#hajar ali

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The Glass House, Lake Wakatipu, New Zealand,

Designer: @reverse.orientalism

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হাজার ফুলে ধন্য বাগান / সাইফ আলি

হাজার ফুলে ধন্য বাগানভাবো একবার শুধু তুমি নেইকি হবে বাগান থেকে তোমার নামেযেখানে তোমার কোনো ভূমি নেই?বন্ধু, তুমি কি ভুলে গেছো তোমাকেই?? অন্যের পায়ে পায়ে চলছো তুমিঅন্যের কথাগুলো বলছো তুমিতোমাকে নিয়ে কে ভাববে বলোআমলের খাতা হাতে দাঁড়াতে হবেস্রষ্টার সম্মুখে তোমাকেই।। সবচে কাছের যেচোখ তাকে চিনেছেদ্বিধাহীন চিত্তে কি বলতে পারো?মিছে কেনো ভাবছোনিজেকে চেনার বাকি রয়েছে আরো।।নিজেকে তালাশ করোনফসের হাল…

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A Home By Hajar Ali

Courtesy: @Reverse.Orientalism

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Ali Hajar

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The Martyrs of Gaza. Yesterday's airstrikes on Gaza saw the martyrdom of 3 families from this Earth: the Izz Al-Deen family, the Al-Bahtini Family, and the Khaswan family with a young girl as the sole survivor from the Khaswan family, who will now grow up without a family. 

-- Palestinian Youth Movement, 9 May 2023 

Khalil Salah Al-Bahtini, 45, Gaza 

Hajar Al-Bahtini, 5, Gaza

Laila Al-Bahtini, 44, Gaza

Yousef Khaswan, 20, Gaza

Dr. Jamal Khaswan, 53, Gaza City

Mervat Khaswan, 45, Gaza

Jihad Abdul-Hafeth Ghannam, 63, Gaza

Wafa Shadid Ghannam, 50, Gaza

Dania Adas, 19, Gaza

Eman Adas, 14, Gaza 

Tariq Izz Al-Deen, 49, Jenin

Miyar Izz Al-Deen, 11, Jenin

Ali Izz Al-Deen, 9, Gaza City

Palestinian child Rami Shady Hamdan, known for his outstanding performance at school, has succumbed to injuries sustained by an Israeli airstrike on the northern Gaza Strip's Beit Hanoun town. 

A photo of Alaa Barka, a Palestinian youth who was killed today in an Israeli airstrike on the city of Khan Younis in the southern Gaza Strip.

-- Quds News Network, 10 May 2023

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Story behind the revelation of Surah Nas and Surah Falaq

Uqbah ibn ‘Amir (may Allah be pleased with him) accompanied the Prophet ( peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) in Madinah, and these two surahs ( Nas and Falaq ) were revealed after the bewitching incident.

A Jewish man bewitched the Prophet ( peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and he fell sick. Jibril came to him, bringing down al-Mu‘awwidhatayn ( Al Nas and Al Falaq ), and said: A Jewish man has bewitched you, and the item used for witchcraft is in the well of So-and-so. So he sent ‘Ali, who brought it to him, then he instructed him to untie the knots and recite verses, so he started reciting and untying, until the Prophet ( peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) got up as if he had been released from restraints. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) did not say anything to that Jewish man about what he had done to him, and he never confronted him with it.

Graded Sahih by Sheikh Al Albani

for the number of knots being eleven, no sahih hadith has been narrated concerning that.

Al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

As-Suhayli stated that the number of knots was eleven, so it was appropriate that the number of verses of the Mu‘awwidhatayn should be eleven, so that with every verse, one knot was undone.

Some scholars says that :

The bewitching of Prophet (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) was to taught that Muhammad (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) is not a magician as the people of Quraish used to call him mockingly, also to prove the honestly of Prophet (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) and protection from shaytaan by reciting those verse ( in brief Allah was teaching us how to protect us from Shaytaan and evil eyes and Sihr ( witchcraft)

May Allah protect you

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Sunan of Eid Al-Adha:

Ghusl:

Shaykh Muḥammad Bin Salih al-‘Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:

“Some of the scholars regarded it as Mustaḥabb (recommended) to take Ghusl for the ‘Eid prayer, because it is narrated that some of the Salaf did this, this is also the opinion of ‘Ali b. Abi Talib رضي الله عنه

‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Umar used to do ghusl on the day of al-Fitr before going out to the prayer-place in the morning.

