#i have been drawing more succession things but im unsure if i should post them elsewhere

[yaoicoreren]

sketch

[nico-idc]

random vent because i'm numb rn and feel like it

This is a vent post, ill probably talk about su!cide, self h*rm, eating disorders and depression. I’ll also cuss a lot, and things will not be censored. Also, this may seem insensitive to people experiencing any of this, sorry about that.  Dont read this if youre triggered by that.

Also, this is my experience with mental health. Everyone deals with it differently. 

So, If anyone doesnt know, I have depression and anxiety. And right now, I’m feeling numb as it’s often described by people with depression. But, numb isn’t a very good description. I can still feel. I’ll still smile if you tell me a joke, or if something funny is on a video. I’ll still cry if there’s something super sad. Emotion is just watered down. I feel it, but not as much as I should. Me and my boyfriend were talking, and i couldnt tell him I loved him. It’s not becuase I dont love him, but I just cant feel much of anything, so I dont want to tell him I loved him. Becuase If i did that, I felt as though I was lying. The funniest thing is, I randomly started crying. Still felt nothing, but hey, I had tears streaming down my face. Who fucking knows why. 

I havent been doing to great for a while now, but this is the worst i’ve ever gotten. Ive never felt numb before. I mean, I’ve felt myself starting to go through the motions, but i’ve never gone completely numb before. And before this i’ve had a few mental breakdowns. Hell, I’ve sat in a corner twice in the past month or so doing nothing but sobbing and begging myself not to move so I dont grab something sharp and cut myself. (I did not relapse, don’t worry). and recently I completely broke down over simply eating a cereal bar, got through it, ate it. I’m good now. 

Figures. That does seem to be my experience. Oh no, big bad issue one time, then magically I just talk myself out of my bullshit, and im fixed. Ha ha, yet I act like I have all these issues. I mean, I didnt even attempt to starve myself, just thought “oh, friends and family wont let me” and didnt. Had a breakdown about a year later, been fine since. Cut for a few months, went to therapy for a few months, stopped cutting. had a few breakdowns about a year or two later, then was fine. was suicidal for a while, went to therapy for a bit, was happy for months. Had breakdowns every now and then, fine now.

ha ha, first time I say alot of this is online. Figures. I’ve done that a lot too. My boyfriend has found out a bit about my depression through this site. Becuase I cant talk to my boyfriend about my shit, but hey random people on the internet! hear about my problems.

So on another note, I recently found a song that describes part of depression pretty well. It’s called “i’m not dead” by boyinaband. it’s linked below, I’ll copy paste the lyrics, and explain how I relate, and what the lyrics mean to me, becuase why not? (lyrics will be in bold)

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I'm not dead

I'm not fixed, but I'm not giving up yet

Basically, this means that im still here, im still depressed, but I’m still trying to fight depression. 

I'm sick of saying that I still don't have anything done

I hate telling friends I'm trying something just to give it up

I never commit to anything, I just say I’ll do something, then decide I dont want to.

I'm still unsure of my emotional state

I'm still incapable of focusing lately

I don't feel like creating

I'm tired of asking Google how to find motivation

I’ve been on break from writing for months now. tried to get back to it, lost concentration. I think this is self explanatory. 

I don't think I've ever made

Something that's as good as I'm capable of

Ha, I dont put in enough effort and commitment to make something as good as possible.

I hate not having a reason to look my best

I only ever take care of myself with the intent to show the internet

I mean, I dont try to show the internet, but I only take care of myself when other people will see me.

If what made me successful was an imposed sense of stress then

I am so so glad that I hated myself

The only thing that makes me do things is extreme stress.

I didn't luck into this position

I struggle with decisions

I mean, im not in any high position, but I do struggle with decisions. 

I wouldn't be my own friend

I'm too inconsistent

I’m inconsistent as hell. I’m in like 10 group chats, don't talk in any of them for months, then just show up like “hi, havent talked to you all in ages, but hi”. 

Without immense pressure nothing ever gets finished

If these words make it to your ears it'll be a fucking miracle.

Yep. I went on  whole rant about this on wattpad. Without pressure to do something, I don’t do it.

