#ideal relationship

[oxyfem]

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[kimchicuddles]

I was thinking about the things that change over time, and the things that remain the same. I wrote this one 10 years ago, and I'm amused that it's one of the few from that time period that still resonates with me. If I made a "best of" collection today, this is one I'd keep in it. It's been a while since I started this comic so I'm curious how you've changed over time, what your ideals where then (and now), and if the relationship ideals you envisioned for yourself 10 years ago are still the same.

[i-am-thevoid]

i need to be the undead victorian corpse to some traumatized goth girl

[undead-knick-knack]

All I ever wanted

All I ever needed

Is here in my arms 🖤💜

[firsttarotreader]

For the cards, we've seen that P isn't as into "conventional dating" but also not really into "open" situations either. Can the cards show what his ideal version of dating and a relationship would look like to him?

Hello! So, I tried to pull cards for this question and it was weird because I kept getting many bad cards, very negative, so I thought, what if there isn’t really an ideal version of dating for him? I decided to then ask if there was such thing, because if there was, it would still come up in the cards. The first pull was The Emperor, Queen of Teacups and 9 of Flowers.

The Emperor represents structure, rules, discipline and organization. He is rational, a ruler, and he might struggle with emotions, as he is more about logic and wisdom. This kind of relationship would be one with well established rules, more on the traditional side, but maybe the rules would be exclusive for the couple, and he would probably want to be the one that sets them. Queen of Teacups, on the other hand, is pure emotion. She’s all about love, compassion, nurture, very caring and intuitive. She worries about others’ feelings, and all that care might require her to develop emotional intelligence to deal with the problems. A balance between her intuition and practical decision-making could be an important point. It looks like you have a very solid and organized relationship, with rules he or the couple will make, but there’s also a lot of emotions, oversensitivity to his feelings and fantasy and his emotions taking control of him or making The Emperor lose his stability. 9 of Flowers points to him feeling like he would need to put a lot of effort to make it work. He could even feel kind of insecure and not confident he could pull it off.

The second pull was the 7 of Teacups reversed, 5 of Hedgehogs and 4 of Hedgehogs. 7 of Teacups reversed is somewhat similar to the Queen of Teacups in a sense that it might represent too much fantasy and overidealizing and romanticizing the idea of a relationship. He might get lost in his own fantasies and daydreaming. However, with the 5 of Hedgehogs there is a sense of loss, of being isolated, left out, as if he overidealized that situation so much and then he felt at loss and like being rejected or abandoned. It seems that he could be hit by reality at some point, that things are not the way he dreamed in his head. 4 of Hedgehogs shows him holding on tight to what he’s got, afraid to lose it all, to the point of being selfish. It could be that he’s scared of reality and the feelings of loss it might bring, since things are not so perfect as he may want.

In the end, from these cards, he might have an overidealized version of the “perfect” relationship but he could be scared that reality will take more from him than he wants. He might see it as something that needs to be built and something you need to put effort into to make it the way you both want.

[lesbian-hannibal]

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[neurodiversequeer]

ideal relationship: best friend who I can make out with and snuggle (no need for actual romance)

[justdiarythoughts]

Short femboy bf and tall gamer goth gf

[10bmnews]

Personality test: Choose a dancing pair— What it says about your ideal relationship will surprise you | - Times of India

Photo: marina__neuralean/ Instagram Personality tests, as the name suggests, are fun tests or images that help in assessing and understanding different aspects of a person’s character, behaviour, emotions, and thought patterns. These tests can either in the form of questionnaires, visual illusions, or interactive exercises, and they help understand how a person perceives the world, handles…

[bl33ding-out]

i've won

[netheris]

I may not have liked the new Looney Toons show much, but I can 1000% appreciate the relationship they gave these two idiots.

“It’s a handbag.”

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

we need to step away from viewing marriage as inherently romantic, or the primary goal of romance. marriage is a legal contract we use to create important ties--financial, medical, next-of-kin, mediating shared property and parental rights. the details vary a lot based on where you are and what paperwork you sign. which is not very romantic! but it does have many real-world effects on our ability to share our lives with our partners.

first and foremost, marriage is a legal right we use to build and protect our families, whatever that family may look like

[batmanshole]

you know that post thats like. piracy bf x physical media gf. literally me and my boyfriend he is always torrenting things i am always on the CD collector grind.