📚:Al-Muwatta 428

Going for the 'Eid Salah from one route and coming back from another:

“When Allah’s Messenger ﷺ would go out on the day of ‘Eid by one route, he would return by another.”

📚:جامع الترمذي ٥٤١

Wearing Your Best Clothes:

Shaykh Muhammad Bin Salih al-‘Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:

“You should wear your best clothes – this is for men. With regards to women, they should not wear beauiful clothes when they go out to the ‘Eid prayer place, because the Prophet ﷺ said:

'Let them go out looking decent’ i.e. in their regular clothes that are not fancy. It is haram for them (i.e women) to go out wearing perfume and makeup.”

📚:مجموع الفتاوى ١٦\٢١٦-٢٢٣

Ibn ‘Umar رضي الله عنهما would dress in his best clothes for the two ‘Eids as reported by Ibn Hajar رحمه الله in his Fath-ul-Bari ● 2/439

Greeting after the prayer:

Jubayr b. Nufayr رضي الله عنه narrated:

“When the Companions of the Prophet ﷺ met one another on the day of ‘Eid, they would say to one another, 'Taqabbal-Allaahu Minnaa Wa Minkum’ (May Allah accept (good deeds) from us and from you).”

📚:الفتح ٢/٤٤٦

Praying two rak’at (units) after returning home from 'Eid prayer:

Abu Sa'id al-Khudri رضي الله عنه narrated:

“The Messenger of Allah ﷺ would not pray anything before the 'Eid prayer then when he returned to his house (after prayer), he would pray 2 units (Rak’at).”

📚:رواه ابن ماجه ١٢٩٣

Takbir:

Ibn Abi Shaybah narrated that az-Zuhri said:

“The people used to recite Takbir on ‘Eid when they came out of their houses until they came to the prayer place, and until the imam came out. When the imam came out they fell silent, and when he said takbīr they said takbīr.”

📚:Irwa al-Ghalil ● 1/121

Do not eat before the prayer eat after the prayer, especially if you have sacrificed.

والله أعلم

عيدكم مبارك تقبل الله منا ومنكم

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an AI inspired Jim Thompson House in Bangkok generated by artist Hajar Ali @reverse.orientalism

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Anonymous asked: hi!!! i was hoping you could provide a list of some actresses that have resources with them veiling? i'd prefer a good mix of cultures & ethnicities not just hijabis. also open to all ages! thank you!!!

(I somehow deleted the ask but I luckily sent it to a friend asking for suggestions! I sadly couldn't find many cultures with notable actresses/roles but I hope this helps.)

Afsaneh Bayegan (1961) Iranian.

Mahtab Keramati (1970) Iranian.

Leila Hatami (1972) Iranian.

Vishka Asayesh (1972) Iranian.

Hanan Tork (1974) Egyptian.

Elma Theana (1974) Indonesian.

Sarah Vi (1976) Indonesian.

Mahnaz Afshar (1977) Iranian.

Mercy Aigbe / Hajiya Meena (1978) Nigerian.

Sareh Bayat (1979) Iranian.

Niusha Zeighami (1980) Iranian.

Tannaz Tabatabaei (1983) Iranian.

Negar Javaherian (1983) Iranian.

Elnaz Shakerdoost (1984) Iranian.

Baran Kosari (1985) Iranian.

Yuna (1986) Malay and Bugis.

Heliza Helmi (1986) Malaysian.

Leah Vernon (1988) African-American.

Neelofa (1989) Malaysian.

Dina Torkia (1989) Egyptian / English.

Bella Dally (1991) Malaysian.

Wawa Zainal (1991) Bruneian, Bajau Malaysian, and Tausug Filipino.

Mariah Idrissi (1992) Pakistani and Moroccan.

Maria Alia (1993) Palestinian / Puerto Rican.

Mira Filzah (1993) Malaysian.

Elfira Loy (1994) Malaysian.

Leena Asad / With Love Leena (1994) Palestinian.

Habiba da Silva (1994) Lebanese, Syrian / Brazilian (Unspecified North African, Unspecified West African, Unspecified Indigenous, Italian, Spanish, Portuguese).

