#feedist discourse

[extra-stout-stories]

Reblog if you're into soft XWG. Wholesome-but-extreme, extreme-but-wholesome. Scalebreaking weights celebrated with praise and caresses. Playful flirtation during gigantic all-day binges. Extreme sizes as an opportunity for tender caretaking. The warmth and intimacy of getting really fucking fat.

Often it seems like the line of division is between option 1, wholesome soft feedism with plump round tummies, and option 2, extreme weight gain and supersizes accompanied by degradation and shaming kinks. Neither of these are "wrong" ways to fantasize (as long as option 2 doesn't involve real life fatphobia), but I'm a fan of option 3.

[bellyyearner]

Bro like at least half of the people who interact with my posts/stories are trans and I'm trying to figure out if I just got that accepting/supportive vibe or if this community is just extra extra trans. Like it's Tumblr so ofc its gonna be more trans than other sites

Either way I'm doing something right ig with the gender neutral stories

Also a lot of y'all are hot, I'm finding so many sexy mfs on here

Additional thought. Weight gain can help with body dysphoria? I don't have a personal experience with that in regards to gender but from what I've read it seems like a common theme for people. Like it would make sense to me if a lot of trans people were into soft feedism, that just clicks in my head and sounds right because of how loving/nurturing soft feedism can be(especially in regards to a body changing)

[extra-stout-content]

Follow For Original Content

This is a sideblog of @extra-stout-stories where I only post my own original content: stories, vignettes and high-effort discourse posts reblogged from my main account.

On my main I reblog a lot of content because I believe in signal boosting fat4fat/mutual content, discussion of kink ethics and community norms, and posts I find hot. If you want to be notified of new original content from me but don't want to turn on notifications for my main blog, you can follow me here.

My ground rules for this blog are: (1) I'll post new stories and vignettes when they first appear, and (2) I might reblog feedist discourse posts where I've answered an interesting ask or contributed a significant comment to an ongoing thread. Otherwise, everything will be on my main account.

[pudgedork]

not been all that active on here for a while because life's been a bit hectic

but with all the discussion around tumblr's anti-feedism policy change, are there any ideas for how we can keep this little queer feedist community together somewhere else? it's the first feedist space I've felt comfortable participating in so it would really suck to see that collapse :(

idk which other platforms would work best? feel like a discord server might work well for it since it'd be a little more private, but I have no idea what I'm doing with setting those up lmao

[extra-stout-stories]

Feedist creatives, what was your first work related to the kink? Do you still have it?

When I was young I wrote a story about a near-future SF setting where everyone was fat. The protagonist was trying to become the fattest boy in his class so that the fattest girl in his class would be his girlfriend. I don't think I really knew what "girlfriend" meant; this was before puberty, which was when I realized that my feelings about fat people and weight gain were sexual, and long before I discovered that feedism was a kink. Sadly, the floppy disk with this story is long since lost to time, but as I think about my development as a feedist and my own changing body image, I really wish I still had it so I could get that glimpse into the workings of my mind at that time.

[bellyyearner]

Not a horny post

Holding my hands like a foot from my gut and acting like I'm jiggling my belly when in reality I'm gripping nothing is as hot as it's always been. Like just the thought that eventually I could be that size, my tummy is growling with desire just imagining it.

I love being fat, it's fucking great, and I remember this post on here(I forget who it was by) but it boiled down to "you need to be ok being fat on your own, outside validation won't always be there, a partner could leave you, you could leave, or they could unfortunately pass away". 100% agree, you need to be 100% ok and fulfilled in your own skin.

The only part of this idea that is uncomfy is that for those of us that wanna be massive it's such a huge commitment and you'd hope that mutual commitment between you and your partner would last forever. Like the only reason I lost weight (and still losing weight 375 -> 310) is because I wanna gain for my partner, I wanna have that experience last as long as possible. Their love being added to my hips is a lovely idea. But realistically 500ish lbs is a good limit for my height at 6'3" if I was married to them, if I was married for like a decade with that person then that's a different story and my limit would be *their* limit. Id maybe go to 400ish before a marriage proposal

But as for actively gaining outside of a committed relationship, it's a tricky question. I'd love nothing more than to be a massive fatty, smoking weed and indulging often. Id gladly stuff myself during the dating phase and indulge, but id still be heading to the gym often though. Because realistically I gotta focus on my EMS career and build a future that's potentially a solo future, cause for me I doubt I could have a long term relationship without feedism. I don't need to be actively gaining but I'd need to have the love for fat be apparent. It's an integral part of who I am and has been for as long as I can remember. From being a kid adding playdough to my legos to make them fat, rewatching cartoon episodes centered around weight gain over and over, finding deviantart wayyy too early and reading stories for hours, my eyes lingering on fat people too long, all the way to finally getting on Tumblr a few years ago. I don't know how or why it started but for as far back as my memory goes, fat has been a centerpiece of it.