[expressionismeh]

Im not looking for your traditional relationship, I’m looking for incredibly deep and powerful connection that comes from trust and understanding. I want someone who is wildly outgoing, is curious, wants to build lifetime connections, and someone who wants to explore life with radical honesty.

[aroaceleovaldez]

i have suddenly become obsessed with a theme that HoO established but never proceeded to extrapolate on, which is:

You are Percy Jackson, and you have been swapped with a boy who was allegedly everyone's favorite person, but they have decided to replace him with you. They just met you. You stand next to his best friend and the people he's known his entire life. In his home. In his cloak. In his place. They stopped looking for him.

You are Jason Grace, and you have just found out you have a long lost sister who completely replaced you in her life with this girl you just met. Your lives and personalities are mirrors. She is you, living the life you were robbed of.

You are Annabeth Chase, and you have just become starkly aware that you have been inhabiting the void left behind by your best friend's long lost brother. You and Luke were just replacements for him. Now you have to look him in the eyes when he has nothing and know you took that life from him.

You are Piper McLean, and you have just found out your relationship is fake and built entirely on the memories of Annabeth Chase. You have been given a boyfriend when hers has been taken away. You have no idea how much of it is real or not but regardless you feel like if your relationship isn't exactly in their image that you have failed.

You are Leo Valdez, and you have just learned that you are the echo of your great-grandfather. You are not your own person. You just exist to be a mirror of him. A doppelganger. An actor and stunt double facing all the danger he never had to but wearing his face. To be there for his best friend decades later simply because he couldn't. You are playing a role. A seventh wheel and a pawn for a goddess who carefully sculpted your entire life for her own purposes.

You are Hazel Levesque, and the only reason you are alive is because your brother couldn't save your his sister. You are a consolation prize. An apology. Your existence here is misplaced in every way but you inhabit it anyways.

You are Frank Zhang, and you are a shapeshifter. Inhabiting your own body feels strange and clumsy when you could be literally anything at any time. You are anything and everything and live your life with the simple certainty of knowing exactly how you will die.

[thoughts-from-an-archangel]

An Idealized Relationship- Intro/Parental Bonds

What does it mean to have a "perfect" relationship?

I believe the answer to this question varies along with the context of what surrounds the very nature of the said relationship. For example, an ideal father-son relationship looks very different from two best friends to even two partners. Even though these different contexts allude to different specifics for their respective answers, do they share some similar characteristics in their answers?

A Parental Bond.

A bond between parent and child should be unconditional. This relationship is also probably the most influential in forming the character of a child when they age. That previous sentence alone sheds light on why the burden of being a parent can be so heavy. Every action you do should reflect the character you would like to see in your child. Knowing this, you should also understand that your child is your statement of legacy upon this Earth. What lives on in them might not be your name or your wealth but rather something that strikes deeper. The mannerisms that you teach and the character that you instill are what your child displays to the world. Through this character, the child can impact the lives of those they may come across. Assuming this chain continues from your child to a stranger to the next stranger and so forth, we can see that a certain aspect of yourself that you passed to your child will live on and create ripples in the world. It may be my advice that the traits we pass on be those that bear good fruit on the world. In this sense, one good trait from one parent to child can brighten the lives of millions of people indirectly. However, the reverse is also true: one negative trait from a parent to a child can silently knock down a million people ever so slightly.

A bond between a parent and child is unique because it is the first bond that is ever formed. It is through this bond that individuals define basic needs such as trust and safety. A parent shouldn't compromise these two values in this relationship lest they should see their child struggle to embrace the world. To properly endow these traits and let them flourish, we must incorporate "unconditional love" in our relationships with our children. This love means that a child should never feel the need to be qualified to receive love from us. We bear the responsibility to love them the same no matter if they succeed or fail in any aspect of life. We must serve as their foundation, a solid ground they can always return to even if the world should shun them. That being said, it is not a menial task. To love someone is difficult. To love someone unconditionally is nearly impossible. That is why in religion we describe the love between God and us as "unconditional" because we never had to "earn" love. We are qualified for His love simply because we are His creation, no more and no less. That is the same type of love we should emulate to those we want to serve as pillars of positive influence for the world, our children.

-Mikhael