Jasmine Fares (1995)

Shahd Batal (1996) Sudanese.

Hajar Brown (1996) Moroccan.

Sabina Hannan (1996) Bangladeshi.

Halima Aden (1997) Somali.

Sonita Alizadeh (1997) Afghan.

Halima (1997) Somali.

Sarina Farhadi (1998) Iranian.

Touka El-Fawwal (1998) Egyptian.

Imen Siar (1999) Moroccan, Italian and British.

Laura Melodie Lutiq (?)

Roles only:

Öykü Karayel (Ethos) Turkish.

Yasmine Al Massri (Quantico) Palestinian / Egyptian.

Gizem Erdogan (Caliphate) Turkish.

Gülsim Ali (Payitaht Abdülhamid) Turkish.

Anjana Vasan (We Are Lady Parts) Tamil.

Juliette Motamed (We Are Lady Parts) Iranian.

Sarah Kameela Impey (We Are Lady Parts) Afro Guyanese / British.

Lucie Shorthouse (We Are Lady Parts) Kenyan.

Faith Omole (We Are Lady Parts) Black British.

Shraddha Kapoor (Haseena Parkar) Punjabi / Marathi and Konkani.

Medalion Rahimi (NCIS: LA) Iranian, Mizrahi Jewish.

Sunita Mani (Mr. Robot) Indian.

Nikohl Boosheri (The Bold Type) Iranian.

Mina El Hammani (Elite) Morrocan.

Assa Sylla (Skam France) Black French.

Iman Meskini (Skam) Tunisian / Norwegian.

Nicole Chamoun (Safe Harbour) Lebanese.

Amanda Stephen (Orange Is the New Black) Black Canadian.

Sinem Öztürk (Huzur Sokagi) Turkish.

Burçin Abdullah (Selam) Turkish.

Helana Sawires (Ali's Wedding) Egyptian.

Esra Bilgiç (Dirilis: Ertugrul) Turkish.

Özge Yagiz (Yemin) Turkish.

Nazanin Boniadi (Homeland) Iranian.

Alia Bhatt (Gully Boy) Kashmiri and German.

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🌺 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗯𝗮𝗮𝗱𝗮𝗵 𝗱𝘂𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝘂𝗵𝗼𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗹-𝗜𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗳𝗮𝗿

The most principal ‘ibaadah during the time of suhoor is seeking Allah’s forgiveness. Suhoor time refers to the end of the night, just before dawn. Allah says in the Qur’an:

وَٱلۡمُسۡتَغۡفِرِينَ بِٱلۡأَسۡحَارِ 🌿 ❛[The people of taqwa] make istighfar during {al-ashar | predawn i.e. the time for suhoor}.❜ 【Surah Ali Imran 3:17】

وَبِٱلۡأَسۡحَارِ هُمۡ يَسۡتَغۡفِرُونَ 🌿 ❛And during {al-ashar | predawn i.e. the time for suhoor}, they were found making istighfar.❜ 【Surah adh-Dhariyat 51:18】

And Imam Ibn Hajar rahimahullah said that the du'a and istighfar made during the time of suhoor are easily granted by Allah.

What about iftar? What's the most critical du'a we can make before we break our fast other than the prescribed Sunnah du'a?

It’s also asking for Allah’s forgiveness.

🌿 Rasulullah ﷺ said: ❛At every breaking of the fast, Allah has people whom He frees (from the Fire), and that happens every night.❜ [Sunan Ibn Majah 1643 | Graded Fair]

From these, we learn how important it is to seek Allah’s forgiveness throughout our days and nights in Ramadan. May Allah choose us among those who are freed from the Hellfire, and grant us all a full pardoning.

Your sister in Deen, Aida Msr ©

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Will you explain the concepts of Ahl as-Sunnah and Ahl al-Bayt?

Are the grandchildren of the Prophet from Ahl as-Sunnah?

Did Ahl al-Bayt not follow the way of Ahl as-Sunnah?

When it is viewed from the point of view of the groups that are affiliated with Islam but have very different aspects, there are generally two different mentalities. The first one of them is Ahl as-Sunnah wal-Jama’ah and the second one is Ahl al-Bid’ah.

