#i encourage you to fight me on this

[spacedustmantis]

i have two questions!

1 is a hamburger a sandwich

2 is cereal soup

1 yes

2 no

[pinacoladamatata]

blink and you'll miss it moments around skyhold....

[halorvic]

[uncanny-tranny]

Realizing you can never please anybody can be a devastating loss... until you internalize exactly what that means.

When you sacrifice so much of yourself for others, you forget that you leave yourself behind. Not being able to please everybody means you can start learning how to fully embody who you are instead of juggling everybody else's baggage, trying to make something work out.

You might feel devastated about this, thinking you're terrible for not pleasing everybody. The truth is, it was impossible from the start, and learning who you are is infinitely rewarding

[mokeonn]

Before I go to sleep I leave you all with this piece of advice: sometimes you don't actually have to answer big political questions, sometimes you can just say "I am not smart enough to know that, I just know the small things I do to help." Like you can often times completely avoid making a fool of yourself if you just say you don't know.

[sysig]

Care for your sparring partner (Patreon)

Bonus:

[carbonateddelusion]

I know I haven't said much about it, but legitimately, "running away" was one of the most pivotal life decisions I've ever made. Probably THE first major life decision I've made, and also the best. If you have an opportunity to go, leave. Get out of there. If you are not safe at home, emotionally, physically, whatever, and you're able to leave, do it. It's going to suck such major ass for a while because you're going to have to deal with the scars they've left on you, but I wholeheartedly, full-throatedly, with-my-chest promise you that it is going to be better. You're going to be better. If you have the privilege of being able to escape, no matter how difficult it feels, then RUN.

[ecstasydemon]

if i could turn back time to when i was in school and getting bullied, the one thing i would change is that i would slap the everliving hell out of everyone who bullied me, at least any kind of retaliation. trouble in school did not translate to trouble in my future life so i really should've just taken those chances to assault those fuckers. now im an adult and id get in actual trouble for that 🙄 so if you're in school and getting bullied you should beat them up back (dont listen to me)

[fallen-kingdoms-crk]

(Ooc kehehe)

Me: *chilling, excited for online Pa (a cookie run fan-writer) to come back tomorrow*

Also me: *remembering tumblr can delete asks without any notice*

Ah f*ck, here we go again <- do you allow swearing?

- Clownfish Anon

((Oh yes! I allow swearing (otherwise I wouldn't have let Blueberry just drop a bunch of F bombs in one of the asks kjnglksng) but yeah! feel free to swear as much as you'd like!^^ and no worries Clownfish- I saw your ask, I'm just trying to weave it in))

[senselessalchemist]

CW: blood and medical stuff

It is just over 7 years now since my diagnosis with an autoimmune* disease (~10 years since symptoms started) and I don't really have anything profound or useful to say, but A) don't let people tell you it's just stress without any further testing if you have unexplained internal bleeding and B) if you literally can't stay awake because you've been bleeding for a few months straight, don't listen to the PCP who tells you not to go to the hospital because your hands are too pink and rosy for you to actually be anemic and there's not much the hospital will be able to do for you anyway

Two-ish days after that appointment I was in the hospital and almost immediately getting a transfusion because I was so anemic. (I would end up getting a 2nd as well because continued bleeding + already low on blood = first one not enough.) Stayed there for almost a month until they got the bleeding under control.

This could have happened to anyone but it's hard not to think that being afab probably had something to do with the downplaying and dismissal of symptoms for 3ish years before being diagnosed. They did the classic "it's probably just stress" because I was a senior in college (and possibly because afab). I don't want to make this a never trust medical professionals kind of thing, because there are many good ones and some of them probably saved my life and/or prevented me from having major surgery (which turned out not to be necessary at the time b/c the med they tried started to work)... but also when things are obviously wrong and especially if they recur (like unexplained bleeding cropping up again and again over years) maybe don't take "it's just stress" as an explanation. Also fuck the doctor who thought he could diagnose anemia or lack thereof by hand color and who advised against further treatment ("just wait until your specialist appointment in a month!")