I'm fortunate to know more good people than most do

I wish I had more friends I could be physically close to

I dont personally have a lot of friends that dont live in my city, so the last line isnt an issue, but I do know a lot of good people”

I'm pretty good at like 20 different skill sets

At the expense of never being great at any one of them

I’m good at quite a few things. Drawing, math, even writing. But im not great at it. I’m average.

I wish this beat hit harder

I wish more syllables rhymed

I know 99 percent of people really don't mind

I dont personally relate to this, seeing as I dont make music.

I think collaborating forced me to finish things

'Cause I was terrified of wasting famous people's time

Oh yeah. Group projects would not get done if i wasnt scared of wasting my partner’s time.

I wish I could focus on what I define priority

I wish I was as grateful as I want to be

Dont really relate to these things

I wish I knew more people who were mentally stable

But if I did,

I wouldn't let them waste their time on me while I'm disabled

Oh yeah. Id love to have a friend who isnt depressed, but I wouldnt let them see that im fucked up becuase i dont wanna drag them down.

I feel alone

I know I'm not

I have a lot of friends, but I still fell alone in this world

I used to talk to lots of people.

Lately I've stopped

They didn't deserve it,

I've been a terrible friend.

But I couldn't bear to let myself become boring to them

I ignore group chats all the time. no reason. Probably shouldnt. 

I don't let myself get my hopes up.

I love people who do.

Something good happens? what could go wrong? that is my thought precess.

I never know if what I say I feel is the truth

I have no damn Idea what I think, so its so hard to know what the truth in my head is.

I wish I didn't instinctively try to be less specific

So more people could relate, when they read along with the lyrics.

Not lyrics, but if i write/explain something, I immediately generalize things so its relateable.

I can be happy in the moment

I am not when I reflect

I smile watching youtube, but then I look back and think about how I wasted time.

I distract myself with gaming, waiting to get better

I hate it

Youtube will cure depression right? /s

I wanna do the most good, and prevent the most hurt

But I've gotta put on my own oxygen mask first

This is just an important phrase I try to remember when I’m down. for people who dont do well with metaphors, he’s saying that if you want to help people, you need to help yourself first. 

I can't predict what I'll do.

I can never be sure

I am terrified of making promises any more

I can't face my work,

I feel sick from the word

I genuinely believe I'm capable of changing the world

Don’t relate much here, except for the more positive, upbeat tone the song takes on, and i feel that this part, the part above and everything below is dave fighting his depression.

I still think I can get better

I’m holding onto hope.

I still think I can create and get pleasure from it

I hope so, I want my art and writing to improve.

I'll keep aiming to make my emotion and my logic agree

The eternal stuggle. I always try to get the two to line up, it rarely works. I try to use logic more often though.

And become the best version of me

Always trying to improve myself.

I don't want to stop!

I don't want to stop!

I don't want to stop!

I don't want to stop!

There’s alot this could mean. I dont want to stop creating. I dont want to stop fighting. I dont want to stop getting better. I dont want to stop living. I relate to all these things.

I’ll expand on this more later, it’s too late now for me to continue this

[somedaypast-thesunset]

i feel upset today because there is a continual expectation for me to put myself out for other people and get next to nothing in return as they ask for everything. and if i ask for something, it just goes ignored. 

i’m tired of my work being devalued. i’m tired of people just taking it for granted and using it to their own benefit. i felt nothing but anxiety and animosity at the last show our group put on because i was knowingly bullied on more than one occasion by another member and then forced to put on a show with them - and was even questioned why i might pull out my art. 

i was going to perform at this event. but as the weeks passed i realized i was putting in more work than anyone else and when i asked for certain things, they were ignored or put off. and yet there was an expectation for me to complete something for them ‘asap’. this made performing for the first time really devalued. like sure, i worked hard to create the event but why? what was the purpose of this? it was never to bring anyone together, it was never to showcase anything but the organizers themselves and the lack of good promotion means the likelihood of selling something at a venue not known for after hours shows and not joining our marketing is pretty low. 

i am 27 years old now. i have no fucking desire to put on shitty teen shows that are half assed thrown together with a bunch of my friends. thats not what this is about for me - it lacks a certain amount of organization and class. it lacks a curation in performers. i thought i might be the worst one - and that’d be okay. they cant all be winners. but now it’s just open mic - and if i really wanted to perform at a open mic, i’d go to a real one. if i’m going to do a large amount of the work - outside of meeting with the owner one time and putting up 5 flyers on street poles - i want the results to be worth the work i put in. and IMO it’s not. it’s mediocre and thrown together. 