Ahl as-Sunnah wal-Jama’ah is defined in the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) as “those who follow the way that I and my Companions follow”. (Majmauz-Zawaid,1/189) Therefore, those who do not adhere to that creed are regarded as people of bid’ah. They consist of seventy-two sects. Mutazila, Jahmiya, Qadariyya, Shi’a and similar ones are among them.

Ahl as-Sunnah wal-Jama’ah have two different madhhabs (sects) of creed: Ash’ari and Maturidi. There is no difference between them in terms of basic principles. There are some small differences in details. Therefore, both represent the same group.

The evidence that we are on the way of the Quran and the Sunnah is the path followed by the madhhab scholars called Ahl as-Sunnah wal-Jama’ah. As it is known, this great congregation, containing scholars each of which shines like a bright star, previously consisted of twelve sects. Then, four of them remained. It is very unlikely that a school composed of such great scholars - as a community - will make mistakes. As a matter of fact, the Prophet states the following in a hadith:

“My ummah will not agree on misguidance.” (Majmauz-Zawaid, 5/208)

Islamic scholars mention the hadith above as evidence that Ahl as-Sunnah wal-Jama’ah are on the right path. (For more information, see Abu Dawud, Sunnah, 1; Tirmidhi, Iman, 18; Ibn Majah, Fitan, 17; Ibn Hanbal, 2/332)

We should not forget that following the line of Ahl as-Sunnah, which forms the vast majority of the ummah, includes the greatest, genius scholars, and adopts the line of the Quran and the Sunnah as a road map, is a much more logical way than putting yourself at risk by following marginal groups. There is no point in deviating into byways when the vast street awaits you.

Ahl al-Bayt is the name of the descendants of the Prophet born of his daughter Fatima.

It is sheer ignorance to think that Ahl al-Bayt is outside Ahl as-Sunnah.

Hz. Ali and Hz. Fatima are among the most important personalities of the Ahl al-Bayt. Since Ahl as-Sunnah means to follow the path of the Prophet (pbuh), who else can be from Ahl as-Sunnah if those two blessed people, who are the closest to and most beloved people of the Prophet (pbuh), are not from Ahl as-Sunnah?

Each of the twelve imams from Ahl al-Bayt was a famous scholar who was highly respected when they lived.

After Hz. Ali, the imams of the Ahl al-Bayt were Hz. Hasan and Hz. Husayn. It is not possible to say that those two people, who are the masters of Paradise and two roses that the Messenger of Allah smelled, were not from Ahl as-Sunnah, that is, they were outside the way on which the Prophet and his Companions followed; no Muslim would make such a claim.

- After Hz. Hasan and Hz. Husayn, the chief imam of Ahl al-Bayt was Zayn al-Abidin. The real name of this person, who was the son of Husayn, was Ali, the name of his grandfather. Along with his knowledge and wisdom, he was at the peak in terms of worshipping and sainthood; therefore, the scholars of the period gave him the nickname Zayn al-Abidin (the adornment/rose of the worshippers). That he became famous for praying one thousand rak’ahs of nafilah prayers every day - day and night - (see Ibn Hajar, Tahdhib, 7/304) is an indication that he deserves that nickname. It will be sufficient to look at the sources to see how the scholars of Ahl as-Sunnah, especially Imam Zuhri, the teacher of the hadith scholars, narrated hadiths from Zayn al-Abidin and how they praised him. (see Ibn Hajar, Tahdhib, 7/304)

- Imam Muhammad Baqir is Zayn al-Abidin’s son. He is an Ahl al-Bayt imam famous for his knowledge, wisdom and taqwa. Ishaq as-Sabui, Zuhri, Ibn Ata, Awzai, Ibn Jurayj and Makhul, who are among the stars of Ahl as-Sunnah scholars, narrated hadiths from him; hadith scholars such as Ibn Sad, Nasai and Ijli praised him (Ibn Hajar, ibid, 9/350-352), which nullifies the words of others.

- Imam Jafar Sadiq, who is Imam Muhammad Baqir’s son, is famous for his loyalty. Abu Hanifa, one of the Imams of Ahl as-Sunnah, was his student and narrated hadiths from him; Imam Malik said,

“I visited him from time to time; whenever I saw him, he was praying, fasting or reading the Quran. I have never seen him narrate a hadith without wudu.”