*there does seem to be some debate about whether my particular condition should be classified as autoimmune or not, but enough people do at this moment I'm just gonna go with it because it's treated like many autoimmune diseases are, with various immunosuppressants or immune system modulating medications

[dawnquafam]

Love how Orm's gonna spend half the movie lying on the ground but somehow it's the shots where he's still standing that are the most concerning ones

[gxlden-angels]

I think it's really funny when fundies are also super into the crunchy lifestyle like bestie your whole system is based on a dude with magical powers born from a virgin you can take a tylenol and stop feeding your infant raw milk now

[syn0vial]

so, i've been seeing a lot about the new BG3 epilogues, but i gotta ask: do you get a similar epilogue if you choose to become the absolute at the end? i know it's unlikely, but... i have thoughts about how that could go 👀

[endercat]

hey I feel like I should clarify. I don't personally check whether gaza fundraisers are vetted or not when I reblog. my principle is that I would rather err on the side of spreading help and awareness for someone in need than to assume that people are scammers just for trying to escape genocide. this may mean that occasionally some of these fundraisers are scams.

if you are concerned I would implore you to check yourself whether you feel comfortable donating. if you have looked into it and your alarm bells are raised then that is up to you. I have received an ask in my inbox calling one of these fundraisers a scam but I have seen too many legitimate people be accused of scams to want to take action and delete the post. what I am doing is just sharing the fundraisers that are out there. I am not a vetter. it is up to you to check their background and see what you feel comfortable with. because sometimes at the point of sharing they might not be vetted, but by time you see the post they might have more proof in the notes or on their blog, so I wouldn't want to have dismissed them just because it wasn't there when I was looking. does that make sense?

if you're concerned there are the vetted fundraisers lists. pretty much every other post I reblog has a link to the vetted list if you want to check it there. a lot of gofundmes are also donation protected. ultimately its up to YOU to determine what you feel comfortable putting your money towards. I would just say don't let that slight discomfort put you off from donating entirely if you have the means. I reblog plenty of posts with vetted fundraisers that contain heaps of proof as well. sometimes I reblog with tags that I've also donated to that one, if that might reassure you at all? but I am just a rando. (I also don't always say when I donate).

I think I'm just repeating myself over and over in this post lol. I just want to reblog as many posts as I can to give as many people a chance as possible. I'm not a vetter and never will be. I just have a semi popular blog with the biggest number of followers than any of my other blogs, so I want to use this even small platform I have for any good. to present all these options and then let you, the rebloggers and donaters, decide.

[thelittlemermage]

Actually, I do completely understand how and why Gen Z came to feel the way they do about internet/fandom culture. I just think their solution to fixing the issue is misguided and more reactionary than solution-oriented based on personal trauma. The open internet and fandom culture itself was never built for small children to be able to safely wander around in. There were specific spaces for children like Neopets, Disney.com games, stuff like that. You wouldn’t have a little kid on social media. There was no social media. You’d have forums and myspace at best. Youtube was literally built because the creator wanted to show an uncensored nip slip. So the idea of protecting children was not a necessity because children were not online yet in the way adults or older teenagers were online.

What happened was technology progresses at and extremely fast rate. Faster than you can move around content on the internet or develop a different culture where kids are expected to just be around. And this unfortunately happened alongside child-friendly sites being eliminated. I’d say even with those sites tho, no one should have ever been giving two year olds ipads with unrestricted internet access. None of these kids should have been in the position to be able to come across fandom porn without their parents noticing. That’s crazy to me. My parents would check what sites I was visiting on our family computer. I think these kids were failed by ignorant parents and just...our ability to create technology faster than we know what to do with it. I think it’s horrifying we have a generation of kids who were all exposed to porn at a young age. I think a lot of things they say and do are because it fucked up their view of sex. And that’s not their fault, but I think a lot of young adults probably need to be in therapy about it and idk if they’re aware. Attacking art on the internet can’t heal your inner child. But I’m getting ahead of things.

I think we can all agree a lot of shit came to a head with MLP fandom. Those guys generated an unprecedented amount of porn, even for fandom. And this was also at a time when a lot of kids were now online and looking up their favorite shows. I don’t think there could be worse timing for anything. I don’t even want to say MLP fandom was all bad, a lot of them dedicated time to rounding up nsfw images that show up in google search and reporting it. But it was definitely a huge shitshow that I think molded a lot of people’s ideas of cartoon porn on the internet.

