#i almost brought one home

[northlight14]

Roman: hey dad, I have something to tell you. I’m gay and polyamorous. I have a boyfriend and a partner…

Ryker: oh well that’s fine son, I support you and love you unconditionally-

Roman: they’re both from the bard collage

Ryker: you’re grounded

[venusmages]

there's nothing more painful than bringing home a partner to your family for the holidays and they treat that partner like an outsider. it doesn't matter if they claim they'll be welcoming, because their clear disdain is never as secret and cutesy as they like to think it is. and then you and especially the potential newcomer to your family will feel like shit.

there can be a lot of reasons for it: racism, homophobia, religious affiliations, transphobia, misogyny, ableism or classism - none of which are acceptable and all of which may only push away the person that trusted their family enough to try and include someone new that matters a lot to them. I'm just saying it's a great way to isolate that family member and make them start to resent you for your cruelty if you do that kind of shit.

[darkwood-sleddog]

Following up on my post from last night (because what am if a perpetual “oh and another thing!” Person): it’s not even that oh I put more effort into my dog’s training and they are better at navigating a new situation because of it.

Because while that is true, a dog is only as good as the success you set them up for, I uh….am not a great dog trainer. I’m the most average, low effort person with the exception of exercise and sports. I like my dogs to be able to settle because I have stuff other than dogs that goes on in my life tbh.

My dogs are able to navigate new non-sports situations easily despite this. (Like sometimes I bemoan the things my dogs could accomplish with a better trainer than me but then I look inwardly and go ‘no.no I won’t say that because I’m enjoying my dogs regardless and that’s what matters’).

My fellow purebred dog owning folk that don’t have stable dogs are absolute angels putting in the amount of work they do so their dog is just able to function. Like. A. Dog. And yet their dogs will not feel the same sense of confidence to navigate through life as my own do. Despite the effort from their owners/trainers, despite the same bond and trust their dogs have in them as mine do in me. And that’s sad.

[inmirova]

obsessed with the implications of this tag I just saw...

[arlo-venn]

Who is Ottile? I thought you had two cats and one was named Dinova??? Where did a third one come from..🤨

You’re correct! It was originally Rory and Dinova. There’s still only two, but here’s the story:

Chapter One:

When Rory and Dinova came to live with me here after the surrender prevention program they were in, Dinova became severely depressed. Worse than I’d ever seen her; she’d always struggled with Arlo, but even with medication and time to adjust, she wasn’t coping— she would not leave from her shelf in the tool room/basement cat room, stopped eating, stopped grooming. So even though it was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make, I had to allow the people from the surrender prevention program to find her a more suitable home. They did, and although I’m not allowed to know the details of where she is or who she’s with, I do know that she’s happier and healthier now, and she’s in a home with no dogs. I know it may seem terrible to rehome my eldest child for being unable to cope with my youngest, but Arlo would not be okay without me (and I wouldn’t be okay without him), whereas Dinova can be taken care of by anyone so long as they’re loving and are able to provide a space that she feels comfortable in. I wasn’t able to provide that for her.

Before we lost our home, I’d moved us into a larger, two bedroom home for the same reason— she wasn’t coping in a smaller space with Arlo, even after a few years. Unfortunately, even once I’m approved for disability, I will never realistically be able to afford a home large enough to accommodate the space she needs to comfortably live with a dog again. It would have been selfish of me to keep her with us just because I loved her.

Chapter Two:

Rory had never been an only cat before, not ever in her life. She’d also gone through the trauma of losing her home and her parent for a whole year without being able to understand why, only to lose her sister not long after being reunited with her parent in a bizarre new environment. So, after Dinova left, Rory became incredibly depressed. My silly goofy silky wind ferret alien thing was confused and lethargic and wouldn’t play, not even with her buddy Arlo. This lasted for some time with no improvement.

Eventually, Tyrell adopted Ottilie for Rory. How I came to find and select Ottilie is a whole story in itself, for another day maybe, but— Tyrell paid for Ottilie to be adopted and agreed to cover any emergency vet costs that may arise until we’re back on our feet (and cat food when I am unable to cover it myself). Once we brought her home, Rory was back to normal almost instantaneously. Not only that, but— while Dinova did love Rory, she was still always very standoffish with other pets and had trained Rory not to engage in play with her. Ottilie is the exact opposite— she’s brave and bold, playful and silly, and not shy with any animal, so over time Ottilie re-taught Rory how to play with her own species. It was very sweet watching Rory figure it all out.

Tyrell was also okay with adopting Ottilie because she and Thom had recently lost their 18+ year old gray cat, Winky, which was very very hard on them both. So on top of filling the Dinova shaped hole for Rory (and me), it also filled the little gray cat shaped hole in their hearts, too. Rory is happier than I’ve ever seen her. Ottilie has a home. Wherever she is, Dinova is happy and thriving for the first time in almost 7 years. Tyrell and Thom’s hearts are a little more soothed. My guilt is practically cured.

[coastalroses]

pray for me i’m trying to get my photos back from cvs

[thatone-churro]

y’know just as soon as i start getting comfortable with the idea of being open/relying on my dad and him being more comfortable with my choices than i feared, i can essentially throw all that out the window with how vehemently he yelled at me at the thought of my getting my septum pierced (even though i never said i was yet. i said my side before i decide anything else). also making underhanded remarks of me never getting tattoos other than the one for my mom. like okay don’t ask me why i don’t tell you about anything or talk to you or anything. what the fuck.

[journey-to-the-attic]

here she is!!! i will say that i’m very happy with how cool the weapon turned out, and also i’m now being reminded that i was going to add some patterns to her jacket thingy, but i can’t be bothered to go back and do that so just imagine them

the scythe design is based on polar star and ik also has an earring that matches childe’s, since i enjoy the bond that the original anon proposed!! her mask has that bird-ish design because anon mentioned her being columbina, the ‘little dove’

[arundolyn]

@theskyprism he does not have a name but this is my tiny noctua fan, my funny little desk friend, with a quarter for scale and also a way smaller much older fan made to take 5 volts that we ran at 25 and it didn't explode so it's the champion of the office

[knifeprtys]

thinking of you and your sister. she absolutely did deserve a kinder life. I’m glad that you were her sister though. anyone can tell how much love you brought her. I love you

thank you lovely, that really means a lot to me. i hope i did, i never really said it so i hope she knew that i'm lucky and glad she was / is my sister too.

[erythristicbones]

..........pics to come later tonight probably, but i may have bought Breadstick a friend

[actualtoad]

i stayed after school but im leaving already. some random kid showed up and was there for a while so it wasn’t a good time really. and when i only get to stay after until 3:30 it hardly makes anything better than going home. i just feel bad for imposing myself

[cinnamon-grump]

Just love waking up nauseous because my housemate decided that instead of allowing us the comfort of our functioning AC, we should enjoy this muggy ass, 80F weather… :)

[loveofastarvingdog]

welll a bitch won’t be able to participate in the vaguely harmful vice that it wants to and suddenly it gets the far more harmful urge to out itself to their sibling

[jaejoongs-nipple-piercing]

Had bad shift

Supervisors don’t listen and refuse to put me back on day shift ( WHERE I BELONG!!!!)

Cried about it

Was silent the whole ride home

Got out of vehicle

Got mad (because unfortunately I have no outlet for stress relief so it becomes either anger or tears)

Kicked stupid crazy neighbor bitchs’ potted plant over

[lotussokka]

hey idk if any of you are pastors but you should not do a sermon about how humans are inherently undeserving of love and how adopted children are undeserving of adoption and dont ask to be adopted (???) during a funeral, especially during the funeral of a woman with an adopted grandchild