and i feel a personal insult about this because of how much work i put intothe group itself. ive dedicated time on a semi regular basis to all the admin work, the promotion, keeping social media active, posting new submissions, fielding a majority of the questions and i’m not asking for praise - i’m asking for people to respect the work i’ve done. don’t come in and draw on it with magic marker and tell me its acceptable quality when theres folks painting in oils. i dedicated time to create an entity that could be used and harnessed; i ask for the quality of our output to match whats already there. 

and i think it’s asinine that i would hve to argue doing better than average. if this is just a hobby or random activity for you - fine. it’s not serious. you’re not serious. none of this matters. but it was presented as serious. it was presented as a showcase of people’s craft. there is no effort into making it somewhere one would wnt to be. we’re all going for the ~decor. we print posters because we want to see our name on a poster in the street - not becuse we’re really advertising an event. it was acceptable that the only people in attendance would be the performers and a few of their friends. acceptable!! that’s an unsuccessful house party, in my opinion. 

you know whats missing  locally? proper use of social media to network between people. it’s impossible to find other artists in the area unless you scour through obscure hashtags. but yet theres dozens and dozens if not hundreds of artists in the local area. this means you get stuck in one influence and within that influence you may be chastised for going against the “norm” of their influence. instead of new ideas being welcomed, they’re constantly turned down or argued against. 

i’ve met all of the people i know through facebook and instagram in my art world. thats a very powerful tool.i know models who only book through instagram. and ive had arguements about the use of hashtags. as if theyre not relevant. 

i’m tired of questioning what i know. tht honestly gives me the most anxiety. and its not like im tired of questioning what i do - its healthy to question your actions - but what i know and believe makes me feel unsure of myself and the skills i have. i have had experience working in the creative industries since i was 17, freelancing. and i have a wide variety of skills in graphic design, retouching photos, photography of models & landscapes & products, glamour modeling & product modeling (of which i’ve done for dozens of photographers in the local area), web design & blogging + knowlege of e-commerce platforms, wordpress, seo, promotion & marketing both online & offline, i’ve sold crafts online for almost four years and switched my primary creative tool from artisan crafts to trditional & figure art that i studied & practiced extensively for over two years, i have skills in copywriting & journalism, i have a handle on the basic laws of creative works & how they can be used, basic knowledge in building & selling a brand, communicating with clients & customers (of which i’ve had no complaints in regards to my communication - ive had complaints about shipping because post offices are not so nice), creating organized file systems which can be used by multiple people -- i have paid my dues. i am still growing, absolutely. i am not the best at any of the above things i listed. i could be even better. i could spend two hours today on one of these skills and be better than i am right now. i can always be better.

but just because i can be better doesnt take away from what i know now, what i have learned, what i have studied - like i took the time to study and read up on research and marketing & promotion techniques. a good portion of my first shop was spent reading about how to sell stuff, not so much making stuff to sell. as i did not realize at the time how much work went into being successful online. and i did not realize until my shop closed how i had taken that skill for granted - because i had done all that work & effort, it was able to pull in a few sales a month with little to no effort now. if i worked harder, maybe i couldve been even better. 

i also (un)willingly have worked full time as an artist and only an artist for at least two years. this is the “luxury” ive been allowed in  life even though i am the definition of starving artist. i didnt have it as a part time job or hobby - it was something i did every single day and i marketed & promoted for hours a day. an acquaintance of mine upon hearing of my mental state now told me that i had gone so hard for so long - and i kind of appreciated that he saw that on the outside. that someone could see that i actully did work incredibly hard. that i was dedicated.. that i AM dedicated. 