Thus, he witnessed Imam Jafar’s loyalty and taqwa. Do they not show that this blessing person is from Ahl as-Sunnah? (For scholar’s praises for him, see Ibn Hajar, ibid, 2/103-105)

Should it not be regarded insanity to accuse that honorable person, who is respected by the scholars and saints of that period, of not following the way of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), his grandfather?

The imams of the four madhhabs, especially Imam Abu Hanifa and Imam Shafii, and many other Ahl as-Sunnah scholars were accused of being Shia because of their respect and love for Ahl al-Bayt and were tortured by some state authorities of the period. In fact, Imam Shafii opposed those cruelties and declared his love for Ahl al-Bayt by saying, “If loving Ahl al-Bayt is regarded as Rafidite (an extreme branch of Shia), let all humans and jinn know that I am a Rafidi”. Is it possible for us take into account the fallacies of Ahl al-bid’ah - based on Kharijites and Wahhabis - related to Ahl al-Bayt by ignoring the testimony of the four madhhab imams, who represented Ahl as-Sunnah throughout history?

To sum up, the imams of Ahl al-Bayt are from Ahl as-Sunnah wal-Jama’ah. The title of “Ahl al-Bayt” is not a deficiency for them; on the contrary, it is a degree that will elevate them to the sky. They may have different ijtihads on some issues. As a matter of fact, the imams of the four madhhabs have different ijtihads too.

We should regretfully state that since some Shia groups who supported Ahl al-Bayt slandered them and wrote wrong things in their narrations from Ahl al-Bayt, Ahl as-Sunnah scholars (not because of those imams) evaluated the hadiths and news they narrated from Ahl al-Bayt with caution. Some other groups made efforts for the treacherous goal of eliminating Ahl al-Bayt imams by making false interpretations and judgments about them because they acted with the Umayyad and Kharijite mentality.

Unfortunately, some bad people today still have that mentality. In fact, the attitude of some Shiites who display their hatred against Hz. Umar in the form of love of Hz. Ali is wrong; similarly, those who display their hatred against Shiites who love Hz. Ali and Ahl al-Bayt in the form of loyalty to Ahl as-Sunnah are also on the wrong path.

May our Lord not make us deviate from the true direction. Amin!

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Playing makeup w/ my daughter

Ta-da~

Wkwkwk meni cumen cenah nanaonan ihhh? Jadi begini~ nemo 2 hari kedepan ada lomba fashion show trus mama2 lain sewa baju adatnya plus makeup, kupikir2 ah makeup anak serius2 amat mending sama w sendiri aja gaksiii belom lg nanti gmn kalo ngga betah makeup dari pagi nunggu giliran lomba lama belom lg kalo cuaca panas gerah dll dah weh makeup sama ibuk ajalah kalopun ledeh ngga rugi2 amat (si paling gamau rugi wkwk). Emg bisa makeupin nemo buuuuk? Ya gataulah makeup sendiri aja gitu2 aja gening ah haha.

2 hari ini dipake tes makeup sama nemo, tipis aja sama milih warna yg peachy2 ajalah. Ngga punya cushion, yg mau aku beli tp gapernah jadi karena bingung irt kek aku cuma perginya jemput anak doang ya masa pake cushion sistur~ tp pgn beli tp ah galau yah wkwk. Nemo pakein foundie aja plus bedak tabur, eye sahadow peach glittery, pake sentuhan glitter putih2 di tengahnya sama ujung matanya, karena ngga punya highlighter ya pake shadow glitter aja di titik2 tertentu lah yaa. Mascarain nemo enakeun bgt yaampun bulmatnya panjang dan lentik tebel pulaaa jauh bgt salam bulmat aku huhu. Alis paling disikat sedikit aja ditutul mascara dikit aja baru dirapihin biar msh keliatan necurel. Eyeliner ini nemo kekerenyeman wae matanya jd ngga rapi2 sampe td diulang heuuuu. Terakhir pake blush on pinkies tifis ajaah. Ehh yg paling akhir mah ya lippie yah pake warna nude ajalah..

Yah begitu hasilnya foto2 diatas ini. No filter tp kameranya itu menangkap cahaya beda2 padahal di tempat yg sama depan jendela wkwk.