I'm not 100% sure where I expected this post to go, it's more of a diary entry than anything ig, but I'd find it hard to believe I'm alone in these sentiments. The world we live in isn't built for fat people, let alone massively fat people. From societal expectations to architecture it just seems like fat people were not considered.

Anyways I'ma shut up cause I'm rambling. TLDR I love being fat and hope with all of my being that I can find a life partner that is just as obsessed with fat as I have always been

[extra-stout-stories]

Feedist culture is explaining again and again that it's not "fetishizing" if we have these feelings about our own bodies, and that often this kink serves as a way to reclaim and empower our pre-existing experience of fat embodiment, but never being heard in good faith.

[candycandysprettyworld]

The truth is assholes are meant to be fuck and filled☺️..

[sublimeepochhoard]

Like me😘😘

[extra-stout-stories]

I don't want to reblog a non-feedist fat lib post in a kink context, but I've been thinking a LOT about the Fat Culture Is post that reads "Fat culture is not being able to eat in class without being seen as 'that fat kid who's always hungry.'" This identity-sense is the root of a lot of my own feedist desires, I think.

[lilcowzia]

can you imagine if somebody went around on all the posts of ppl being like "i love just being a hole, i live to serve my master and be his slut" being like "actually, calling yourself is a hole is wrong and you're harming all women by sexualizing yourself (which sexualizes all women, obvi), no wonder ppl think women are lesser" like as often and aggressively as they do to feedists. back when i ran a dark bdsm blog the discourse was literally never so frequent and dumb. its really interesting and silly and definitely not related to fatphobia at all

[bellyyearner]

Formerly @violet-kink-rambles

Put. Your. Age. In. Your. Bio. Or I'm blocking you.

This is a kink blog!

If feedism, hedonism, and excess aren't your thing, then go!

Tags I use:

#violet rambling - any text post that's not a story

#violet stories - any story I write

#violet pics - pics of me with a camera idk how to use

#fat girl pussy - I can't shut the fuck up about it, it's the best

#feedist discourse - shit I think is morally sound when it comes to living as a feedist, if you think I'm wrong on something reblog it and tell me cause I'm down to change my mind if you have a good argument

#yearning - love sounds nice, I don't need a movie worthy love, just enough for the 2 of us to thoroughly enjoy

[chubbychiquita]

Any thoughts on the Ozempic weight loss discourse? Seems like it might be a "cure" for obesity, although obviously there have been previous Miracle Drugs that amounted to nothing. If anything, it might make being a feedist even more deviant if the US obesity rate actually meaningfully declines from this

cw: disordered eating, medical fatphobia

my doctor offered to put me on ozempic for my pcos but the packet of potential side effects was insane, especially for ppl who already struggle with weight related illnesses 😰 it makes me so sad that ppl are using diabetes medication to synthetically reduce their appetites, several of the women in my family took fen phen in the nineties and one nearly died 😥 depending on the long term efficacy, safety, and accessibility, i wouldn't be surprised if it made being visibly overweight more frowned upon though :/

[extra-stout-stories]

Confession:

My feeder doesn't know that the darker side of feedism turns me on. I know for certain they are not into it and I worry that if I were to tell them that they'd think less of me.

Hey anon, sorry it took me several days to reply to this. I had a busy weekend and didn't have much time for Tumblr beyond likes and reblogs.

This is a tough predicament. If you have a feeder who's familiar with the different variations on the kink and self-aware about the shape of their own feedist desires, you're already in a fortunate situation. So I'm tempted to suggest that you go ahead and try talking about it -- if they're familiar enough with the kink to know what you're talking about, maybe they can set aside their own dislike for it and give it a try.

But I know how painful it is when you try to have a heart-to-heart about taboo kinks and discover that your partner isn't into what you like, or, even worse, is actively turned off by it.

One thing that might be helpful is to explore (in solo reflection or in discussion with your partner) why they're uncomfortable with the darker side of the kink. Are they skinny and worried that it's fatphobic to degrade a fat partner, even in play? Or are they fat themselves and find it triggering when the kink touches on the negative aspects of the fat experience?

And it could be that they're just wired differently from you. One of the fascinating but sometimes frustrating things about this kink is how similar and yet how different we can all be. As feedees, especially ones whose feedism comes from a childhood experience of fat embodiment, exploring the darkness in an erotic way can be incredibly healing (and hot), but that doesn't mean it's easy to find someone who's on the right wavelength. I love health play and deathfeedism (as a fantasy), but I'm actively turned off by degradation and shaming. Yet a lot of people, even feedists on the softer end of the spectrum, would consider both of those things to fall into the single category of "dark feedism." It's complicated! Still, thinking about what you like and why you like it can help bridge those gaps and make it easier to connect erotically with other feedists even if your takes on the kink don't line up exactly.

I wish I had concrete advice to give, but I hope this at least gets you thinking about alternative lines of approach that will work for both you and your partner. 💜