i’m not saying any of this makes me better thn anyone else or knowing more - it just means i’m experienced. i am very very experienced in not only practicing a craft but marketing that craft to sell, displaying that craft in it’s best light, knowing the best places to sell. i also work in quality over quantity. i am not interested in doing 9  - 10 shows a year. i’m not interested in shitting out  5 - 7 paintings at a time. it means before i touch anything to paper or canvas or wood - i’ve thought about it. i’ve really, really thought about it. i didnt just sit down and throw paint on the canvas. i couldve been thinking of this image for days before i do it. or the craft itself - my bone jewelry came because i absolutely neded to make a necklace out of fish bones i found and they needed vials attached. why? i dont know. but it just needed to be. 

when i started the group, i asked about names. i didnt choose a name or dictate the name. i was given a suggestion by someone i actually dont like at all and was given a reson for why he felt it was a good suggestion and i agreed because business-wise it was a good suggestion. i respected that he hd different ideas and experiences that shaped that suggestion that i did not have. i learned through it that i should expand my reach - both in my personal creative life and my ‘business’ creative life. 

my ~partner was disappointed i wasn’t going to perform. i could tell it was frustrating and dissappointing to him because i think he thought it wouldve been good for me and that i would hopefully find something in it that would bring me something. and through his disappointment he told me that it wasn’t totally right to drop out of something you planned to do or that peopl expected you to be at.

but i’d like to turn that around - my partner is someone who also puts himself out for others on a regular basis. and for a long, long, long time he was fucked around and fucked over by many people. an old friend came to his door and asked to borrow money and he allowed him to despite knowing he might be a drug addict now. he had no obligation to this person but it was like since he was asked, he should. and i think if he lerned to say no, or learned to walk away from an unhealthy situation, he would be happier as well. i’ve learned first hand the benefit of walking away from something toxic. and you will feel misplaced guilt for a bit, i feel some guilt now but it’s for the best. 

i try to think how i can change my perspective on it but i cannot. i wold not walk down the street if this was held in the local gallery, nevermind 20km away. like once i took myself out as a performer i realized i wouldnt even want to go. i dont want to see anyone perform but my partner; who will already be subdued because of the venue. ive been completely taken out of the organization of the event - despite having been continually involved in the promotion and a few conversations since the lst one where i said i didnt want to keep doing this. so ive deleted my advertisement efforts online andi’m just halting any further promotion on my part of this event. i’m 97% sure i’m personally not even going to go. i no longer ant to see half of the people there on a personal level so it’s not even worth going to to hang out and i dont care about displaying my art. 

[purgatoryfallenangel]

I do readings on my spiritual blog!

Blog link is here, sorry the new theme is kind of messing up it use to be in my description..

Ok, so ive done a few tarot readings the past few days with, massively successful (and kinda terrifyingly accurate) results. Seems on on a roll lately and id like to practice more on people i don’t know, since then there’s not a change its my own influence. Even though when i do the tarot/shufflemancy reading, ill likely post the meaning/lyrics/or the theme of the song to you, and let you decide the answer, unless i feel there’s something else i am suppose to tell you in which case i will.

TAROT

For the tarot readings I’ve done recently I’ve just been doing a general reading. past present and future, as well as the overall card. So that’s my plan unless somehow i get mobbed with requests in which case for my own sanity ill probably drop it down to two cards, one will be what the message is about and the other being what you should/shouldn’t be doing.

For tarot you don’t need to ask me a specific question, its honestly better that way because then you get what you need at the time out of it.

SHUFFLEMANCY

For a shufflemancy question, ill need a basic question, like; “what does “ “ think”, “what are my spirits trying to tell me”, “i feel “ “ what should i do about it”, etc.

And then the amount of times you want me to shuffle. try to keep it to a small number of shuffles.

PENDULUM

Pendulum readings are pretty simple, ask a question that gets a yes or no answer, something you need confirmation for. Nothing too complicated. If by chance my pendulum doesn’t want to answer, ill reply with “maybe” and ask you to reword your question/get you to try either tarot/shufflemancy instead.

GENERAL INFORMATION AND RULES

Alright so warning in advance. All the things i use are very blunt and to the point. They wont hesitate to blurt out that they know about the fact you’re still sleeping with your ex, what you do in your alone time, or any of your other dirty secrets you thought were hidden. There’s no nice way to put it, normally things go fine, but they wont sugar coat anything in the least. So if you are sensitive please be warned that i have no control over how aggressively honest these answer's will be.

