a gf jdkskdjf)

@night-triumphantt

[zoennes]

“We met up once and it wasn't even a date. I did it for Amber. You know how she's always going on about Senne. So… Last Friday I asked him to cancel that gathering. But in exchange, for half an hour I had to…”

“Kiss?”

“Talk [to him].”

Zoenne + 30 minutes

[monarchisms]

rejoice matt be upon ye

[sskk-manifesto]

:)

[whimsycore]

I think what people don’t understand about having a narc parent is how isolated you are and how they make you feel on the daily. I had major oral surgery today and I woke up in a dark house tonight.

She literally raised me with the belief that she’s terrified of a completely dark house. And because of that I would make sure a light was turned on for her. Whether she was inside the house yet or not. This woman left one light on and it’s where she was today before she left.

The entitlement and inconsideration is part of daily living with her. But I’m supposed to stay with her because she’s scared to be alone. I’m supposed to not want anything for myself. I’m supposed to not DO for myself because she doesn’t. Imagine your entire life they make you a caretaker and they complain every minute of every day about you to someone so you can’t even trust other adults in your life. And you can’t count on your parent either because they let you down often but expect the world from you.

[sherlock-is-ace]

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[siriuslynephilim]

so

i want to be a part of a big group of people who love each other SO BAD i want to have a friend group i want to care and love many people at once i want to belong feel a sense of community but i am so isolated i don't even have one single friend and am i just going to die alone probably yes right im already 20 years old and this 19 year old guy at office was like we were both waiting counting down the minutes till 4 pm so we could go home and we were like yaar kal parso bhi aana padega sunday kitna door hai but then he was like yaar do yk it's already been a month here and time is passing so fast and im not doing anything that people my age do im sitting in a locked office my whole day and aise hi sunday ka wait karte karte 2 saal ho jayenge fir job main bhi aise hi lagega and yaar aise tog puri zindagi hi nikal jayegi and i was like what the fuck shut up you're so right and im already 20 and i feel so lonely and other people are so fucking normal and happy and enjoy festivals while im sitting here worrying about how to finish my backlog watch lectures my life is so small limited to 10 books one course and i feel so on the outside of everything what the fuck man how do i live like this 🧍

[bonestrouslingbones]

sigh. ebony's birthday is at some point this month isnt it.

sigh. i'm not gonna be able to get this idea to combine that with a sort of last hurrah to finally kill off the ask blog format for atbb out of my head am i.

[lovesuplex]

it’s wild thinking about how close to the concept of death ive been since a kid, literally walking past funerals after coming home from school made it seem like more of a party (black tie!) than something pertaining to loss… but now that im older it’s cultivated my view on life and death in general; life is something to celebrate while we have it, death is something to celebrate the love and life we’ve made (with our bonds and etc).

[deityofhearts]

I think my biggest gripe (maybe not the right word) with my birthday is that is just doesn’t feel worth celebrating

[welcometogrouchland]

Trick or treat 👁️👁️

I eated it :(

[ID in alt]

[loverboybrightsideghost]

happy pride to midnighter and apollo from DC comics :]

this is midnighter's response when the devil tells him basically "i am the embodiment of every evil on earth, all the nastiest most abhorrent things. what could you possibly have to fight me with?"

and

[mean-vampyre]

there has to more to life than being 26 and suicidal because you can’t get a job and you don’t even want a job. where is the love

[daylightisviolent]

So i didnt the entirety of the first day of christmas crying or feeling sad.. great succes!