#interracial dating

[alwaysbewoke]

[heartshapelocket]

when mitski said “i guess i couldn’t help trying to be your best american girl” when sza said “wish i was the type you take home to mama, the type your fellas would be proud of” when robyn l said “you with a malibu barbie, but she don’t know you like i do” when fka twigs said “they’re watching us they’re hating they’re waiting and hoping, im not enough” also when mitski said “your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” when jensen mcrae said “passion player almost biblical white girl arrives i turn invisible, i don’t like who i am to you”

dating as a black woc

(your best american girl mitski, normal girl sza, malibu barbie robyn l, cellophane fka twigs, white boy jensen mcrae)

[cute-st]

Why is it always “Would you date a Black Girl?” and never asking Black Girls, “Would you date _____?”. I’m sorry but why are we assuming that a Black Girl would date the men they ask this question to and if so where does this come from because I’m confused 😐

I’m reminded of an article when a Brown boy was highlighting his marriage and the title was “We don’t date Black people” but speaking as a West African I know that my family also wouldn’t be too happy if I brought home a Brown Man but no one’s going to highlight that are they? and that’s why I regularly describe the world as “fake” or “agenda based” on my blog because it wants to position Black Women in a certain space almost as punishment for our choices/ behaviour/inaccessibility. There’s this weird imaginary rejection surrounding Black Girls around who would and wouldn’t date them (the real reasons for the latter are rarely expressed but I digress…) but is your average Black Woman checking for these men? You and I know that this is not the case. Next time we ask this question, can we check if there’s a Black Woman willing to date him first ?🤣😒

[classycookiexo]

THIS

I’ve even come across non black men who thought they were gonna pull me all because they refused to date their own race 🤢 I don’t want to be used to shit on another woman

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with dating outside of your race but I definitely wouldn’t entertain a man who doesn’t at least see the beauty in his own women (people who look like his mom, sister, aunt, grandma etc.)………

I ENCOURAGE MORE WOMEN TO WAKE UP AND REALIZE THIS

[milkchocolatenhoney]

[melaninpov]

News Flash:

Not all melanated brothers who date outside of their community have self hatred. Not all dislike or disrespect melanated sisters. Not all have a preference that doesn’t include you. My husband has dated white women in the past. So what? He loves women period. Please stop projecting your insecurities.

The same women who clowned Majors for his afrocentric features are upset that his ex is white. Accusing him of being anti black when it is them exemplifing that anti behavior. Make it make sense!!

[honeyssweetened]

I am curious to hear about any Black woman's experience on here about interracial dating. I ask as someone who has always been open to interracial dating but my previous experiences have largely only involved Black men

[notesfromthepalace]

Vanilla Coconut

I don't mean to boast but I am a well-traveled woman and I know how it feels to be sought after by men from all Nationalities, okay.

And as said before, the Lord has sent me my African King so I am not looking for attention from other men or woman - I am beyond happy.

And as I write at one of my favorite places, "On My Mama" by Victoria Monet is playing - and I know I've been giving big body gyal and goals lately - "I look fly, I look good".

But back to being world-wide and highly sought after.

Prior to being with my Ghanian heart-throb, I have and have always been open to dating outside my culture and race, meaning dating men that are not Haitian, and also men who are not Black. Even now, with both he and I being Black, we're still of different cultures.

Friends, when I went to Europe at 19, the men were enamored. The hair, the curves, the skin, I was exotic to them.

Now, at 25, I understand some of it was the hyper-sexualization and fetishization of Black women, but for others, that were just mesmerized by the beauty, I allowed them to take me to fancy dinners and have amazing conversations about the world and everything glamorous and expensive.

Point being, I am not un-accustomed to they eyes of men that do not look like me.

Now, what I have noticed is you'll have men that are not black, but are well traveled and when they compliment you its:

"You are so beautiful"

Actually, it's always that.