Eeeh naha si ibuk pipilueun? Iyaa ih, dulu mah makeup2an sama adikku. Wah diamah paling lengkap makeupnya dahlaahhh sampe cermin makeup jg dia beli. Emg adikku tuh lebih on kalo pergi2an dibanding akutuu. Tp dia paling gabisa ngalis, sama akupun bingung nih alis mesti di rapihin dulu, sama tebel pula. Jd kami tuh nyiasatinnya cuma di sikat dikit. Jaman mahasiswa aku pernah dirapihin alis sama kawanku di kosannya sampe jd rada pangling, di cabutin ngga di kerik cuy, air mata sampe berlinang tp demi kepanglingan hajar weh. Meni ingin rapih atuh alis teeh huft. Waktu nikah justru dikerik dan di cukur dikit ngga sampe botak pinggir gt akunya rikues jgn terlalu banyak2 dicukurnya krn aku teu bisa ngalis plissss..

Oiya besok dan lusa semoga lancar lomba2nya yaa nemo! 2 hari lagi nih rariweuhnya. Bismillah yaa, enjoy aja jgn terbebani yg terbebani cukup ibuknya yg mempersiapkan segalanya yaa kalo pas prakna mah ah kumaha juri wehhh mangga~ semangaaatt nemooo dan ibuk juga hehehe

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Hikmah pengasuhan, sejatinya…

Hari ini, masya Allah banyak orang tua berbondong-bondong belajar parenting, merencanakan konsep pengasuhan sematang mungkin, tak jarang pula yang niatnya ‘agar tidak mengulang kesalahan orang tuanya yang dahulu’, hingga praktisi parenting pun banyak alirannya. Tentu ini adalah sebuah kemajuan, sampai aku dan teman-teman selingkaranku pernah wondering: kira-kira apa ya, tantangan yang akan dihadapi oleh anak-anak yang orang tuanya belajar parenting? Masalah baru apa di masa depan yang muncul dalam satu generasi tersebut? Hehe. Agak lucu, orang tua belajar parenting tapi malah khawatir akan tantangan baru sebuah generasi🤣, tapi bener juga ya. Setiap generasi pasti ada masalahnya.

Kali ini aku ingin mengabadikan 2 hikmah pokok pengasuhan, yang aku sarikan dari nasehat Teh Karina Hakman dalam kelas Series Home Education yang aku ikuti. Menurutku, dua hal ini menjadi pondasi bagi seorang Ibu - terlepas dari apapun aliran parenting-nya- dalam pengasuhan seorang anak. Dua hal ini pula yang PASTI bisa diaplikasikan dari Ibu zaman baheula sampai Ibu-ibu sosyielita zaman ayeuna.

1. Do’a

Dalam Qur’an, kisah pengasuhan oleh seorang Ibu dicatat bukan tentang bagaimana mempersiapkan anak menjadi Hafizh Qur’an, atau anak yang pintar, atau bagaimana mengajari anak agar rajin sholat, bukan pula tentang bagaimana seorang Ibu itu mempersiapkan permainan terbaik, ataupun nutrisi terbaik. Namun tentang do’a seorang Ibu. Potongan kisah Istri Imran (yang beberapa ulama tafsir menyebutkan nama beliau adalah Hannah), berdo’a ketika masa kehamilan seperti yang tercatat dalam surah berikut:

(Ingatlah), ketika istri Imran berkata, “Ya Tuhanku, sesungguhnya aku bernazar kepada-Mu, apa (janin) yang dalam kandunganku (kelak) menjadi hamba yang mengabdi (kepada-Mu), maka terimalah (nazar itu) dariku. Sungguh, Engkaulah Yang Maha Mendengar, Maha Mengetahui.” (QS. Ali Imran: 35)

Sang Ibu, mendo’akan agar janin yang ada di dalam kandungannya menjadi hamba Allah, mengabdikan dirinya kepada Allah sepenuhnya ketika di dunia. Allah Maha Tahu ketulusan dan kesungguhan do’a sang Ibu, maka Allah kabulkan do’a tersebut secara spesifik: menjadi hamba yang mengabdi kepada-Nya. Siapakah dia? Dialah Maryam binti Imran, yang tidak hanya diterima do’a sang Ibu agar Maryam menjadi hamba yang mengabdi sepenuhnya, tetapi Allah juga jamin kehidupannya Maryam, rezekinya, pendidikannya, serta kesuciannya. Allah kirimkan Zakaria, yang juga seorang Nabi sekaligus pamannya, sebagai orang yang membantu memenuhi kebutuhan Maryam. Hingga Allah takdirkan Maryam mengandung janin, yang juga merupakan seorang yang istimewa, nabi Allah, Nabi Isa as.

