#in bed together

[occasionaloranges]

@osmpranboo // moomin // lullaby - sleeping at last // richard schmid // atticus // paterson (2016) dir. jim jarmusch / i went to bed and i loved you - tom rosenthal // donald duck// the song of achilles by madeline miller // unknown // ribs -lorde // stranger things (2019) // @emil// unknown // watch you sleep - girl in red // the fairy caravan // stardew valley (2016) // in bed, henri de toulouse-lautrec, 1893 /1 @hegurgurk// master bedroom - andrew wyeth // memorial to a marriage by patricia cronin //summer kitchen by donald hall // jo - haley heyderickx // bbc merlin (2008-2012) // @obsob

[blkice64-blog]

Made In Brazil 🇧🇷

[whereifindsanity]

[xomissdior]

mommy issues + mommy issues: beating plates in the wall 🤍💭

[twisted-korn]

Jonathan and Munky in bed together 💕

[luckykittycolor]

Woman’s love

[wittylushbird]

Watching the game with you ❤️

Lush hotel in Cardiff, July 2022

[latenightpillowtalk]

"Dream of me. Where art thou? Why is thou not in my bed?"

[perfumes-of-love]

Morning hugs never gets old…💜💜

[blkice64-blog]

The Morning After

[fandomsandfeminism]

Yall wanna hear a kinda funny, kinda sad story about my grandmother and hetero-normativity?

Ok, so... when my grandmother was in her 50s (I was an infant), she met a woman at the Unitarian Church. And, as can happen when you meet your soul mate, this event made it impossible for her to deny parts of herself that she had fiercely hidden her whole life.

All the drama- their affair being found out, the divorce with my grandfather, the court battle over who got the house, happened while I was a baby. Even in my earliest memories, it's just Mama Jo and Oma, and my grandfather lived elsewhere (first his own apartment, then a nursing home, then with us.)

But here's the thing- no one ever explained any of this to me. No one ever sat down and was like "hey, Rosie, so do you know what a lesbian is?" It was the 90s. It was Texas. I think my mom was still kinda processing all this, and just assumed that like... I was gonna figure it out. Don't mention it, let it just be normal. Like I think my mom thought that if she explained the situation, she would be making it weird? I dunno.

But like. In the 90s, in all the movies I had seen and books I had read, do you know how many same sex couples I had seen? Like. 0. Do you know how many "platonic best friend/roommates" I had seen? A lot. I had no context, is what I'm saying.

I literally thought this was a Golden Girls, roommates, besties situation until I was like...I dunno, 11? 12?

It was actually their parrot, an African Grey named Spike, imitating my grandmothers voice saying "Johanna, honey, it's getting late", that triggered the MIND BLOWN moment as I realized that *there's only one master bedroom and it only has 1 waterbed* when all the pieces finally clicked.

Anyway. I think it's a real important thing for kids to know queer people exist, for a lot of reasons, but also because kids can be clueless and it's embarrassing to have your grandmother be outted by a parrot because everyone just thought you'd figure it out on your own.

Anyway, here is my grandma and her wife, my Oma, after they moved to Albuquerque to be artsy gay cowboys and live their best life. They helped run a "Lesbian Dude Ranch" out there (basically just with funding and financial support. As Oma has explained "traditionally, most lesbians don't have a lot of money" so they wrote the checks and let the younger ladies actually run the ranch.)

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

getting older can be so amazing? you get more familiar with yourself. learn tips & tricks for troubleshooting your own brain. trial & error helps you build routines that minimize discomfort, maximize reward. your preferences/interests don't get set in stone, but you do find out which ones are going to stay with you in the long-term, and which ones are fun but transient joys to appreciate in the moment.

you learn that the world is so much more complex than you were taught, and that that's okay, and that there's an endless supply of things you can learn or watch or experience or think about if you want to. if you're lucky, you loosen up, stop putting so much pressure on yourself. if you're lucky, you learn to recognize that negative inner voice, and whack it with a baseball bat until it hushes up. if you're lucky, you learn to treat yourself gently, not because you are fragile but because you are worthy of gentleness. (i hope you are lucky.)

and some things will change. some things will get better. some things will get good. and maybe you start to recover from the dehumanizing stress of childhood/education. maybe you learn the power of your own autonomy. maybe you learn how to walk away from bad situations (which is a superpower even if you don't realize it yet). and you get to choose your own clothes. and your own food. and which relationships to pursue! and what you do with your free time. and with your life (but don't worry you get to choose that gradually). and that's crazy! and sometimes scary. and extraordinarily, indescribably precious.

[raepliica]

i think they should take turns cuddling for healing purposes

[agnostichuss]

Don't be afraid

Life is unkind

You can let go of the pain

If you choose to

[thissweetenamor]