But when it comes to American white men who are not from a diverse community - and you can tell their version of traveling is just being on guided tours and not immersing themselves in the culture of whatever country they're in, the compliments are either very racially insensitive or super "frat-boy" language:

"You're so hot" "You're so different" "I love how long and straight your hair is" "You're hot AF" "I always thought you were so hot"

Emphasis on the "hotness" thing right? That's how 16 year-old horny teenagers talk. And if I'm completely honest, after hearing it multiple times from the same person, especially with the statement being an assessment of just sex-appeal, it starts to make me feel a little uncomfortable just because I don't like being hyper-sexualized. And those comments usually come from a place of hyper-sexualization.

Sometimes it doesn't, but you mean to tell me that there are grown men who are well established who don't know how to talk to women?

Further more, there are women who are actually receptive to this type of dialogue?

*Bombastic side eye

Mind you, I am so messy when it comes to spilling the tea to the African Chief: I was literally on the phone with him telling him everything this man was telling me as he was slipping and sliding in my DM's, and still is - even after I said I had a boyfriend and that I'm not interested.

And of course, my Lover-man makes the joke "Oh, you thought you would get a man and other men would stop trying to get with you? No baby, you are a beautiful woman, men will always seek you".

Before I continue with the story, I just wanted to thank God for my man. He is truly a Godly man who understands that:

He is with a woman who loves him unconditionally - meaning I tell him these things because he's my man, but I am not going anywhere. He gives BIG HUSBAND BIG PROVIDER GREAT FATHER GREAT LEADER - and that's what I prayed for when I felt like I was ready to be with the love of my life.

He also understands that he is with a very desirable woman - meaning he's so secure in himself that he knows men will throw themselves at me because I am attractive. But he loves the fact that when we walk into places with me on his arm, we're the focus of the room - really me but we all get the point *wink wink

And we talked about it and from a Spiritual standpoint, the devil will always try to destroy good things. But my GOD is greater and rebuke all of that.

And even as I am writing this, this man is still in my DM's.

And yes, the Ghanian Protector will hear about this tonight.

But I thought this was just too juicy to keep to myself until the weekend.

Moral of the story is homie is giving single-white-female and the Ghanian King knows everything!

As always ladies,

Fall is here and it is time for the oranges and yellows, boots and coats, and smoky eye-shadow.

With love, a little shade and tea,

Sarah Chanel

bisous

[awhitegirlspassion]

I get asked a lot about why I am so open about my passion for interracial relationships and about how I want to encourage more white women to date black guys. The answer it actually quite simple! As a young woman who has battled her own feelings about this subject, I feel a strong desire and determination to let other young women know that it's okay to be open about your desire to date black men!

The truth is that as a teenage girl and also as a young woman in my early twenties, I struggled a lot with my instinctive attraction towards black guys! I felt ashamed about my feelings and I was afraid that my friends and my classmates would shame me and think less of me. Because of those feelings and because of that anxiety of becoming "a social outcast", I kept my feelings to myself and started dating white guys like most of my girlfriends at the time. I had to endure being unhappy for so many years and I even endured being miserable in relationships with white guys just because I was afraid to be true to myself! I was never happy with a white guy and to be honest, I hated it when white guys would try to flirt with me or hit on me! Now don't get me wrong... I am not a racist (far from it)! I just felt a stronger attraction towards black guys than I ever has with white.🤷‍♀️

It wasn't until recently - and I'm 28 now - that I decided to come out and be open about my passion for black men... and I am so happy that I did! I feel so much happier now and all of my girlfriends have accepted how I feel. Some of them even admitted to me - after a drink or two - that they too have had fantasies and thoughts about black men! I feel so stupid for having endured so many hardships because of my ignorance and anxiety to be myself and I don't want other girls or young women to make that same mistake! So girls! If you want to date black men and if you feel the same way that I do... Then just GO for it! Don't let white guys, your parents, society or anyone else stop you from following your heart! Never!!! There is a black guy out there for you too❤️

This is the main reason why I am being open about my passion for interracial relationships and for more white women dating black men! I want women to find the courage and determination to follow their own hearts! See! I said there was a simple reason, didn't I?😅😉