Ketulusan do’a Ibu, pintu keberkahan kehidupan seorang Maryam. Sang Ibu ‘hanya’ berdo’a agar anaknya menjadi hamba yang mengabdi kepada Allah, lalu Allah beri lebih banyak dari pintanya. Dan siapa lagi yang lebih baik pengasuhannya daripada anak yang dijaga oleh Allah?

2. Ketaatan kepada Allah

Berkisah pula kehidupan Ibunda Hajar, istri dari Nabi Ibrahim as., Ibunda dari Nabi Ismail as. Tentu kita tidak asing mendengar sepenggal kisah tentang Ibunda Hajar bersama bayi Ismail, yang ditinggal oleh Nabi Ibrahim atas perintah Allah, di padang pasir gersang, tanpa makanan, tanpa air, tanpa rumah. Alih-alih bilang tak sanggup, Bunda Hajar justru menerima ketetapan Allah untuk bersama dengan Nabi Ismail as. karena keimanannya yang luhur bahwa Allah tidak akan menelantarkan keduanya. Tatkala Ismail kehausan, Hajar berangkat mencari air, bulak-balik dari bukit Safa ke bukit Marwah, hingga 7 kali. Jika pakai logika, buat apa kembali lagi bulak-balik, tadi kan sudah dilihat tidak ada apa-apa. Namun, jauh dari itu, perjuangan Ibunda Hajar mengajarkan tentang ikhtiar manusiawi yang maksimal, sebagai wasilah pertolongan Allah datang. Tawakkal tidak berarti berdiam diri. Tawakkal artinya berusaha-semampu yang sang Ibu bisa, walau mungkin ‘tak linear’ dengan hasil yang akan Allah beri, membawa keyakinan penuh dalam hati bahwa Allah akan memampukan. Kala mata air terpercik dekat kaki bayi Ismail, disitulah mula keberkahan dari ketaatan Ibunda Hajar. Zam-zam, tidak hanya menghilangkan dahaga Nabi Ismail kala itu, tapi juga menjadi awal berdirinya kota Mekkah. Karena mata air tersebut terus ada dan mengalir, banyak kafilah dagang dari banyak tempat singgah, hingga ramai, lalu berdirilah peradaban di sana.

Siapa yang sangka, ikhtiar Bunda Hajar untuk ‘lari-lari kecil’ dari Safa ke Marwah, yang disertai keikhlasan dan ketaatan kepada Allah, yang niatnya ‘hanya’ untuk mencari minum anaknya saja, ternyata berkontribusi atas peradaban baru yaitu kota Mekkah, sampai hari ini menjadi peradaban ummat Muslim di dunia, semua terpaut hatinya ingin berbondong-bondong datang ke sana.

Kisah-kisah di atas menjadi refleksi besar tentang cara pengasuhan yang tidak boleh lepas dari seorang Ibu. Terkadang, waktu dan tenaga kita sedikit, kemampuan kita terbatas, pengetahuan kita tak banyak. Kita sering disibukkan dengan masalah anak: kok belum bisa jalan, kok belum bicara, kok hiperaktif, kok makannya susah, kok BB nya seret, kok belum bisa baca, kok rewel terus, kok ini kok itu. Laa hawla walaa quwwata illa billaah. Tugas Ibu adalah ‘lari-lari’ kecil seperti Ibunda Hajar, dan langitkan do’a terbaik seperti Istri Imran. Dengan hati yang bertawakkal.

Carilah keberkahan, dengan do’a dan ketaatan. Allah yang akan tambah. Allah yang jaga anak-anak kita. Allah yang mampukan anak-anak kita. Dari jalan yang mungkin tidak pernah kita sangka.

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Bandung, 9 Maret 2023 | 23.24 pm

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