With that being said, i know some people don’t like to take questions about relationships or love. Now, i can see why, and i will say, if that is your question i WILL take it, but be warned that what is said isn’t always accurate. I am not responsible in the least for what happens if what you are told by my reading is incorrect. Your own actions based on the information i may give you is your own doing. (I wont take questions about health of you or a family member. That’s a bit too far to go).

Other than that i think i have everything covered. SO feel free to come at me with any questions you have. (this is a test run. so be sure to respond with your thoughts on your reading to let me know what you think

ARCHANGEL DECKS

Just over Christmas i got two new decks, they’re the Doreen Virtue Archangel Oracle Decks. I’ve got the Archangel Michael deck and the Archangel Gabriel deck. So if you happen to be looking for angel guidance that’s available now too. With these ones ill likely take pictures of the cards themselves, and either take a picture of the booklet or, i might take the time to type all the descriptions all out so I’ve got them on hand. Either way, new edition! as of December 27, 2016.

The angel cards work a bit like tarot, but are more like an answer for what you should do about a situation. So if you are struggling with a decision, these are a good one to pick to ask what you should do. You can pick either Michael or Gabriel, if you want an angel reading but don’t specify, ill choose whoever i think can best answer your question OR i’ll ask both of them. I’m personal readings I’ve done that and gotten very similar, if not basically the exact same card, so that’s a for sure response on what you should do if they can agree on an answer

~NEW~

NEW READINGS AVAILABLE

I now have “Past Life Oracle Cards”, which is another Doreen Virtue deck, collaborated on with Brian Weiss. The cards are used to give you hints at your past, you can ask about what in your past has caused phobias you have in this life, or about what in your past lives has shaped the personality you have now. Since the majority of the time it is your past that has caused you to be who you are, even more so than events you experienced in this life.

For the rest of today, January, 17, 2017. until midnight. (Atlantic Standard Time: UTC/GMT) (Click the time zone to be taken to a site telling you what time it is here if you’re unsure) I will pull 2-3 cards per reading, and it will come with the reading in the book, since, obviously if i don’t know you personally/at all its hard for me to know your personality, especially if you don’t ask about a specific  area in your life.

as an addition, prices are the same for all cards. Other than angel cards, they will be $2 per card since they’re a little more detailed, and give much better advice for specific situations. Michael is best for general questions, about how you should approach things, and Gabriel is best for creative questions, or ones involving your hobbies and work you would enjoy.

DONATIONS:

I have a donation button on my blog, and i’m going to start doing paid readings. I don’t have solidly set prices yet, but if you donate you will get a reading based on what you donate. If you donate add your name/url in a message with the donation, or let me know what email you will be using to contact me. Since the email on the paypal isn't my main email (as in the one that’s attached to all my social media. Its my business/work email), and i’m not anticipating TOO many donations since i don’t have a massive follower count. If you donate and i don’t respond within 24 hours send me an ask/message on here and i will do your reading then. Or as soon as you donate send me an ask to let me know that you have done so.

Paid readings will be priority and even if i have 30 other free reading requests YOU will be first since you paid. If there is a specific spread you would like me to use, or specific information you would like to know about your situation. Tell me in detail what situation yuo are asking about, and i will use that when doing your reading. It is likely as a base, each card after the two i’m narrowing it down to for free readings is a dollar. If there is a certain spread you would like me to do, that is geared towards your question, the cost will be a dollar for each card in the spread, plus another 4, for it being a spread you have chosen yourself, otherwise i will draw cards randomly and try to lump together the ones that have the same theme; or seem to connect to specific parts of your question. Link to the page is HERE

If you have read this far thank you very much, i’ll ask that if you read all this way, add a ** into your question when you send it to me, so i know you have read all the rules and donation information. along with this, if you request a reading that you have paid for, unlike the others i would prefer to get into either a voice, or video call with you, so i can better connect to your energy and thus give you a better reading. Although its not needed especially with me already being a highly emphatic and sensitive person. The more in tune with you i am the better i can read you properly and without interference. If you are not comfortable with a text or video call, at the least i would prefer a live interaction through some form of messaging, so i can talk back and forth and ask for clarification if im picking up on something im not sure about.

As a closing thank you all so much! you are all so wonderful and i thank you very much, donation or not for helping me improve my skills! have a wonderful day.