I still find the idea of a “kid’s fandom” oxymoronic because until recently a fandom for any cartoon would not be a “kid’s fandom”. It would be a fandom of adults and teens talking about a show that as aimed at kids, but no one would find that particularly relevant. Because the people present were not young kids. Animaniacs was actually one of the first big fandoms on the internet and it was big with college students. (Btw I feel like someone is going to purposefully start something because I keep referring to kids and teens separately. This is because there is obviously a huge difference developmentally in what content say a 7 year old and a 17 year old can handle. Whether or not a 17 year old should look at adult content, it’s not going to fuck them up the way it would a prepubescent child. I think that’s obvious. Trust and believe I’d look at a lot of shit I wasn’t supposed to as a teen and that was a purposeful choice on my part. I don’t have any particular regrets about this and I don’t feel any disgust towards sexual content, nor did I at the time. But if I was a little kid and it was being shoved in my face at random, I imagine I’d have to shit to work through. So for clarity, that’s what I mean.) I think fandom in the current year would look at something like patb fandom and be like “yea, a kid’s show for kids. It’s a kid fandom.” Maybe it would be currently, idk, but until now everyone here was in their 20′s and 30′s because it’s a show from the 90′s. So I do think there’s a culture gap in the understanding of what a fandom even looks like.

Ultimately tho, and this is my opinion based on living through all of it so far, I don’t think the problem is with the type of content people make. Frankly, having grown up in a time when every other fic was untagged noncon (because believe it or not, it’s a very common fetish and I promise that has not changed as much as people act shocked and outraged by it now. The same amount of people are still into it. They’re just in an environment where all their friends would come after them if they knew and they aren’t stupid. So they join in attacking others, but just know a lot of your friends do read it on the side, regardless of what they say publicly. 🤷‍♀️I see those kudos.) and I’ve never been as disgusted and genuinely distressed by that as I have with how real living people are treated in fandom today. It makes me sick to my stomach the things people do to each other. Fanfic and fanart have NEVER triggered me. This shit does. That CANNOT be the solution. It’s an impossible fight to begin with to eliminate everything you don’t like from fandom. And really things have come a long way with tagging believe it or not. I can avoid things like never before. So actually going out of your way to attack something you don’t NEED to look at just because it exists is just stupid to me. I’m not sure how purposefully looking at stuff you hate actually helps you with not seeing the things you hate. People obviously won’t agree with me, but I don’t think your art defines your morals. Art can be/mean anything, and I don’t personally want to live in a world that dictates “immoral” art as illegal because it’s obvious where that sort of thing can lead and it’s not pretty. (I do not necessarily agree with everything people make. I just think censorship is ultimately worse like...as far as real world ramifications go.) What you do to other people determines what kind of person you are. It’s weird this is even an unpopular opinion, but it is. You can treat others like absolute trash and still be seen as a good person so long as they “deserved it” for making The Wrong Kind Of Art. Which varies depending on which fandom you’re in anyway. And I really can’t get behind hurting people for reasons that are often so arbitrary to me.

I think the issue is just. The internet exists and kids are on it and there’s no place for them. And I really don’t know what the solution for that is. Because fandom aside, the internet is the internet. There are random porn ads on any given site, tiktok can lead you down an alt right rabbit hole in a matter of hours, twitter is....twitter lol. It’s a hostile environment for anyone these days tbh. I don’t think kids should be exposed to any of that. I think childhood is shrinking in our culture. Kids don’t have a tween phase anymore. It’s like you’re a kid and then you’re expected to look and act like a mini adult. It’s sad to me. I think that’s why a lot of people want to recapture some type of innocence and childhood. You were pushed out of it way too fast. There’s some state I think that was proposing children be banned from the internet until they’re 18. While that would be cool for me, I think that’s dangerous in a different way given how a lot of extreme alt right parents are starting to homeschool their kids. I think it’s more about putting a stopper on information than about protecting kids. And I think this would have a devastating effect on queer kids in particular. So idk. There has to be something in between we can do.

More than anything I wish we could all work together to try to fix this because I don’t think people WANT to see kids get hurt. We’re all on the same side at the end of the day. But I think the environment is too hostile to actually achieve anything useful atm. 🤷‍♀️I think that sucks. I’d love for fandom to be a fun and close-knit community again. It’s something that always meant a lot to me growing up and I think it’s sad people can no longer have what I had. But I don’t see that happening anytime soon.

[yusuke-of-valla]

In Berry Blast Brigade Yusuke is way more chill about the "Chidori kidnapping him that one time" thing than most people would be but Hamuko does not forgive or forget when it comes to her baby siblings so whenever Yusuke wants to visit Chidori in the hospital Hamuko is in the hallway glaring menacingly.